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You don't really talk in this setting as much. Think about it, this isn't the place to have some long conversation. You're trying to put your foot into a shoe that doesn't fit. You make some small talk by getting close to their face, dance, touch, eye fuck, get a little physical, etc. You pull her to the side where it's more quiet (and darker) when you feel a connection and want to have a conversation. Also what you do when you feel it's time to make out

I think you have a somewhat narrow idea of integrity and truthfulness when applied to this domain of life. I’m not trying to twist it but this very dry, masculine, precise form of communication is not always the most honest either. There are other ways that are just as truthful. You gotta follow your heart. I’ve noticed what women consider to be the truth especially in relationships can be kinda different in an odd way i quite don’t understand myself. Often it has more grey to it and doesn’t have the same sort of sharp corners found in how men interpret integrity and truthfulness. I would say seeing all these differences and learning how to navigate and bridge them is the sign of a master. Lead with your heart, tap into your own feminine to learn. Look at her and take in her beauty and try to let your heart guide the dialogue, not pick up lines you heard in a video being recited from your head.

I think you have some underlying shame and insecurity about getting your needs met. Little white lies and stuff like this shouldn’t bother as much as it sounds it does. This is a matter of beliefs and stuff you are holding onto and seeing the world through. All the same you could say “just walking around and enjoying my afternoon.” You don’t have to say that meeting friends stuff. You could just say I gotta go. There is always a level of cordial disclosure when it comes to interacting with strangers. You are at no liberty to disclose all that stuff and tbh I would not say you are approaching women on the street like that. It’s just socially weird. Maybe it won’t blow you out but I think you are overthinking this all a bit too much cause you’re nervous about approaching women and then it’s sending you to your head and you are then finding yourself in this cycle about feeling guilty about saying some white lie no one cares about cause you wanna add some social lubrication to the situation. What you gotta do is dig deeper here and resolve more of your self esteem and emotional stuff. You’ll find yourself just saying things congruent (and more truthful ) to how you feel the more emotionally healthy you feel inside.

It’s just part of the forum software or whatever and it has gone unused. Leo isn’t a web developer. He didn’t write the coding of this site from scratch himself. He’s using 3rd party stuff.

I have, most of that land it borders (that leads straight into Russia's capital) is as flat as a piece of paper. They are incredibly vulnerable there. Look up history on battles in WWII and also the French invasion of Russia. They have a long history of being invaded there.

It absolutely would. Russia is basically impenetrable from the south, north and east. You are aiming at the head of a turtle with those countries in NATO.

#1 Ukraine joining NATO would basically give a clear entrance through the steppe to the heart of Russia. It is absolutely not in their best interest to have their neighbors aligned with nations that have a history of setting up aggressive military waypoints leading to their capital. #2 From the spiral perspective, in a way it is. EU is Orange with a bit of blue and green. Russia is Blue with a bit of Orange and Red. The society's way of life is challenged having such different norms sitting right next to them. If the police are coming up to you and waving their guns in your face then yes you will feel threatened.

What I understand about Turkey is that they actually are a pretty stable country that allows for a nice transition from the west to the middle east and also they have decent relations with Russia. There are a number of factors holding up Turkey from joining the EU though Ukrainian nationalists will absolutely not like what I have to say on this and I do have a bit of a Russia bias on this particular topic about geopolitics so be warned: but I think the best thing for the region would be for the EU to be very careful with how it associates with Ukraine. There isn't some genocide going on there. Is it unfortunate the region is corrupt and people lack liberties? sure, but we gotta pick and choose our battles and how we influence change if we want stage blue countries to further develop without conflict. It's a fairly stable country when it isn't being pulled apart by two powers. It serves as a decent buffer for Russia and I absolutely don't see Russia expanding beyond former Soviet territory or even much into Ukraine if it is given influence over this territory it once controlled. Soft power like giving Ukrainians visa free travel to the Schengen is fine and I see positive change happening if they gave Russians visa free travel to the Schengen region as well. This army stuff like providing Ukraine with military support is not a good idea at all.

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The material problems: diseases like COVID and climate/water issues, wealth inequality. I would like to think Nuclear war is a thing of the past generation. The mental problems: Lack of consciousness, mental development, emotional mastery and understanding, communication skills.

Afghans are mountain people with a geographic terrain and a social system the west is not accustom to. They stand no chance to hold it down or really control something that isn't even there to be controlled because things are incredibly different there in so many ways. It's barely even a country, just a bunch of tribes held loosely together.

I mean, maybe? I guess theorists of this are scared of Russia? I don't really see the point at the moment. Europe is quite peaceful with every country around it. I don't think Russia will test boundaries as long as Belarus and Ukraine are not encroached upon. These are buffer countries. People need to stop pretended they are autonomous countries or can just suddenly become one. It's unfortunate they don't have the same human rights as the west but the alternative is Crimea situations in them if the west pushes their agenda and gets too entangled in business and strategy with them.

Women are far more social than men. You will not find them sitting in their room alone as much as guys. They will have a couple friends, a roommate, be at the gym with a trainer, doing something they like around other people, etc. I've seen on several occasions single beautiful women go to clubs alone just to hear a dj they like play. When they get totally alone like this they will hop on tinder or go to the club to meet a guy for some company. I've actually found some of the most eager women to be ones that just moved to a new city and didn't know anyone. Women take advantage of how easy it is to find them a guy when they feel lonely. Women that are solo traveling as a single tourist are some of the most eager to socialize and hook up. Probably some of the coolest girls you will meet too.

From my experience honesty and boundaries are sort of built up and reevaluated regularly in such a relationship that started out unserious. I think this is the case for any relationship. I am with Leo here in terms of approach about getting into a relationship. I've never gotten into a relationship that didn't start out unserious or from a fling/fwb. It starts out unserious, you spend a lot of time together hooking up and having fun (usually over a couple weeks to a month), get to know each other and value each other, you decide you want something more serious with her and you start discussing boundaries and expectations. Some things are kinda awkward to ask for in the boundaries right away or early on. From my experience most girls are pretty honest and not sleeping with multiple guys at once and the ones that decide they wanna be your girlfriend will usually expect that you are doing the same. She will be sorta committed to you as a FWB/fling for the first month (you the same) while she feels you out and you feel her out for a relationship and then she will wait for you to call her your girlfriend and have a conversation about how you want to see where it goes as a relationship. From my experience just being super upfront saying you are looking for a relationship on the first few dates has always scared off women for me They realize they'd have to be fucking crazy to date a guy like me (they usually are) but they haven't been hooked on my powerful GODCOCK yet so they turn tail and run!

Yep, I have. They are great for building public speaking skills. It looks easy but when you get up there it is not easy freezing up a bit and getting a bit shy. I would recommend you go. It’s a great way to meet people too. It can really help your social skills.

This is actually a good point. If it’s so triggering that you are having panic attacks I would do less. You could be stressing yourself and your system too much and it will be hard to go out again to do this. Get yourself up to a point where you still feel grounded but out of your comfort zone and build from there. It takes slow little bits to get to a point where you don’t react to this.

Take nice deep breathes. Feel where they are. Look up “somatic” exercises on YouTube for calming panic attacks. Count/name stuff in your environment, notice the colors of it, touch something warm/cold if different temperatures, breath through your nose and notice any smells, chew some gum and focus on the taste, notice different sounds around you. Basically you are in a fight or flight situation cause something in your past made you feel you were in danger when socializing or around people. By exposing yourself more to this and actively noticing what comes up you will retrain your nervous system.

@Bobby_2021 You basically have two choices here. The first is you either work towards accepting her past and the way she is, which will probably surface a lot of anger, envy, etc. This is the choice that you want to be with her. She can’t change the past. This won’t be easy but if you deep down want to be with her you’re going to have to work on this cause the relationship will erode and become toxic. The second is you look for a woman that has a different past that you will easterly accept. Nothing wrong with this one either. Everyone has different preferences and different compatibility. if you let this sit and don’t try to work on it I don’t see a relationship not a marriage working out.

The fact you are asking this question shows you aren’t worth engaging with. I love how anti vaxxers think they are persecuted against ?

The people that need to be taken out by the virus because they are bringing everyone else that isn’t as stupid down with them. Wish we could gather them all up and just put them all on a island.

You are making assumptions here. No guy cares about a woman’s past when they are hooking up or are uninvolved with them. Celebrities are just doing this with lots of women and are uncommitted to all of them. It’s not uncommon for a guy to start caring about her past the more committed and the more “we” takes center stage. Seen it play out with such celebrities aplenty in ugly ways through tabloids and news so I don’t follow your logic. Most men will always have something stirred up a bit when facing their girl’s past. It has deep bodily and psychological roots in men that go beyond culture.

I often times find myself having this feeling of pent up anger/rage. It will show up especially in my romantic relationships and in my current one as well. I won't really communicate it properly nor do I know how to express it in healthy ways with a partner. It will make it hard for me to communicate with her when I get triggered by something that makes me furious. I will feel a tremendous amount of rage and then try to communicate in an amicable way without blame or judgement but I can feel it's built up and I'm holding it back, the conversation may then fall apart and we will have a big fight. I try to play the "mediator" or be the cool headed compassionate communicator but when tension builds up it sort of reaches it's breaking point. I will snap at her and tell her to leave and am left feeling incredibly angry. It doesn't feel good at all. How can a guy express anger in healthy ways in a relationship when he feels triggered or something builds up between the two? I'm tired of holding it back.

You don't see how the mechanics underneath are the same though? You've labeled the 30+ people as potentially/sometimes unhealthy but on what grounds? What if she did so in a healthy way? Would that negate the justification for his disease? According to stage blue 1-2 is unhealthy for their society. According to where you are at 30+ is potentially unhealthy. It may very well be. I can't confirm this. I'm not such a women. My larger point being that men are justified if they feel disease over their woman having had more partners than them. How they go about expressing it, learning from it, or finding a partner that matches them I think is what's most important.

This is all your own bias and negative beliefs. "Neurotic" was a word largely coined by early male psychologists to hand wave away the emotional needs of women. I've been sympathetic towards your views in this thread but you clearly have a lot of built up anger around this as well. I don't judge you for it but keep it in mind that this may be fueling some of your distrust for her and hurting your relationship with her. This stuff can be really tricky to work through but you have to do your part and address your own inner stuff if you want to have any hope of you two coming together and working on your communication, expressing your feelings and setting healthy boundaries.

The thing I've noticed here though is the same mechanics playing out at different stages. Maybe she doesn't have to be a virgin but would you be sympathetic to how he felt if said he had sex with one or two women and his girlfriend had sex with 50 or 60 and that disparity made him feel uneasy and bothered? This is a more realistic situation today in stage orange. I see the same mechanics underneath at play.