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Get full panel blood work done and focus your money on dentistry if you had to choose

@Javfly33 Great job man, this is what more people need to do instead of complaining about not getting laid. Leo had a great bathtub analogy about getting better at something. Imagine your trying to fill a bathtub with water, You going out and talking to many sets would be the equivalent of dumping a mug full of water into the tub, you sitting and reading theory without the intent of practicing it is like adding an eye drop of water into the tub. Set your attention on meeting many women and practicing your calibration, social skills ect, to fill up the tub as quick as possible. When starting out your only metric should be to talk to x amount of chicks and add a number close statement, but don't make that your intention your only goal should be to vibe and bring good energy and calibrated. About the "delusion" aspect reframe it to entitlement, your mentality should be "who else has the balls to cold approach random women, she should feel lucky she has the chance to meet me" it's not something you logically think about its more of a feeling. It helps when your focused on making your life better via self-improvement that naturally gives you that entitlement mentality. You may piss some girls off with this attitude but thats fine leave with grace and go to the next set.

I can tell you watch a lot of redpill youtube vids

Dude if your in highschool or college get out of your house and go socialize, focus on making friends first and let things happen naturally from there. Your age range is when everyone around you is horny and everyone is close proximity, don't even think about cold approaching. They key is to make SOCIAL friends, not friends who are interested in playing video games and smoking weed all day, that way they can invite you to parties and events and you can connect with people there, don't worry about getting laid just worry about talking to more woman and not being a stuttering fool around them. Also type your exact question on youtube and dive into the info you find

That delusion is what makes people successful but its also a double edge sword.

This is such a beautiful painting do you know any more artists that have this similar style?

This just seems like things didn't work out its not like you could have used any "tactics" to win him over if he wasn't interested. You improved your dating skills and your social calibration, now its time to move on. Its ok to get rejected its going to happen when you date around lol

I didn't read the posts just thought id add my two cents about consent, building comfort, respecting boundaries and not trying to force a situation with "Anti-slut defence tactics" really helped me build better relationships with the women I date. When I first started my pua phase one of my sticking points was the last minute resistance i would get when i'd get a chick back to my place. I would try the two steps forward one step backwards, kino, wait 20 minutes if things didn't escalate id do it again until she said said a hard no or I got sex. I didn't even realize this was manipulative or shady until I started to notice my quality of relationships were really shitty and my retention rate was horrendous. I started asking girls for brutal honesty on why they ghosted me or ignored me and the common theme I got was being to "pushy" or "aggressive" or "fuck boy like" and I started to see the flaws of this whole "anti-slut defense LMR" worldview pua's push so much. It didnt hit home until one of the girls I was with explained to me that the actions I did reminded her of her ex who was also pushy and would "pressure" her into sex or sexual acts she didnt like but didnt have the boundaries to deny him. She told me I reenacted those memories when she was first with me and that's what caused her to distance herself from me. I contemplated on what she said and reflected back on my experiences and started to notice a pattern on why I was having such a bad relationship streak and it clicked. Now when I invite a girl back to my place ill talk with her a while and then make my move and if I sense any hesitation or she says not today i wont try again for the rest of our interaction and would carry on with our experience together. Ive definitely lost some girls by using this approach but the relationships I have now are much deeper than before and honestly the sex is better because the girl can relax knowing her boundaries are being respected.

Nothing Graphic here just some video I Stumbled upon which showed me how blessed I am to live in a first world country. These gangsters blocked off a traffic light which is typical in places like Mexico as these gangs fall under a particular cartel and attempted to steal this mans truck. Had this man stopped and rolled down the window like most of us would he would have gotten robbed or worse. People poo poo on police but fail to realize that without some form of power to regulate the rules that keep society a decent place to live people will act out their primitive nature

Dam thats crazy a chick shows her journey losing weight from her diet and you people start bashing and criticizing her for her decision instead of being supportive weird... I dont think that human are "frugavores" or whatever but I feel you making a conscious decision to only eat veggies and fruits led to you being more aware of what you put in your mouth which has led to your weight loss. Awareness to what you consume is the most important part of transforming your body and only limiting yourself to fruits and veggies is a good way to manage your diet. You look much better at your weight now than before in my opinion great job

One thing that helps is to stop being judgemental, its ok to talk about nothing with other people and just shoot the shit not every conversation has to provide some profound insight.

@Monkey_in_suit There are specialists that are specifically trained to do this procedure because most dentists have a very material understanding on how oral healthcare works you would need t find a more holistic dentist

Easier said then done Incels have way bigger issues than just being social their starting at such a low point of shame, insecurity, limiting beliefs its like like telling a man thats been homeless for 5 years, "Go make money bro!" "Were not in a recession any more"

@Noahsteelers34 Glad you reconsidered it, one thing you got going for you is that you have balls, your only a freshman so i suggest you don't take your career as serious this year, take this time to come out of your shell date new girls, join clubs, party and have fun. Also take the time to network with other people who have the job your looking to get. If your dorming you shouldn't be in your room unless your sleeping, doing hw or having sex. Go out talk to people and network. One tip I'll give you for professional networking is use your teachers to connect you to a few professionals and send cold email to them leveraging your school email account. Your much more likely to get a response and you can use this to get a deeper understanding of whatever field you plan on going into. There are so many things you can do to extract the value colleges are charging. When I graduated from college I was at around 6k in debt and had multiple high paying job offers to choose from. This took tremendous amount of effort and refusing to be passive about my college experience. College is not a scam if your creative and take your growth serious. Dm me if you have any other questions about college I personally loved the experience and believed I got my moneys worth.

@Shiva99 why are you trying to fight it so much thats your body showing you its working, I used to have limiting beliefs with masturbation because of all these eople saying its "bad" or "fogs your mind" but it doesn't at all. Just kick back enjoy it and stop judging yourself and move on. Theres going to be a time where even getting one erection is going to seem like a win so enjoy it and relax

@Noahsteelers34 Bro everything im about to write in this post is coming from a place of love and is meant to shock you so you can understand the gravity of your situation. Take the time to read this out and understand college isn't as black and white as you believe. Hopefully this makes you ask the hard questions and gives you some guidance. This is not a well thought out plan when you give up an "opportunity" like college it has to be for something equal. The fact you dont already have some projects or endeavors your considering shows you immaturity and lack of planning. You don't understand how unbelievably difficult this is. Most people who make even 75k a year cant hope to save more than 20k and those people have decent skills to offer. As a 18-19 year old you would be lucky to find a job that pays $20 an hour and even if you do it will be a dead end job with practical transferable skills or career prospects. You will actually be taking a step backwards as the notion of waking up and slaving 8 hours plus a day on some minimum wage job will break you School is not this expensive if you use your brain. People who pay this amount of money a year are lazy and just do things without thinking. First of community college is an option and only costs around 6k per semester and that's not including government grants and scholarships. You could do 2 years there and then finish up at a college that interests you many people do that. This could save you 10's of thousands of dollars Second you could take online classes your first year or two and then take in person classes which could also save 10's of thousands of dollars. Third you don't have to dorm this immediately cuts your bill in half and you can work at your school and make friends that way and leverage that into something good. Stop saying "im paying 35k a year" actually take time to consider how you could lower this price, your an idiot if you pay the full sticker amount for your tution your just being lazy and hoping everything magically gets figured out. Again stop being Lazy, if this is really what you want take some online classes your first year as you'll mostly be learning general education and use the rest of your time to build real world skills. Stop thinking college is a scam its not, if you dont use your brain an only go there to do homework then go home your a fool. College is not some linear path, your supposed to find yourself there, just because you go there with the intent of studying Computer science or something doesnt mean those are all the classes you have to take. You could take art, music theater ect. Most of your learning is going to be done outside the classroom never forget that. You have such a rigid view on what college is because you keep listening to this woke crap. Go in a room by yourself and really think this through, ask yourself "Do i want to take online classes? Do i want to dorm? Do I want to go to community colloge?" and go back to your dad and enroll. If money is really an issue you should be working hard to come up with solutions to bring the cost down. Listen man your 18-19 years old your going to have many brash and dumb decisions, but take these years serious. No matter what anyone tells you 18-26 are the most important years of your life. Most of you character and beliefs for the average person is developed in this part of your life. Dont waste it on some dead end job when you have parents that are willing to help you. Only drop out of college when you have a well thought out plan, the math is done correctly and your opportunity mathes the cost it would have to leave college.

There you go, you got the lesson you needed from this exchange, don't develop a victim mentality and make sure the next girl your interested in knows it.

@Federico del pueblo Don't even bother trying to understand this worldview its so flawed that you won't find any useful perspective from it, its just a coping mechanism men who cant bother to put the effort into getting laid use to help soothe their ego. I think the only lesson Learned from trying to understand blackpill is that some perspectives are not worth exploring as they are such low quality and can lead to you gaslighting yourself. I would only try to understand it from an epistemic perspective to see how another man can even consider this worldview serious but even that has its dangers.

@asifarahim Time+ Repeated exposure + Understanding + Meditation,yoga psychedelics + Healthy lifestyle + Purpose + Supportive friends + Therapy + Creativity + Practicing self love is what heals trauma's not books or videos, those are only used to guide in the right direction

Your still young try and go create relationships with others and date, you don't want to regret not moving out your comfort zone in your 20's

By date do you mean slept with or "just talking" cause that just screams red flags

Ease up on the redpill/blackpill content man people can smell that stuff a mile away, relax go create an interesting life and develop strong character and go see for yourself is getting laid as hard as you make it out to be.

I recently bought an Oura Ring to help track my sleep, i need to start dialing in on my sleep schedule, its crazy how im almost a different person without getting a proper nights sleep.

@Javfly33 Go to reddit or some type of forum and look up "how to overcome porn addiction/Buying porn subscriptions," it doesn't seem the advice on this forum is helping you so I would go to people who've actually been in your position and who've overcome it and see what they have to say. Don't lose hope or do anything irrational your not in a good headspace give it a few days/weeks to get yourself togther

@Sagar Gopalani Start off by finding a group of solid guys to go out with who can invite you to events and parties, going the cold approach route is very demanding and wouldn't recommend it to beginners who are jumping into the dating game. Id put the same effort into meeting other guys who can introduce you to other people it makes interactions run smoother. I'd only do cold approach to work on tonality, body-launguage, witty remarks, eye contact social calibration ect, I wouldnt make it my main focus to get a girlfriend with cold approach.