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diabetologist. That was like a month ago. He told me that my cells became too resistant to insulin, and he told me it leads to elevated blood glucose levels which, over time, leads to prediabetes and Type 2. Is that correct? And does that mean I should cut out ALL sugar? Even fructose? A1C is 5.3% to 6.5%

Sometimes I have a huge sweet tooth. I crave chocolate, baked goods, etc. And I eat a lot like there is no tomorrow. Especially when I exercise regularly, I feel a strong urge to binge on those. Unfortunately, I am also insulin-resistant, and feel like this aspect of my diet contributes directly to my depression and anxiety. So, I really do need to cut out sugar (excluding natural sugar, like fruits). However, I realized it is so ingrained in my dietary choices that I cannot think of what to replace my snacks with. What non-sugary snacks / meals do you recommend?

Thank you brother. I really needed that reminder. I have started a new page. I will never put a cigarette in my mouth. I made the decision. It's no joke. My uncle had heart attack last year because he was a heavy smoker as well. Please don't play around with cigarettes. It's Extremely addictive. I just can't put the damn cigarettes down .even tho it's ruining my health .i need help. This is an absolute necessity. I cannot continue like this. im raping my health. Yet all this doesn't seem to make me stop. I have other reasons that I believe are making it difficult for me but I won't get into them here to not make this too abstract. it's affecting my physical.. Mental.. And psychological health to a very disturbing degree. It's not possible to live a healthy life without putting it down. If I don't quit.. It will catch up with me more and more and eventually I will end up having lungs cancer or whatever. I'm a heavy smoker. 4 packs a week or something is too much. And I'm already starting to feel the negative consequences. I can't run without feeling like losing my breath completely. My energy is getting lower. My appetite is decreased. And a lot more. Time to take this shit seriously and stop.

@Osaid thanks. Very extensive and informative.

If you truly accept suffering, it will no longer be suffering. Suffering, by definition, comes from something that you reject, something that is unwanted but unavoidable. No rejection = no suffering. But not just accept intellectually. That does not count. I mean really accepting, the way you willingly accept food into your mouth. Have you seen small children eating broccoli? Intellectually they accept that it is good for them, but their faces tell a different story… I don't mean that kind of acceptance. The question is then, how do you accept your own suffering? Easier said than done, right? In my case it has been a long and windy road, which is not entirely finished yet. I can give few clues that helped so far: 1-95% of suffering is "personal” or otherwise thought-induced. E.g. something happens, and a thought follows: “Why did this happen to me?” Immediately, suffering seems to get much worse. But there is no person, only an idea of it. Realize it, and much of suffering will be instantly uprooted. 2-Recognize rejection of rejection. This creates a reverb effect: a rejecting thought is followed by sensation of rejection, which is in turn followed by another rejecting thought, and so on, multiplying each other in the process. So work on accepting rejection to prevent such loops. 3-Acceptance does not come as an act of will. It happens naturally by itself. Don't force it. Instead, focus on simply noticing. When something happens, notice which sensations arise and separately which thoughts arise. Identify and acknowledge them, and this will be the most important step on the way to acceptance. We eventually accept familiar things, so make them familiar. Hope this helps

What a question. I suppose the same way some people don’t even know they are depressed; at some point, your psyche adjusts. You only have a handful of choices, after all. Suicide, obsessively thinking about it, trying to accept that life is misery at the moment, blatant escapism, etc. as someone who has had (diagnosed) depression for a few years now, accepting and saying “I'm depressed" rather than saying “I have depression” is one of the worst mistakes someone trying to overcome any mental illness can possibly do. Depression is no more a part of who your are than any other illness is. You need to believe that it can and will get better. I truly promise you that it will. But, with that being said, it is going to take some serious determination on your part. Just don’t ever give up. So, in summary, it is entirely possible to accept depression as a part of yourself, but it is one of the biggest mistakes you could ever make. I truly hope this helps. Just keep telling yourself that it will get better (as corny and cliche as that saying is) and that accepting that you are depressed rather than having depression is going to make you situation worse. And if you arent already, please talk to somebody. I hope you get better

I don't know . I didn't try Cigars yet .but I assume the taste of Cigars is much more Intense and the nicotine is much more pure and unfiltered like cigarettes. So I guess that Cigars are more addictive.

I wish I could quit man .its literally a poison. But I wish I didn't smoke at all .I curse the day I smoked the first cigarette. For my luck Cigars are much more expensive and hard to obtain than regular cigarettes packs . So I tried searching for it yesterday but I couldn't find any local shops that sell Cigars. But I'm back to smoking cigarettes. I don't know when I'm gonna quit . I think I'm very stupid. I will only quit if I get heart attack or cancer. When it's too late.

Yes I expected that as time passes that I gets easier with time. But it only got more difficult. I experienced intense carvings that literally I was irritated and can't socialize . Unfortunately I'm back to smoking multiple cigarettes per day and I'm right back to where I started.

You can accept suffering if its psychological..but I don't think that humans can stand a certain limit of physical suffering...the human being is so fragile.

@Holykael what kind of evidence do you need to believe in free will?

For those of you who are new to these terms.. "Monogamy" refers to the marriage of two people at a time. one husband and one wife. "Polygamy" is the marriage of either a husband to multiple wives or a wife to multiple husbands. Why does men tend to desire multiple sexual partners and women just look for that one perfect guy? Men basically want to have sex with every attractive girl out there. I know I am. Think about your porn collection lol.. You don't just fixate on one pornstar.. You try to hunt for as much hot women as possible. Girls don't desire every attractive guy. They only want "true love" with one guy. Why are men Polygamous and women monogamous? First of all.. Am I even right? What do you guys and gals think?

I understand. Thanks for the reminder. Basically things become addictive because your brain learns to like things. These feelings arise because my brain likes them and makes me feel like doing them again so i can get that feeling the brain is looking for. For example you try ice cream and like it. What happens now is the brain will light up releasing a chemical that binds to a receptor in the brains reward circuitry. This process sends signals throughout the body that tell you mmm i like this ice cream it tastes nice. So now your brain has a memory of it and so you now have a feeling that if you do it again you will get that pleasurable feeling. Also each time you do it the memory is reinforced making you want to do it again and again. thats why people find them hard to kick especially drugs because addictions are directed from the brain and the brain actually changes on a physiological and neurological level to adapt and influence whatever addiction is being developed. So addicts in all forms are a slave to their biology and thats why they just cant stop as many people think . Their addiction is somewhat now a physical and psychological process much like being hungry is. You cant just say am not hungry when you are because it is an urge that happens naturally. Being addicted therefore is like being hungry with the compulsions of each addiction obviously being of different strengths. Thats why addicts cannot just make a decision right then and there to stop whilst being addicted. Their hunger is physical and they cant just shut it off. It requires help of a sort at a certain time that in effect allows the brain to recover from the addiction it . I stopped cigarettes for two months ..but you know what...fuck it ..I'm gonna make a confession ..I did smoke this morning ? But I'm getting bored of cigarettes..Im like drug addict who developed tolerance to the drug and now needs more novelty or increase the dose .so I'm thinking for trying Cigars ,Pipe cigarettes, shisha.,weed etc

Two months .

Yes, it is a means of controlling female sexuality.. but strangely enough.. it’s often women who engage in slut-shaming. why this occurs range from feminist theories referring to it as “internalised misogyny” (though I’ve even known feminists who’ve engaged in slut-shaming) to evolutionary psychologists calling it “female intra-sexual competition”. As for why men engage in slut-shaming.. it’s probably because there’s a tension within men between wanting casual sex with anyone who takes their fancy, and wanting a monogamous partner who will be loyal only to them.

Source?

Do you mean estrogen? Because that's the feminine sexual hormone. I'm sure if you inject women with testosterone, her clit will slowly turn into a dick head lol

@ivankiss Gosh, hopefully my value won't be decreased having sex a couple of of times with 26 years. I know many will find me weird. but luckily, I don't walk in the streets with a banner writing I'm Virgin. No one knows, only my parents, my one granny (my other Angel passed away one month ago), and my brother, not even my friends (they are all in relationships, baby... And you right now. When my time comes to have a committed relationship, I hope the girl won't run away, or she will only be with me to make sex with me, and disappear forever. That's why, I doubt I'll say you also had deep sexual experiences. In fact I think you never had experience in sex. I'm not gonna argue over that because it's silly. And you said you are just "killing time". So I hope you're enjoying our discourse, sir.

Yes I understand what you're saying. In the past Monogamy served a valuable purpose in creating a secure and safe environment for child raising.. Isn't that your point? Women were able to focus entirely on raising the child while men could tend to tasks such as food harvesting, hunting, etc. without the added burden of chasing extra mates. It also cut down on the amount of infanticide that occurred in these early societies. Women who are rearing an infant child would not be open to conceive other children until quite some time so rival males would kill the child to hurry the process. I disagree. I don’t believe monogamy is mandatory, crucial, or even important as a general rule. What If you naturally feel attracted to multiple people? and everyone involved is on board with that, then there’s nothing wrong with polyamory. And I think larger marriages, in particular, could be a much better way to raise children and to maintain a household, if you can maintain the more complicated structure. I myself was polyamorous for decades, not going so far as to be in a multiple relationship, but at some points having a relationship with multiple people (sort of dating without going steady, to use very outdated terminology) and certainly never losing interest in other ladies even when in a relationship, even when I didn’t do anything about that because the feeling was not mutual. But I find myself, in just the past few years, in a new relationship, where suddenly I have lost interest in other women. And I’ve also, perhaps coincidentally or perhaps as a part of the same conversion, found I’m interested in my girlfriend, not having relationships with other people.

Elaborate please. What was the experience like ?and how did you draw the conclusion that you are "the only conscious thing in the universe "? Also, by any chance ,did you listen to Leo's solipsism video ? Because the terminology you are Framing this with is so similar to Leo.

@Vlad_ who filled your head with that crap ?

Idk . I can only talk about my culture and society. In India? Girls have far less options than Guys do. There are tinder/dating app studies that prove this. So the chances of them cheating are quite low and lower than men. It doesn’t take much for a guy to cheat compared to a girl, although guys have to work harder, Women just have to be there and say yes. I understand that it's different in western culture. average girl nowadays (in the west) has at least 20 guy friends attached to them, so they have a lot of chances to do so. It honestly all starts at ground zero for them. “Yes or no” to the guy who is trying to advance. Girls get hit on constantly. Let’s not even discuss the emotional cheating part, that’s a yikes lol. I wouldn’t know. The idea of one night stands alone disgust me. I’ve been a one-woman man my entire life and have dumped women before intimacy because I discovered they had a habit of sleeping around. Call me old-fashioned (which is hilarious because I’m the opposite of old-fashioned in every possible way) but I desire something prized and wonderful, a woman to fight for who will fight for me, to protect and be protected by, to guide and be guided, to honor and be honored, not sloppy seconds. I respect those who are biologically geared toward polyamory but it is absolutely not for me. I won’t even kiss someone if I haven’t already deduced from analysis that there is actual chemistry and long-term potential.

Good analysis. I agree. If one focuses strictly on the reproductive aspect of relationships, it makes perfect sense: a male's reproductive strategy is to have intercourse with as many females as possible and hope that at least one of them will get pregnant, whereas a female's reproductive strategy is to get impregnated by the strongest male she can find.

The problem is men like diversity. It gets boring quickly to have a relationship with one girl . Because there is always another girl who Is more beautiful and attractive. So that's why committing in a serious relationship for a guy is difficult. Especially if you come across other attractive women in your daily life. This explains why men cheat on their girlfriends while the opposite is not the case. I mean the cause is that men are polygamous and women are monogamous.

I agree about the part that it's easier for women to have sex. But do you think the reason is because the feminine Is the sought object? I mean the receptive? And men are pressured to approach? I believe that monogamy is an overall bad for women. I see a lot of people getting caught up in the temporary thrills of casual sex and infatuation. Sadly, those things often get confused with love because it's all a person has known, and this can lead a person to see connections as temporary anomalies instead of something to nurture and cherish. Then again.. Dropping and swapping partners is becoming a norm in western societies. If you look at monogamy in terms of priority, I suppose one could “believe” in it in that context. But people who have their priorities in order are more stable and are in a better position to be a good partner. Chaos and unpredictability makes most relationships short lived and too tempestuous. That is an observable fact, not a belief. And it is a big reason for divorce Imo. You can't just fuck one cu** for the rest of your life. Just like you can't eat the same lunch every day haha