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To be honest, if a guy has any hope of keeping a REALLY hot FEMININE girl(s) around in his life, he is going to need to be generous. Paying for those airbnbs, trips, helping her when she has a problem, etc. There are obviously some occasional exceptions and I'm not suggesting supporting her entirely like a child. Maybe your D is good and / or you know how to pull her strings and press her buttons. Most of the guys I've seen like this are usually hanger ons and pretty toxic and have little going for them besides their cocaine addiction and ability to occasionally keep a girl around through manipulation. You may not even need to spend much on her specifically to get one or two fucks, but if you want it to go deeper you will need to be the giver in the relationship. Most of the guys living this lifestyle have money and know when to be generous and when not to be taken for a ride. You can maybe find some rare hippy or masculine career girl that you can go 50/50 with but if you live in a normal city, you will be paying for your girlfriend and helping her when she needs it if she has some shitty art gallery internship or some problems. The girls that look for handouts right away like a super expensive dinner on the first date, etc, are to be avoided however. May not work for everyone and some guys may prefer a more independent, career woman who refuses money, but then be prepared for her to not be as feminine as you desire.

damn, hope he is ok and has insurance

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? She will be relocating in January. I saw her today. We didn’t really dive into it. Just talked about what she will do when she is there. It was a very painful meeting with her but there was zero conflict, just a feeling of love for each other, she was very feminine and caring. I held back so many tears. She commented how I seemed sad and anxious. I didn’t feel like it was an appropriate time to dive into the sadness with her, just enjoy our evening and be in the present. I can tell she subconsciously knows this is likely the end of our relationship but she doesn’t wanna focus on it. She’s kinda stopped being practical and suggesting I look for a job in the same company which I have no interest. She’s moved on to sweet jokes about packing me in the suitcase. I’m honestly broken and in tears. Crying nonstop when I’m alone in my flat. This will be a really hard two months but I hope I grow from this and come out a more loving and stronger man.

I know this guy. He will gorge himself with tons of fast food on camera. He bought a million dollar flat as well from it. Honestly, it’s pretty sad but at the same time I don’t know what to make of it. He has gained a ton of weight and it is very unhealthy.

My girlfriend is moving to another country for work. We are both deeply in love with each other. This is really tearing me up. Feels like I’m on a boat I can’t steer and I see the waterfall coming in the distance. I’m not going to pretend this doesn’t hurt. I’m staying active and doing the stuff I love and want to work on. Not moping or sulking around the flat. Continue on my life purpose. I’m feeling actually quite accepting of the situation but it hurts so much. I knew this day was very likely to come, even when we met. This wasn’t thrown on me out of nowhere. Since me met I always knew she was going to maybe have to relocate for her job, it’s in her contract. I just went with the flow and because she was so cool and beautiful we feel deeply in love. She says I’m her everything. The way she touches me. When I look deep in her eyes I feel it. She loves me so much and she knows I feel the same. So it just hurts knowing this will be ending in the next couple months. I don’t have anything practical to save this and honestly I don’t want to feed lies. She is under the Impression we will stay together. I don’t want to give her false hope. I’m Im not seeing a practical solution for this. She is supposed to relocate for an entire year in a country I have no interest moving to. I don’t want to follow her there. I also don’t want long distance. I really don’t see how our relationship will survive this. Sometimes I wish I were older and ready to settle down so I could tell her I want her to stay and that this relationship is the one I want to lead to marriage. This is not the case for me however. So I’m just hurting so much seeing that the end is near. Im so grateful we had this time together though. I love her so much.

This is a thing David Deida says that I think needs more unpacking so to speak so it can be better understood. I wouldn't reduce this. Masculine energy does grow through challenge and I've found in general women tend to grow much more through praise. Men also need praise too. It depends how it's done. Some men may respond much better to a gentle fatherly tone and even praise mixed with a wise challenge. Every guy is different. I don't think ridicule is the way to go. I can't speak for all men but harsh challenging ridicule does not help me. Frankness, honesty, words of integrity, challenge and praise do.

I'm looking for literature that can really help a man grow, inspire, learn about women, dating, relationships, love, building discipline, fostering creativity and creative problem solving, leadership, energy, masculinity, giving, perseverance, etc. I know one can really learn a lot through fiction and this is often something not recognized enough. Literature / stories about men going out to seek treasure, overcoming hardships, growing and discovering love, etc. I'm sort of tired of self help books. Literature men will benefit from reading. To start the list - The Complete Memoirs of Casanova "The Story of My Life" by Giacomo Casanova Please add to the list if you have any fiction books /literature recommendations.

Physical features isn’t the most important part of your photos. Guys who think they look average or are slightly above can still land hot dates online as long as your photos are immaculate. They have to be immaculate though. Your average photos of you lifting weights, drinking a beer and posing in a cheap suit won’t do.

Hmm, thanks for the support I can communicate how I feel and what I want but also the other side about how I don't want to move. Trust the process. I don't have to know everything. It's ok to be confused sometimes. "Some birds aren’t meant to be caged. Their feathers are just too bright and when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up does rejoice, but still, the place you live in is that much more drab and empty now that they’re gone." - Ellis Redding (Portrayed by Morgan Freeman)

I love the feeling of being alive. I thank god. I love the feeling of expanding and becoming more conscious. It's hard to really reduce the feeling to a few sentences. Also, it's hard to write it without sounding like some hippie at a festival on some LSD. I suppose I would say what I love most about life is becoming more conscious and loving but at the same time embodying it and having it play out in my life in practical ways. My relationships becoming more loving, my hobbies more enjoyable, loving more deeply, becoming more inspired to create, appreciate art more, etc, and feeling it through my body as an individual. Basically I just described the feeling of being truly alive. And finally I would say I love how it never gets old, as soon as a summit is reached it isn't actually the summit, cause there is even more to expand. I would say I love this about life.

@Leo Gura I've noticed the forum is down sorta often. Like I will have problems connecting on random days and it won't let me on the website for a couple hours. I'll try to connect from different devices and use a vpn as well and won't connect. Are you aware the forum goes down regularly (about every third day) for a few hours? Dunno if anyone else has this problems. It only happens on this website as well for me.

Thanks... we talked about it some now and some tears came, we feel so deeply connected. I'm just not sure what will happen. I'm not sure I am prepared to move with her either. I don't feel comfortable asking her to quit her job to stay here. Not sure if she can change her contract to stay here. She has suggested it before so I may follow up on that. I'm not taking anything off the table or gonna make any vows to myself like I won't do x or y. Just confused and not sure.

what ingredients should one look for in bar soap that can be used on the body, face and beard? I moved and can't find soap that is as good and as natural where I used to live.

This is a helpful thread. Been dealing with this all evening. I sometimes feel this from my woman. How long has it been going on for you? I've noticed my girl will sort of go back and forth. Sometimes we go through this and I feel us sort of go apart, we are more likely to fight, but we talk so we handle it in a healthy way. Then we will come crashing back together with her being very feminine and me being very masculine. It's not very enjoyable to be around her when she is grumpy and putting up this sort of cold masculine front. Kinda hard to talk it out always as well. I sorta just giver her a little space and slowly ramp up being romantic as much as I can stomach and have the emotional wherewithal for. That seems to get us close again. Talking helps a lot though for sure. Just make sure to know when to bring it up cause sometimes it's not a good time to bring stuff like this up. It's kinda tricky to know how to get your girl out of this especially when you are sort of at your own limit from work and doing other stuff. Finding that balance can be tricky at times and it's ok to not always be perfect at it. You're doing your best like everyone.

I've slept with girls on the first night just because I was interesting/fun, chill, whatever. They had the opportunity for a new and exciting sexual experience and I was there so it happened. To be honest I was far less developed and attractive than I am now. I really don't think it's helpful to compare yourself to other guys like this. Just focus on yourself and enjoying the process. Some of these girls got a boyfriend later at some time and I'm sure some of them didn't give it right away on the first night to them. I did some pretty graphic dry humping in our undies with my gf, some finger stuff over panties, etc. It was very sexual and tantamount to foreplay before sex. It bothers me a little looking back that my gf didn't go all the way with me the weekend we met but the next weekend. She just had laser hair removal so I can understand that being one of the factors. The other being she was afraid I would look at her as a slut and just treat it as a ONS or FWB. The point I'm trying to make is women just go by how they are feeling and you can't control another person's feelings. It hurts sometimes to accept this and know the solution to getting these needs met isn't necessarily a cognitive one but one where you have to let go of a lot of thinking and your ego insecurities and just let your emotions guide you. Giving up that wanting to control will really free up a lot of energy for you to just flow and feel masculine and fun and relaxed and connect with women. That is enough to get laid if you are in the right setting and don't live with your parents Just focus on relaxing and having fun in these social settings like parties, bars, clubs, cool streets at night, on dates, etc and you will find yourself getting laid regularly. Sometimes it will come quickly sometimes it will come after a couple dates but it will come. Let go of beliefs that trigger these angry emotions in you and appreciate how volatile and beautiful the nature of women is. It doesn't always make senses and it doesn't have to. That's why women are so amazing, it's nice for things to not make sense sometimes and just sail across to the bedroom on that beautiful ocean of emotion women bring to the interaction. You are one piece of the puzzle and she is the other. Just focus on playing your role and having fun and you will find other pieces that will want to fit with you.

Social exposure is a key factor for sure but I've seen so many guys over focusing on the technical aspect and getting no where. The disclaimer about this approach is washed over like the quick credits to one of those 1-800 infomercials that says you can lose up to 20 ibs. There are tons of traps along the way and many guys will make little progress this way aside from perhaps developing some discipline and grit. I can't say such an approach will go to waste in bringing life lessons but there are more intelligent and conscious ways over the mass approaching path. It seems like there are guys who start following PUAs teaching this route and get on a carousel of failure and make little progress while some other students will progress. I'm sure there are more paths than one to really getting good with this but for me a more holistic approach and inner focus was the game changer. I got average results when I first got into pick up and it was incredibly frustrating. It didn't get better through mass approaching. It got better through inner work (therapy and psychedelics). I had taken tons of social time off and once I did the grueling inner work I dived back into going out and getting with beautiful women was easy and seamless. It's why I advocate much more for inner changes over spamming yourself. The gritty technical route just doesn't produce the same type of inner changes many guys need to make before becoming attractive and able to get a woman. I don't see a reason why both can't be done at the same time though.

Life purpose and self esteem / self love is incredibly important when it comes to becoming as charismatic and desirable (or as close to) as Russell Brand. You can tell he loves what he does in this world and is very much accepting of himself. He is on a mission. He genuinely relishes in giving through his charisma and is detached in the most healthy sense. You can see how embodied it is. No amount of technical practice will lead to this. This is something that will only come with great inner changes and will take a lot of work if one's foundation is heavily off.

Like Leo said, don't overthink it. Girls love sex and many are open to exciting sexual experiences with men if given an opportunity that feels right. A synergy of being fun, chill, safe, manly, etc. Use any other synonyms you like. That's about it.

of course. if you dose incredibly high and are holding back a ton of repressed anger and emotional trauma it absolutely can result in a sort of dissociation experience where the body just starts doing insane shit and you are tripping so deep you aren't in control of any of it. It happens all the time. How do people not know this before partaking in these substances? There was an article where this one college student took a ton of shrooms and ended up wandering into a house on campus and beating up a professor. They routinely have to hold people down at Ayahuasca retreats too. This is not talked about enough when it comes to these substances.

Mass approaching on the street is also a waste of time for a lot of guys with how it's just taught to grind through it. Everyone has a different path and learns differently. Some guys have benefited from it greatly and have gotten laid and met their girlfriends this way, others seem to get on a carousel of despair and then have to spend time unlearning all the dumb PUA theory to then do the real inner work that is keeping them from being attractive and ready for a relationship. I can't say I'm for or against it. If someone coming from a place of zero experience and emotional insecurity were to ask me if they should do the whole mass approaching thing, I would tell them they are better off finding a therapist, learning self love and learning body based emotional mastery techniques. Also to go out more and try to make new friends and put themselves out there in social situations where there are women. It can be challenging to do this so just resorting to the whole street approaching thing can be an ok first step but the whole "self improvement / grinding" vibe has never been my thing. Getting to a point where it's just seamless from a natural conversation on the street/bar to a date didn't start happening for me until I did the inner work. It was a terrible grind before this and I learned little.

So you are posting his videos and starting discussions about dating and picking up women here because you want to learn about financial freedom? It just sounds a little odd from my point of view and I’m not saying this to devalue you or even the benefits you may have gotten from listening to him. I’m glad you have found some help through him with supplements. Just a lot of the posts you make here recently seem sort of discombobulated and really overly analytical and too cognitive, for what in my opinion, often requires less of these long two hour theory spills this guy makes and something more holistic, inwardly deeper and in person.

I don’t want to sound insensitive and judgmental. This is pretty dark though and if this did indeed happen I think therapy with a compassionate and trained professional is the best course at this stage. Socializing is triggering enough as it is even for stable and functional people who are trying to improve in this domain. If one has emotional problems then going out isn’t going to address the root issues that need to be worked on.

I’m not triggered. I’m actually doing great in this domain in life. I feel I’m at the point where I could develop a program if it was my LP and be teaching this stuff along side him and the rest of the PUAs on YouTube. I’m not saying he isn’t a bad person or doesn’t make some good points. I just think you are shoehorning yourself by focusing on his theory so much when there is better and more holistic stuff out there. I’m assuming you want to get better with women right? I don’t think watching lots of his videos and filling your mind with more of his useless theory is the best way of doing this for you given some of the stuff you have been saying here lately. Why do you think diving in and listening to some deep analysis by him is helping you improve with women?