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I don’t think it’s something to overcome but rather take as part of the whole. Unless you got a large inheritance you probably are gonna need to role your sleeves up some and do a lot of work, especially with the way the world is headed. Don’t lose sight of your true value and spirit. You’re valuable no matter what. There is always the true power and love within to call upon when faced with obstacles in life.

From what I gather you have to be crazy delusional about how you will one day be successful, see a genuine need for why you need the money (true or not), and then develop valuable skills and accumulate assets that build wealth. It’s not a secret how to become a millionaire. Oh, also take into account it may be more or less difficult based on your background or foundation. You need basically a in-demand job and then invest it in real estate or a safe stock portfolio.

Funny how all the 2nd amendment people all through my life were all like "yeah we need guns and need to safeguard our democracy from a tyrannical government." And now there is one and they are in support of it... The lies and deceptions of the fascist MAGA right is truly disgusting and one for the history books. I really hope sensible people will wake up and truly come down on this movement and it's main supporters. I'm not holding my breathe though. What's even more shocking is how close half of the people in my life are just a stone throw away from being Nazis. Never would of guessed to be honest. Guess half of us really are fucked in the head and the only safegaurd from the darker tendencies of humanity is a thin line of norms called common curtesy and respect. Christianity is truly a joke by the way too.

It’s also just a lack of charisma and image. Look at Gavin Newsom. He genuinely appeals strong and straight forward. Listen to some of his interviews and rallies. Basically politicians need to tell a story, a non woke charismatic guy like Gavin Newsom who champions an anti-corruption campaign could work. I’m sorry but the two women that ran just appeared weak and nerdy. No one was remotely inspired or fired up by them. I think AOC as an attack dog could be a perfect running mate for Newsom. Biden would have beat Trump a second time if he was as coherent as he was in 2020. He simply was just so old. People keep analyzing this thing so much but it’s really just so straight forward. Harris lacked charisma of a man and didn’t seem tough. Biden was excellent at debating and an attack dog in his prime. He would have beat Trump a second time if he had his wits about him and didn’t make all those old man gaffes. We lost basically due to aging.

Yep I am 35. So for me I’m in what I believe is a decent place in life for this. Even then it’s still a big change and feels very special and unique, like a milestone you reach in life. Who knows, I’m not an idealist. I don’t take things super seriously nor place high expectations, as life is like a river with many bends and many unknowns. It’s right for me now and with what I can reason. So I want to do it.

If you are choosing to mire your mind in cynicism then no, it’s not the truth. But I think you also are aware that creating false hope is a form of avoidance to the truth as well. You’ve just swung too far now the opposite side. Come back to the middle. Yes it’s true that there is uncertainty when it comes to relationships, that there can be all sorts of ups and downs in them and often times if you set up expectations reality won’t match up with your idea with how relationships should be. You can definitely see more clearly and find what you value about relationships and want from them. I can tell you now that even though relationships can get very messy, even the most loving marriages have broken down, they still are worth it sometimes. And yes, choosing yourself is still always part of the equation, I think it’s fundamental. It doesn’t have to be all these extremes. It’s possible to accept the reality of relationships, yourself, all the ups and downs that come with them and still find rewards in them.

Thanks!!! Thing is though most partners aren't neutral. Most women won't just "be together with you." They want to get married after some time or walk because it's a waste of their time. Have a child or children, build a family, stability, formal agreements, etc. So if you value those things then you should get married. Just being together is fine but it doesn't always segue into fully committing to something, which is what the decision of marriage brings you into vs just getting your toes wet. Just being together usually doesn't lead to a deeper relationship.

As long as you avoid the strip it's really just like any other tier 2 or 3 car heavy US city. The nature is quite interesting I think. I personally was really surprised by how much I enjoyed the desert. It's worth exploring but not for the culture or people but the nature and native history.

I agree with you. I'm not convinced they have grown more than what life has thrown at me. But they are valid experiences and can def be used to learn things when used in a positive way.

Thanks so much. I got her to agree to a very affordable wedding and a dress she could wear more than once. Because I think we both are starting to realizing this lifestyle that’s sold by society where you need all this expensive stuff and to follow all these traditions actually aren’t great for building a long term marriage. Can save and use that cash to put a down payment on a house, go on an amazing holiday, etc. thanks again for your kind words.

You are not fooling me here. And I can tell there are a number of other people here that can see through your defense system here. When you wish to be more honest you can make another thread and we can discuss all the unfairness you dislike and help you make peace with them.

A man has no job for anyone but himself. Do not do this for women. Do it for yourself. Women benefiting from this is just a byproduct of you taking good care of yourself first. Don’t look for women to extend understanding to your faulty belief system of being inadequate. Ultimately you will have to extend these teachings to your woman too because a lot of the time they would benefit a good bit from it as well. It’s a form of emotional manipulation by crying and expecting people to constantly bend to your wishes because you feel sad.

I am getting married in the autumn. It’s the right choice for me in this moment, even amongst all the other desires I have such as sex with other beautiful women. Staying single and chasing women has its perks, putting this energy into a long term relationship also has its perks. It’s always a grass is greener on the other side situation when you starting contemplating what value it brings you. Both scenarios are valid life paths, don’t fret about getting it right or wrong. When I did the single thing, I saw my life as shallow and longed for deeper connection. In an LTR, I create fomo about all the hot bitches I could be slamming and missing the adventurous nature of new passions and new women. Pick your FOMO. For me long term makes more sense for my spiritual growth and long term career plans. I also value family, love her as a person, she’s my best friend, and I generally enjoy being with her. We can only live in the present moment and I believe it’s right for my life to make this choice. Maybe for you, you see yourself benefiting from being open to different women and finding something better each time, I don’t know. Don’t take it too seriously either. I think the most honest relationships take into account that they could end one day due to people growing apart and wanting different things. I’m not naive. The most honest and long term marriages don’t deny this possibility.

This forum is tainted with red pill ideology. I’ve fed this before as well and am in the process of letting this belief system go. This is ultimately a self sabotaging belief system if you plan to have a long term relationship with a woman and enjoy your life together. I am definitely not saying to go into blind hope when it comes to navigating the reality of the different needs we have and finding harmony in that. You are not growing by hyper studying unfairnesses and differences between men and women. You’re creating a self fulfilling prophecy that your ego/inner child will use to find evidence for why it wants to grind an axe.

I too am getting tired of this “women don’t care about truth as much as men” narrative that’s constantly popping up here. What that’s really saying is “women don’t seek how I do therefore I’m more right than them.” No one gender or sex or general human distinction cares more about what’s true than the other.

My parents live there. I went the first time last spring. It's nice but I don't think I'd stay there unless I had a nice house and kids. I don't care for car cities. It's a very cool place to explore though. I really like the desert nature, but prefer trees. I think it sort of lacks culture though and third places. I can't imagine dating there if you value long term monogamy. I have mixed feelings on this city.

Nah it’s much more sinister. They don’t want to pay for poor black people’s healthcare. They are just too selfish and stupid. They would rather blame a black person than recognize their entire system funnels money away from them to a select few who have all the power and keep eveyone poor. I guess Trump voters will just have to get poorer and poorer and things will have to get worse before people start to question all the capitalism propaganda and wake up.

Nothing about capitalism is a self sustaining lifestyle.

The electorate is dumb as fucking shit and doesn’t understand when it comes to any truthful or nuanced discussion of politics, economics or anything based in truth. They elected Donald Trump. Don’t ever let anyone gaslight you into thinking what’s going on now is normal or rational. It will be remembered by historians as a dark and dystopian time filled with wealth inequality and a massive tragedy of the commons. He’s just being contrarian and setting up some hurdles to try and sound like he “got ya”, devils advocate type points.

Generally speaking it’s fine but also has associated health risks and is a dead end. It’s like fast food. You can rarely indulge and not have any issues but if you build your diet around it you will have issues.

I have my life purpose, my passions and things I enjoy. That’s all good and fine and I focus on those when I can, which is often. I also have to earn money, pay bills and give consideration towards my future which would greatly benefit from financial wellbeing (home ownership, family expenses, health, etc.) The thing is I’m entirely unsure what to do for money… I want to switch careers and do something more interesting and important to me. I have my current career (ESL) which has allowed me to travel and has payed well at times, but it’s becoming more competitive and the pay isn’t rising. So I’m sort of in a situation in life where I could tell you how to go into ESL teaching, I have information new people starting out would find helpful, but apart from that I’m not sure what else I have that would earn me decent money. With what I have my best bet is to get further certified to earn better money. Realistically it’s the most obvious and best way to improve my career, but deep down I wish I hand another way to earn money and have the same benefits. How to move forward when you have reached what you see as a dead end in a career, I’m in my mid 30s so I only have so much time and resources, I can’t keep trying new things every year and never settling on anything. I want to build some mastery. My life purpose and passions is making videos and doing photography of tracking and inspiring people to grow through travel and just travel na story new things in general. But I am not placing expectations on this to earn me money. I will grow it of course and give it ny all but I believe it will become clear when I’m ready to monetize. And even if I do it’s not certain it will pay my bills like a traditional career will. anyone else reach a dead in your finances and work and are unsure what to do next?

They are and it’s why I don’t think it’s likely there will be a total war between east vs west. Politicians are crazy though. I think we are bound to see all sorts of proxy conflicts play out until people wake up and return to diplomacy.

Nothing new here. It’s been clear for a while now this is somewhat of a proxy war for China. They have been reserved with support through weapons but they will tow a line as to not heavily implicate themselves but also give enough business to Russia in order to keep them from losing. Russia would face a lot more set backs in sanctions were done in coordination with China. Smaller states get crushed in the wake of bigger ones.

Bro cry about it. Nothing new here. Sex with women of course is valued more than the other way around. Life is filled with differences and unfairnesses. Just make your peace with it and move on. There are a ton of sluts out there and they are able to achieve what they want through sex and get their needs met while you will have to do more and adapt. That’s life.

Dating has always been about people making the best of it for themselves. It definitely isn’t communism that’s for sure. There are unfairnesses in it. But you can still make it work and find someone you want to actually be friends with and love and who shows you they love you. I agree that most men have really not only given up but sold their soul to do the most childish shit I’ve ever seen in my life. Onlyfans and Grown men collecting Pokémon cards… the USA is TOAST. Do not blame women for YOU COLLECTING POKÉMON CARDS AND DONATING TO TWITCH STREAMERS. There are lots of leeches and scammers feasting on the carcasses of young men today. It’s sad, but they have to take responsibility and realize life ain’t fair. We can still make it fantastic. Gymcels are putting in work but they don’t use their brain and figure out what really matters. A lot of young men come off creepy and weird, just read some of the replies in this thread and similar ones here.