Jacob Morres

The problem is the social conditioning around it making you feel less worthwhile of a person because u haven't had sex Which is distinct from the problem that arises of you desiring sex and were unable to get it

maybe but according to their research they say it has good impact https://blog.youtube/news-and-events/update-to-youtube/ i agree though i do want to see their rational based off what you said

1-2 years maybe

personally i like the change. i remember seeing an argument that dislikes were a good indication to tell you which content is good/bad for both the creator in terms of feedback and for the viewer in terms of judging quality (but like/dislike ratio isn't a perfect indicator of quality contact) but people use dislikes as a method for bullying and i think a lot of people get really negatively impacted by it. it wouldnt affect me as much as an adult, but for children without the best coping skills i know dislikes can be heavily influential/impactful. it's definitely hard for me to decide but i think i have to go with the latter. im sure there are another ways of gaining feedback/ judging quality

hmm what is it making it hard for you?

Y'all aware of any good book on social skills? Like the fundamentals of social skills? I'm looking for one at that is decently wise + practical. OFC I know action is everything but I enjoy having books as foundations whenever I pursue journeys like this

I have the same question actually.

My dating principles: Girls will reflect your own internal feelings. If you believe yourself as unattractive, girls will feel that and feel that way about you. Feel like an attractive guy and girls will feel that off you Find girls with good energy. Flirting in either their own unique good nature. Girls who are cold, uninterested, rude are loved but not my type.

Wow awesome thanks for sharing. Emma sepalla says the root of confidence is presence. So that theory would actually align with what you're saying And presence is a pillar of charisma (according to Olivia cabane)

@Jennjenn possibly. But also part of me also feels it is too one sided to work well . High investment in a girl doesn't make sense if the girl doesn't reciprocate equivalent forms of investment Also it's sort of supplicating as well. When you try to win a girl with flowers and dates and stuff , a lot of girls perceive it as a form of compensating for something (which it is actually a lot of the times). But at the same time such a thing isn't inherent It's also not a 21st century strategy anymore in USA at least It needs to be grounded in attraction principles first before this. This alone is a failing strategy. If the guy isn't already attractive it won't work

!! Lol. This is a death sentence lol. Guys usually do this when they have no game no offense ? Not to discredit them completely bcuz they are probably great in a healthy relationship

I remember teal Swan talking about love and connection being as important as physiological needs sometimes (while referencing maslows)

Trauma work perhaps

nothing wrong with it in terms of judgement and making you any less of a person

@SamC So this is just my opinion but the way i understand is im using like psychcybernetics/law of attraction So like i'm using the belief "women find me attractive" and fully believing that belief is true for me. then i really feel it in my body and in actuality true for me and slowly manifest that belief. act as if, believe as if, take action as if it's true. and any "misalignment" doesn't counteract my belief, i'm just in the process of manifesting that belief (while slowly changing to align with my belief).

- If women don't find you attractive, sometimes they are just mirroring your own internal feelings about yourself I believe as though if you see and believe yourself as attractive, and your mannerisms follow , women will reflect that as well I think this inner game point is crucial in game Thoughts?

I'm curious which types of therapists that you guys prefer. For me, it makes me uncomfortable if my therapist is a great conversationalist. Like those loud talkative mothers. I just feel I am too mellow for those types of people

boy that would be fucking juicy

@PurpleTree appreciate your response. Yeah I really relate. I always felt like for some reason or another the therapist was always lacking some efficacy or helpfulness somehow. My last therapist was an exception . She matched my energy well and really did her best to help me but she was not trained in my issue. I'm eternally grateful for her tho Jungian sounds dope. I always thought a bit about it bcuz I've done a good amount of shadow work and my world view is based a bit in it But yeah thanks for sharing! Gained some insight and helped me feel my exp was normal

@Knowledge Hoarder If she comes back she needs to not take such an inflammatory strategy imo

maybe become a movie director and portray shorter guys as sexy and attractive in them

@FlyingLotus naw thats not a neg thats racist + OD lmao

ryan holiday

She will be back with swords and an army next time ?

I think the pursuit is right for some, wrong for others. Me personally, it's right 1-2%, wrong 98% lol. I think im bored of casual sex unless the girl is super special