Tboy

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  1. With Stuff like David R Hawkins and Julien Blanc's Transformation Mastery - do we not think that by going out and approaching but also by putting our awareness on those sensations of fear and/or journaling about those feelings of fear, we can reduce our approach anxiety/general social anxiety more permanently overtime? Julien Blanc claims he doesn't need to get 'in state' anymore, he is naturally in state because he isn't resistant to the sensations in his body.
  2. yeah please do Joe Rogan or Russel Brand, that would be great. Duncan Trussell as well, if you appeared on Midnight Gospel that would be great as well.
  3. Hello (I'm Toby), does anyone else suffer from huge muscle tension problems? The tension I have is a like a physical resistance to letting people see a certain side of myself, it keeps down a lot of anger and grief it seems. It covers my whole body, and is felt all the time, Sex is very difficult. I am doing some Reichian therapy with a specialist right now. I originally was doing a sort of David R Hawkins letting go/shamanic breathing technique to feel into the tension and let it go but my body spasmed so much that it felt very unsafe, I would hit into things in my room because the spasms, caused by being with the muscle tension, would propel me across the room. It was the only way I could let them pass through me. This sort of spasming stops me from being able to do other normal practices like yoga and meditation because it seems I have to move to let trauma pass through me and always seem to need more space. If there's anyone else out there with this, I would love to connect and talk about practices that have helped, for instance I can report back on the Reichian therapy i'm doing and see if it solves the problem. Peace
  4. Sit with the pain and let it pass through you. Feel into it. Give yourself like 30 mins to an hour with it. If its still there after just go and do what you want to do and do another sitting session maybe tomorrow or something or whenever it gets really bad. You'll be fine, its a natural reaction if its something you care about.
  5. I really like Leo's new video, it was an amazing vision for how my life, more specifically my relationships could be and I realize the importance of the approach of seeking to understand the other person's perspective. The problem I'm having with it is that if I get triggered by someone, invalidated by them it is very hard for me to try and see their perspective and empathize with them without abandoning the sensations in my body at the time. It seems like I can either stay present with the triggered sensations inside of me until they pass and then consider the other persons perspective after they've died down or stuff down (resist) the anger and hurt that I feel when I am invalidated by another person , go into my mind instead and force myself to try and see their perspective. I really don't want to abandon myself in these moments because I feel being present with the sensations in my body when I am triggered grows me a lot but I also want to get better at realizing and understanding other people's perspectives and loving them for it. Anyone have any thoughts on this? Or struggle with this? I don't know if I misunderstood you or something Leo
  6. Its not always easy - ideally you would be with emotion fully and the other person would just deal with it: your change in facial expressions etc. I always want to do this but my emotions get so intense my facial expression changes dramatically and it becomes weird. So one thing you can do is be with the emotion as much as you can and then look away whenever it gets really intense. At least that's my coping mechanism for now. Other than that just let everything be as it is as much as you can and you will slowly sink back into calm presence but there'll be some weirdness (strong emotions and resistance to being present with those emotions) to be present with before you sink into a more easy present state.
  7. I'm still on my early journey as well with this, doing little projects - I think the idea is to focus on creating and giving value through your products, services, entertainment etc. (Life purpose) and once people see you have something to offer you will start gaining a following of people that will buy your products,services, entertainment etc. It depends on your circumstances but the point is to enjoy doing your passion, give value to people by doing your passion and they will naturally pay you for it as they see it as valuable.
  8. Honestly I completely believe his side of the story from that video but I also didn't know who he was before came onto this thread, sound understandable though