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Yes we made our minds to meet up the next weekend.

Thanks man for the advice . I just texted her a bit ago and she replied to Me. I guess If she's texting me, she's interested in me in some way, but not necessarily sexually.i Asked her to meet up for coffee in the next weekend , then a fun activity, in a public place so she's not freaked out if we dont "click" while out. I don't want to put pressure on her .I want everything to run smoothly. I have a question: "How do I Avoid Screwing This Up?" Because the few times where it looks like I'm finally going out on my very first date, it ends up not happening. But from that moment forward. During that spontaneous blur, I got her number, and she now has mine. It was the last thing I was expecting, even as I walked through that door and saw her face.In short, I like her, and I would say that she's interested in me! I assume that if she likes me, she'll think of me just as much as I think of her, and try to find time to spend with me. Once I message her, should I wait for her to message me days that works for her, rather than reaching out to her every so often, such as once a week, so I can avoid crossing the line between thinking of her and obsessing over her? I also have a bunch of other questions, regarding what I should wear, should I take breath mints, wear cologne, that sort of thing, but I find that it is less stressful for me if I take things one step at a time, rather than complicating things.

Yes being decisive is where its at. But I need to know if she is truly interested in Mr to get that boost In confidence. Or just muster it up and do it not caring about the consequences? I approach to ask her out or if she is interested in building a relationship with a gut and other stuff . I never get to the point of asking about phone number because I was rejected 99% of the time before I even have a chance to ask about phone number. So I should make my intentions clear right off the bat ? I'm actually trying my best to not get like excited puppy that finally found a leg to hump lol. ? I just texted her few hours ago and she texted back.i asked for a quick mention how good it was talking to her and that im looking forward to hang out again real soon.she didn't mind and said "sure". What should I talk about in the next date .I want to know what to say and what not to say.if you could help me out would sincerely appreciate it . ? So would be the first priority to get to know her over text and then when we're comfortable ask her out on a date, or do you think that is what the date is for?

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I see a lot of nonsense on the forum recently. Everyone is having awakenings every other day. And Leo as usual reaching super duper levels of enlightenment that are unimaginable and no human has ever reached lol Someone who is TRULY enlightened knows that he is perfect. That he was created perfect: human. He has accepted himself with all its imperfections. Accepting his imperfections makes him perfect. You accept yourself as you are, just human. Nothing more, nothing less. No enlightened person on this forum is special. Me neither. People act like it's something special, with ranks. As if they have achieved something. This shows that the ego is still intact. I know, I am the most hopeless and dependent person on earth, if god/life don't want, I can't even move an inch, who am I? I am nothing at all! The only difference between one who is enlightened and one who is not enlightened is acceptance. One who is enlightened accepts himself, so accepts life. He doesn't fight against life, he flows with, in life. You will hardly ever meet someone “enlightened” here on the forum who admits in a discussion that he was wrong or tells that he doesn't know. Because he thinks he always knows, he knows nothing at all. Someone who is enlightened knows deep down that he was always been perfect in all his imperfections. His only problem was that he wanted to fix his “imperfections". Something that is perfect cannot become more perfect. It cannot improve. That's only ego playing, creating new goals to avoid life. That shows that you are still seeking. That you think something is lacking. Reality is infinite. Therefore there will always be infinite levels of awakening. Isn't that obvious? But doesn't Leo himself taught us that God is a "meta " thing ? You can keep peeling off the layers of the onion forever . And still not reach the end of enlightenment. Because it has no fucking end . True enlightenment for Leo is all about understanding reality . I ask Leo: how tf can you understand that which is infinite ? You cannot step outside of infinity and grab a hold of it . True enlightenment to me is the end of the need to know ,and to understand. Life is simple and straightforward when you truly awaken...then why make it complicated with endless degrees of something that is already endless?!! Dunno . Just gotta get this outta my chest ?

Would i be a better person if I cared more about more things? Is caring an essential mindset for survival? Where would I even start? Do I even know what it means to care? My mom often tells me I don’t care, especially about the things she cares about. I agree. I don’t care. I’m not fussed about keeping a clean house. It doesn’t bother me what I wear when I go to the shops, I only don't throw trash on the main street because there’s a council bi-law that says I should care. Which brings me to the final point : should we act caringly if we don’t care? I don’t care about my siblings yet I’m told I should and demonstrate that caring to them. I could only align that with being nice to a great white shark. How does caring fit with your current philosophy?

I'm happy for you bro. Weed seems to be a very addictive substance. I never tried it .but I'd like to .unfortunately (and saying this for the 100th time lol) it's banned in India. I don't know how addicted you were..it takes years to recover and get your body healthy and sometimes it's irreversible because you waited until it was to late. Diet and exercise and lots of water and vitamins help. Im actually using growth hormone pills to help heal damaged lungs from my cigarettes overdoses .and it seemed to work wonders. Good luck and stay sober it's not worth the nightmare to get high and crash like a fuckin airplane.

Could you share which drug you were addicted to ? And how did you recover ? ....And i thought that my cigarettes addiction was a big deal lol. Props to you man for overcoming a drug addiction.... Its common in Western world both, alcohol and drugs. And I had to go out of my way to find some fine wine in India ,but I have not developed dependency to it. some people suffer and develop dependency. I'm glad I didn't.

It can happen both ways . You reach full awakening and you understand everything and what's more important than understanding is you feel causeless joy and unconditional happiness. I'd say There are indeed stages or levels of awareness. But what you might consider divisions between them .. sort of boundaries you will have to "work" through to become more aware .. are neither fixed nor firm, nor actually real . The distinguishing boundaries that basically demarcate state of awareness (where you are, where you have been and where you might reach) consist of notions, beliefs, definitions and such that one holds which distort perception.

No . I'm a bit all over the place lately. Very confused about big life descions that I have to make (career wise ). And also I'm getting older (I'm 26 now ) and still have not had my shit together. My health sucks because of the fucking cigarettes and my conscience is shit .

Do you mean intuition rather? Is it weird that I just don't care? Like everyone I now could die and I wouldn't care shit what happens to me .. I feel nothing except maybe bordem when I hang out with family and friends. My family was never mean to me. The only reason I've tolerated their obsessing with laundry and whatnot cuz I feel like I'm suppose to and the other people always ask me out. I'm honestly happiest when I'm at home doing my own thing.

I suppose everyone expects or desires a single moment when, bam, they have a new reality, however, I suspect for the the majority of people, it is an extremely gradual awakening to truths, an endless series of "two steps forward and one step back," ending with the scenario of a desire to not return to a prior level. So, are their definable stages when it is so long and so slow? Only in very large general terms, for we each walk a different path, each with different unlearning along the way.

Because people are being mislead about enlightenment. But enlightenment is when you let go of your need to understand infinity. For example im able to enter a stillness that I could only by accident enter for a very short time before, and it usually came after an extremely depressive mood. Now I can do it willingly, although still only for short periods of time, and do so whenever I remember to. Up until now I have been attempting to 'improve the dream' but realised that is my error, and in this stillness or awareness there is no dream, there is just awareness. Everything seems clear, and there is a sense of lightness and a subtle feeling of joy that it is similar to feelings I had in childhood. I'm more 'myself' than ever before. At the moment I bob between this level of awareness and being lost in my mind. My mind feels sharper though, and I'm more aware of my imperfections. Of course. Because we are all one . I'm you and you are me. What's left after this realization than to fall in love with each other for the rest of eternity(I mean unconditionallove not gay love ?)? If you've reached a state of pure joy and bliss, you don't need to go anywhere from there. That is the state of Brahman. The outer world won't change, but your inner world is no longer the same. You will keep coming back to the state of Brahman because it is your real identity.

You guys have a good squad . I expect Belgium to make it at least to the quarter finals. This is the last chance for both Messi and Cristiano Ronaldo..I think Argentina can make it at least to the semi final . While Portugal might not make it further than the knock out stage of 16 . I support Brazil anyways.

Yes I'm recently thinking exactly like that ⬆️. All that matters is the quality of the present moment. Because that's all there is to reality .it's just a present moment. That's all you ever have . I found that Fantasy is an excellent way to help yourself feel better. I’ve recently started being intentional about using my imagination to boost my mood. For example, if I find myself ruminating on negative thoughts I choose to change the thought to a fantasy. fantasize about wearing a beautiful dress. Being with an attractive glass girl . I fantasize about being on a tropical beach or beautiful location. I’ve been depressed at the beginning of this year and couldn’t clean my room so I lay in bed and imagined I was in a beautiful resort. That was a much better place to be than my reality. imagination is free. Be intentional about putting it to good use. The mind doesn’t know if the situation is real or imagined anyway.

OK. I agree . I'd just say that Happiness is a combination of both external and internal. But the external happiness is temporary, and internal happiness is a state of mind. To fully enjoy the outer conditions of happiness, you will need to first become happy with who you are on the inside.

Amen ?

Might work .Might not. Needs testing So you are suggesting that You are devoid of happines because you are linking your happiness to a lot of other factors. It is coming with terms and condition? I will be happy if I earn so much money, I’ll be happy if that person is there with me etc etc What we do not realise is, happiness is not something that will come to us. It is something that comes from us. Is happiness a result or a choice? (Think deeply about this question).

Scary .

Your might have come to realise that your happiness does not depend on external factors. This is in ultimate sense indeed true. However you do depend a lot on external factors for life in general. From the people providing food to you to the people who create homes or for example people working in medicine. Those people all do things that benefit you. And those people might not have discovered what you did. So they depend for some part on the influence you have on their life. So getting good grades on your exams and because of that getting a decent job, doing any work or even just living and giving a helping hand here and there will relieve others of stress. It's not that you are a lonely man or woman living in a remote forest fed by nature itself, right?

I call BS ?. In truth ,you are aching for all sorts of material pleasures . Be honest

This is called Depersonalization-derealization disorder. Seek a professional therapist to help you out with the appropriate medications and provide you an outlet to express your problems . Be well?

When I was 5 yrs old I was so obsessed with boobs I started drinking out of baby bottles in order to pretend I had one in my face. When I was 9 yrs old I would steal my uncle's Playboy magazines and stare at them for hours. I was forbidden from playing with Barbie dolls because Ken always ended up headless in the corner, and Barbie and her friends naked and humping each other. I just felt that this was how things should be done, and didn't understand why adults kept asking me if I'd been molested. Despite my obvious nature, I did try very hard to be straight, or at least bisexual. I was very bad at it.

I do not mean believing in the religious aspects of Buddhism like rebirth etc. . Rather, i am referring to just their lifestyle of long periods of meditation, helping others, learning and doing meaningful work. If there is a chance to be relatively happy and cause minimal suffering in the world through living like a buddhist monk why would we not do it? Is it because temporary/materialistic pleasures (new cars, fancy computers, good food, sex) ARE NEEDED for some people's happiness? Are things like music and movies/stories/art needed for your happiness? If these things were not available in the world and everyone just meditated, socialised, volunteered and lived simply all day, there would be MUCH less non-human and potentially human suffering AND we could still possibly attain happiness? I guess in a broader sense I am after opinions or research on what is needed for a human to be happy. Obviously there will be variation in what is needed between people but there must be some general requirements shared by all. With this information, we would then be able to figure out how to live happily whilst minimising suffering of other sentient beings. Thanks in advance for your thoughts

Ah ..that's ⬆️ psychological analysis of dreams. Its not what I am talking about which is the metaphysical ground for dreams . I'm interested in questions such as ..what's the difference between dreams and waking reality? Whereas psychology claims that dreams are an outlet of the suppressed elements of your subconscious mind (which is what you said about whatever you think about often ..you end up dreaming it ). an observation: dreams and waking reality are identical manifestations. So whatever generates dreams is also generating your waking state right now. Ultimately, it's a philosophical question. I'd say the main difference is not in nature, but just in cohesiveness. Dreams are less rigid or cohesive; everyday waking reality is very strict and unbending. If you examine dreams, they are very staccato and full of non-sequiturs. Then again if you really examine waking reality, it's very similar. "everything we see or seem is but a dream within a dream " -Edgar Allan.