Terell Kirby

Spot on. Women like nice guys .. as long as they are not needy .. the neediness separates the nice guys from the creeps. Women would even prefer a jerk who's not nice to her over a creep.

Also .. let go of the need to let go of everything you have learned .

The same attraction principles used to get a one night stand, is the same used to get in a long term relationship. Fundamentally, you have to develop yourself into a person of high confidence and self esteem to get a quality partner .. no matter the context. This is very hard to do, and you cannot skip over it.

Some tips: Put yourself in uncomfortable social situations. Practice being mindful of the anxiety. It is usually in the form of bodily sensations, but can also be in the form of obsessive thinking. Gather feedback by introspecting on your experience of step #2. Ask high quality questions (what does anxiety feel like? what is its function? etc.). Repeat. Do this until your anxiety fades. Expect your mind to trick you from taking step #1.

Why not meet women in real life? You are playing the direct message game, you have virtually 0% chance of anything come of out of that. If she's hot, she's getting DMs from so many guys.

Reminds me that I never canceled my free trial subscription...darn it. From my view, it's really just cookie cutter spirituality. Actualized.org is way better.

Probably for entertainment. A separate sense of self provides all the drama one needs to be really into story-telling. Be careful of wanting a life without drama, it comes with heaps of responsibility .

not sure, i would assume most in mental hospitals are not enlightened whatsoever.

The ego is an imagined ailment that leads God to a life full of suffering. Awakening is the only thing that can cure God from ego (otherwise known as the devil).

Please tell me you have actually taken psychedelics? Otherwise, you are speaking out of ignorance.

Borrowing money should be your last option .. as it doesn't require any creativity or outside of the box thinking. Push your mind harder in finding ways to make money without debt/interest attached.

By replacing the "how" with the "when". Don't over think it... just do it.

I wish for..An infinite number of wishes

It matters to virgins lol. Most guys don't want to die not ever having sex. Men are highly sexual.

A sage can love all world-views, even if they are misguided. ^ This

Notice how you may be making an ideology out of being anti-materialist. A true sage can be spiritual and include/embody materialism and idealism.

The human mind is a bullshitting machine, and cannot be defeated easily. It's literally like the final boss in a video game. You'll fail many times trying to defeat it, but you must not put down the controller until it's done. That is our work here.

Probably because you are jealous and envious. Not judging you for it, but it's important to be honest about where the hate comes from. To resolve it, you'll need to fill material needs that you envy in others. Look for ways in which you admire them. I see a lot of forum users attempting to jump to be ultra spiritual, without taking care of material needs. You cannot be well rounded spiritually without fully engaging and transcending material cravings.

I mean, it is bad if you care about the slaughter and consumption of animals. Me personally, i don't care enough about it to not eat meat. This is one part of ego-ic survival that I am willing to live with.

Happiness does exists .. but it's deeply counter-intuitive and does not follow the ego's program. In realizing that we are not human, the way we define happiness completely changes. It goes from an emphasis on external circumstances to internal circumstances.

This is laughable haha .. says no man on this Earth that wasn’t bullshitting himself. Being a virgin for a man is one of the most painful experiences he can go through. Obtaining sexual abundance is one of our main drivers in pursuing success and achievement. You have to embrace this and actively invest in this aspect of life before you can transcend it. To not do this is putting the cart before the horse in personal / spiritual development as a man. It helps to refer to the Spiral dynamics model, and deeply study stage Orange within the model.

The key is not identifying with any of these constructed political sects. You can't avoid ideology through claiming a specific belief system as absolute. What you can do, though, is see the positives and the negatives of each. Systems thinking and holism is the best repellent for these matters.

Had to seek out 1:1 coaching in my 20s, along with other resource (YT videos, books, online content, etc.) Attraction and sexuality is a skill that can be developed, but it takes work just as anything else you are attempting to master in life. Instead of asking how others did it, ask how you yourself can do it.

I once had a coach tell me to ask for her name first. If she gives it, but doesn't ask for yours .. that can serve as a good sign of a lack of initial interest.

Getting laid should be the first goal, especially for in-cels / virgins. Healthy , long term intimacy cannot even be conceived by men unless they burn through their sexual karma. I wish some of you on the forum would stop denying your sexual cravings out of fear of rejection by women.