Princess Arabia

We created that collectively amongst every other reason why nothing is a free for all.

This is why I stopped having casual sex. I don't want to become a slice of pizza. My body is too precious to be looked at like a slice of pizza. I'd rather get paid because not even pizza is free. Don't care what anyone says. Not saying my body is something special than anybody else's and I don't have a moral issue when it comes to these things but just to be having pizza and beer for the hell of it will require something other than for the thrill. Marriage is still an investment so I'm not worried about that and having a bf would have to be serious before any pizza is eaten. So if guys want to come to the pizza parlor and place an order along with some beer and French fries, then be prepared for the Time Share experience. Listening to most you guys talk about sex has strengthened my stance even more and this coming from you says a lot because you always give good advice and are respectable. So, it's not the respect level or treating women like sex objects i'm opposed to, it's how they view sex it's like a recreation habit, food for the stomach, anyhow, anywho, so, for me it's any how much. Here comes the haters. Don't care.

It's not the same for some men, especially young attractive ones. Some men thinks it's desperation to see hookers or only old fat, bald guys who can't get laid, so that would be a slap in his face to do that, and his self-esteem would plummet if that's the only kind of women he was able to attract. He's a sex addict so total up the cost. No, that's not an option for him and neither should it have to. It's not about sex has never been free, it's about feeling entitled to a woman's body that you're not invested in, in whichever way that investment entails. Then some men just throw them away and discard them like a piece of trash meat.

Aww, don't be like that. Remember the time you and i had a discussion about game and relationships. It very respectful even though we opposed on certain things. You explained to me what game was from your perspective and you asked me to explain mine. It was respectful because neither one of us attacked either's character. That's the difference. Someone_here can be very disrespectful in the way he communicates at times but attacking someone's character will definitely bring resentment and a need to defend. I know you're passionate about this topic because you mostly comment on it, and I do like your stance on gaming because it shows you're not just out to get laid from it, and don't treat women as objects just there to satisfy men's sexual cravings, so it's not about just not commenting, and I think we can have strong arguments in opposition, but forum member will probably feel a bit more intimidated by a mod's attack for fearing being banned for defending themselves against such attacks. That's my take on it.

Sure, I get it. Understand perfectly.

@PavPlease check out this post i made in August. Not sure how to post it to our last discussion.

I refuse to get into a debate with you. It would probably have been more productive if you weren't projecting your own insecurities unto me, especially saying people like you lied. People like who. I never said looks weren't important to some women but it's usually in a different way than how men see looks. Nobody has to start doing anything. You are your own authority. Nobody owes you any explanation as to how to get laid easier. You figure that out by yourself. One size doesn't fit all. I won't even bother to comment on the other rebuttals, since I'm just being judged by a mind that wants to box me into it's own definition of who it thinks i am and into believing that I see the world as the majority sees it. Plus you even said the same thing I said in regards to women judging men's personality by their looks. So you're just venting, which I'm not available for.

Evolution dictates all that. I will tell you a man will not feel needed if he is not providing, Not saying he will or won't, but men usually value themselves for their ability to provide for their families and the women are usually the nurturers, even if they are working.. There are actually some older men who still find their older wives attractive no matter how she looks and still loves her and will not cheat on her. All these statements were making are just limiting beliefs and we're just going off of our experiences. You'll be surprised what's out there outside our own little bubble of limited experiences, or even what we can create as creators even though we're not really creating anything but accessing from the field of infinite possibilities.

The power of letting go. You are everything, so when you stop needing, you will start to align with what is already yours. This is why I keep telling people to stop the complaining and start to see the beauty and abundance in life. It was yours to begin with, because it's all you. You're just learning how to receive it. You have let go of the lack mentality, you have stopped chasing women as much, it's how the Universe works. I saw this coming when you said you were concentrating on your business and leaving the woman thing behind for now. Now things are going to start to come to you, it always was coming to you, just not the things you wanted. It's about recognizing who and what you are. The more you turn to God, the more God turns to you, even though it is you. You just weren't ready.

Your question had a few parts to it, but let me say, physical attraction is just that, physical attraction. I would not be in a relationship with a man and be providing for him, no. The only way, is if we were already married and he was unable to work and the love was there before whatever the reason he couldn't work anymore and if I was able to take care of the household. That wouldn't be grounds for divorce but i wouldn't marry him under those conditions. There are plenty of men out there who are looking to provide for the women they love and/or want to marry and who are also attracted to them physically. Women usually love different than men. A woman will grow in love with you if she feels cared for even if you consider yourself not so attractive.

This just shows your ignorance. I have or am in the process of seeing the beauty of God's creation everywhere, My level of Awareness and States of Consciousness are not the same as they used to be so the lie would be for me to call people ugly. You are calling me out and sound so angry in the process. I don't have to pretend to not see ugliness in people to seem special. I am very open and vocal on this forum and don't have a problem exposing my true feelings about anything. You have never heard me call anyone ugly, except for in the term I used it to make a point so why are you telling me about how I view things. That's limiting because you don't know that, you're assuming. I do not like the word ugly anymore. I didn't say I don't see attractiveness in people, I just don't call people ugly. I never even used to before I became Spiritually inclined that much either. That's it. No more explanation on that. I've seen men choose females that weren't so attractive over really attractive ones because of their confidence levels and the energy they exude. They thought they were the shit and it showed. I didn't say they were lying to themselves, I said they thought they were attractive, while the so-called attractive one didn't. There is a lot of psychology that goes into attraction. No need to say my opinion is bullshit, it's just an opinion. A woman can look at a male and judge parts his personality from that alone, not saying she's right but that's really what she's doing. She can see through his insecurities or weaknesses just from his body language or even how he dresses,. You hear that on this forum alot also, how women can sense certain things. Men don't usually care about that at first, they usually go for the one they are physically attracted to at first, while the woman is looking for emotional attraction and doing it by how he looks. Why do you keep using the word lie. People believe different things, studies or not, Sounds like you had someone constantly lie to you and you're projecting that or vice versa. No need to call people liars for their opinions and expressions.

That's a belief system; but even if you believe that, you are just dooming yourself, because now you have to live up to that belief; and if you were to ever get married, you wouldn't value your wife after a while. You'd be surprised what people find valuable. One man's trash is another man's treasure.

"It's a contradiction." Hehe.

That's what I meant. Incompatible for you. Thanks for the correction. I try to use my words wisely and try to use them in the correct term but sometimes after watching so many lifetime movies, the wrong wife, the wrong car, the wrong husband, the wrong student etc, my brain gets used to a certain term. Hehe. Thanks. I agree.

The wrong type of woman would be the type of woman you don't want, but are attracting because of how you're vibrating. Sometimes you won't know that before being with them for a while, hence breakups or constant friction.

You can only feel devalued if you give yourself permission to feel devalued. I don't know if you're trying to devalue me (not saying you are or you're not, just trying to answer your question) but my take is just my take. Your hyper generalizing my take says nothing about me and my take, so no, I wouldn't feel devalued. My take can change as yours too, so I don't identify with my take. I don't take it personally.

I think that's what I really meant, looking over my re-enactment. Sometimes we see others how we see ourselves and the relations we have with them. You described it so deeply and with so much precision, that it just seems like you were describing something other than the subject. Since knowing you on this forum and how insightful and Spiritually mature you are, and you seem to have a deep sense of who you are and seem grounded in a way I looked at your description differently because I sensed it was coming from the heart and not the mind. You were describing you and how you saw yourself. That's why they say people are your mirror. Anyway, I hope you fully heal and I can tell you've come a long way and most people would have carried that resentment on and projected their anger unto the world in different ways, but you seem fairly grounded will all that emotional turmoil you endured as a child.

You have twisted the term honesty to suit your explanation purposes and that's the irony of what I'm saying. You are making my point even more the more we speak.

Lol...be honest....just kidding.

This is what I'm talking about. Men love the challenge. It's how they develop as a species. You're probably thinking no sense in enlightening anyone about this because they won't listen even if it will make it easier to be with women. I don't have all the answers but I can say I've learnt about men from other men. It's all about survival. Women are how they are and men are how they are with some variations. Getting to the root of it to try to figure out why, will make you one step in the game instead of demonizing the opposite sex. Things are deeper than they seem and humans like to complicate things. You don't go apply for a job you're not qualified for so why expect women or men to fit into your agenda without putting in the work. Women measure men for a reason, not because they are vain, a lot of it is subconsciously done, likewise men do the same. Understanding these differences will make your life a lot easier and instead of putting your own limiting beliefs in the picture because of what you have believed to be true, less complications will arise if we just try to understand where these differences lie and how to fit them into our own puzzle.

You are taking this out of context.

It's not about conforming to others but more not wanting to go through what it would take to be honest. Not all circumstances are the same and not all repercussions are the same I said discernment is the key. If your life depended on it, you'll see how quick honesty goes out the window in favor of surviving. Please take into consideration all the aspects I'm expressing here. Honesty is always the best policy, but humans are afraid of everything including the choice to be honest in every circumstance. You might say this is a bad example but here goes. If a woman is confronted by a rapist who says if she's on her period he would leave her alone and not rape her, do you think she's going to say she's not on her period. No, she will say she is, in order to not get raped. Extreme, but I could name thousands of other scenarios where honesty would not be the best policy when dealing with other humans. Other humans is the key here.

I forgot what I had for breakfast 5 days ago, much less 5yrs ago. You are incorrect when you say everyone is great at remembering everything in their lives. Most stories being told by humans about their past have about a 50% (not sure of the percentage but it's high) accuracy level. That's why they're called stories. Put 10 people at an accident scene, you'll have 10 different interpretations because of how differently the brain interprets things. It is an exceptional trait to be able to remember everything that has happened to you in your life in minute detail of every day. What was your post in December of 2020 and did you even make one. These people would remember that, can you.

Aah, the trickery of the mind. It's honest to be aware that you're being dishonest. It's like saying, I'm aware that i'm stealing so I'm not really stealing. Also, i'm not saying that inspiration doesn't come from being honest, I'm saying when dealing with other humans it's not always the best thing because if you're not prepared to deal with the repercussions, it can throw you in a state of confusion and resentful emotions. Discernment is the key here.

I get it, but people are only acting from their level of consciousness and he is trying to survive as his identity as a sex addict. He said so himself that he's a sex addict.. He's unconsciously believing that, so now he is fighting to keep that identity alive. It's energetic. He doesn't realize that all he has to do is to identify as something else, drop that identity and take actions to become a new identity. Now, since the Ego is just constructions, his mind is believing it has to maintain that structure to keep that part of it's identity alive and it will start to believe things that align with that identity. No sense in knocking someone down because of their ignorance, because now we will perpetrate more ignorant behaviors. I do it too. But I'm seeing through it and working on it. It's a cycle. Understanding is the key and recognizing people are just operating through programming.