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Conservative figures like Jordan want to be a father figure to warn a spoiled and ignorant young generation about the seriousness of life. He does this out of love and compassion. And while I agree that the whole anti-woke thing is way out of proportion and plainly stupid because I believe the softer and well-meaning a person is the softer you need to treat them. You gotta agree that wokism is pure bullshit and not at all healthy mature progressive politics. Also, as long a good chunk of the population is conservative you need to take their agenda into account so as not to get a backlash and also this is simply how democracy works. I admire the love and compassion progressives have for minorities but they overlook simple truths of how the world works and this is where the ignorance and danger lies.

What does it mean when a girl wants to meet you but actively avoids planning and most annoyingly avoids communicating clearly why at the moment she cannot? I already slept with this girl two times. The first time was a dominating style and she really got attached, the second time was more intimate and vulnerable. While she obviously enjoyed it she got somewhat detached after that, (maybe she figured that "she can have me" and therefore I am not so high value anymore). Now via text all of her messages are very short and the response time is also disrespectfully long. I told her I have the feeling it's no longer on between us. But then she apologized and told me that she wants to meet. But further, she continues with her long response time and stubby messages avoiding the planning. I even said "Girl, help me out a little" but it didn't really work. I would totally understand if she communicated clearly and gave a good reason but she doesn't bother doing that at all. How should I proceed with this girl?

@jonatech256 I see some pitfalls here: Neurotic self-denial: repressing healthy material desire with "spiritual/puritan" thinking. Being too cheap: Most simple enjoyable things in life cost money. Also, educational end genuine enriching things almost always require some investment. Dating/relationships: Being or having a partner that is broke is very annoying and impractical. But at the end of the day, it is about what kind of life and lifestyle you want to design for yourself. In my student years, I was basically couped up with my parents purely focusing on my studies and not much besides. Only after finishing, I went on to travel and allowed myself to relax and explore domains like psychedelics and dating. I would also add that after you are used to a certain standard of living it is a very painful process to downgrade. I cannot imagine the absolute hell of not living on my own or not being able to travel once in a while.

@integral Credit free economy is definitely not a competitive system. Sharia-based Islamic banking still uses all kinds of backdoors like asset-based financing. Which is practically the same as credit lending. In medieval times money lending was almost exclusively the domain of Jews. But even Christians lent money but instead of an interest rate, you were expected to be late on your payment and pay the fine. Yes, Assets are the key to wealth. Though in Europe where I live assets get taxed the shit out. You might argue this is good because it helps redistribute the wealth to lower-income people as well but in reality, all it does is screw over the middle class because for them it will be much harder to acquire and benefit from assets while the truly exceptional wealthy still can afford it.

@integral Well... sometimes it was obviously my fault, sometimes I could have been better in some aspects but many times I just left clueless. I had the most wonderful dates never followed up. But in this instance, if I had to analyze I think that I became too soft and loving too soon, I outpaced her attraction by too much. She initiated lovemaking twice, in the evening and at midnight but in the morning she kinda left in a hurry. She was noticeably detached by then. I just keep wondering if I made her too uncomfortable or something, maybe I did not satisfy her enough though she did scratch up my back.. So yeah, I am clueless.

I contemplated why she dragged it out and lead me on as she did. I think she did it because she did not want to give the impression she lost attraction during our night together. Directly after our meet-up, she communicated very sweetly but slowly flaked away while still giving me hope. She wanted to give the impression that she is flaking away because of her life or something and not because of me. She did it out of compassion. Her desire was to minimize my hurt but Ironly I would have appreciated just a clean sharp flake or an honest statement. I had some very nasty flakes in my life where I was really led on to the last moment. Girls consider that shit normal. I even by accident came across one such girl again, she come up to me starting to chat with me about how much she enjoyed the date. (Though after that date she did a very nasty lead-on and flake). And I was like so done with that shit, it boggles my mind that girl had the balls to approach me and chat to me without shame. I was, of course, respectful in that interaction but energy-wise I made it known to her that she needed to go away from me because I was so done with her.

@RebornConsciousness Yeah, modern people even historians can't fathom how incredibly non-material the medieval worldview was. Medieval times were a spiritual North Korea. Your suffering has great meaning so don't bother demanding change, remember if you're bad you go to hell and if you are good you get to be with Christ in heaven. Though the story of Christ is a legit spiritual allegory of the human-God relation.

The medieval looked onto existence with an innate and deep humility as his consciousness was painfully aware of his insignificant peripheral existence. He served the lord of a manor who in turn was part of a chain of servitude that continues many aloof and unapproachable lords up. He knew that he lived in a middle age, still in the dark as the bright light of sophisticated civilization has not yet shone since Roman times. And maybe most symbolically, the very center of the world was far away in Jerusalem. But the humility goes way deeper... The medieval worldview was absolutely non-materialistic. Medieval people saw themselves as living in a "realm" of some sort. Their realm was fragile and surely to end one day, (the end of times/apocalypse). The whole of life was fragile as death and disease was never far away. Life was just an "intermediate station" to test your faith. If you passed you went to heaven, if you didn't pass you went to purgatory, or hell if you were irredeemable. Your material condition is not important, only your spiritual one. In medieval times your suffering was given meaning by the suffering of Christ. For example, medieval art pieces such as a Corpus Christi (Christ on the cross) would dignify and give meaning to your suffering as you can identify with the suffering of Christ. While a sculpture of the Mother Mary would comfort your misery and pain. Because of her feminine, compassionate, and nurturing nature, she is approachable to ordinary people. She is also close to God and will soften God's judgment for you. The medieval worldview is highly mystical, imaginative, and non-materialistic but it is metaphysically strictly grounded-by and contained within the unquestionable truth of the Christian story. Oh... and It only just so happens that this mix of genuine mysticism and dogma has produced the universe's most optimal tool for feudal social control and order, it's Genius!

Yep, I got that insight. Being confrontational, having a grudge, hatred, a bitterness will always be hurtful to you at a very deep fundamental level. But even so, there is a time for peace and a time for war.

Haha yes, this is the story of my life when it comes to dating. I am now really aware of the stages of grief and how they come in waves. At the heart of it is a very sensitive innocent desire to connect with another human being of the opposite sex.

@something_else Yeah, she doesn't have the heart to say 'It's over' which ironically makes it even more painful as she is dragging it out and giving me hope. I think about sending her this: I am ending communication because I think it's going nowhere. I really enjoyed seeing you, I wish you a lot of love. But man... I hate how unreliable women are. They are all sweet and proper in person, showering me with compliments and love but when it comes to texting I get treated like a dog.

No, I think it became clear to her that I want her more than she does me. I think I gave up the "player spiel" too early.

@Danioover9000 Before the 11th century when majestic cathedrals started to get built, Western Europe had basically no noteworthy buildings. With maybe the Dom in Aachen and some churches in Italy being the only exception. They definitely knew about Rome, think Holy Roman Empire or the Byzantine Empire which was a continuation of the Roman Empire.

@Danioover9000 Of course! before the war, it was hard for me to respect Ukraine as a country because they were so undefined and didn't have their noses pointed in one direction. Yet another point where Putin smelled weakness though ironically he did them a big favor here. It turned out that Ukraine was the sleeping bear and not Russia.

Sure, the idea is from Athens, and Britain also has a democratic tradition, though the war started because Americans did not feel represented. It was about Americans asserting their right as Americans (Bald eagle sound in background*). In historical terms having a 240-year-old chain of 44 presidents that freely gave up power after term limit or elections is pretty fu*king revolutionary. Of course, there was a civil war and a dent in that chain as of late. But the experiment is nonetheless marching on. Russia also has redeeming qualities. They kicked Hitlers' ass, which is about as redeeming as you can get. There is also something poetic about how unpoetically Russians suffer and shoot themselves in the foot constantly. I meant more about whether it's good foreign policy to be constantly preaching about human rights. Of course, it's going to turn them off but on the other hand, America can use its power leverage to make countries think twice before they commit some questionable action like chopping up a journalist. Though in that particular case, I think America shot itself in the foot by just hammering it down so relentlessly because it totally alienated the Saudis which has bad geopolitical consequences for them.

The redeeming factor of America is that despite everything it started and progressed as an experiment in democracy.

NATO was kinda pussyfooting with Ukraine. Ukrainians themselves wanted to join but Nato conducted itself very indecisively and without clear direction. My guess is that Putin took this as a weakness that contributed to his overconfidence and his expectation for a short and decisive war. But yeah Ukraine is now fighting a war that is going to be massively decisive to its history and the direction they go in as a nation. Like you cannot say to 1700's colonial America: "Don't fight the British, make a compromise of some sort, you need to understand the geopolitical position of the British besides they are a superpower much stronger than you."

But that point seems to be mute as Ukraine and especially America seems to be winning. Because of this war, Ukraine seems like a strong sovereign country rather than a borderland bitch of superpowers with no sense of direction. Realistically it was communism and the "glorious Soviet Union" that butchered traditional Russian culture. America is going to build a Mcdonald's or two but not blow up Orthodox churches. Do you think the West is wrong for constantly preaching morals and human rights to underdeveloped regions? Like the Kasshogi murder by Saudi Arabia. The Americans just kept hammering it for years. So no wonder Saudi Arabia is now getting closer to Iran and China.

Why not pick up during your commute, of course, if you pass on a daily basis some busy centers and stations that will be ideal. Don't just focus on malls, you will burn them out quickly and you don't want to feel like the village/mall idiot. As a beginner, you should do long city walks as for maximum anonymity and room to fuck up. Don't judge yourself or beat yourself up, you're taking action! Being good at day game is a powerful life skill, a superpower really. It's not some frivolous gimmick to get laid, respect the process. The beauty of pick up is it's not really about getting laid, it's about one of the most real forms of self-development there is. If you don't get some freak luck, (and this happens too in this field). Only in a few years of consistent action, you'll get to a level where you can get girls somewhat consistently. Your vision should be somewhere along these lines: Yeah, in my twenties I didn't pursue girls but I still got my 30's (and beyond) for amazing girls and relationships, I will use the rest of my 20s to solidify this skill for consistent results and great confidence in my 30's.

It's Ukraine's free will to join the West. Russia is the one shooting for not doing as they say. My family is from Russia so I actually had a lot of pro-Russian bias (and in a sense still do). Honestly, I care more for Russia than for Ukraine. I actually had resentment for Ukrainian nationalists but this war has put everything in perspective, also for many Ukrainians with a Russian bias as well. The facts on the ground show that Ukraine is mountains higher than Russia in its values and manifesting virtue. Russia is corrupted by a big fat (wounded) imperial ego. Otherwise, Ukrainians and Russians are of course very similar in mentality.

Nato was kinda pussyfooting with Ukraine but besides that, I don't know what's the point of blaming America. That's fucking insulting to the Ukrainians heroically fighting, they take full responsibility for paying the price of manifesting their will. It's simple: being with the west= freedom and future, with Russia=non-freedom and stagnation. America gave Ukraine a fighting chance by training its army after 2014, if that didn't happen, Ukraine would have been a bitch of geopolitics. Sacrificed for "geopolitical balance". This whole war has undone me from a lot of stage-green sentiment about war. Now I have immense respect for all the people in history that fought for their independence and even existence on the basis of higher ideals. Americans are absolutely fucking right to idealize Washington as are Russians their victory in ww2 and the French their revolutions. All of these people gave their lives so future generations would live under a better system or simply just live, that alone commands enormous humility and respect from current generations. Ukraine in not only fighting in self-defense in the most literal sense (not some more abstract geopolitical sense.) They are also fighting for higher ideals and values than the old Russian/Authoritarian/Soviet ones.

This is your most fundamental issue, Living with your parents as a young man is oppressive as hell. This may only work if you have a strong focus on getting a diploma but other than that it will stifle your development in all other fields. Also of all the women you see most are your family members so... yeah... no wonder.

@zurew Do you know such a person, or if not how would you imagine such a person?

It's not about "morality" or "argument". It will fuck you up. You are welcome to prove me wrong by seducing your sister.