Princess Arabia

This thread will demonstrate for itself what I'm trying to relate in the OP. There will be different responses, different meanings applied, different interpretations, which is already happening, and different feelings felt that will align with the responses given. Did I generate those feelings in each and every one of those individuals with those feelings related to the responses. There is one thread starter with many different responses and comments and the thread will evoke many different feelings in each person. Some may get upset, some may agree, some may be neutral, some angry, some understanding.....whatever. Each will be a result of how the thread was interpreted.

Yes, I think I'm being misunderstood thinking I'm suggesting to not feel hurt or that one needs to take responsibility for other's words or actions or that it's your fault for feeling hurt. That's why I try to put in examples and lengthy explanations so it's better understood what I'm saying.

I specifically mentioned that I was speaking about mental abuse, and mental pain. Whether there isn't an existential difference or not is not the issue at hand that's really being discussed.

Yes, I agree but this doesn't take away from the purpose of the post. You have put your own meaning to what I was trying to communicate and it's purpose and gave your own meaning to it. Not to undermine your statements because you have a point, but your comments have also shown how interpretations can bring about feelings that were generated from within. Someone else might see the post from a different perspective, feel differently and therefore respond in a way more aligned with those feelings. Neither is right or wrong. This just, to me, illustrates what the post is saying, not to say one needs to take responsibility for anything.

Someone smacking me with a broomstick and i feel the pain from that I doubt is the Universe trying to make me conscious if the truth that I need to come back to alignment with. That's just going to be felt by the body. There's no existential difference between physical and mental pain; but as the post is in the self-improvement section, it's more about the practicality of it. You're right and i explained this in a response I made to Sugarcoat earlier that it's difficult for a child to even understand this. My post is not a suggestion to bypass the feelings and that one should own and be responsible for their feelings but one of awareness on trying to explain how no one can actually make you feel a feeling. I believe that when this is understood other destructive feelings can be kept at bay when dealing with the situation at hand.

This is a very delicate subject because kids process things differently than adults and have a harder time seeing through the reality of the situation. That's why there's so many trauma responses and memories of childhood abuse that's so hard to get rid of or not affect one in adulthood. What I'm saying isn't easy for a child to understand. A child isn't processing the fact that they have no problems with how they look so I'm not going to feel hurt. Not even an adult will process that in the immediacy of what's occurring. I still have a time period where I have to consciously process it. I made the post for awareness of the notion that people hurt you in the hopes that us adults can see how hurt is felt and to not let the poisonous remnants like i mentioned linger on and on and flood into other areas of our lives. I still see how people are saying such and such hurt me from things that happened a long time ago and maybe if this information is understood, those statements will be eradicated from one's vocabulary and better relations may be formed with oneself and others.

I would say 80%. The other 20% is the processing time it takes to really integrate it because of who the person was. An example is my brother and I had a little quarrel the other day and he said somethings I didn't like. I felt the emotions right away, but 5mins or so later I gave myself the time to process the feelings and then allowed for them to transform. Not by force but by allowing the energy to flow freely and by also incorporating thoughts that made for a better feeling. Feelings of relief. Example, he's been hurt himself, he feels frustrated by whatever, i'm feeling this way because of disappointment etc. Within no time, feelings of apathy took over my relationship to the encounter and i felt normal again. He called the next day and he explained why he blew off the handle, I listened with no judgements and the conversation ended with him and i back on good terms. I have many more stories to illustrate my integration, but that was the most recent. It's not a mental trick but what's actually the case. The actual case also is that one feels badly, but as I said in my post, it was a matter of interpretation and not the words itself. The difference I'm trying to point to is going around saying that so and so hurt me is way more poisonous than the recognition that the hurt came from you and your thoughts and interpretations and may result in one feeling less and less hurt if processed correctly.

Nice, but to me, this is still an avoidance to recognize that even if one feels hurt by another, it wasn't the person that did that. It's not really about standing your ground, but to see through it and recognize how hurt feelings are generated - through interpretation which no one can do for you and you're solely responsible for. It's not to say you won't feel hurt by them, but maybe other feelings like say resentment, hate or detest won't emerge also. One may only feel hurt in the moment and the feeling passes though easier and quicker because they realize what happened without it's remnants like hate, fear and resentment because of that hurt. Hope that was clear.

Someone told you that and it's not the actual experience of the actual situation. People who have been friends before can certainly get together romantically later on. Infact, a lot of women have been in this situation. Guys are the ones that introduced that concept and has nothing to do with the relationship's outcome.

Yes, but more importantly, is to not believing that they hurt you but to recognize that YOU felt hurt; if you did. This opens up the space for one interested in self-improvement to look into why they felt the hurt and to see what's inside of them that needs to be looked at, if any. Giving yourself permission to take it personally or not still says it's up to you to decide if they were the one that hurt you or not. It's still giving you the option and not allowing for the understanding of what it really means to feel hurt.

It's hard for anyone to really answer this with precision because the topic is a very personal thing; meaning it all depends on the person(s). @meta_malesaid it perfectly, imo, but I will add to inch in very slowly and see the responses you're getting and escalate slowly from there. Flirt a bit and watch for her body language more than what she says as long as you're not invading her space and feeling desperate. Does she cross her legs in your direction, plays with her hair, see if she clenches her hands or not, if she smiles a lot, asks you questions about yourself; these are signs of romantic interests; but most importantly, don't ask for a kiss, lean towards her slowly and see the response (when appropriate).

Nice. Great advice.

Not necessarily as criticism can be broken down into destructive (intended to harm or undermine), constructive (aims to improve or help) and instructive (aims to provide helpful advice and guidance). The former (destructive ) suggests what you're saying while the other kinds can be helpful which you did say when reference was made to the latter. I think OP needs to be aware of the differences so he doesn't shy away from all criticism. You said it perfectly, it's just i felt the need to really break it down. This subject, to me, is very misunderstood just as the "judgment" issue which is quite similar.

Something weird is happening here. Not in the sense of weird, weird, but WEIRD. I just can't put my finger on it. I might go insane if I figure it out so i might as well not even try.

Jesus. Every post is a woman-hating post. The control they have over you is astounding.

Just catch yourself doing those things and stop. It's literally that simple. Practice, practice practice. Saying When I.....only makes you continue to do it.

Hope it clears up soon. Stay safe. Not a good thing when everything is electrical and digital these days. Keep us updated.

I guess it's only animals you see God in. Makes no sense. Then again, nothing in life makes any sense. This is just another example of the random chaos happening here. Love animals but hate humans and think that's being conscious or God loving?

Yes, I've realized this to be the case. Tricky thing it is and we fall for the trick. It's pain or hatred arising and we put stories to those emotions and relate to them with past memories that we believe are responsible for them. Everybody's got a story to tell about these emotions. That's how thoughts keep the momentum going.

Not everyone you see viewing your profile did it on purpose. I can't tell how many times my finger slipped while scrolling and hit someone's name by mistake. Just something to keep in mind.

Nice. Just the other day I was looking out and said I don't feel like I have a head.

You don't have to feel like crap to want to enhance your beauty or appearance. If you go buy an expensive shirt, was it because you felt like crap or a nice watch. Not necessarily.

Yes, some women will enter relationships just to not be single. Still exceptions to what you're saying though. We can't know everything that's happening with everyone. If we don't see it on social media, it's just in our little bubble of experience and heresay.

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The problem is you're looking at a particular breed of women. Probably young, inexperienced, getting to know themselves, etc. Plenty of women are choosing men with the traits you have mentioned. You just won't see that on reality shows or online in drama settings. You're blind to the other side. If one side exists, it's opposite does too. I would never choose the type of males that i chose in my 20's now. Doesn't mean it'll be perfect or something was wrong with those men, just a different stage.