Jacob Morres

Wow awesome thanks for sharing. Emma sepalla says the root of confidence is presence. So that theory would actually align with what you're saying And presence is a pillar of charisma (according to Olivia cabane)

@Jennjenn possibly. But also part of me also feels it is too one sided to work well . High investment in a girl doesn't make sense if the girl doesn't reciprocate equivalent forms of investment Also it's sort of supplicating as well. When you try to win a girl with flowers and dates and stuff , a lot of girls perceive it as a form of compensating for something (which it is actually a lot of the times). But at the same time such a thing isn't inherent It's also not a 21st century strategy anymore in USA at least It needs to be grounded in attraction principles first before this. This alone is a failing strategy. If the guy isn't already attractive it won't work

!! Lol. This is a death sentence lol. Guys usually do this when they have no game no offense ? Not to discredit them completely bcuz they are probably great in a healthy relationship

I remember teal Swan talking about love and connection being as important as physiological needs sometimes (while referencing maslows)

Trauma work perhaps

nothing wrong with it in terms of judgement and making you any less of a person

@SamC So this is just my opinion but the way i understand is im using like psychcybernetics/law of attraction So like i'm using the belief "women find me attractive" and fully believing that belief is true for me. then i really feel it in my body and in actuality true for me and slowly manifest that belief. act as if, believe as if, take action as if it's true. and any "misalignment" doesn't counteract my belief, i'm just in the process of manifesting that belief (while slowly changing to align with my belief).

- If women don't find you attractive, sometimes they are just mirroring your own internal feelings about yourself I believe as though if you see and believe yourself as attractive, and your mannerisms follow , women will reflect that as well I think this inner game point is crucial in game Thoughts?

I'm curious which types of therapists that you guys prefer. For me, it makes me uncomfortable if my therapist is a great conversationalist. Like those loud talkative mothers. I just feel I am too mellow for those types of people

boy that would be fucking juicy

@PurpleTree appreciate your response. Yeah I really relate. I always felt like for some reason or another the therapist was always lacking some efficacy or helpfulness somehow. My last therapist was an exception . She matched my energy well and really did her best to help me but she was not trained in my issue. I'm eternally grateful for her tho Jungian sounds dope. I always thought a bit about it bcuz I've done a good amount of shadow work and my world view is based a bit in it But yeah thanks for sharing! Gained some insight and helped me feel my exp was normal

@Knowledge Hoarder If she comes back she needs to not take such an inflammatory strategy imo

maybe become a movie director and portray shorter guys as sexy and attractive in them

@FlyingLotus naw thats not a neg thats racist + OD lmao

ryan holiday

She will be back with swords and an army next time ?

I think the pursuit is right for some, wrong for others. Me personally, it's right 1-2%, wrong 98% lol. I think im bored of casual sex unless the girl is super special

nope lol. too mystical for me to share. only if they too are into mystical topics or i can tell their mind is non-judgemental/open-minded i've had some mystical friends ive shared it to fall in love with leo's content. but also simultaneously found them fall into some of the traps of leo's work i've also shared it with some people who think he's a cult leader lol... but since im so passionate about the topic he was open-minded to spiral dynamics and open to listening . even watched a few episodes.

@soos_mite_ah would have to agree a bit with that point. I think making it a goal like that doesn't make sense I think you can have attachment and bonding without the sex. I think the sex is just part of the mix

@Preety_India no bcuz the topic was leo talking about not being wanted/desirable and the only way someone would do it with you is if they got paid

Maybe a better way to explain it would be How would you feel if the only way you could get a boyfriend is if you had to pay them? But then again, maybe to even really understand that you'd have to go through that

Na na I meant what's the real world benefit of it. Is the only benefit getting her attracted to you

If become a bad boy What do I gain from it? Is there any benefits to being a bad boy besides attracting women? I ask because for example, if you advocate for being nice I see a lot of benefits. Like being empathetic and kind makes people feel heard & safe, respectively

my guess is it might have to do something with democrats fighting for policies that support them more often. democrats usually advocate for more social programs and lesser priveleged people are in need of it more

does anyone here even know what coral is