Gesundheit

I think it's tricky, because the underlying issues of self-image may not be addressed without them being exposed and worked through. Success can mimic actual progress, and it can mask fear and fake personas underneath it, all of which will be easily thrown off at the first real challenge, i.e. rejection, insult, criticism, etc... Fear needs to be overcome in order for an autonomous personality to mature. If there's still fear, there's still more work to do.

Says who? Dr. Penis? What does that mean? How exactly? And why?

@SamC Well, essentially, I think all dating problems stem from a poor self-image. An autonomous guy who is confident of himself would have zero problems with girls. In my journey, there was a fundamental realization that took place somewhere in an intermediate phase, which is that you can't force attraction. With that insight, there was relief. I finally understood that there's actually nothing personal when I get rejected, and that it's not possible to have every girl I like. And so, I stopped having the fear of rejection anymore, or at least to a much lesser degree. Part of my ego dissolved. And I found myself freer and more authentic with everyone, not only girls. When I realized that, I started interacting more with girls, and I discovered that they're just human beings, exactly like us. There's no need to put them on a pedestal. In fact, putting girls on a pedestal automatically puts me down on the self-esteem scale. With more practice, I started seeing that girls wanted my approval and attention as much as I did, if not even more. And so the game began to look more fair and balanced, and that increased my confidence. I realized that it's not a game where I should give everything to the girl so that she will appreciate me. No. That would make me look needy. Finally, I started learning to be myself fully and put myself first, and that's something I still have to work on. But I can see that ideally, that's the ultimate goal, is to be yourself fully and let your authentic self speak for you instead of your mind, insecurities, and agendas. If people like me for who I am, great. If not, I will not change for them or fake a persona. "Be yourself. The world will adjust." That's my final insight into dating and relationships and life in general.

I don't know what it's called, probably the bow. I've read about it years ago somewhere in a yoga book under the spine practices/postures chapter, and I have been applying it when needed ever since. I found this video:

@BartekD You're welcome. Make sure you try multiple variations of this practice. Like, with the hands, and without the hands. You can use pillows to adjust your body to different levels at different places. You can use your hands to push up your upper spine by pushing them against the ground. You can also change the distance between your feet, and the angle you curve your legs in. Experiment and see what works best for you.

They overlap. You gotta start somewhere, and the rest will do itself as long as you're committed.

About the swallowing, I make sure that I am prepared to let the saliva running so that I don't put any attention on it. Sometimes, when I'm walking, I start to do shamanic breathing, and I let the saliva just spill from my mouth like a dog. I don't care. It even feels nice btw, the saliva becomes very liquid and light and cold, it feels awesome on my lips and chin.

@BartekD I'm not sure, but have you tried laying on your stomach with your feet touching and then curve your legs together towards your back? To make this practice more efficient, use your hands to apply pressure on your feet in deep exhalation, and then try to move your upper spine, neck, and head backwards towards your feet. If you're talking about what I'm thinking, then you will experience lots of releases.

I have practiced it intermittently over the past couple of years, since Leo first talked about it, but sometimes I would go months without any practice. For the first year, I would faint quickly after barely 30 seconds to one minute, I would feel dizzy and tingling all over my body, and everything in my sight would go black, then I would stop and feel the relaxation, and receive lots of insights and healing. Nowadays, I can do up to 3 to 4 minutes, but then I stop because I feel tired and I don't notice any changes. I guess that I've gained some weight lately because I don't exercise as much as I used to, and the fat is in the stomach area, so it's not allowing the session to be as effective as it used to be before. Or maybe my state has become higher than the technique. Or maybe both, or neither, idk.

@Striving for more It helps to remember that girls are just human beings. It's a lot easier to approach with a wingman. Call up your best friend and get down now before the frustration goes away. Use the current emotions as a motivating energy. Go. Now.

@Talinn You're sweet. Thank you. I slept well last night, and now I feel a lot better.

@Someone here You would have done better if you just answered the question directly. Why do you assume a person sitting there somewhere? Really, why? Ask yourself that question and see. There is a reason, but it is grounded in nothing. So, it's illusory. The absolute can have many POVs, and it can be devoid of any POV, like a coffee table. The truth is that it's both. That doesn't change anything or make the absolute relative. We are the absolute communicating on a forum. Doesn't matter what we think. That is the case. And it cannot be otherwise. Dream well.

Of course. Duh. Why do you assume a person sitting there somewhere? The person is imaginary, i.e. unreal. The real me cannot be affected by anything, because if it could be affected, then it wouldn't be real. The real/absolute does not get affected. Impossible.

@Someone here Ha! I like it when someone else plays my skeptic role. https://www.actualized.org/insights/all-understanding-is-metaphoric When I say there is nothing but the physical world, physical here is a label for the absolute that cannot be named. And how do I know the absolute? I don't. It's unknowable, but recognizable. What would happen if I confused myself with my mom? What's the difference? Will this distinction change reality? Or will it only change the way things are unfolding?

Ok, co-operative, probably.

Perhaps he meant obedient instead of submissive. And by obedient I don't mean being a doormat, of course. I mean being supportive and understanding and respectful of the man. The man, in turn, has to play a similar supportive role and not abuse the dynamic. This is very different from a relationship where the woman is always challenging the man's decisions and intimidating his roles, due to her having an overly masculine energy. Of course, this would probably mean that the man has problems and is not in fact very masculine. It takes two to tango.

In one of my awakenings, I realized that the ultimate form of understanding is being. So, that might mean that it's not possible to understand reality, or that it's already understood but thought not to be, or both of them. In any case, the difference between high consciousness and low consciousness turns out to be illusory. And the more you move towards understanding, the further you will get from being, because understanding requires thinking, and thinking is dualistic. Then again, you can't possibly get any further from being, because you already are whatever you are. So, turns out I'm really confused here and don't have the answer to your question

A really good question to keep in mind: Why would I do something compulsively when I could simply do nothing instead? Why would I waste my time and energy like that when I could save them for more important stuff instead?

Humans are not very different from chimpanzees. I should not help anyone for free anymore.

God has sex with his angels. Yes, that's it. All sexuality explained. Women have this fantasy of one godly man, and men have the fantasy of many angelic women. When, in fact, all of them are just a bunch of deluded devils.

@mandyjw Nah. You just proved that it's impossible to reason with a high person. And I just proved that it's impossible to experience unconditional love from within an ordinary state of consciousness.

Understanding.

Love IS attachment. And don't give me the unconditional love lecture. So, there's no suffering in love? God must really hate humanity.

Language is itself a hypocrisy and a betrayal of reality, so the hypocrisy paradox is inescapable.