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good stuff ... to shut the mind 99% when out walking, count steps one til ten then repeat your mind is given a repetitive task which takes 1% cpu and you are free now to go bliss mode also look up now down, skwwards is where the god stuff is, the unawakened are glum ever looking down can do this in the home too, count breaths, same technique in one out two in three etc.

first thing is, every person you meet speaks the whole truth according to their level of consciousness therefore where you prove you are unawakened is by judging the validity of their truths which is what this thread is doing your truth isn't my truth quit saying you're wrong to people and start saying wow interesting, i can see where you are in you journey now

yes i feel this too how about define nothing? nothing is everything right in front of you that the mind is incapable of seeing or even imagining ... which by the way is quite a lot ... don't think she would be happy to state that ... words have to mean something in day to day life rather than be poetic dead ends

look where you wrote "most basic expectations" that's what i addressed you said you want all this stuff, i am saying this should be a first date conversation for compatibility not some afterthought 5 years later

narcissism is revisionism of history ... it is re-spinning everything per one's own lens ... its position defines what the truth is what makes a narcissist different from the normal person is many people believe a narcissist they succeed in getting the past rewritten normal person just gets dismissed as delusional since they are not as persuasive and smart what's the difference between fact and fiction? a good lawyer

don't have expectations and assumptions when you date someone be explicit if you need exclusivity or flexibility exclusivity means you see only each other and seeing another person terminates the relationship flexibility will mean either i do my thing you do your thing otherwise known as don't ask don't tell DADT or it can mean if one wants to see someone else its possibility is discussed and a joint decision is arrived at doing all this in the beginning saves a lot of heartache later on, it might be the most important subject in any relationship

polyamory gives structure support stability so you can be your fullest self, it is more driven by women than men, men are more pro casual sex and swinging ... check the reddit sub and you'll see it's 90% women who post

recommend the orthogonal podcast by chelsea lee fasano for information about high conscious relationships, it's super fun and relatable https://www.chelseyfasano.com/news-and-tips

it is so tricky and the problem is all relationships are going to end so you had better have contingency plans even if you are a serial monogamist ... i say best to keep ties as light and as few as possible

i think you're right, for people of higher consciousness open relationships and ethical polyamory are options which have high merit though are not without downsides too reddit has a good sub on r/polyamory which documents how real people deal with the ups and the downs polyamory is the admission that, i have enough love that could satisfy more than one partner AND my needs can most satisfactorily be met by having more than one partner

consciousness is, how much of reality you see for example if you're functioning as an ego namely ego consciousness when you use your eyes, they are only showing part of what is there it shows you what you need to survive ... your mind evolved over eons to do precisely this ... you don't need to see the rest so just forget about it no disrespect to the present website once you get up to the next level which is cosmic consciousness also known as oneness, you see it different

@Fernanda escalation is not just the male domain in 2022 ... it can be subtle and non-verbal ... it is more of a attitude than a behaviour ... it is a way of communicating a green light to the other ,,, with males it is typically a physical thing but it can just be body language or a smiley sunny disposition

love is, to set them free if they come back, it was meant to be what you have to realize is that even if spouses stay faithful they still have lustful feelings or unstoppable crushes or heavy infatualtions should they keep quiet about them and thereby not be authentic in order to keep each of you in your ignorance is bliss mutual captivity if they keep quiet it surely amounts to emotional cheating monogamy is possible but it takes a lot of work and it entails deep sacrifices on both sides which may be good for the sake of raising a family maybe it is better for one to renew one's relationship vows every decade or so and if either wants out then bid them well as we well know nothing is forever and people can change unrecognisably even in a short time raising children is basically a 20 year program

there is never a wrong time or it is never too soon to escalate life lasts a mere lick and only what you don't do or what doesn't happen do you regret

when another communicates romantically or otherwise, your options are: match or diffuse or escalate diffuse is basically to friend zone them escalate is to take their energy and up it a notch i really adore being with you, is a bold gambit and you say you matched it to escalate could be something like: i am here for this (cheeky but ambiguous) or hope we can hang out even more and then make a suggestion about something in coming few days you would like to do, like see a movie or go to an art gallery

once head is off the pillow having switched off the alarm, don't lay head back down on the pillow

strongly believe that the key is getting to bed at a consistent time, figure out how much sleep you need and get to bed accordingly my work day starts at 7am so i sleep at 7pm since i need 8 hours sleep and 4 hours me time ... for me doing this all but guarantees a good day

i would say you didn't think hard enough about your relationship development ... do the work upfront to prevent the heart ache later on cheating is a wake up call from the universe that you are not giving your partner what they want a person getting steak at home doesn't need to sneak out to mcdonalds for a snack

whether a person cheated or not is academic rather are your needs being insufficiently met that you need to look for comfort and affection elsewhere if that IS the case then you should walk away, they need more than you are providing cheating should be discussed on entering a relationship / marriage ... is it a divorceable offence or should therapy be contemplated cheating is a an emotional word, better to inquire what specific rule was broken and what consequences were agreed upon and proceed accordingly

time is change no time no change have you any spare change? sands of time ever expiring

my question is, does god speak in any other way? just a rhetorical question

gettoefl is not god god is gettoefl and tons besides

agree ... how many conversation like this do they have in the home per week ... or maybe per year would be more accurate i lasted 5 minutes with this ... i didn't hear one question not one restatement of what the other said not one summary of what the actual problem is maybe i am too caveman ... speak one or two maybe three sentences then check back in with me that i understand and i promise to do the same

look for opportunities to write about what you're reading, maybe journaling, social media entries or partaking in online discussions about the topics to understand something is to summarize it simply to another as you write you sometimes find you don't understand ... in which case formulate a question ... asking a question means you understand a lot

hi there ali welcome to the site, here is one of your countrymen who hangs out here https://www.actualized.org/forum/profile/22298-mesopotamian/ wishing you the best with everything