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I wouldn’t entirely agree with that title, but of course the examples from the text are valid and point out interesting differences that do sometimes show ways women live more Wu Wei

it’s a very weird and warped world view.

It’s an interesting topic for sure. I think the word “special” can be sort of loaded because people hear it and then have any number of other beliefs about what it means. To me you are special, I am special and I believe every person I meet is special. What that means to me is that they are unique, valuable and part of the whole. A spiritual being. It isn’t a personal trait nor is it saying one person is better than the other. It doesn’t even mean I like every person or want to spend time with them. It’s just recognizing that there is no one else like you and you exist here and now and life is a miracle and you are part of it. It’s very simple. I don’t think the idea of everything being about you is the same as being special.

There is no getting closer or further from god. God is beyond all psychedelics and always here and always now, are you honest enough with yourself to see that is the question.

The other side has been saying Ukraine will fall in 4 days and that Ukraine will lose next week or month or whatever. So to me it doesn’t really look like that’s happening either. Every time Russia escalates it leads to Ukraine’s supporters sending more stuff over.

I mean that one guy on the left only has to raise that assault rifle he has and he will kill like 30 people in a minute or less… I don’t see liberals armed with the gear those guys have. And I wouldn’t put it past republicans to tell them to open fire. It maybe sounds really far fetched now but let’s say we continue to spiral down… I could see stuff like this being spun as the protestors being terrorists or something.

As a man you’re going to pay for the dates. It’s that simple. Don’t argue about it. Splitting expenses on the other hand can be done if you are a couple around the same age and salary. Obviously if you’re some loaded guy who is like 10 years older than your girlfriend and she doesn’t have a job, you will pay for literally everything. If just comes down to the flow of things.

You’re not locked into anything. You’re choosing to see it the way you want to and resisting other broader belief systems. The truth is people have sex for a lot of different reasons and you get all kinds of women. Slutty women, shy women, women not really interested in sex, traditional girls who marry the first guy they sex due to their culture. Women can also go through phases too where they maybe had a hoe phase and are now being more selective. Some women want serious relationships but it doesn’t really matter. They either make themselves available to sex or they don’t and if they do, it can play out any number of ways for any number of reasons. Just stay open minded and prioritize socializing, new experiences and having fun.

Well let’s be real here many liberals are sort of effeminate and won’t buy a guy. They aren’t exactly the kind of people I’d bet on when it comes to solving things with violence….

I don’t think it’s something to overcome but rather take as part of the whole. Unless you got a large inheritance you probably are gonna need to role your sleeves up some and do a lot of work, especially with the way the world is headed. Don’t lose sight of your true value and spirit. You’re valuable no matter what. There is always the true power and love within to call upon when faced with obstacles in life.

From what I gather you have to be crazy delusional about how you will one day be successful, see a genuine need for why you need the money (true or not), and then develop valuable skills and accumulate assets that build wealth. It’s not a secret how to become a millionaire. Oh, also take into account it may be more or less difficult based on your background or foundation. You need basically a in-demand job and then invest it in real estate or a safe stock portfolio.

Funny how all the 2nd amendment people all through my life were all like "yeah we need guns and need to safeguard our democracy from a tyrannical government." And now there is one and they are in support of it... The lies and deceptions of the fascist MAGA right is truly disgusting and one for the history books. I really hope sensible people will wake up and truly come down on this movement and it's main supporters. I'm not holding my breathe though. What's even more shocking is how close half of the people in my life are just a stone throw away from being Nazis. Never would of guessed to be honest. Guess half of us really are fucked in the head and the only safegaurd from the darker tendencies of humanity is a thin line of norms called common curtesy and respect. Christianity is truly a joke by the way too.

It’s also just a lack of charisma and image. Look at Gavin Newsom. He genuinely appeals strong and straight forward. Listen to some of his interviews and rallies. Basically politicians need to tell a story, a non woke charismatic guy like Gavin Newsom who champions an anti-corruption campaign could work. I’m sorry but the two women that ran just appeared weak and nerdy. No one was remotely inspired or fired up by them. I think AOC as an attack dog could be a perfect running mate for Newsom. Biden would have beat Trump a second time if he was as coherent as he was in 2020. He simply was just so old. People keep analyzing this thing so much but it’s really just so straight forward. Harris lacked charisma of a man and didn’t seem tough. Biden was excellent at debating and an attack dog in his prime. He would have beat Trump a second time if he had his wits about him and didn’t make all those old man gaffes. We lost basically due to aging.

Yep I am 35. So for me I’m in what I believe is a decent place in life for this. Even then it’s still a big change and feels very special and unique, like a milestone you reach in life. Who knows, I’m not an idealist. I don’t take things super seriously nor place high expectations, as life is like a river with many bends and many unknowns. It’s right for me now and with what I can reason. So I want to do it.

If you are choosing to mire your mind in cynicism then no, it’s not the truth. But I think you also are aware that creating false hope is a form of avoidance to the truth as well. You’ve just swung too far now the opposite side. Come back to the middle. Yes it’s true that there is uncertainty when it comes to relationships, that there can be all sorts of ups and downs in them and often times if you set up expectations reality won’t match up with your idea with how relationships should be. You can definitely see more clearly and find what you value about relationships and want from them. I can tell you now that even though relationships can get very messy, even the most loving marriages have broken down, they still are worth it sometimes. And yes, choosing yourself is still always part of the equation, I think it’s fundamental. It doesn’t have to be all these extremes. It’s possible to accept the reality of relationships, yourself, all the ups and downs that come with them and still find rewards in them.

Thanks!!! Thing is though most partners aren't neutral. Most women won't just "be together with you." They want to get married after some time or walk because it's a waste of their time. Have a child or children, build a family, stability, formal agreements, etc. So if you value those things then you should get married. Just being together is fine but it doesn't always segue into fully committing to something, which is what the decision of marriage brings you into vs just getting your toes wet. Just being together usually doesn't lead to a deeper relationship.

As long as you avoid the strip it's really just like any other tier 2 or 3 car heavy US city. The nature is quite interesting I think. I personally was really surprised by how much I enjoyed the desert. It's worth exploring but not for the culture or people but the nature and native history.

I agree with you. I'm not convinced they have grown more than what life has thrown at me. But they are valid experiences and can def be used to learn things when used in a positive way.

Thanks so much. I got her to agree to a very affordable wedding and a dress she could wear more than once. Because I think we both are starting to realizing this lifestyle that’s sold by society where you need all this expensive stuff and to follow all these traditions actually aren’t great for building a long term marriage. Can save and use that cash to put a down payment on a house, go on an amazing holiday, etc. thanks again for your kind words.

You are not fooling me here. And I can tell there are a number of other people here that can see through your defense system here. When you wish to be more honest you can make another thread and we can discuss all the unfairness you dislike and help you make peace with them.

A man has no job for anyone but himself. Do not do this for women. Do it for yourself. Women benefiting from this is just a byproduct of you taking good care of yourself first. Don’t look for women to extend understanding to your faulty belief system of being inadequate. Ultimately you will have to extend these teachings to your woman too because a lot of the time they would benefit a good bit from it as well. It’s a form of emotional manipulation by crying and expecting people to constantly bend to your wishes because you feel sad.

I am getting married in the autumn. It’s the right choice for me in this moment, even amongst all the other desires I have such as sex with other beautiful women. Staying single and chasing women has its perks, putting this energy into a long term relationship also has its perks. It’s always a grass is greener on the other side situation when you starting contemplating what value it brings you. Both scenarios are valid life paths, don’t fret about getting it right or wrong. When I did the single thing, I saw my life as shallow and longed for deeper connection. In an LTR, I create fomo about all the hot bitches I could be slamming and missing the adventurous nature of new passions and new women. Pick your FOMO. For me long term makes more sense for my spiritual growth and long term career plans. I also value family, love her as a person, she’s my best friend, and I generally enjoy being with her. We can only live in the present moment and I believe it’s right for my life to make this choice. Maybe for you, you see yourself benefiting from being open to different women and finding something better each time, I don’t know. Don’t take it too seriously either. I think the most honest relationships take into account that they could end one day due to people growing apart and wanting different things. I’m not naive. The most honest and long term marriages don’t deny this possibility.

This forum is tainted with red pill ideology. I’ve fed this before as well and am in the process of letting this belief system go. This is ultimately a self sabotaging belief system if you plan to have a long term relationship with a woman and enjoy your life together. I am definitely not saying to go into blind hope when it comes to navigating the reality of the different needs we have and finding harmony in that. You are not growing by hyper studying unfairnesses and differences between men and women. You’re creating a self fulfilling prophecy that your ego/inner child will use to find evidence for why it wants to grind an axe.

I too am getting tired of this “women don’t care about truth as much as men” narrative that’s constantly popping up here. What that’s really saying is “women don’t seek how I do therefore I’m more right than them.” No one gender or sex or general human distinction cares more about what’s true than the other.

My parents live there. I went the first time last spring. It's nice but I don't think I'd stay there unless I had a nice house and kids. I don't care for car cities. It's a very cool place to explore though. I really like the desert nature, but prefer trees. I think it sort of lacks culture though and third places. I can't imagine dating there if you value long term monogamy. I have mixed feelings on this city.