Princess Arabia

Re-read this again to yourself and replace your descriptions of him with yourself and see if that's how you felt. Let me give an example: Matter of fact, I'll just re-write the whole thing using the replacement. "When I saw him, it was like I felt like I was a stranger to him. He looked at me through the conceptual lens of "oh this is my son, who i've caused so much pain in his life or "oh this is my son, I love him so much" I am just some guy to him. You were removed from the whole story of you being his son. I saw in myself a person who just went through a lot of suffering in my life. I had shame in my eyes. I felt sad. I felt all these things and I didn't recognize myself anymore. I'm not the same person he thought he once knew. I wasn't the person he was angry at for so many years. The person he was angry at is a different person, a person in his mind. A projection. But this...this isn't that person. This is just me. It was like i saw myself for the first time in my life. There was a deeper love there.....but it was a personal love as in i love myself as his son, not as a human being. Not sure if I replaced all the pronouns correctly, but you get the drift. Are you sure this wasn't how you thought he was seeing you..

I don't really believe this, infact, that's not how attraction works. Good looking? Good looking to whom. Put 10 pictures up and you will have different opinions as to who finds who attractive and good looking. An "ugly" (just for communication purposes because I donlt see people as ugly), an ugly person can see themselves as quite attractive and get more dates than someone physically attractive who don't view themselves as that, and that goes for both male and female, but more towards the male side since men usually go for looks first.

I would defend myself, too and become resentful if someone were to say this things to me in this manner even if it were true. So, expect no less from him if he tries to protect his identity.

You're talking about primitive and cavemen days as if you'd like for us to go back to that when in reality you wouldn't. You're using that to say, if it was like that back then, why isn't it like that now. If I was to mention to you another aspect of life that was prevalent in the old days and why we can't go back to that, your mind would come up with reasons why modern times are better. You're saying old days sex was better because of no manipulation, but if I took away all your money and electronics and told you they didn't have this back in cavemen days, you wouldn't like that too much. So I'm saying your caveman argument is biased and wouldn't hold up in other areas in your life, you're only using it because it suits you now.

This is very interesting to read. I believe this may be the underlying belief and subconsciously acted out why men can be so promiscuous when it comes to the opposite sex and are so sexually inclined in addition to testosterone levels, versus a woman's promiscuity. Her promiscuity is probably more mentally related and has to do with feelings of unworthiness. Something to ponder.

You are using your mind to self-deceive you without even recognizing it because of selfish desires. Eradicate all cell phones, tv, books, internet, etc., you won't be talking about cave-men days, you'd be begging for your sanity back and the opportunity to use those tools again. You are resisting life and wanting it to go back to how it was when you really don't want that you just think you do.

Because people are afraid. Afraid of being too honest for fear of judgement. I wouldn't say the trickery is a bad thing. It is a coping mechanism. If i'm playing hard to get with a guy, for example, I might not actually be deliberately trying to trick him. I might just be trying to protect myself from something, whatever that may be. Vulnerability is one reason why we tend to not be so open with others because humans love to judge, criticize and condemn each other, We have created this dynamic and now we call it trickery and deception. If we were to be blatant about our intentions with the opposite sex, if our intentions aren't pure or of a loving nature, we will always find ways to deceive ourselves and the ones we're trying to influence to fit into our construction. Remember, we are constructing something here so wherever and however we find the bricks to fit into this construction we will try to manipulate our way into getting the work done. It's human genius. Doesn't need to be taught. That's the power we have. To create and to destroy. There's always a deeper meaning to why we do what we do under the surface.

The way you describe it will perpetuate that desperation. Words have power especially if there is a strong feeling behind those words. Desperation implies lack, so maybe if you change your internal dialogue, you will have a better relationship with sex. Seriously. It's a mental world; so how we see things in our minds eye, will become true for us. Ever notice when you stop caring about something, it starts to flow in your life or trying to remember something with a lot of energy, as soon as you let it go, it comes to you. I've recognized the similarities in life when it comes to certain things and I try to use the same strategy in how I do something I'm successful at and try to implement that strategy in other ways because life has a way of showing us the connections to everything.

got ya.

Are you sure you've forgiven him or quite understand who he is/was or even the way you have processed that experience you had as a child. I'm not implying or insinuating anything here, just trying to get clarity in how you see it and if it was transcended in a healthy way, and also for my understanding in what you're saying. Feeling sorry for him, to me, is just the other side of the anger coin or another version. I think most adults are just children in distress and are also stuck in the body of an adult, so I think you're just describing people on a whole especially if they are mentally suffering in some way. Compassion, empathy and understanding are different emotions than feeling sorry. Love is even more powerful. Do you love him for who he was and who he is now, regardless of his perceived faults, because feeling sorry is still seeing him through your perception of him.

Women usually don't have to play tricks to get into men's pants. Don't kid yourself. Women are not going around saying how can I get laid today as much as men are. Ever notice how you guys are always looking for the next lay (of course, not all, just generalizing). If your previous ones were so fulfilling, why keep on looking. Why do men need so much variety. Why are you learning game, why after having sex one time isn't enough with the same partner forever and ever. I'll tell you why, because it's the process, not the end game that's more exciting. The thrill of the chase. The becoming, What a boring sex life you would have if everybody was just willing to have sex on call at anytime, any moment, anybody, anywhere, anyhow. You would get so bored of sex you would want to throw up every time someone mentions the word. This is why men have to work so hard at game because most of you are almost always ready to have it. Guys are easy. All it takes is some visual stimulation and you're ready. That's why hookers dress a certain way or strippers are half naked. If it wasn't so easy for women to get sex they would want it more, maybe. Telling a woman she looks sexy isn't enough to get her in the mood because she wants you to appreciate her, go through the process, that turns her on, whatever that is, just like how you men don't like easy women and call them sluts and whores, it's because you like the chase. That's what get's your blood flowing. You will take the easy sex but you won't feel as fulfilled. So don't be so quick to ask for the Mercedes when all you can handle is a honda. Enjoy the chase that you so long for because you created it. It's not about the destination, but the process. The younger you are, the more you chase after sex. When you get older, after realizing all that chase was just a waste of time and energy, even though it really wasn't because it teaches you about yourself and molds you into becoming whatever it molded you into becoming, you realize none of that was fulfilling and you start to appreciate the opposite sex a little more because you recognize it's not about quantity but quality.

I would say that Absolute Freedom is already the case and that Reality is that. To me, Understanding is not a fact and that it is a process of becoming......whatever that entails.

The wisdom of Louise Hay. She covers most aspects of life including love, relationships, money, jobs, stress and everything else in-between.

Very Interesting Interview. I learnt a lot. The part about looking into someone's left eye with your right eye, was very intriguing to me.

You should change your profile picture to Jack the Tripper.

Their fantasy woman. I'll be their fantasy woman. What do you want me to be. The freak in the bed, the house wife, or the schoolgirl with the white socks and the plaid skirt on with the $#@me stilettos. Lmao. Let me stop. Guys I'm just being silly.

Whenever I see how some men describe women, especially pertaining to what they want, and somewhat how they are, all I see is them describing how men are, or how they want women to be. Usually, the bad traits are how men are usually, and the good ones are just how they prefer women to be. But you don't know this, though, so you'll disagree, but it never ceases to amaze me. Very few men get it right. The ones who just allow the woman to be herself without too much judgement and criticism, are the ones who are really good with women. I'm not speaking about toxic women who have men issues or hate men or are spoilt rotten and looking to manipulate men, but women who know who they are and are looking to be with men for the right reasons. Most men don't have a clue about women. They think we're the same as them, and so they treat them as such or they treat them how they think they, the women, should be treated, and there-in lies the confusion. But I'll leave it at that and just say you will attract the type of woman that matches what you think about yourself, so work on yourself if you want to attract the type of woman you want; because if you don't, you'll just be attracting the wrong type of woman and then seeing all her faults and trying to hammer her head with a broomstick to try to change her then go criticize all women thinking we're all the same when she doesn't change.

About time someone start talking about this stuff on here. Hard to convince these folks about LOA and the powers of the mind and even though I don't read the Bible, I'm aware of it's connection to the mind and that it is symbolic of such. Even the Adam and Eve story. Neville Goddard's teachings are wholesome and teaches how to use the mind to manifest the life you desire. A lot of other variations of his teachings are on YT, but they are all saying the same thing, with the exception of some. We are manifesting everyday. It is a way of being. That's why I consistently say do not think about the things you don't want but focus on the things you do want. You attention is your light of Awareness and what you focus on you get more of. So if you're constantly complaining about something and focusing on what is going wrong in your life you will get more things to complain about and more things that will go wrong. That's the power of Awareness. People don't understand the power within them. You are not being rewarded with anything. You are Everything. You don't get what you want, you get what you are. All is imaginary, so how do you think you create? Through the mind. Thoughts. Everything was a thought first, but it's more than just imagining it, you have to become it, it is not separate from you. It is you. Our job now is to figure out how to use the mind to create the things we want to experience and not monstrosities.

It depends on the female. Different women respond to different things. You have to take that into consideration and use your judgement depending on how you approach. Feel her out. Hard to just say, women are more complicated than that, just to ask what do women want, despite what some men think. How you make her feel is more important than what you do.

Now you get what I'm saying. Thank you, even though from a relative pov, i know the difference.

Ok, I see.

Maybe there's no you being stupid but how you are is of the highest intelligence and you're interpreting it as foolish because you're comparing it to another's level of intelligence. Maybe.

I don't even mean how you look at it, but that that is actually the case. No meaning to it from a human perspective but WHAT IS.

This God thing is so tricky. Sometimes I put my hand on my heart and say, "you don't fool me". While I'm looking like, "what the hell is happening here, wtf is this, what the hell are you, why are you here, who sent you, did my momma send you, are you my momma, am I even real, is my poppa real, am I here, am I there, am I floating in space, who is I, who is me...lmao. Meanwhile, my cat is just being a cat. What is a cat. Then I surrender and go to bed.

Ok. Glad you got my point as sometimes I can go off left field with what I'm trying to say with my analytical mind.