Princess Arabia

Now you got this curious kitty over here wondering what that never mind is about. Speak or forever hold your peace. THIS is your moment.

You go deep into epistemology, existentialism, dynamic models, political psychology etc, but when it comes to sexual affairs and relationship dynamics, you treat it so lightly and tend to dismiss the deeper issues that causes these problems between the sexes. It's OK, as you're just one person and certain things aren't for everybody to delve into. The thing i see though, is that when someone does, you have a tendency to dismiss it and treat it lightly as if, it is as simple as men have needs and women just don't have the same need. Well, women also do have the same need. We are not stoic humans who just walk around with sticks up our assess who doesn't enjoy sex or have sexual desires. Most men just don't know how to please a woman sexually without taking the time out to get to know her body and her sexual preference. Plus for most women, it takes much more than to just look at a male and get sexually excited and be ready then and there to go have sex with him even if she's sexually attracted to him. Usually, the ones that do are under the influence of alcohol or some stimulating drug as in ecstasy or whatever else people take out there on the streets. So that's why it may seem that we don't have those needs or desires, we just don't openly express them with just any man and are just not willing to do it with any man, attractive or not. Money or not, status or not, because some women will still try and pursue these men, but try to stall as much as possible to not have sex with him right off the bat because she knows it hurts her chances of getting whatever it is from him that she wants from him and it could even be marriage or for him to want and love her back and to provide and protect her. So it's not necessarily about using him but she wants more than a one night thing and wants to be the object of his desire. She is equipped with what she needs to stall of the sexual encounter and men not taking a priority to please women sexually is one of them, so it becomes easier to stall. A lot of women are home masturbating for this reason. About this thread, though, it is very important to getting to the real causes as to why some men are having a hard time getting laid or even sustaining a relationship. Just because a man is only interested in women just to get laid and nothing else, doesn't mean some won't find this information valuable in decreasing the problematic issues around their inabilities for success in this regard. I saw the problems she raised and the issues some of the men on this forum have with women - I saw the similarities. I won't name names, but it was like to a tee what she said and how they comment on the forum and the things they say about women and the circumstances surrounding that. It was so on-point certain images came to mind while reading it and i could see their issues were similar just from their presence here on a constant basis talking about the same things over and over and i could even see how the shame dynamic was a factor from remembering some of the stories they told and the questions they asked. Not all men are just in this for pussy for pussies' sake and to move on with their work and what they find more important to them. Some are genuinely interested in finding solutions to their issues and to stop their porn addiction and/or hatred towards women because they truly love women and would love to connect with them intimately but don't know how. You just brush off posts like these saying men are just horny and just want to get laid. Maybe that's in your case but not all men just want to get laid. They might have given up on trying to understand women and trying to connect with women but maybe OP can shed some light and open their minds up again to even want to try and to get away from those redpill and mgtow movements. Women are the ones having sex with men, so we are the ones who know men on a sexual/intimate level, except for men who study this field, and i can assure you that men are craving intimacy with the opposite sex, more than how much they verbally like to admit especially to other men as to not come of as emotional, feminine, or simpy. Some realize it, but some don't and will act in ways where they may come off as just horny and just want sex to other guys but when around women, they act differently. This is why there is a fetish called the "girlfriend experience", where men will pay a woman to act like their gf for a short while. It is very popular for this reason. People's stories and ideas around the morality of this is irrelevant to the fact that it is a thing. Men do crave intimacy. They just use sex as a mask and continually get disappointed because they really desire more than just sex from women to the point of giving up and this post might be helpful to those men who have this recognition.

Yes, I did. It is on my dresser that doesn't exist.

This This This All there is, is THIS I wanna join the party too. 🙌🙌🙌🙌🥳🥳🥳

The revelation came and went is the real deal. The only thing remains after that is thoughts and ideas about the revelation. The Absolute at work and it's beautiful. I don't know how and will never know, but that doesn't need to be figured out and can't be since the very thing being used to try and figure it out is also it. It's a Masterpiece and that is an understatement since it is also the word Masterpiece. You're welcome for whatever it is you're thanking us for.😘

There's really no one asleep but to the dreamer and the "I" thought it surely appears that way. The individual that claims to have a life and is thinking thoughts and is making decisions is a dream, an illusion. Excuse the pronouns and the verbs and the language as there is no other way of expressing this without sounding robotic and mechanical and Advaita and non-dualistic and whatever other concepts and labels you guys have for this. I know nothing about those things and happen to stumble upon those terms. What I'm saying here is what I have come to recognize; and if you feel I'm wrong and you know the Truth then there's no need to defend your stance because the truth needs no defense and I'm not claiming this to be the truth nor trying to convince anyone of anything. You believe you came into this world to defend yourself. You believe that your parents had you and now they raise you to battle the world and then die and leave you here to suffer. You believe you have to figure this out for your survival or else you will starve and suffer and not have a good life. How's that working for you. Even if you have bouts of happiness and joy, it doesn't last. Why? Because you are in a dream. The dream is forever changing that's it's nature. It cannot help but change, you cannot help but have inconsistencies. That's what a dream is. Ever notice how you're never fulfilled, ever notice how there's always a problem to be solved. Ever notice once you get something achieved there's always another thing to achieve. Ever notice how the rich doesn't go away on an island and live happily ever after. Ever notice how most celebrities are still unhappy and some apparently commit suicide or are on drugs. You will come up with stories about why this happens; but they will all be stories. Some of you say you are God but still suffer. You will say you are God suffering and that is what God is doing. God is suffering. You will say God is evil and that God is the devil. You will come up with all these ideas and stories about what God is and say you are God doing these things. God isn't doing anything because God is all those things, but I will not repeat these lines over and over and over. You have addictions and you can't control it. You go to therapy for this addiction. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. You get off alcohol but now you're addicted to coffee or sex or porn or drugs or whatever. You come on here asking for advice on how to stop doing this and how to stop doing that. You are asking people like yourself who you have dreamed up to believe are just like you and who can help you. If you really think you are special and the world revolves around you, that's arrogance and self-importance. If you really think other people are fortunate and you're not, that's arrogance. If you think you're fortunate and others aren't that's arrogance. If I really think I'm giving you a message that will benefit you or is of any value to you, that's arrogance and self-importance. Ever notice how you can't stop doing something you want to stop doing. Ever notice how we have to meditate and do processes to try to stop the body from doing it's thing because we think we are in control. This is not saying to stop doing those things because whether you stop or continue, is what will happen. I still do things, still suffer, still get mad, still talk shit, still watch videos, still do whatever but I recognize it's not me doing anything it's just happening. I don't fight it, I don't build stories and find excuses for it, I just let it be there with the recognition that that's what's happening. The energy is gone in no time because that's what happened not because I surrendered or did anything on my own accord. If you say, why bother posting, you're assuming there's someone posting. This is energy appearing as a post. There's no one here to post or not post. Do you think if I had the senses to decide to post or not post that I would chose to post this stupid nonsensical post that I will get flack for, no I would choose not to. Do you think i'm posting this to help or to bring value, no because there's no value for the individual. You are not gaining but losing from this post and the individual just wants to gain. You aren't even losing because there's no one to lose. This sounds like "of God, here goes again, no doer, no chooser, nothing matters" but that is just you perpetuating the dream. I'm not trying to wake you up here, i'm not even trying to do anything. The only thing that might happen is the dream recognizes itself as so. You are not dreaming. You are the dream. Life is unfolding as we speak. This is life right here. Me writing now is life, whatever responses I get from this post will be life happening but my thoughts about what the responses may be is just my imagination, which is also God. You cannot not be God because there's nothing but God and God is no-thing appearing as everything. Even as your arrogance and self-importance. The ones who claim not to be God are the most arrogant and most delusional and the ones who claim to be God but still think they are making things happen and can change the world are the most delusional and the ones who do neither are the most confused. Then again that's just my ideas about all that, as is of no substance and means nothing. Replace the word God with any word. Doesn't matter.

What you're describing is how to end the dream. A dream that never really happened, but only as a dream. Like our dreams at night. You dreamt of situations and circumstances but you were still laying in bed and went nowhere, in that sense of never happened. There's nothing one needs to do to become one with anything. It is already done. There are no processes or thinking specific thoughts or taking any specific action that needs to be done. It is already the case. All the individual needs to do is to recognize that they are not separate, life is not about them and nothing is happening to you. Things are just happening. The thoughts and ideas about what's happening is the dream and the belief that there is an individual making choices and has free will. That's the dream. Life is apparently unfolding and is what it is. You are on track there, but you're still believing you're in control of thought and by removing them you automatically have arrived somewhere. No. Thoughts aren't even happening only appearing so, so how can one stop doing something that's appearing to be happening. It's a dream. Do you dream at night and say i must stop dreaming this dream in order to not dream this dream? No, when you awaken you recognize it for what it is and go about your day. Same here, recognize it for what it is and go about your day. Already know there's no separation, no individual, thoughts and ideas about thoughts and ideas, the stories we concoct up about what's happening is not Reality it's all illusory, the Absolute is no-thing appearing as everything, it is all there is and i mean everything. You don't need to stop thinking for the I to disappear, the I is already not there, only seems to be because of a contracted energy and everything that appears from that contracted I energy is illusory but the individual is lost in its own hallucinations and thoughts and thinking there's a world and that they have a life and needs to survive, when all along it is only the Absolute v appearing and it can appear however it wants, anything can appear. There is nothing REALLY happening. It's all a mystery and nobody knows anything including me.

How can awareness lose awareness. I never heard of such a thing. I guess so because the eye can lose it's sight. But the eye is like an object and awareness is not. Isn't awareness, though, the "thing" that's aware that it's losing awareness. Like saying I'm aware that I'm aware. So if you're aware that you're losing awareness, isn't that awareness that's aware of losing awareness, the utmost Awareness. Seems what you're talking about is losing consciousness or memory.

Well, give me a non-existing card.😜

Oh ok, in that sense. 😊

OK point made.

The mind is not reality. Why do you think people are so delusional. The eyes cannot see itself, the hands cannot touch itself, why do you believe the mind can understand itself.

Enlightenment is the realization that Enlightenment is man-made.

It's pretty simple. No such thing.

Ok well explain. I just used the cave as an example. Explain what an enlightened being that discovers there's no other, responds to life.

These statements are contradictory. You can only be the truth you said. You also said, if enlightened, there's no one left. So if you're enlightened and you are being the Truth, then you're sitting in a cave by yourself in silence talking to no one for the rest of your life. So to be enlightened and to be the truth means you'll be a mute and starve to death.

That's all I'm seeing these days. I can't escape the stories that people make up. When you know what to look for, it becomes obvious. Even in myself. I'm like really. Shut up, I be telling myself. Is that really happening or is that my mind making shit up. Once I learnt this, I see the Reality of it and when people are doing it. It's all people do. Make up stories, then they believe the stories and build a life around the stories. It's like a disease.

Did you hear about the woman with no thoughts. Davino posted it a few days back, I believe it's the Frank Yang thread. She still had anxiety and depression at times she says, not often but they do appear. Makes you wonder.

Nice!

Yes, but that is thought out. An accent that has been suppressed, changed and masked out of fear is not the same as someone just blurting out a comment or response in a language they don't normally speak. For example, if a cop comes up to me with the sole intention of arresting me because I'm Jamaican and for no other reason and I'm aware of it, I will try to mask my accent and try not to sound Jamaican. Try. If I'm watching a Jamaican movie and a sudden outburst of whatever I said about the movie happened, I wouldn't be thinking to mask how I express that outburst it would just have occurred spontaneously. Thats the difference I'm talking about. It's spontaneous at times without thought into it and that can be triggered by anything at anytime but for me its usually Jamaican related or if I'm extremely angry.

Are you sure about this. Why aren't they mirroring everything and why don't they mirror certain things. A baby is not going to do the catwalk because I'm doing the catwalk in front of them. They would have to know how to walk first, then the steps by practicing it. You don't have to practice something to mirror it. It's innate, babies learn how to walk and talk through nature. What they say and how they walk might be learnt. What you say while talking the accent and how you say it is not what is being said. Just the mere doing of it is spontaneous. The rest, as in how it's said as in loudly or softly, slowly or fast and what's being said as in the content is irrelevant to what I'm saying about it spontaneously happening and can be learnt behavior.

Beautiful❤️

I could be watching a Jamaican video with an American who I don't speak Jamaican around and suddenly I find myself speaking Jamaican, with no thought or preconceived notion that I need to fit in or impress or anything like that. It just happens. It is not like that for you, you only think that. It's just spontaneously happening.

Yes, the body will be harmed, but that's because of the jump, not as a result of what someone said that made you jump. That's the difference. You felt nervous not because of all the stories behind it. The energy of nervousness appeared and you built a story behind it. Not everybody would have responded the same way so that should tell you that it was previous conditioning that caused the body to react that way. Your thoughts and ideas about her approaching you caused the nervousness, not the approach itself. There is no cause and effects only responses. What do you think only the present moment means, the past is a memory, the future is a projection. Only what actually happened is Reality. Not your thoughts and ideas about it.

Your thoughts and ideas ABOUT reality isn't Reality. Reality doesn't need thoughts and ideas about it to exist as it is. It's our thoughts and ideas about it that makes us suffer mentally. Then again, that's also apparent.