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Remember to work on your belief system. Your day to day wellbeing should be your top priority but you should also have the wisdom to admit you don’t really know anything even after awakening, and to get straight with what is unfolding within you. If you have painful emotions then you need to actively resolve what issues you are choosing to create, but then further more be responsible and take appropriate action over what you believe is right and true and in alignment with the intentions you set. This is how to you escape society and return to nature. Do you want to experience society or nature? You don’t have to cut yourself off from society nor not take part in it in order to escape it. Return to nature, the flow. This will resolve your inner doubt and return self esteem in yourself and your faculties. Integrate the lower and allow it to play its role with the higher guiding, both create a balance to live life beautifully.

guys remember to leave a little room mentally into what views you are sharing. I do agree with most of you that humanity does not live with integrity. Many people do not and commerce and capitalism are filled with dishonesty and a lack of integrity. But that doesn’t mean we as spiritual beings have to. We are lucky in the sense that we are on the spiritual path and I can tell you now when you align your energies and mind with what’s true, resolve any beliefs or mental issues, and then lastly align your action with integrity, survival becomes less painful and you gain the ability to live in Wu Wei and harness the law of attraction. So just because some people living dishonestly and exploiting people for money does not mean we have to in order to live up to our highest and true potential and transcend survival. You or I are not responsible for the collective which is just going as it go, no one is in control of anything in this sense, it’s just unfolding. Focus on you and focus on what you choose to believe and focus on how hard or easy you are making life for yourself. Just because you see people disconnecting form truth doesn’t mean you have to. Stay committed and engaged and responsible and connected to spirit, you will always have peace of mind and see beauty and value even in all the challenges humanity faces.

Bro I’m reading your posts and am starting to wonder if you’re playing a gimmick here at this point or if you’ve actually been with a woman for any meaningful period of time

Embrace simplicity for issues like this. I’ve experienced ED when with my ex, when some issue would not resolve it would be hard to get aroused because this stress and pain in the relationship would get in the way. I was out of integrity and it was hard having sex. We would sometimes do cocaine to have sex, it was not healthy dynamic.. It’s as simple as that. It’s not hard getting aroused if your belief system is clear and you are in flow. I also would only sleep with beautiful women that are my type. There was a woman I slept with who had an amazing body but she wasn’t my type so I was super unaroused. You said it yourself, out of integrity, have sex when you know it’s right and you won’t have ED, unless it’s purely a physiological issue.

I can relate man, you ain’t the only one on this path. I am coming out of a relationship with a woman I’ve chose to be addicted to. I’m in the process of building a business. Let’s accept uncertainty. It’s the fertile ground which allows for possibilities. Let’s accept change, without it we would never grow. Let’s accept redirection, the world is too big to control, wouldn’t it be more peaceful going with the flow? take this analogy of a sailer; the sailer can not control the ocean or weather, but with wisdom sail to here he desires. Life redirected you on your career, life has redirected me on my relationship. Let’s go into this with an open mind and heart. its so unbelievably cliche but really open your mind and heart, you will see new possibilities from this redirection and one day look back and laugh at how seriously you took it. You won’t care or regret anything in a bit of time when you’re on your new chapter. Just have gratitude.

I read it once. It’s good. I will reread it.

Nah, fairness isn’t a straight line down the middle it’s a ying yang symbol i def think it’s the man’s role to support his woman financially and be able to solve most of her survival issues if he wants to have sexual freedom and leadership in the relationship, which is what most men desire same with having mistresses. Most men want a girlfriend or wife and then one or two other women just for sex on the side

You guys are wild for hating on anal sex. Anal sex is fine (and beautiful) but it’s not a casual thing to do, imo for a relationship only. Most straight men love anal and want to do it with their girlfriend,

Woke up today and I’m doing alright I asked myself something like this “so I probably will choose to think about this for the next couple days if not weeks” “yes” “why?” im going to self inquire on this.

You’re projecting your own problems. I’m not saying no one struggles with their porn use but you you have to realize not everyone has a problem balancing this part of reality with their life. Just because you have problems watching porn doesn’t mean it causes the same problems for everyone else.

Porn is a form of entertainment and does satisfy certain bodily needs. The women in porn are often unbelievably beautiful. It’s definitely not garbage to want to see unbelievably beautiful women having sex. I’ve had a ton of sex in my life and have had an abundant access to sex with very beautiful women for about 7 years now and I still enjoy porn.

Everything really is connected from this perspective and I accept this. I don’t think we need to purity test everything but just focus on ourselves and try to be as honest as possible. I think porn will have some degree of people being dishonest and mistreating people but at the same time also have honesty to it and allow opportunities for people. A close friend of mine did porn and only fans and she sits in over 300k followers on instagram. She’s actually quite grateful for the adult industry and it’s afforded her and amazing life based off her natural beauty. I think we can engage with all aspects of life honestly to the best of our ability and we don’t have to go to such radical extremes to transcend. I like porn too, ok I’ll watch porn that’s well made and wasn’t made through exploitation. I eat animals too, I’ll try to not waste meat and choose meat that was once part of an animal that was treated well.

Thanks for sharing and I agree. I like your cat story as well and to be honest it isn’t so different from what I’m experiencing. I agree I think I need to really let her go and grieve and allow this inner resolution to unfold. I accept this has ended. I do not accept it has ended, but I am accepting that I do not accept this has ended. I do not accept she is gone but I accept I do not accept she is gone. I’m creating longing and will self inquire on this. I think the reason losing a loved one due to a break up can be so devastating and challenging is because there’s just so many dynamics that come to the surface. All the relationship issues and unresolved stuff, inner child issues, logistical stuff for example one person realizes how they have been neglecting their career due to this relationship, kids and money and divorce papers, just all this stuff that needs to be dealt with. I think I’m in a very good position in life given this break up. It hasn’t ruined me financially and I did not have kids with her. I think now it’s really being present for myself and understanding to myself and really listening, without going to extremes.

IC = Inner child ME = Adult me IC: I cannot accept my ex is not prioritizing me anymore. ME: Why do I want to be with someone who won’t prioritize me? IC: I don’t believe I can do better ME: Why do I believe I cannot do better than her, a person who does not want to prioritize me anymore? IC: because I believe there is no one else like her ME: I do agree that there is no one else like her, every human is unique, why does that prove that I cannot do better than her? Wouldn’t the next person I’m with be unique and no one else like them? IC: Yes, the next woman would be unique and no one else like them, but I’m not sure I will meet someone I will want to love as much as her. ME: If I believe it is absolutely true that I will never meet another woman that I will want to love as much as her, then I absolutely should keep fighting for her. I did some self inquiry and had a breakthrough, i realized the belief holding me back is that I believe I won't find a woman that I will want to love as much as her. I found the video above and am going to focus on this perspective. Can any of you speak on this? Please only if you have actual lived experience similar to mine and not some goofy ideology about game. If you went through the end of a long term relationship and then one day you met someone else you loved as much as your ex, if not more so. Is this possible? My inner child believes it's not exactly possible or at least the chances are low but my adult mind knows I could meet another woman I will love just as much as my ex and be able to build an even longer lasting relationship built on honesty and integrity. When did you turn the leaf on this belief that you may not meet someone you want to love as much as your ex? I loved this woman like the sun, we became one for years, we were everything until we weren't

wow thanks, I looked it up and this channel seems really helpful.

Thanks for the replies and different perspectives everyone. This experience has been one of my greatest teachers. That one girl who was so special and beautiful can be really hard to let go. I am not going to pretend like I’m a player even thought I do have other options. We have these beliefs we hold and I know there is a degree of believing she completes me. Very normal I think when you grow so close. I think many of you can relate when you’ve spent years with someone. Working on so many issues together. So much sex and reflections of love. It really is like a family member going away.

So it’s good that you agree that you create your own emotions through your thoughts and beliefs. That right there is a huge step. You would be surprised how many people believe they are a victim to their state and think they have little to no control over how they feel. 1. Ok these are good answers and I’m glad you’re not filtering what you’re writing and speaking honestly because I can tell you that is how you find your way back to peace, clarity, and wholeness. “well because, I haven't achieved enough to feel like I am good enough” So you believe a person has to achieve something in order to be good enough? Is that true? What do they have to achieve? According to who? Does this rule apply to every human or just to you? What if someone you loved and cared about came up to you, perhaps a child, and said they aren’t good enough because they haven’t achieved something, would you agree with them and tell them they aren’t good enough? “I know this reeks as the most superficial statement which goes against the whole love yourself unconditionally idea, and I am aware it is wrong intellectually, but I am just saying what I deep down feel I suppose.” Dude this is good that you’re being honest cause like I said this is how you find your way back to truth. You aren’t sugar coating it. This is something I hear a lot too that someone intellectually understands but deep down they feel differently. This is where we can do self inquiry and dig deep to really understand what some people call the subconscious mind / ego / inner child believes. The sub conscious mind or ego or what I call the inner child is that sort of part of the mind that has an identity that is formed by beliefs going way back or childhood. And it order to return you to clarity we have to go back and sort of reverse engineer it to sort of release any beliefs that sort of go against your true nature, what I believe is that you (and everyone else) have innate spiritual value, true value, it can’t be given to you nor taken away. It’s intrinsic and just always here if we allow ourselves to connect with it. The belief you have about needing to earn your value goes against this belief I stated. So now either I’m right and you’re wrong or you’re right and I’m wrong. So I invite you to tell me why you believe a person has to achieve enough in order to be good enough? 2. “Again I will give the superficial answer that I feel deep down, which is, feeling ugly and lots of rejection from girls, maybe as well the fact that my father abandoned us since I was young?,” Again, I personally wouldn’t call that superficial but instead you’re being honest. And I can see why you’re sort of having this issue you’re having. Because on one hand you have these lofty ideas and beliefs you think you’re supposed to believe and feel but then deep down you actually feel how you describe here and this is your experience. So you have two belief systems at odds with one another. Let’s break this down more and maybe it can help you go deeper to return to integrity on this. Why do you create an emotion you label as “feeling ugly”? Give me a belief or an explanation, please don’t give an emotion. It’s very easy to get stuck on the emotion but it’s the belief that’s causing it. W “Lots of rejections from girls” ok so I believe a girl cannot reject you. A girl can communicate her choice to you on whether or not she wishes to be with you but it’s not possible for her to reject you, the reason is because the word reject has the connotation that your value has been affect, but like I said I believe everyone has innate spiritual value which can not ever change no matter what. So a woman communicating her choice to you does not change your value. “maybe as well the fact that my father abandoned us since I was young?” I think this is where you should be focusing most. Do you believe if a child is left by a father that they are unlovable? If a parent abandons a child, does that mean the child is unlovable? If a child said to you they believe they are unlovable because their father left them would you tell them they are correct? I believe we are always lovable because we have true value that can’t be given or taken away. I believe love is not a commodity that can be given or taken away but it’s something we experience when we connect to our true value. Again, either im right or you’re wrong or you’re right and I’m wrong. This isn’t a debate or anything. I’m just trying to break down the logic behind your beliefs that are creating these painful emotions and confusion for you. I’m trying to show you the power of self inquiry and how you can resolve many of these issues by just questioning them. So I invite you to please explain why you believe if a father leaves a family that the child is now unlovable? Why do you believe this?

Does it have to take years though? Seems like the only thing keeping it that way is myself if I choose so. I’m already open minded some to new experiences. The thing is I do know what I want in a woman to some extent. Some of it is what she was like, some of it is different, I’m also open to being surprised. I know there won’t be another like her cause every person is unique but also I know I can find someone who fulfills everything like she did, perhaps even more.

Remember that you are not a victim. You are the creator of your emotions, not the victim of it. Any painful emotions or confusion you are experiencing now are of your own creation and they are done so through your beliefs. This is really crucial I found to resolving and working with hard times like this. Are you aware that your own finger is on the button? I’m not saying this to be hard on you, it’s just absolutely crucial in order to find resolution and return to both peace of mind and clarity. It’s very easy for that human minded side of us to want to sit in painful emotions and want to feel bad. What we have to do is sort of get in touch with our inner sage, the spiritual parent to help take care of our inner child. 1) you say you don’t believe you are good enough. Why? I believe you are good enough. Now either you’re right about being not good enough or I’m right that you are good enough. What evidence that you have that proves you are not good enough? 2) why do you believe you are not lovable? I believe you are. So again, what evidence do you have that proves that you are unlovable? 3) ok so you have this belief that you can cope and survive, which I agree I believe you can too. I think your main area of focus should be on resolving any beliefs you have on your self worth and value. It looks like you aren’t fully connected to your true value. I would look to do self inquiry and really hone in on why you don’t believe you are good enough or lovable. What makes a person good enough and lovable? the good thing about a situation like this is even though it seems so complicated, in actuality it usually just boils down to a few unresolved issues we have about our self worth

https://youtube.com/@alexhormozi?si=sCsCaXUGLxcWAVp6 This guy. He says he’s worth 100 million USD. There are so many people scamming and lying in this field. It’s generally not an honest field so I’m trying to learn raw business and marketing from an honest person. The issue I’ve encountered is to start learning I need to invest a decent amount of time into it but sooner or later I may realize the person I’m listening to is a liar. So where can you learn actual raw business skills and marketing from someone who is honest and not lying about their pedigree?

I'm going through something similar, although I would use different wording. I'm in the process of rebuilding my life. And this has many facets to it, health, money, passion, vocation, women, family, inner child work, dreams. you know we have all these things to juggle in your life. Money is a big part of mine since my income has dried up. I want to create my YouTube channel and build my social media and earn money online. I need skills and to create great videos for this. On top of that I have bills in the meantime. I can tell you, I know it sometimes seems like we are in a maze, or there are 4 walls around us, but there's always a way out. I think the most important thing to believe in though is yourself 1. Do you believe you are good enough? 2. Do you believe you are lovable? 3. Do you believe you can cope and survive, really thrive? Most importantly, do you believe you are whole and one? Not to get airy fairy but do you nurture your devine essence daily? It's simple, really love yourself and believe that you are worthy and whole. I think this is the core most belief, if you are to believe anything. Nurture this belief. Do so by being honest. I think then from there, really split your life up into simple tasks. What areas of your life do you need to focus on? Just break it down into 2-3 things. Then make a list of tasks / habits that are most important for each and do them, be honest by prioritizing them and not doing stuff which goes against them like getting drunk every night. Lastly do self reflection weekly, check in once a week how the week went and if you're headed in the right direction. I'm doing this above and slowly my clarity is returning. It's so easy to just give all your qi and wellness away by having a very broad focus and overloading your belief system with tons of shit. strip your spirituality down. no need to read philosophy. Go simple. Taoism I found is the most effective school of thought for just stripping shit down and living a healthy and fulfilling day to day life. Look into Wu Wei. Focus on you!

Why do you want to leave your body? I would personally be more focus on nurturing it and finding balance with it. Cause at times it can be hard to experience body.

I had a conversation with my parents yesterday and it was challenging for my inner child cause I realized how far apart I’ve grown from them. I live in an entirely different country. I have my career and path to focus on. My siblings all live in different places. We all have different interests and stuff we are focusing on in our lives. My dad is 74 years old. I really only have it in me to visit once every year or two due to the distance and where I’m at in life. I can see how time really changes everyone and that once whole family we grew up in as children will one day split up. Mine basically has, not sure we will all get together again, maybe? It doesn’t seem at the time it will happen but eventually it does. I suppose this is where Wu Wei comes in and practicing non attachment and acceptance for change. It’s a little hard to accept though. Can anyone relate?

Stop these stupid word games and focus on your life and you will discover love in the divine sense and realize how real you are.

Categorically false. Israel never has had any intention to make the Palestinians a part of their country. Their right wing does not allow for that and the left wing knows how untenable that is. It’s a Jewish state by their own definition. The demographics would completely change if they did that and Israel claims it’s a democracy. How do you imagine elections being held with a majority of Palestinians voting now? They want an apartheid state, to greatly limit the rights of Palestinians through military force, and to slowly ethnically clean the original inhabitants off the stolen land that is now called Israel.