Princess Arabia

Most people (I'm assuming), are into Spirituality for what they can get out of it. How it can benefit them. Values they get from it. How to make their lives better, less suffering, etcetc. Nothing wrong with that but I'd like to point out it's no different than wanting a house or a car or a job a wife and kids or that vacation. Some are now addicted to Spirituality instead of Crack and use it as a coping mechanism. I keep it raw. Some will relate and some won't. Some will understand this, some won't. Some don't realize it's a true loss not a gain. You will try to get a hold of what you're losing and try to hang on, but it will only breed frustration. When you really get that there's nothing to get, it will devastate the one trying to reach somewhere. The irony is, some are trying to dissolve the self but trying to get something that benefits the self. It's a fucking endless loop that leads to neuroses. I want to dissolve the self because I'm suffering but it is that very selfish self that they want to dissolve that is looking to benefit from it's own annihilation. Make that make sense. I will not suffer when I am no more because it is because I am why I suffer. Could you please help me dissolve the self that will be the only beneficiary of this insurance policy, please. Sugarcoat, it's not just you, so I'm not just talking about you, if you read this, but you are one, yes. Don't you see how silly that is. Unconditional love includes everything so it's all good. Nothing is off limits.

Oh yeah, I remember that remark, but what are you referencing in this thread.

Not sure I follow. What comment are you referring to. I did take note it's meant in humor but I'm not following what the comment is relating to.

Unconditional Love is the last thing anybody could want. We think we do but we don't. This takes a high level of Spiritual maturity and level to be able to endure. Imagine realizing that unconditional love is that rejection, that mass shooting, that bear mauling that man to pieces, that spousal argument, that annoying teacher, that racist, that psychopath, that rape of a child, also everything we consider good things, it's everything. No conditions. When something unwanted happens in my experience, I'm just reminded of how unconditional Infinity is. How anything goes. Nothing is off limits and anything can appear. I don't have to accept it or like it and i don't have to not judge it or criticize it to be right or wrong. A response will happen no matter what I preconceived it to be. Take note how you might say "I won't respond like that anymore, or I won't do this or that anymore and we end up doing the very same thing we said we wouldn't do. That's because we put limitations on the Infinite and wrapped it up and placed it in a box. It's called discipline for a reason. We have to be 'disciples' of the infinite if we want to even attempt to box it. We have to sacrifice ourselves for that, it comes at a cost.

I guess this topic was moved to the off-topic/fun/entertainment section because saying "You're Not Awake", then blabbing on to the sleeping is a bit weird.

it can be quite interesting in a good type of way to really analyze reality/life on a day-to-day basis and on a practical general level but also seeing it on a metaphysical level. Just noticing the changes in the experiences, how they begin and end abruptly, how they popped in and out just like that. How it's different every single day, even if you're doing the same things day in and day out. Witnessing the "thinking of a person and they show up" type thing. How you can feel emotions through interacting with someone through a computer screen no differently than in person. How mental exhaustion differs from physical exhaustion but both still drains you in both ways. You can feel the physicality of a mental exhaustion. When I sit down to just look out the window to catch my breath or just for a sense of being present, that alone can feel so enriching. I see a lot of trees and nature when I look out, so that surely helps.

This made me chuckle.😅

Oh man, that was pretty cool to see that in the end. Goes to show how illusions can seem convincing.

Amazing. Quite impressive how that came together. That last bit with the head was like magic.

Most people in religion have not thought this through. So essential.

Lmao. Butt Leo.....😅😅

No, and I understand that. You have been very respectful in your communications with me and have shown that you are open about our conversation and what I have to say,. Just understand I'm not claiming anything to be the Absolute case, and can only speak from my perspective. It's just that it gets to be a drag if one has to keep repeating that point over again, that they are only speaking from a particular perspectival view point.

This is why I don't use this as a prime example when speaking on these matters and it has nothing to do with the topic. My experiences were not one of being on the streets or too impersonal. These would be situations where interactions were just normal interactions just like everyone else. Don't judge what you're unaware of just from what ilve told you because my interactions with men outside of my line of work was way more traumatizing or negative than with the men in my line of work. So my work doesn't have much influence on any negativity towards men that I may have if any.

A woman's looks is worth more than what's in her head and she didn't make the rules up on that. Infact, a smart, intellectual, very outspoken and filled with knowledge about a lot of things is not valued as much sexually in a woman and is sometimes looked at as masculine and if she's too outspoken - bossy. Looks for a woman is a very valuable commodity. I didn't make the rules for this, society did. Put a fat ugly woman on the front of a magazine cover or as a role model for beauty or invite a bunch of fat ugly women with no sex appeal on a yatch party and see how well that works out. A bunch of fat bald ugly old men who are rich will certainly work wonders for this scenario though. Don't try to tell me men don't value looks, it's their top priority. Look good, and you can attract, even if you're dumb, in fact it's best if you are.

You are being general with your "how do you know this to be true" narrative. It's not about media, but what is the case. Marketing caters to peoples emotions. I don't have to do a general survey to understand that men are visual creatures and they base their attraction level towards a woman based on her looks. To answer you or other question yes, I've been in conversations with many men and situations of this nature because I've been an exotic dancer and an escort for the male species for many years and interacted with them. That said, I've also seen it in general cases, up the street, down town and between. Men are not asking about a woman's personality as much as they're asking what does she look like.

Yeah, looks, bottomline. You said sexual mates not marriage or a friend and confidante. I won't butter this up and pretend to patronize men, they go for looks initially when it comes down to a sexual mate. I mentioned nothing about using women for sex, you assumed that's my implications. Men value looks and it's at the high end of the spectrum. That's the bottom line and some men refuse to want to accept that because they think it makes them seem shallow. I did not say they don't value anything else but how the woman looks is very valuable to them yes it is. You might not know this because you live under a rock, but this forum alone reveals this amongst every other scenarios out there. A MAN INSN'T SELECTING SEXUAL MATES BASED ON IQ LEVELS. or even based on her finances most of the time or who her parents are or her standards or if she's a good girl or not he's basing it off of what she looks like at first and everything else is secondary and sometimes not, but if it's now about relationships or marriage. Then he might look a little deeper, but just for a sexual mate no no, nothing matters other than physical appearance.

you keep insisting that I'm referring to ALL men because I try to insert the word "most" or some"' and that these statements are just my opinions and pov's. I'm not making any absolutist statements, they are my opinions and my opinions only based of what I've seen to be true and they are circumstantial and compared to other scenarios, e.g. It is mostly women we see in commercialized situations advertising cars or anything trying to sell sex. So that's one reason you can say men are visual. Another is the strip clubs, men are visual. All I'm saying is men know f they're attracted to you or not in an instant and that looks is all that's needed for that in a man.

It doesn't take a relationship expert to have to tell you that most men are attracted to looks and a woman's appearance more than her personality in the beginning. So much so that there are million and billion dollar companies profiting from this. Ever seen a shirtless man advertising a car, how many topless strip clubs are there that are strictly male dancers. Why aren't men getting cat-called left and right by women and these cat-callers aren't calling for their exam results.

This is the most obvious thing on the planet. You must be misunderstanding me. Of course it's not 100% of men because it's never 100% but how many guys do you think are out there NEEDING to know a woman first before he gets sexually attracted to her. Thatls all I'm saying in this regard here, nothing else in that statement. Men know instantly or soon thereafter meeting a woman that they are sexually attracted and would fuck her if given the opportunity. I'm not saying every guy would definitely do it, all I'm saying is they know if they're sexually attracted right away or not.

It happens, but how many men are our screwing women they're not attracted to for job opportunities, because they want to land that acting role, they need their rent paid, only screwing her for the sake of the peace (he's abusive), plenty of women out their having circumstantial sex. Men too but most is just for the sake of sex with.,...and not because they are in a certain predicament.

I understand what you're saying and its hard to get all factors in in short comments and in a forum-type atmosphere. Lots of exceptions in every situation. However, on a general scale, I don't think a woman would freely and lovingly have sex with a man she didn't want to just to have an orgasm. Purely just to come. Men do this all the time and speak about it all the time as in "I just wanted to nut", or "I didn't really like her but she was giving it up", or she came on to me, etcetc. This doesn't happen in wonen's cases where we just have sex because he was giving it up, they don't like the guy but they just wanted to cum..please, let's get real here. Lots of businesses situations and circumstances are there because of men's roaming eyes and abilities to separate lust from love and are sexually turned on by a woman's appearance alone. Your last statement has nothing to do with what I was referring to. I don't have to put women's process of sexual preference on a pedestal over men's. It's usually different and that's just it. It's the guys that thinks I'm saying one is better or higher than another. There is a compliment there and the differences work in sync with the overall picture of the female/male dynamic.

I'm not speaking about after a man gets to know a woman, relationship or marriage, I'm speaking about instantly or soon thereafter. I didn't think I had to explain this given how it's quite obvious everywhere you look. Nothing I say is a conclusion I've deducted, just pov's, perspectives and opinions......until they change. Notice I said most. All i will say is, strip clubs and escort work doesn't exist because of the women's personalities and the lingo from men constantly referring to women's appearances (where to meet hot chicks, where all the hot chicks at, she was hot, etcetc). C'mon guys don't care to get to know you first before they've concluded they would fuck you or not..,wait, that chick is hot but I'd have to get to know her first before I can know if I'd bang her or not. I'm not saying they would , but all that other stuff comes later after seeing her appearance.

What I think is happening is, on paper, guys are expressing their disappointments in not being able to date or have the girl of their dreams and it's because those fantasy women are dating the top 20%. They have come to the brutal truth of the matter, maybe from watching a lot of porn, TV or fantasies, that those beautiful women that they dream and fantasize about are out of reach and maybe any woman that may even come close to that or even close to what I consider to be my dream girl they can't have. I honestly think this is the case, because I see regular people, like you said, on a daily bases coupled up and having normal couples and relationship issues, not who's lonely or how women are this and that or being stuck in their heads about the loneliness epidemic or how women only date the top. I think they're after a certain type and realizing that type isn't interested in them. The physical look, not the personality but what she looks like.

Hey now, you gotta look cool while riding the scooolterrrr. The sandals is to protect the cool look. The gloves were tucked away, it's getting hot out. So there you have it folks, all safety measures are out the door when picturing for the scoooolterrrr.

Sometimes you need a little reminder.