gettoefl

don't have expectations and assumptions when you date someone be explicit if you need exclusivity or flexibility exclusivity means you see only each other and seeing another person terminates the relationship flexibility will mean either i do my thing you do your thing otherwise known as don't ask don't tell DADT or it can mean if one wants to see someone else its possibility is discussed and a joint decision is arrived at doing all this in the beginning saves a lot of heartache later on, it might be the most important subject in any relationship

polyamory gives structure support stability so you can be your fullest self, it is more driven by women than men, men are more pro casual sex and swinging ... check the reddit sub and you'll see it's 90% women who post

recommend the orthogonal podcast by chelsea lee fasano for information about high conscious relationships, it's super fun and relatable https://www.chelseyfasano.com/news-and-tips

it is so tricky and the problem is all relationships are going to end so you had better have contingency plans even if you are a serial monogamist ... i say best to keep ties as light and as few as possible

i think you're right, for people of higher consciousness open relationships and ethical polyamory are options which have high merit though are not without downsides too reddit has a good sub on r/polyamory which documents how real people deal with the ups and the downs polyamory is the admission that, i have enough love that could satisfy more than one partner AND my needs can most satisfactorily be met by having more than one partner

consciousness is, how much of reality you see for example if you're functioning as an ego namely ego consciousness when you use your eyes, they are only showing part of what is there it shows you what you need to survive ... your mind evolved over eons to do precisely this ... you don't need to see the rest so just forget about it no disrespect to the present website once you get up to the next level which is cosmic consciousness also known as oneness, you see it different

@Fernanda escalation is not just the male domain in 2022 ... it can be subtle and non-verbal ... it is more of a attitude than a behaviour ... it is a way of communicating a green light to the other ,,, with males it is typically a physical thing but it can just be body language or a smiley sunny disposition

love is, to set them free if they come back, it was meant to be what you have to realize is that even if spouses stay faithful they still have lustful feelings or unstoppable crushes or heavy infatualtions should they keep quiet about them and thereby not be authentic in order to keep each of you in your ignorance is bliss mutual captivity if they keep quiet it surely amounts to emotional cheating monogamy is possible but it takes a lot of work and it entails deep sacrifices on both sides which may be good for the sake of raising a family maybe it is better for one to renew one's relationship vows every decade or so and if either wants out then bid them well as we well know nothing is forever and people can change unrecognisably even in a short time raising children is basically a 20 year program

there is never a wrong time or it is never too soon to escalate life lasts a mere lick and only what you don't do or what doesn't happen do you regret

when another communicates romantically or otherwise, your options are: match or diffuse or escalate diffuse is basically to friend zone them escalate is to take their energy and up it a notch i really adore being with you, is a bold gambit and you say you matched it to escalate could be something like: i am here for this (cheeky but ambiguous) or hope we can hang out even more and then make a suggestion about something in coming few days you would like to do, like see a movie or go to an art gallery

once head is off the pillow having switched off the alarm, don't lay head back down on the pillow

strongly believe that the key is getting to bed at a consistent time, figure out how much sleep you need and get to bed accordingly my work day starts at 7am so i sleep at 7pm since i need 8 hours sleep and 4 hours me time ... for me doing this all but guarantees a good day

i would say you didn't think hard enough about your relationship development ... do the work upfront to prevent the heart ache later on cheating is a wake up call from the universe that you are not giving your partner what they want a person getting steak at home doesn't need to sneak out to mcdonalds for a snack

whether a person cheated or not is academic rather are your needs being insufficiently met that you need to look for comfort and affection elsewhere if that IS the case then you should walk away, they need more than you are providing cheating should be discussed on entering a relationship / marriage ... is it a divorceable offence or should therapy be contemplated cheating is a an emotional word, better to inquire what specific rule was broken and what consequences were agreed upon and proceed accordingly

time is change no time no change have you any spare change? sands of time ever expiring

my question is, does god speak in any other way? just a rhetorical question

gettoefl is not god god is gettoefl and tons besides

agree ... how many conversation like this do they have in the home per week ... or maybe per year would be more accurate i lasted 5 minutes with this ... i didn't hear one question not one restatement of what the other said not one summary of what the actual problem is maybe i am too caveman ... speak one or two maybe three sentences then check back in with me that i understand and i promise to do the same

look for opportunities to write about what you're reading, maybe journaling, social media entries or partaking in online discussions about the topics to understand something is to summarize it simply to another as you write you sometimes find you don't understand ... in which case formulate a question ... asking a question means you understand a lot

hi there ali welcome to the site, here is one of your countrymen who hangs out here https://www.actualized.org/forum/profile/22298-mesopotamian/ wishing you the best with everything

thanks for your powerful and penetrating insights in this thread, very much appreciated reading all this it's not that narcissists fear being honest with themselves they in fact live in a parallel reality where a different version of truth resides they genuinely have convinced themselves and believe they are the good guys in the whole narrative they concoct what president trump use to label "alternative facts" whereby "there are good people on both sides of this dispute" we are the good guys, they claim, yes we support white supremacists and law breakers but we are still decent at root, just trust me

favouritism is, i like you if you're like me if ego runs the show, this won't change

you cannot change the world ... can you understand this deeply? the world is either for you or against you all depending on your perspective the world cannot change how it behaves towards you even people who seemingly love you ... this is not in fact the case, they are doing what they need to do for their advancement absolutely nothing here is personal when one understands all this deeply how should one behave? how do you walk that tightrope between not being active while at the same time not being passive: you are welcoming of each moment and thrilled to be here you are willing though ever unhurried to do whatever is required you are wholly available and deeply receptive to whatever is arising you are massively thankful for the astonishing gift of life you remain unmoved by the world's troubles and treasures but moved by god's quiet prompting all is triggers or teachers, your choice

with meditation, have to take all choice out of the equation, set it in stone as a non negotiable that doesn't budge no matter what you do not meditate, existence does the whole thing, your role is you show up and last the time by hook or by crook then forget about it til next time it is a bit like sleep, don't compromise don't deviate don't backslide, get your butt on the mat there isn't anything as important

people seek value not integrity most won't even know what integrity looks like and if they do they see little value in it if they think about integrity at all they might say when our goals have been achieved then we can focus on integrity but now we have to do what we have to do integrity takes enormous maturity edit: integrity is almost religious! who has time for such esoteric stuff!