Princess Arabia

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    17 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

    I meant that some say suffering is an illusion, so that’s what I was kind of responding too. As in, what’s the point really in saying that, what does it mean even. They maybe mean that because the self is an illusion, and it’s the self that suffers, then suffering is also illusion. But physical pain for example can be felt as suffering even for some without a self I’ve heard. And probably some mental suffering too. So that doesn’t entirely make sense. 
     

     

    All of that does arise pain and suffering but for no one. It feels real and appears to be your pain and suffering, but it's not yours it's just what's appearing. It will be felt but there's not an actual person feeling it since the feelings aren't personal its also what's arising. It's contracted energy so it will feel real to us but it's not really happening. There are people who cannot feel pain, why is that, we give it a name and say its a rare condition like people who cannot imagine things, I believe its called aphantasia. All of us are the same. Nothing is separate. It's call the Absolute appearing as pain and suffering.

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    12 minutes ago, Hojo said:

    @Princess Arabia Slow down before you start making multiple 40 minute youtube videos saying there is no doer over and over and over and over! Its a mind trap

    I don't have to keep saying there's no doer because there's already no sayer saying that. The mind trap is thinking there's a mind. It makes no sense because if there's no mind then whose doing the thinking. That's because there's no trap in the first place.

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    17 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

    @Princess Arabia you've been listening to too much neo-advaita.

    I have just come to the realization that what i've come to realize is called Neo Advaita, however, from the little bit I've seen from those people is that they still recognize a self and their so-called teachings is not what is. It's obvious to me what I'm saying is the case and i cannot see it otherwise. When there's no you in the equation everything falls into place and i mean everything. Not talking about the nuances and meanings and descriptions and fancy terms or concepts or ideologies, just that whatever is appearing is all that is without meaning and everything else is imagination in other words meanings and concepts and ideas, all stories and that there's no person inside this body and that it us just movements appearing as real and that its not about me because there's no individual here only apparently so. I still live my life as though there's a me but some things have fallen away as there's only losses here and nothing to gain but more clarity. If that's Neo whatever you call it then do be it. 

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    5 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

    Yea

    And even with mental suffering that people say it’s just a “story” about a self that doesn’t exist. Still that is an appearance. Regardless what is ~actually~ real or not that misery is still appearing and being experienced so it does exist in some way can’t just disregard it. 

    No one said otherwise. Ilm not sure what you're disagreeing with. Misery arises, the "person" sees it as their misery and developed a story around it. If I'm feeling misery right now and see it for what it is, just misery appearing then that's all. Feelings will also arise from that misery and pain. If it is just misery and pain without stories then it's just misery and pain. Also feelings. The one that attaches itself to those things will develop stories around those appearances and now that's all imaginary and not real. What's real is the feeling of misery and pain and that's it, until it is no more.

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    5 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

    OK see how that works out for you.  I guarantee you find meaning when you are supposed to show up for work and you don't.  There will be consequences.  

    All stories and not what's happening. There's no way I can say what will happen because time doesn't exist. I'm not saying I will tell my boss there's no me, what I'm saying is that's a story in the present which is all there is. So if you want to continue to talk about what may happen and how I will respond when it happens, then sure or we can talk about Santa Claus, makes no difference.

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    Just now, Inliytened1 said:

    I understand but you exist in a reality where there is a construct.  A subject and an object.  You can go meta on that but in everyday life you cannot tell your boss you were late for work because there isn't a you.  You are confined to the rules of the construct. 

    if telling my boss there's no me, that's what happened. Right now you're projecting a future that doesn't exist so it doesn't matter, your words are empty and meaningless. I'm not confined to anything because whatever happens is what happens. The construct is within the dream so how can anything be confined within a dream. It never happened. When you awaken at night from the bear chasing you, did it really happen. No. Same here.

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    12 minutes ago, Raze said:

    You don’t have to be pretend to be shy forever, just at the beginning. And the good pick up lines are designed to seem spontaneous.

    Whatever works for the individual. Personally, I'm not a pick-up line kind of girl, just come say hello, how you doing and let the conversation flow. After the pick-up line then what. I don't consider an introduction a pick-up line or a spontaneous starting conversation. A bump on the shoulder at a bar, a wink to or by someone you think is attractive, a hey, can I buy you a drink, cold in here isn't it, how do you walk in them damn heels, how tall are you, nice shoes, I mean, its endless how you can start a conversation with someone without sounding pick-up- line(ish). The only way a guy can grab my attention with a pick up line is if it's funny as hell and i cant stop laughing. I can even become attracted to him just by that alone providing he's pretty decent in other areas. A funny guy whose not really trying to be funny in a corny type of way or just trying to impress is pretty cool and the opposite too, if he's just standing there doing nothing, and we're just eyeing each other until one of us make the first move. It's nothing concrete and every girl is different.

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    2 minutes ago, fopylo said:

    We definitely share more than simply being human.

    I didn't say we don't have anything else in common but what is common amongst EVERY person here. It's the only thing ALL of us share, the rest is divisible. Not everyone is using this forum for self-improvement either, other reasons are at play. There are other sub-forums unrelated to self-improvement. 

     

    8 minutes ago, fopylo said:

    I mean, no one lives on Saturn.

    I just said Saturn and used it as an example.

  19. Posted

    38 minutes ago, Raze said:

    So he can just pretend he’s shy or use a purposefully low value pick up line, Tom Torero used to do that 

    It's not always about pick-up lines. Girls just laugh at those if they're funny but doesn't really accomplish much, especially if rehearsed. Pretense of shyness can only last but so long as you will always have to be on guard that you don't turn into the opposite. No need to pretend to be shy, no need to be shy, just ordinary. Cool is always nice, I like cool, cool and easy as in easy going. 

  20. Posted · Edited by Princess Arabia

    45 minutes ago, Kid A said:

    Especially if you're shy and confident at the same time, like it's not something you do often, but you just had to do it because she was that special. 

    Exactly. Not so much shy as in bashful and low-self esteem, but in a non-aggressive type way. For people who read this and think a woman NEEDS to feel special in order for this to work, no. If a woman needs a guy's approval to feel special, then that's no good. What this really means is that YOU will come off as standing out above the rest. Women get approached all the time, so it's the guy that really needs to stand out and showing her that you really like HER, accomplishes that. She will remember you, she will want to talk to you and get to know you more because curiosity kicked in and she wants to know what is it about her that attracted you to her. Other factors are at play, but somewhere along those lines. Especially day time approaches. Night time also, but not so much in clubs and bars, as anything goes there; and people are drinking and are more uninhibited and poorer choices are made and regrets kick in the next day.

  22. Posted

    4 minutes ago, Razard86 said:

    The I AM is the Absolute truth.

    The I AM KNOWS. The Absolute cannot be known. There is no Absolute truth only the Absolute which also includes Absolute truth. What he discovered is also a part of the Absolute. The only thing is discovery happened to no one. I'm not going to keep this up with you because it really doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if you say the I Am is the Absolute Truth and it doesn't matter if I say it's not. That's all the Absolute and doesn't change much. It will only be the I strengthening or dissolving and either way neither ever happened. 

  23. Posted

    Just now, Razard86 said:

    The I AM is nothing and is always there. This is why we say you cannot really understand without a mystical experience and those why teach otherwise are deluding you and themselves.

    https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/100903-happy-bicycle-day/

    Why are you making assumptions that what was being said came from a teaching. Understanding requires knowledge and knowledge requires a person that knows something which implies separation which is what the I AM represents but only in the dream. 

  24. Posted · Edited by Princess Arabia

    16 minutes ago, Razard86 said:

    If you think the I AM is the illusion I don't know what to tell you....

    You say the same thing but in a different way at times, The only difference is you believing you're a person, a someone that knows something. If you take that out the equation all that's being said equates to the same thing.  You're like the scientist that tries to figure out Reality unaware that it is what it's trying to figure out. All you say is fine and dandy and is also the Absolute, but there's one thing you're missing and that there is no you.

  25. Posted

    Because this is already fulfillment and freedom. The only thing is, it is fulfillment and freedom for no one. The "I" thinks it's real and keeps searching for wholeness and completion which is this already. How can something that is already whole and complete be more whole and complete. Take the person, out the equation, the one that knows something, and what's left is just the Absolute "absoluting". There's nothing to seek because seeking implies separation and the one that seeks to fulfill a hole will never fill that hole because there's no hole to begin with. Happiness is a fleeting state and states are illusory because they need a person to be states, and the person is also illusory.

    Why do you think nobody gets out of this "alive". Because there's no one to begin with. It's the Absolute appearing and situations, things, circumstances, people with a life, etc are seeming to happen but they are nothing appearing as something. Everything is nothing and nothing is everything.