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People who line up to take photos in a famous spot

nah oversized is where it's at though tbh most people have no business wearing anything tight fitting given their physique (including me).

Ayahuasca community is generally a very immature, childish, and unknowledgeable group of people who make poor choices to resolve inner issues. It’s a super powerful psychedelic and when you enter that sort of new age space that drinks it you don’t have the language or the tools to really resolve much. It’s incoherent and a very messy community. A lot of people drink and think it’s going to solve all their problems in life. I briefly entered this phase years ago when I first got into psychedelics and it’s no joke, and I can say now you either make it to the other side more advanced or on occasion some people who aren’t able to do this revert down to Christianity because of the stability.

Damn, this old guy got seduced by all the “here’s the part most people miss which you understand” ass kissing built into every response.

I started reading that Cal Newport book and to be honest I didn’t take as much from it as some of you so I put it down after a few chapters. I actually disagree with what I read to a degree based on the terms I think in. When I say passion I don’t mean a whimsical feeling or the fun you’re having when playing the sport you enjoyed with the boys in high school or some near sided fling with a hot woman. I mean clear inner guidance given to you by expanding your consciousness and awakening and living based on principles that allow you to be more authentic while still maintaining your stability. Usually comes with trial and error and it’s not always entirely clear because life is always changing. I think doing 100% raw skill pursuits can be authentic to you if it you’re able to authentically make that choice with yourself without self sabotage and fear heavily shaping your choices. I’m inclusive of all paths. I just think Cal’s claim is limited the way he goes about things. From what I gathered it was a book that read like a guy trying to convince himself he was on his authentic path doing work that’s soul draining which most corporate work is and which this book was based around. Prof Scott Galloway thinks in the same “means to an end” skills terms and idk I think this line of thinking fits a very materially cognitive person who maybe highly values material success first above all else since he seems happy, prof Scott seems like an authentic guy suited for the exact path he is on and life he has built, he does not seem to have an ounce of interest in pushing the envelope of his worldview or awakening. I think if you are a highly sensitive person or an artist or have a lot of heart felt energy or are more suited for awakening it’s awful advice.

posting his christian stuff as a cope I guess

I have a theory Covid broke a lot of people mentally. Putin with his invasion for example. I don’t think it would have happened if not for Covid. From what I read he was isolated the whole time reading Russian nationalism revisionist history. A lot of people got huge egos over Covid.

Don’t over analyze these models. What he said is correct. What is here now is the most important thing happening, and you are always exactly where you are supposed to be. Washing the dishes isn’t some glitch where you fucked up along the way and are now having to devote time towards stuff you aren’t supposed to be doing. There isn’t some absolute hierarchy of how you spend your time in the sense that one moment is less valuable compared to others. There are just moments and in each one remembrance, and from this you have a canvas where you can create a life that is authentic and important to you and delights your soul. Zen recognizes this. Reality is open to everything and jsut because it doesn’t align to how you think it should be it doesn’t mean you are not walking your authentic path. Life purpose is a tricky word because it can carry a lot of hidden expectations about how we think things should be. Life purpose is not some grand destiny that’s charted out. It’s alive, constantly evolving, not entirely knowable, embracing uncertainty and going with the flow while using your faculties to chart and plan the way. It’s discovering what you’re good at through trial and error and delighting in surprises of what happens when you embrace your talents and authentic self. It’s being keen enough to ride waves of luck when you are able to catch them and capitalizing on different opportunities.

Probably 50% of all people have made some sort of mistake to do with sex/dating. Ranging from minor things like making a girl uncomfortable cause you have no game to major things. Not to excuse his behavior though. Just recognize that it isn’t exclusive just to elites but all people. Sex/dating requires responsibility. Sleeping with a 16 yo when you 30 is a pretty big mistake. Was 20 years ago. I imagine he has grown a ton since. He’s reverting to a lower stage of development though since when the going gets tough it’s quite familiar to go back go something that absolves you like Christianity.

I think the reaction to his behavior is appropriate. I don’t believe anyone is innately bad nor do I think my value is higher than any one person. Every person is innately valuable and worthy of love. You can judge the behavior and recognize it is unaligned with spirit and dishonest.

I literally was watching this yesterday… it’s so ironic that this guy was so anti woke anti establishment, saying the elite are sick and after kids etc. then he supports Trump… Epstein’s best friend and of course is sleeping with a 16 yo when he’s 30….

Yeah really sorry to hear this. That’s not easy to accept. I related to what you said about not being angry or scared of death, just sad and worried about your family. That’s a good thing that this is the first thing you think about.

I've noticed a weird trend where some people who I saw as free thinkers and attuned to mystical states (usually keeping it relatively dogma/religious free) almost sort of revert to Christianity especially if they are western minded. what gives? Usually they are living a very material life.

I actually find the commitment and practice part to be much more rewarding than improvisation. I mean from the present moment we improvise, I do photography. I often just take my camera and go film. With a little distance and solitude though you can add some rhyme and reason to it. I definitely think there's room for both when making excellent art. Releasing control, letting things work out while simultaneously having intentions and your compass calibrated towards your truths.

Y'all yap way too much go get a job or something

We live in the unknown. All that arises comes from this and returns to this. Wouldn’t it be so boring if we didn’t?

I’m just saying that it lasts a lot longer than the cope a lot of red pill guys throw out there that women over 30 are spoiled. Def not true. There’s guys lining up to throw money and support at women well past 30. Like I’m taking probably until you need to be put into a nursing home. A lot of hot women eventually get sick of men though past a certain point and look to live their own life.

Nothing is ensured in life. We only can make reasonable observations. Being hot absolutely influences financial income flowing into your life in different forms. It’s like being born with a six figure standard of living (more or less) more often than not. How many hot homeless women have you seen? The one exception is maybe the occasional stripper? But to be honest even the prettiest ones I’ve met were making so much cash and were focused. The crazy homeless hot stripper is largely a trope from a movie. Most hot women can even sustain their addictions while receiving support from a man or simps.

Being born a beautiful woman in a developed country and relatively healthy family is like winning the lottery. You basically been born with a zero effort fast track to material comfort and all the social approval and attention you could ever want. Notice how there is not a single poor beautiful woman. I mean obviously there are broke beautiful women but the lot I’ve met still live relatively pretty well having a man pay for everything. Being a conventionally beautiful woman means you will always be taken care of. You basically have guaranteed insurance as long as your beauty hasn’t faded and even then that may be well into your 50s.

I also don’t feel so bad for this woman. She wasn’t drugged and she wasn’t forced with threats and violence. These guru chasers will happily hop on the dick of a guy in a powerful position because that’s what attracts them. She was manipulated but that is a far cry from rape. She clearly was aroused and attracted and consented to this sex. This is classic lack of responsibility on the woman’s behalf for choosing to engage in sex without integrity. Women need to take more responsibility for who they give sex to (they won’t).

What’s even the point of being a guru if you aren’t a sexpest or desire some sort of validation from others? Whether it be money or a hoard of people to extract wealth from? It’s largely a role for personal gain. I’m talking about gurus, where you create a hierarchy and bring in followers. Do not confuse this with teachers and masters who dismantle their hierarchy and leave a lot of empty space between them and how they move through the world. Have you guys even dealt with students and clients before who come to you to learn? They are annoying. The only reason to even keep these people around you is if you want something from them. It’s largely only pervs who try to get close to their students and set themselves up as a guru so they can extract sex, money and network for themselves. Not too different from the church but dressed up in eastern spirituality. Notice how Benito isn’t fucking fat women and men from his Satsang to heal them. I imagine you need to pay quite a bit of dollars to spend time with him if you aren’t a beautiful woman.

I would look beyond your emotions and keep your line of thinking simple. Inner issues are really not that complex but I don’t say this to dismiss your own unique story and challenges you’ve faced. You are getting lost in the emotion. There are beliefs and story behind this. What do you believe about yourself here?

The world just is. This is not a problem that you reason your way out of. Recognize that you believe the world should be different. Different for who? Only you? What about others? The rain falls on both the most beautiful field and the roof of the prison. Can you accept the world as it is? Sometimes I don’t want to. Start there. Listen and comfort yourself but don’t capitulate to the resistance and let it be your entire focus of the world.

@No1Here2c toss yours out as well bruh

I read NVC. It's a great book.