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Why? What the hell is the relationship between understanding consciousness and insanity? Be well brother ?.

You have to train yourself to think in English. You probably speak in English but you think with your original language. If you managed to think in English you would be a fluent speaker.

Lol are you like me ? Just learned it somehow magically without any effort and surprised at your skill in English without any previous "training "? Where are you from? BTW congrats for the Mod upgrade ?

Oh really ? I thought you were from US or UK since you are excellent in English. Is it very easy to write in English for you ? How do you write sentences that are both clear and grammatically correct? How can you write good prose? How can you write like native speakers so that the people here love and appreciate your posts ? I often asked these questions while I was started to learn to write effectively at the beginning of my journey as a content writer. I am not saying that my writings are as good as native speakers. But as a non-native speaker, I think my writing skill has improved a lot by applying strategies that I am NOT going share with you. No .which one ? Can you link to it ?

Aren't you a native speaker? Where are you from ?

Many things about sex are exciting precisely because they are forbidden or considered unusual. The human sex drive is rather odd and much more complicated than that of most other animals (bonobos might be an exception), in part because of our complex social structure. So your fantasies are not unusual and not harmful unless you act on them in ways that cause trouble for you.

Most of the third world countries were ruled by some of the ancient empires . Although, as I personally believe, these countries were simply robbed by those powerful countries, there are some valuable aspects that they gained from the empires as well. One such thing is the systemized voting system. But when they gave the right to vote for the locals of these third-world countries, they gave it only to the people of high social status. Later only the right to vote was given to every citizen of these countries, actually by the local rulers and not by the foreign rulers. The empires may have had different reasons for their actions. But when thinking about how people vote in elections nowadays in these countries, many people just vote without any political literacy. And the politicians simply cheat the poor, less educated, less privileged people and rob their votes. IMO, this would not have happened if people were filtered when giving the right to vote. What do you think?

Its part of human reproduction strategy to have as much sex as possible with attractive partners themselves but to discourage others from doing the same. → So you will reproduce more successfully than others. We are all competing for having sex with highly attractive people, that’s why this bigoted double morale has developed: Publicly condemning sex (of others) whilst (in private) having lots of sex (with highly attractive people) yourself.

According to many people having sex with anyone other than their life partner is seen in a negative way because of the way we perceive the world and the way we perceive is because of the way our society has been born and bought up. This thinking is the by product of our society and the situations it had to face to achieve what it is today. This society also prevents havoc and chaos that would be caused without its presence as there will be many people who will not be able to understand the true nature of many things around them(because of their temporary limitations and the current state of their being they are at that moment), which may affect their lives and the people around them in a negative way. (By stating all this i am not saying in any way that the current state of our society is perfect, it’s far from that and we all need to awake ourselves up from the deep sleep we all have been, to live a life worth living and upto our true potential)

Even with birth control and condoms, there's a part of me that just can't relax. People are having sex in this era more than anytime in history .and the result is overpopulated poor dysfunctional society. I think there should be restrictions on having sex causally.

Women enjoy the feelings that go along with sex. Not just the physical part of sex. When women realize most men are only after the "physical" they get bitter on being just a piece of ass for a man's pleasure. But that's the truth of the matter. Men are after physical pleasure .women are after romance and connection .

I hate people who hate someone for thing that is not in their control, (Sexual orientation/Beauty/Skin colour/Body type/Financial status.)because,A person is gay not because he chose it , but nature chose him to be like that. A person is dark skinned not because he wanted it , but nature made him so. A person is born poor not because he loves being poor, but because nature chose to give him birth in a poor family. And moreover hatred for people like these should be more , because You are mocking a person for a thing that he did not choose himself. He cannot do anything to change it. So stop discriminating and start loving. Gays are also human beings

I have a love/hate relationship with sex. Not the actual act of sex but what many men have to go through to get it. It's the same feeling as being financially poor. On one hand the poor person would love to be rich but on the other hand that person is also often envious of those who are rich because it's easier. This is a problem for me because when I do get with a woman, I often mentally lose my want for sex because I keep thinking about the effort and energy it took to get to this moment. And it sometimes has little to do with the actual courtship of that particular woman and more to do with the general idea of what many men have to do, learn, endure etc to be worthy of that “sexual entitlement” from her. It turns me off. I've often had to apologise for not performing in the moment. I much prefer sex with prostitutes because I don't get that thought with them. I'm there for a reason and so is she, no bullshit in between. Never had a performance problem there.

Its hard to believe but there are many who consider themselves to be “Asexual”. From what I’ve gathered, they don’t actually “hate sex” but they find the prospect extremely “yucky & gross”. I’m not sure if any of these folks have ever tried it but I’m guessing a significant amount have & were supremely turned off by a bad experience. I’m also sure that some have decided to be this way since puberty. I subscribe to a few thoughts on this that are along the lines of: “Live and let live” and “To each, his own”.

I can quite easily sit next to a glass of water, and not drink it. It takes 0 effort on my part, there is not even a temptation to drink some random glass of water that’s been sitting around like that, if I even notice it in the first place. But if I were very very thirsty? Any liquid would start to look quite appealing. I’d look at that glass of water differently. It could become a kind of torture, to be forced to sit next to a glass of water, and not drink it, while slowly getting more and more thirsty. At some point, I might not be able to stand it, I’d drink the water, or leave, but not just sit there next to it slowly dying of thirst. If someone reaches out to me, I can quite easily shake their hand, and then let go. If I was falling, and someone reached out to me, I’d cling to their hand, potentially to the point of hurting them a bit. It’s possible for a man and a woman to be friends, if each one has an independent romantic and/or sexual life, and other friends, and family (blood or not), and so on. If their needs are generally being met. But if one of them is desperate? Then it’s going to be hard for them not to cling on to the only thing they have, or the only person they have. It’s natural for people to want more than just a friend.

What we fantasize about sexually doesn't always align with societal norms and values and this is why we get embarrassed and ashamed when we think about them or even think of discussing them. It is time that we as a society accept that sexual fantasies are absolutely normal and most adults have them.

I do want to get married one day. I think that's the natural course of life .even though I still haven't figured out how .it seems like a faint idea floating around my mind and I'm not sure how it's gonna happen. I mean I'm shy and struggling with dating. But having children is I big ass giant ass NO for me . And that's for ethical reasons. I feel that giving birth to a human being to live in this horrible world is horrible enough. No one asks for your opinion if you want to be born .

Trying to exit the coomer mentality It is so easy these days to succumb to our primitive instincts and fall into a routine of eating, sleeping, jerking off and messing around. I know so many people who just fill their bored time with being horny and jerking off/having sex or wanting to have a girlfriend. It is kind of sad how millions of people just make that their daily life and are satisfied with it. It seems like if you do not attempt to give your life meaning you just fall into the same spiral. What is worse is when fucking society does not help you give your life some meaning. I have been applying for research positions for the past month or so and I am waiting on their reply and it is killing me. It is so hard to prove your self worth to people these days, that you genuinely care/ trying to care about something bigger than you.

Just to make this clear : A child molester is a person who molests a child. A pedophile is a person who is attracted to prepubescent children (specifically ages 6–10). As you can tell by the definitions of these two words, the former is a sex offender and the latter is merely a person with an attraction. Most pedophiles never offend, and the vast majority of child sexual abusers are situational offenders (non-pedophiles). Attraction is a rare motivator for abuse.

There is nothing morally wrong about pædophilia. On the other hand, there is a great deal morally wrong with child molestation. Unfortunately, a pædophile cannot act on their urges without committing the crime of molestation..so those urges must go unfulfilled. There can be no forgiveness for those who sexually exploit children, who are neither intellectually nor emotionally mature enough to meaningfully consent, and who in addition are always in an inferior social-authority role. Thus a pædophile, though they cannot control or help and therefore shouldn't be blamed for what they find attractive, is trebly unable to enact their desires. I'm drawing a sharp distinction between pædophiles and child molesters. Am I just being pedantic? No. I think it's very important. Those who are pædophiles but not child molesters should be regarded perhaps with pity, not contempt. Through an accident of birth¹ they're doomed to feel urges they can never ethically act on. They should be supported and provided what care we can give. Whereas child molesters are those (sometimes pædophiles and often not) who most intimately violate those least able to defend themselves and most liable to suffer life-long scars.

i genuinely don’t have any friends. at all. usually when people say they don’t have friends they actually do, but they only occasionally talk to them, but that’s not the case for me. i don’t have even one friend. for almost 5 years now i will go weeks without leaving my house. i don’t speak to anyone whether. I do have some online friends on Discord and Reddit but that's about it . And of course my imaginary friends in this forum . i go days without even speaking a word. i’m so tired of it all. the only interaction i’ll have is with the person i’m staying with who i don’t even have a good relationship with and works the entire day so we don’t really ever talk. i’m so far gone that i think i’ve lost all social skills i previously had before my isolation started because i’m not speaking to other human beings. i have a severe amount of social anxiety and have for most of my life. nothing ever seems to help and i’m hopeless at this point. i hope this doesn’t sound like i’m just trying to be edgy because i swear i’m not. i don’t want to be like this whatsoever. i want to have an actual life.

What can I do to become more masculine? I've never had a strong father figure growing up, I won't get into it but I was raised by women. In school I was the lowest on the totem pole and picked on a lot. I've improved a lot since then but I still feel I'm a weak man. Does being manly just come with age or will I always be like this? I was wondering what sort of tips you guys can offer so I can become more masculine or manly? I'm not competent with many things. I'm not handy. I have soft hands and I don't know how to fix things. I don't have many hobbies. I'm a bit indecisive sometime because I like to weigh my options. I'm bad at sports, yes all of them. I want to feel masculine and I'd like to learn how to become more manly. I'm not aggressive enough. I'm not competitive at ALL(because I was always the weakest link). I Just want to become a better man. If you read this and your instinct is to tell me to be myself or say something nice, or that it's alright, I thank you but I'm looking for solid advice on how to better myself and be a better man. Maybe I have issues but I'd always like to be on a path of self improvement. Thanks ?

Why should I test you?

Thanks everyone for the advice. I sincerely appreciate it . Although I wanna add an additional note that I've realized within me about this whole balancing feminine VS masculine. I'm not in touch with neither my masculine side nor my feminine side . I'm kinda in the middle. It’s difficult to describe. It's the similar to Asexual people. They are not attracted to anything regarding sex. Also, Men have become more feminine as a result of new wave societal ideology. The radical me too movement has brought in irrational notions such as toxic masculinity and since most men these days don’t have a backbone believe it and fall into this by being agreeable. The fact of the matter is, if you stand your ground and have an opinion, women will respect you more, even the radical me too’s. No matter what women say, they are not attracted to anything but masculine men. Women are feminine by nature and want to remain feminine and submissive. So no women would like to date a coward like me .

I'm not sure . Why does it seem so unbearably difficult to get a girlfriend these days? I just don’t get it anymore. It’s bizarre that anywhere I go I constantly see guys with girlfriends/wives & a lot of the time these women are attractive. But it just seems like no one even bothers to talk to one another anymore unless they know them already. Online dating is a huge disaster unless you have an amazing job or top tier looks. So what is it that women are even looking for these days? Why is it so difficult yet I always constantly see people together. It’s like I feel like I’m in some sort of Matrix or something where things are just meant to happen for others when I’m not around. Yet I never ever see anyone get asked out in person or anything. If it’s so difficult how do so many people find it so easy? I’ve heard of people getting out of relationships than finding another in like 3 weeks time. I just don’t get it at all. Thanks bro ?.