Princess Arabia

So many different ideas about what Reality is. I don't really think two people in the entirety of existence even have the exact same definition. I mean exact. It's like a fingerprint. No two are alike. I think that's something to explore. There are similarities and some agree on some things but no two are EXACTLY in agreement. This forum alone shows you that. Interesting.

Nice. I would describe it as the sound of FREEDOM. Just anything goes. I enjoyed it.

Yeah I get that but when you ask a question like that, I think it's just appropriate to answer in that way in the Spirituality section as I know you'll understand what I'm saying. I don't go around life being an absolutist and where else can we talk like that but on here. The practical answer I would give to your question is that we're all different and were raised differently with different upbringings and with different survival strategies. I mean, that's like a kindergarten question if it's going to be answered practically, respectfully speaking. It's obvious that we're all different so we're going to have differences of opinions. I just can't get back to the surface level of thinking anymore much when it comes to spirituality because once seen it's hard to unsee even if I'm mistaken with what I'm saying. I'm not an absolutist in the dating/relationship section or health section, it's mostly just here and in my journal.

Fair enough, but at the end of the day all one has to do is go about their daily lives to see what's really happening. Club atmosphere is different also and people usually look at looks and carry a more superficial aura. Those same people looking at looks in the club might not be in the outside world or who's looking to settle down. So it's just a matter of environment and stages of life.

It's not a problem. Both are opinions and not truths. It's my opinion that just because you spend time on a forum doesn't mean you think you're not good enough. That's all. Seems far-fetched. Doesn't matter.

Geesh, finally someone that recognizes this too. Although I wouldn't go as far as saying in the mind of God and it's not really a trap, but figuratively speaking because there really are no actual traps because it's the Infinite appearing as such. For the human it is.

Such crap and limited belief.

That's it. It's the shy part that gets them. A shy good-looking guy is probably in the same boat as a shy average-looking guy, maybe only a little bit above because of his looks, but the shy part is the killer for the average looking one. If he has game, there's no stopping him. With looks comes confidence and it's not the looks that gets the women mostly, it's the confidence that comes with it. All one has to do is look around to see hot girls with average-looking men. Those men aren't usually shy men. You probably have the whole package or most of it, but looks alone won't cut it for most good-looking men. From what i've seen on here with you, you seem fairly intelligent and seem smart in the way you look at things and communicate very well, amongst other things. So I would assume you get them with more than just your looks. Women can just look good and that'll be enough most of the time but not for men. Initially, maybe for starters, but the end game usually depends on his personality. At the end of the day, it's just a matter of perspectives so I'm not saying you're wrong or I'm right, just speaking from my own experience and what I've seen. We didn't even mention being rich, will can override all the characteristics and traits we've mentioned. Just being rich he can be shy, ugly or a crude and stick get plenty of women; but that's another story.

Well, you've made my point here.

So true. Biggest turn-off for a woman anywhere. She just has to even think he's like that without even seeing him in action for it to be a turn off and she can usually tell by the way he approaches.

Not necessarily. Guys usually like this in women but women usually aren't looking for that. Of course, don't look miserable and sad but a sad looking dude can still get dates if he's not bad looking and changes his mood if they ever start talking. A woman doesn't really look for the guy having the most fun or even fun at all. Women like to be "the one" and she might think she might be "the one" to change his mood. Not talking about being sad, grumpy, miserable depressed etc, but just normal and not necessarily look like he's having a lot of fun - just neutral looking. Guys love women who are having fun because he thinks that part of the work is done and he doesn't want to go over to a grumpy looking woman. She's not approachable.

Let a good-looking guy be an ass and see how ugly he starts looking. Let a hot female be a bitch and she looks even hotter. What I mean is if he's good looking he'll probably get a stare or two but it's not what gets him laid or keeps her interested. A hot female will pretty much act any way and the guy will still be attracted as long as she's not over the top. Maybe after he gets her, he'll wake up a bit and lose interest, but it won't really cause him to not want to sleep with her. Her looks will be enough initially. For a guy, he usually needs a personality to go with his looks to make her want to sleep with him and that personality will be what she likes in a man overall.

If you didn't know yourself you wouldn't exist. Knowing you exist is what's hiding the fact that you don't. The person/individual/sense of self, that is. Each individual is the knowing energy. Nothing appearing as knowing. Knowing is nothing and it makes no sense to the individual so it builds a story about nothing. It's endless because it's nothing. How can nothing end.

Hope never comes.

There's cause and effect appearing but it's the Absolute appearing as cause and effect. All the differences of opinions is the Absolute appearing as people having differences of opinions. It appears as linear, it appears as separation and it appears as everything that's appearing. It appears as denial of cause and effect, it appears as....you name it. Everything is empty and has no separate reality on it's own. You think they're people having differences of opinions because you think you're a separate being with opinions of your own so you see everything that appears in relation to you. Youre the supposedly center of the universe and you see others because you think you're an other. They are all just bodies and it's just voices and talking. It's free to appear as anything and appears as differences of opinion. Doesn't matter what I say, 'cause it's just the Absolute saying it and the Absolute reading it. Not really though, because there's just typing and reading with nothing behind it. It's freedom happening. Thoughts, feelings, disagreements, whatever, it's all Absolute happening. It also appears as a sense of separation. Which is where we come in and it's everything you think you know humans to be because it's also appearing as knowing. Knowing is an illusion that arises with the energy of me. That's our apparent demise because we're on a quest to know. We know we are but because we're not we keep seeking to know, but it never happens because there's no one to know anything since it's the Absolute appearing as such. It's fucked up. We're fucked. Not really. Freedom appearing as fucked.

Of course. That's why we make up stories to make sense of the Absolute freedom that everything is.

Not intentionally. They believe it to be true, with the exception for when they're actually making shit up. Either way it's all stories about what's appearing. A bird shits on a car. Thats freedom/Absolute/This or whatever appearing to shit on a car. That happened. Why it shitted on that car is what the person is making up.

No, not when there's no reason or cause and effect behind "what is". What is is freedom appearing as what is. Freedom doesn't need a reason or else it wouldn't be free. I'm trying not to sound too non-dual and woo woo, but any other explanation would just be another speculated story and even though this is a story it's more true to what's the case. To the individual nothing is a fantasy, except what it creates to be a fantasy. So it cannot see through anything that's "unreal", because, to it, everything is real, even it's own stories.

You might have also seen the end of the relations where he was probably being rude or being disrespectful.

Women don't care much about looks; that's just a bonus and maybe a plus at online dating because there's nothing else much to go off.

This question is the basis of everything. It's more profound than you can imagine; even though not really. My answer is this and, of course, there will be differences of opinions. It's all stories. What's appearing is not a story. What's being said about what's appearing is. How can we all have the same stories about what's appearing when the individual lives in it's own dream world. The person thinks it's real and everything that appears around that individual is real and it builds a story around what appears. Each story will be different because each individual sees itself differently. Out of that energy comes separation and it's own beliefs and ideas about the world it believes it lives in. This is also a story.

I wish you well, my friend. Didn't realize you were taking so many medications and suffered anxiety attacks. Good to see the meds are working and extremely glad to see you've managed to quit smoking . I know how much of a challenge that was for you. I think you'll be fine overall as I think you're a strong person inside and out. I wish you the best. Hang in there and stay strong. You got this.

Call it existence if you will but it's the Absolute asking if i'm the witnesser or doer. There's no witnesser or doer that stands on it's own. No reality to it. What you say is the witnesser and the doer doesn't exist. Everything is the Absolute appearing as such. Nothing stands out. Everything is everything. The witnesser and doer is an illusory experience called the "me", which is also the Absolute. There's nothing to witness and nothing being done. It's one happening by no one. What is existence? Whatever is appearing, and what's appearing is appearing from nothing. So, existence is really nothing. So no one is actually doing or witnessing anything. It's an illusion to think there is. There's no I am. The I am is an experience of it's own illusory world that owns everything that appears around it and thinks it's the doer. It's not.

You're the doer and the witnesser of nothing.

Best answer here.