Princess Arabia

She don't need those requirements for you to want to sleep with her, only if it means digging into your wallet. I've never heard a guy said "if she's an authentic nice girl", would I only want to sleep with her then.

If a guy asks you out on a date, would you accept and then proceed to pay half the bill. That's not brainwashing if one is expected to foot the bill for a date they were asked to go on, it's good etiquette. If one offers, then that's a different story.

Yes, there are games that need to be played, or not, in order to accomplish your goal or get what you want. If you want to get married no games there just be upfront and act accordingly. Relationship, no games needed, just be upfront and state your stance. Just sex now is a different story because most women are not just attracted to a body, it's how you make them feel and what emotions you can stir within them. That's a bit of a challenge but only if you're the one doing the chasing. This is why you feel the need to play games here and you can't be straight up because you lack the confidence within to think you have the abilities to do so without needing to resort to games. Most women aren't about to just sleep with you like you're about just sleeping with her just because you find her body attractive, so now the games begin. How about just being genuinely attracted to the person and that will speak for itself and maybe be reciprocated back into a mutual thing because the person feels genuine interest. Take her out, get some laughs in, relax a bit and enjoy each other's company. If you can't do that, or even want to, then why do you feel entitled to their body just for kicks.

You have been brainwashed into thinking and believing this so now you're stuck playing some dumb stupid game that all will do is tire you out and have you being resentful towards women. Which is already being played out by you, according to your post. If you weren't feeling resentment already you wouldn't feel the need to pay until you get into her pants then have her start paying. Those things would just happen automatically and wouldn't become a negotiating tactic. You listened to too many pill ideologies and it's obvious you're going off of what you heard. You're only experiencing it because of your belief system.

These lines don't work with me in these instances unless were talking about male biology and body parts. I don't know what it's like to have a penis or hair on the chest or a deep voice etcetc. What we're speaking of here is basic human psychology and behavior - male or female. One on the receiving end and one on the giving end. Can't experience one without the other. In other words, the guy is not experiencing these things on his own and the female has very much a say in all this because can't have one without the other. I can tell you what may work or not and you can do the same but not because I'm a female or you're a male but because both are interacting with each other. I don't care about your "you're not a guy" statements here so you wouldn't understand, yes I do understand I dont need special skills or gender understanding to understand that some men feel the need to have to weasel their way into a woman's pants, just as you don't need to be a woman to understand how some women feel the need to have to weasel their way into a man's pocket, you will understand that and i don't have to say to you you're not a woman so you wouldn't understand. I'll only say that if we're talking about breasts/periods/pregnancy etcrtc,

That is actual and tangible. I never said the world was an illusion or that things are illusory. I'm eating an apple right now while typing this. That is actually happening, well, apparently, but it's not illusory. The only illusion is me thinking I'm someone that's eating an apple. The eating of an apple is all that's happening and so is piece of iron that's stuck in a leg. That's not the illusion. The illusion is the person thinking that that piece of iron is stuck in their leg and they will feel the pain of that occurrence to be theirs. It's just a leg and a piece of iron that's stuck in it. The only reason I feel that pain is because I've identified with this body and so anything that happens to it I claim. Whether it's physical pain or suffering. Do you know there are people out there who can't feel pain. Why do you think that is.

Ok, I understand that. Still the getting into pants then stopping something afterwards is just you negotiating with yourself. Plenty of people out here are paying for meals whether sex is involved or not and plenty are getting laid with or without paying. Do it's all you negotiating with yourself whether you get that or not. I bet you can still get laid without doing anything extra and you can still not get laid after doing it all. Nothing wrong with any of that just saying it's all self-negotiations.

I never pay for dates I'm asked to go on. EVER. You ask, you pay. That said, if I ever was to ask a guy out, then I'd pay for the date. Problem is, I never ask guys out. Funny thing though, the other day I felt like going out to eat breakfast and a male friend called, or I called, can't remember and we were chit chatting and I asked if he wanted to go out for breakfast and he jokingly said "what am I your man or something", and I laughed and said "no, I just feel like company to go eat breakfast, I'll pay". After the casual conversation was over, he said ok get dressed and I'll pick you up in an hr. We ate and the bill came and he took the bill and paid for everything including the tip. I even asked what do I owe you and he said nothing, do you really think I'd let you pay, that's what a man does he says. He even said he'd go out with his friends and pick up the whole tab sometimes. Bottomline, all depends on the guy and his personality. There are no rules to this, only the ones you set for yourself.

You are already playing yourself, if you have to manipulate your way into having sex. I'm not saying you should be any different or do anything differently, but you saying "don't get yourself played", is useless in this case because you have already played yourself out by paying for someone's meal or whatever just to get laid then stopping all because you've already gotten into their pants. Now you have set yourself up to always having to do something you don't want to do just to get laid. You have made yourself into a sex slave, meaning, you will always feel the need to be a particular way just to get sex and then not needing to be that way anymore after sex. That's confinement, that's sex controlling you. There's no way out of the games. The games are being played by you for you and affects only you.

Suffering is just suffering. The person is what gives meaning to that energy and attaches itself to it as it attaches itself to everything. There is a person here who suffers, it says. Yes, it suffers but only it's own apparent self identification. A table doesn't suffer because it doesn't identify as a person. A person is no different than a table because there's no separation. The difference is energetic and that's the marvel and the mystique of this, whatever it is. I'm not diminishing anyone's suffering, I suffer but it still doesn't mean it's not illusory and not really happening to anyone. When I'm suffering I suffer. That's it. It's not from deviation of truth but by feeling as if I'm an actual person in a body that has a life. Take that away, and there's just the suffering energy appearing without a person attached to that suffering. No enlightenment is needed for that not to happen because it's already not happening.

This is the delusion. What you said in the whole comment is so....but....it's all just an appearance of such. There's actually no one who is fearful or afraid to die or that needs to do something to get over anything. Enlightenment is also just another idea of the structural 'me' that thinks it's someone that needs to be enlightened in order to stop something that's not happening in the first place. Enlightened or not makes no difference because nothing is really happening to the person. It's all empty and void of any real substance including this statement. It didn't even matter if I made this statement or not because it wouldn't change anything, the only thing that changed was there were words on a computer screen that was typed.

What you're doing here also is trying to make things fit into a box. Because so and so happened or because so and so said this or that, the result must be so and so. Freedom doesn't operate like that. It appears however it wants including appearing as trying to contain freedom in a box. The mind will try to explain things away and try to use logic and sense making to make sense of things, and that's fine; only thing is it will always be disappointed and it can never make sense entirely of what is spontaneous, free, alive and doesn't have a past or future. Everything happening is fresh and new and cannot be contained or grasp with an explanation, reason or logic. All that is only for the dualistic world of appearances of which THIS, whatever it is, is also appearing as fresh and new. It's all appearances. I'm not over here rationalizing the 'no me' and trying to figure out how should a 'no me' think, or what questions shouldn't be asked since there is 'no me'. Only the apparent me does that. I'm not obsessed with this notion, nor am I living my life as a no me. No one is. There's no me anywhere, but the energy that's considered the me or the contracted energy that feels like the me can operate in that way and appear as a me trying to not be a me. It's still freedom/this/absolute appearing as that. It is all the same 'thing' appearing as everything. Nothing appearing as everything. It is the 'me' that's trying to fit into it's apparent world how a 'no me' should act or think and the questions it should or shouldn't ask. Still trying to control what is because of the meaning it has given to life and how life should or shouldn't operate as a 'me' or a 'no me'.

There's nothing to buy into. It's not dogma. There is no one. The question was posted, yes, but not by a person in a body. There's no one here or there that's making the decision to ask the question or to say, do you not buy into your own dogma. Just because I posted a question saying why do we die, it doesn't mean there's someone here in a body that decided to ask that question. The question was just asked but by no one. There's no person here who keeps saying there's no one here so why do I do this or that. Your question suggests that there's a person who is over here saying to themselves, well, since there is no person how can the no person die. Obviously there are bodies. That is what I'm referring to. It is not a belief or dogma that i hold. It's obvious that there are no persons in these bodies and that these bodies are operating on it's own. It's actually arrogance to believe that you are a somebody that has control and that you are actually doing anything. The problem is the misunderstandings of what this actually means. One doesn't say to themselves I have no control so I won't do anything, and if they do then that's just the energy doing that. Asking questions like the one you posted is just a misunderstanding on your part because you think I'm over here deciding anything. The decision is being made and a response is being given and reading is happening and so is writing. All are being done by this mysterious phenomenon that we call the Absolute.

Why do we sleep. How is the body able to just fall asleep and wake up on it's own. What's doing that. Why does so many people have sleep issues. What about people who can't seem to stay awake. That's less common. I don't need answers to these questions. Not really. I just have an inquisitive mind and love to delve into these kinds of topics about life. If you ask me, life is very mystical. I can sit there and think about life all day. I look through my eyes and it looks weird. Like there's nothing really there looking. Let me stop before I start to scare myself.

Thank God that mess is over. I don't handle drama too well. Brings up unwanted feelings.

Yes, and you too.

Oh my, there's drama in my diaries. Hey Princess, you ok. Yes, I'm fine. There are no more frogs to worry about.

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It is very obvious that you were speaking from experience. That's the whole point. Only a structured mind that knows how to put itself in suffering mode and can predict when it's going to suffer. I'm also speaking from experience where I've realized how the thought patterns that I entertained was what I was suffering and not the event itself. Ohhhh, everybody has suffered in this thing called life at some point or another so we all have experience in this field. All I can say is that there is no suffering without thoughts and thoughts aren't necessary for an event to be experienced.

This comment should be cut and pasted and used as an example of how the mind puts in in suffering mode. Classic example of suffering. Everything here is in future sense and being predicted ahead of time that will cause the suffering to come. The mind is already setting the stage for when the time comes to make sure it suffers according to plan. You're unaware you're doing it because it's such a habit the mind carries on with (past and future living), but it's exactly how suffering works. Totally thought patterns here and nothing actually happening to you now. It builds a storyline as to why people suffer who suffers and creates a timeline for the suffering. All thought. Just as the video suggests.

No one convinced them to be a psychopath so no one can 'unconvince' them. It's a natural occurrence and needs more than convincing. It's a certain type of personality, and I wouldn't call it a disorder because I personally feel all personalities come with some type of disorder. There's no such thing as mental order. If you live from the mind, then you are disordered and when mostly everyone lives this way then it goes unnoticed and seems ordered. The psychopath's behavior stands out because it is of an extreme nature and goes against what society deems as loving and the normal 'disordered' way of being. IOW, unacceptable disorder that gets in the way of others' agendas and biases. They might lack something in the brain that causes this but others may just be feeling lack in general that causes their disordered symptoms; and because this is most of society, it goes unnoticed. So it's all about feeling lack in the end. Not about trying to live in a moral fashion. That just breeds confusion, shame, guilt, fear and separates us even more.

Yes

The biggest question of all time to me is this. This question, to me, is the Mother of all questions. The question that so few asks. The question that I think would answer every other existential question especially the one about why are we here. Here goes: WHY DOESN'T ANYONE MAKE IT OUT ALIVE. This question can be asked in different ways but the essence of it's nature remains the same. Why do we appear to die. Why is there a limit on the human life. People will answer these questions correctly (maybe), and still believe they are someone in a body. Still believe they are in control and still believe they have a life, a purpose, and a reason for being here. That's how deep this thing goes. We stress on the secondary issues like life purpose and meaning but tend to not want to talk about death and why we die. Some might say, why focus on that. Just live. We can't control when we die.....but still believe they're controlling how and when they live. How convenient that life gives us control over certain things but not others. Who makes those decisions. I can't control my heartbeat but I can control what I say and do on a daily basis. Seems like it's the dying humans that have decided what they can control.

Whatever THIS is, it's so annoying. I wish it would just disappear sometimes and stop with the appearing and disappearing, appearing and disappearing. Sometimes I wish nothing existed and all there was or is is a fucking black out in existence and everything was just a friggin' blackness of a whole with no one and nothing in it. That's the case for real but it just keeps on appearing as something. Can you just stop appearing period. Take a chill pill and rest. Go to sleep or something. Geesh, or start appearing as something that humans like and stop with the anti-human bullshit.

What is false Truth.