Jacob Morres

i know how you feel. the way i interpret this right now is that if a girl is disrespectful she is helping weed herself out. a criteria for me is integrity. idont know if this is the best way, but right now i have a certain vibe that i want the girl to also embody

https://scholar.google.com/scholar?start=20&q=Research+papers+on+astrology&hl=en&as_sdt=0,31&as_vis=1#d=gs_qabs&u=%23p%3DugpvFBTdttEJ I think the astrology model is too weak

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8fAhapD/ I thought this tiktok channel might be helpful . She's a therapist and she humanizes the struggles we all go through in dating and she brings alternative healthier approaches to it. I actually found it healing so maybe it might be helpful for you too I've dealt with similar thoughts over the years so I totally get it. There's nothing wrong with you. You're mind is in conflict towards itself and facing really normal human emotions (that we all go through) Even if you are 23, I can tell you that you can still have what you want here, you will be amazed as to what you can accomplish in a few years of incremental effort (it snowballs) Regarding that fear, that sounds really tough. Personally, eckhart tolle helps me a lot with that fear. There's 2 chapters in 'practical applications of the power of now' on dealing with unconsciousness and dissolving the pain body that personally helped me a lot. Managing that fear and realizing that fear is an illusion helps a lot I also recommend a therapist (or self therapy) that could be helpful with loving compassion techniques, trauma therapy, or family systems for those parts of yourself that you feel in resistance with. Because there is nothing wrong with you, you are a human being just like us

personally i dont like how pua doesnt (or didn't rather maybe) press enough about concepts like self-esteem

@Theperciever good point

Bump Maybe it has to do with how much you can handle and your intention. I've personally been on both sides of the coin, and have felt limits to both. Lots of friends and socializing can distract you from more meaningful things and the lack of it can make you depressed (imo)

I feel this is a pillarstone of life. Gut, heart, mind

https://hbr.org/2017/01/the-downsides-of-being-very-emotionally-intelligent The downsides of high emotional intelligence Though definitions vary, EQ always comprises intrapersonal and interpersonal skills – in particular, high adjustment, sociability, sensitivity, and prudence. However, there are downsides to any human trait. The drawbacks of higher EQ include lower levels of creativity and innovation potential. People with high EQ tend to be great at building relations and working with others but may lack the necessary levels of nonconformity and unconventionality to challenge the status quo. Because of their high interpersonal sensitivity, people with high EQ struggle to give negative feedback, and their cool-headedness and positivity means they also have difficulty receiving it. They can be reluctant to ruffle people’s feathers, which puts them at a disadvantage when they need to make unpopular choices or bring about change. High EQ individuals can also have a well-developed ability to manipulate others. They risk overusing their social skills by focusing heavily on the emotional aspects of communication while neglecting logical arguments. Lastly, these employees can have higher levels of conscientiousness and are therefore averse to risk. Although EQ is unquestionably a desirable and highly adaptive trait, obsessing over it can create an overly diplomatic workforce that fails to drive change and innovation. " People with high EQ tend to be great at building relations and working with others but may lack the necessary levels of nonconformity and unconventionality to challenge the status quo." Could see that. While being emotionally conscious of others, it may be difficult to hurt others when wanting to making conscious choices. But I think -> this is not inherent as I think a true leader makes decisions that are right, not just socially acceptable. But as someone who has run into this trap at times, I can totally understand how it can be difficult to break this conformist attitude at times. "They risk overusing their social skills by focusing heavily on the emotional aspects of communication while neglecting logical arguments." Seems as though this is the limit of EQ not the limit of development. I guess with all things, arises with traps I can see there are many traps with too high IQ. Sometimes people are too logical , they forget the emotional, communicational and spiritual aspects.

I love enjoying with friends, laughing having fun I love to authentically be myself I love deep connection, deep intimacy I love to love others

this a prelude to sundays vid

Why I enjoyed 6 pillars of self esteem: - I felt good that Branden included a lot of nuance in his wisdom. He didn't just put out a principle and said it was the truth. He pressed on context which I admired because context is key in the world of self improvement - it was really nice to see when he gave advice that he spoke much about the traps and misconceptions. Often in self improvement I feel advice gets too linear! Almost like they can't see outside the bubble of the advice they are giving. Just very unholsitic - felt well studied, well researched and well understood. Branden remains unbiased , with an understanding he doesn't have the absolute truth and is always willing to append on his wisdom - goes in depth on the principles. I think though he went in depth I have a lot of questions still and I think it could be explained even better. - a lot of great definitions founded in wisdom What is the connection between the practice and what does it have to do with self esteem? How are they interlinked? Why is self esteem so illusive to the psychology community? How come definitions of it aren't so concrete? Why is self esteem comprised of two definitions? How can one thing be 2?? Why did the program feel so impersonal? I honestly felt he needed way more questions to help engage the reader to understand the idea more. Worksheets Personal questions: What is self esteem and why is it important? What I would have liked to see: - I was a little dissatisfied with the practical program. Though it did feel somewhat comprehensive I wish there was a classroom like with TAs or a cohort or something. When I am stuck or confused, I have nobody to go to

leo denotes this as the #1 skill to develop

can attest to brian johnson being a G

I've noticed this too. I think the sensitivity just means your consciousness of your emotions are way higher. Whereas before, it'd just be in the background but now the person is more attuned with them

shadow work. might be a bit radical but if you do shadow work youll be able to integrate 'other' and the anger towards 'other' will decrease as you start to see it a part of yourself as well. integration of those parts in yourself will help you understand that in others being a good/moral person requires a lot of development and consciousness. it's actually a large spectrum. this is because there is sooo much to it. emotional intelligence, quality of your intentions, the manner in the ways you cope, integrity it's like a process to gradually reduce your selfishness and your 'evil'. i try to not think of evil as a bad because it is contained in all of us and is just what makes us human. it helps you integrate it as well. leos videos on evil may help you i find it an enjoyable process to find and dissolve the 'evil' in me, it's a never-ending healing journey for me

@lxlichael you may need to dig into the reason as to what makes your preferences the way they are

i would also say mindfulness as the #1 habit but also - the best habit is really relative to the individual as each person and situation is different

Naw I don't think so. If i had to guess they'd need to turn internal first

@hoodrow trillson some of the anti racists have heavy internalized racism in them They're fighting against their shadow or something

Ya I agree. I don't agree with condemning most of the time, I think everyone deserves compassion But need to be careful because it's deeper than preferences

Also implicitly Those on the other end will feel the racial bias on a systemic level Like you see through dating apps and swipes. Though black women are probably not explicitly having said racist things to them, implicitly they feel the bias Stats show this Like thru their lack of swipes, lack of good responses from men, observing and comparing w other poc and how men treat them etc. Like if you don't work through racial bias internally it'll reflect externally. I dont want anyone to feel shame for it as I think we all have some of it to an extent so it's understandable. But still has its consequences so it's best to be worked thru (if that resonates)

i do not recommend betterhelp betterhelp is a new platform for affordable therapy but the problem is i think (no offense) attracts therapists that may be new and lesser competent. they also get paid very little. ive heard like $25/hr which is ridiculous as therapists usually make $200 / hr i had 4 therapists from there (they let you swap until you find one you like) and they were so lowly skilled relative to the ones i got who charge market rates. im sure though, if you do not have insurance or can't afford it, they are probably helpful. but for me, it just didnt suit my needs

@AlwaysJoggin true thinking it is hard is a self-fulfilling prophecy for me i have a core belief that business is easy and it's made doing business so much easier.

Impact is inherent You will always have some sort of impact on the world/people around you, it's important to take conscious control over it because it will either be negative or positive

As long as your intent is clear it's chillin. Like whatre you trying to achieve with it