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Can anyone else relate to having a conservative parent who is simply just unenjoyable or not relatable? My dad is in the USA and is conservative (self proclaimed independent) and he is just a very unpleasant person to talk to. Not always but maybe 75% of the time. He constantly references immigrants coming over the border, he wants lots of control, he has a lot of very negative and limiting beliefs. Half the conversations we have end up referencing USA politics in some way. He isn’t fun to talk to at all but he isn’t like an entirely rotten person. He does say supportive things about how I live my life and how I enjoy to travel and he has his moments where you can see he’s aligned with the way. I got off the phone with him today and I was reminded why I only go back once every other year to visit. On top of that it doesn’t seem like he has put so much care into me coming to visit because he doesn’t have a place for me to stay. I can see now why my girlfriend will have an inner child / ego reaction when I don’t think of her. I also had a talk with him about my videos and he thought it was cool but he had very cold comments like “so many people are doing it so it’s flooded and difficult, you have to have some other talent than just making videos.” Which I do agree with, many too creators show off some skill they already have or some amazing body they were gifted with which they can then use to sell diets programs. I’m making videos on travel which requires authenticity and allowing stories to tell themselves, you see all the best travel content creators just focus on the people and being genuine and honest about their interactions and just having fun while the videos are sort of an afterthought. I think I’m rambling a bit but it’s definitely my inner child. I know I have to love and look after myself when I’m around my 74 year old dad who only sees negative things and rarely acknowledges all the possibilities and the authenticity in taking risks and doing what we are passionate about even when it’s unclear where it will lead us. I do agree with him though, I’m not quitting my day job until my channel is so big I can do it full time. Can anyone else relate to this? Having an older parent that is just very closed down and living through all their past problems? I don’t want to live my life like this, I want to embrace each challenge and still keep my joy.

A lot of issues men face in dating is they have unrealistic expectations, this is not living aligned with truth. A lot of men will find out the women they are taking to aren’t as aligned with them as they believe and they then label everything as “misleading” or they realize that the dynamics between men and women has aspects of a pay to play system, needs and value exchanges, with no real oversight. But that is dating. Dating isn’t rules based order. Having realistic expectations about women, how you want to live your life, your boundaries, how money will be handled, how different paths between both people will be discussed. And in addition to that we aren’t given guarantees on anything. That’s life. We can live in accordance with reality and when we do that, that is being honest, not imposing our ideas of purity on reality.

What do you mean by “if you dare tell women the truth?” I don’t understand this. I think you can be honest and truthful and still do just fine dating. A lot of people believe that being honest is confessing and almost like exposing themselves to constant reproach by making themselves an open book. But having your own personal boundaries isn’t being dishonest. The thing is a lot of men were raised and told they have to be good, and their idea of good is almost sort of sacrificing themselves. To me this is not being truthful, navigating life of a way where you subject yourself to being split apart by competing interests is not being honest. You can definitely have a very balanced idea of honesty and integrity in your relationships and consider all factors when making considerations. Truth is not exactly pinning yourself to a cross like Jesus. The thing is many guys that get red pilled thought things would go their way, they had expectations that were untrue. So when they find out a woman is human and is alive and has her own needs and values to help support her own life and ambitions, they are shocked when they don’t necessarily align with that can can’t find someone who wants to be with them. I think we need to really define what we consider honesty in relationships, which I consider open and balanced communication that is appropriate for the relationship itself. Many guys do not make appropriate decisions and it’s equally a part of being honest as is saying what’s on your mind and not lying. You have to build up those skills and they require many considerations. The problem is guys just expected things to be their way even if they are just a wallflower who hasn’t worked on themselves.

Why the fuck is the USA still writing checks to Israel

I’ve been to China and as a foreigner I found it incredibly interesting. I think living there is very different. There’s a lot of people who really don’t take the time to understand China. I can also tell you that the USA has lost a ton of credibility and integrity with its criticisms of China considering who is president now. We are just economic competitors and we are intertwined as well so there is no getting rid of the other.

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Some of y'all are crazy but that's ok, you gotta be a little crazy to value spirituality and make it a central focus of one's life. thanks!

Claude is amazing for this and self inquiry. I have a whole project set up I use to understand my beliefs and so self inquiry with.

I’m not saying there isn’t any nut jobs on the left but this is a false comparison. Right wing brain rot and conservative ideologies are far more combative, oppressive and destructive to relationships, people and the planet by a wide margin compared to the nut jobs on the left Well yeah, of course. Like every child deep down wishes from their parents. But I’ve accepted I won’t get that from him nor should I build my life or perspective around being reliant on my dad’s support or approval (or anyone for that matter). He’s stuck in his ways and no amount of talking to him will change that. He has to want to change himself if he wants to change, all I can do is accept life for what it is.

All this doomer crap everywhere. Yea things will change and it will be very hard. Humans are incredibly resilient. Koreans are very proud of their country. They will survive. Bet on it.

Yes, this definitely is part of it. I think this may be one of the reasons there is a such a disconnect between generations these last several decades. We just see the world so differently. I wonder what a few generations from now will think as well? It’s so easy to see our beliefs as some truth about reality when they are just like sunglasses which can be taken off in an instant. The thing is I don’t want to bridge this at all, he is a miserable person to talk to and my energy only goes so far. Yes, every single person in the family sees him this way even my mom but she loves him and the odd thing is she is much more stage green, votes blue, quite liberal. Yet she makes a relationship work with him. I don’t not understand this. My dad is a miserable and controlling boomer conservative who is unsupportive of me. I just accept this, which is a bit of a hard pill to swallow sometimes for my inner child, but I know god is in me Andy true value so I allow myself to align with this and know regardless of my relationship with him I’m still valuable and life is beautiful. The funny thing is my dad was a hippy, I swear to god. He was born in 1950, went to Woodstock, smoked pot, protested the Vietnam war and studied to be an artist. He even did LSD a few times if I’m not mistaken. Thinking though old stories he told me about himself and how he used to live life, he used to be more moderate by comparison to now, he was more open minded. Somewhere along the way he shut down. He’s not like a totally miserable person but he is not pleasant to be around, very difficult to relate to and have a relationship with when literally every conversation culminates in something about Trump, or immigrants, or guns or some typical conservative fixation. He has talk radio blasting all afternoon. It’s not exactly possible to enjoy a relationship with a person like this even if they are your parent, it’s reality 🤷‍♂️

Of course he will try for a third term and even have people rioting for it, maybe even try to shut down the election. People already forgot January 6th…

Have you spoken to the average Trump supporter? They will find a way to mention politics or how the USA isn’t great no more almost every single day.

I’m fine and mostly accepting of the one I have. It would be nice if he were less negative but that is not under my control and I am fine with that.

Why is this though? I noticed this as well with certain old people from certain countries. Just insufferable.

I was creating very painful emotions and judging myself, someone told me about those 10 day vipassena retreats so I did a few, and then from there I started searching for stuff on meditation and spirituality and Leo’s videos came up. From there I did a lot of work on myself, got into psychedelics then quit. Then I started studying Taoism after really having a consistent and strong awareness of spirit during each waking moment. Here I am now ever learning and growing!

Reading is very helpful and incredibly useful. I don’t think it’s ever a time waste for most people if you are sticking to self help classics and spiritual texts. The thing is most people will benefit from reading more because they may lack a bit of information needed to answer their own question or set themselves up to move forward and discover something else. Do you want the guy operating on you to say he doesn’t read and learned everything on the job? If you’re so caught up in reading and literally doing nothing then it could be a waste of time but most people can barely finish one book a month so I would say it’s not something to worry about. Just choose the right books.

This clown fails to mention right wing efforts to ship labor overseas, right wing efforts to union bust, right wing attacks on labor rights, deregulation. It’s like how these jokers tout how the invasion of Iraq was a mistake yet it was fueled by right wing ideology…. Their ideology and policies caused the issues but as time passes and people forget, they can create some faceless boogeyman of elites who did it, most Americans are even so dumb they don’t even look at what caused the current situation they are in. They just scream how it’s a problem and how the left caused it.

Crazy what has been normalized in the past 8 years, this guy complaining about his portrait… USA is a madhouse.

I actually think nofap has its place but it also has a lot of limitations and there are higher belief systems and practices that are better for most guys. For me I want to do this less because I think it’s getting in the way of me being more intimate with my girlfriend out of some fear of being separated on day. So for me addressing that instead of retreating would be beneficial.

We need a deeper discussion on what happened to Joe Rogan, I still don’t entirely understand what happened to him.

Idk I’m not charmed by it 🤷‍♂️ I’m sure there were plenty of Nazis who were personable and you could sit down with over a cup of coffee and have a laugh with, they probably liked playing sports like me and we could bond over some things. It’s not really surprising to me since I know dangerous people still are human.

I don’t think this type of language and characterization of reality is helpful. People think because there’s a lot of difficult shit to face in life that we got to poison the well and say we live in hell. If you find that empowering, sure go for it. If you want to use victim language to make your experience feel valid, go for it. I just think this is a poor teaching and characterization of things. I’m not saying there isn’t some incredibly challenging and complex situations in life which require compassion and understanding, some which come with a lot of pain. But labeling it hell… expand consciousness and build your vocabulary. Giving power away to these negative labels.

A clock is right twice a day? Dems push fringe issues and have strange ideologies in their party. Republicans do the same but it’s basically shutting down democracy. Pick your poison. 1 upping in the online comments over a trans person who wants to fit into society even if these changes are bizarre OR losing your democracy and living under Christian autocracy.

I think it’s very personal. I wouldn’t say meditation is less than contemplation / inquiry. They are just different tools / processes. I prefer self inquiry but I think it suits my personality more and my story more. Some do better with meditation. I do both. I think self inquiry is a bit better for people who have gotten themselves stuck because it allows for a more gradual re engineering of the mind. Meditation I’ve found does less of this if there is a bunch of shit in the way. It sort of cuts through it but you return to the stories. But at the same time meditation builds focus and it’s useful to be able to see different perspectives. Both are great it’s just personal which one works best.