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I haven't said anything that would contradict or disagree with any of your points above. I tried to make a point that he is using selective scepticism (where you are very sceptical about certain things and when it comes to other things , you openly accepts everything without any single critical thought or scepticism). My point was that Russel is not very balanced in his takes, in fact he is very clearly biased, and he seems to be very heavily ideologically driven so I wouldn't expect him to give balanced and good faith takes about political issues. Not saying things explicitly won't be an adequate defence here. He has made multiple videos where there was a very strong indication not to take the vaccine. (If I am making 10 different videos where I am only focusing on and cherrypicking the negative aspects of taking the vaccine and never talking about the positive side and never give a balanced take about it, then I am essentially implying that taking it is bad and and my audience who is only informed by me and by the information that I give, will leave with the impression that vaccines are actually bad) - would you actually say that this is giving an option to choose from or more like giving very strong indications what not to do or what would be insane or dumb to do ( which is essentially telling people what to do, but in a more sneaky way ). You have an incredibly limited view if you think that if a vaccine is not 100% effective, then it is a failure. People did and do have the choice to decide what they want to do, but of course they will be motivated to take certain directions , because freedom and the ability to have a choice and to make a decision comes with consequences and often times giving selfish people absolute freedom ends in chaos and ends with creating more overall harm than good. What about companies who don't want their workers to get infected with covid and want to give a safe place for them where they can work? What about taking more responsiblity as a citizen and not infecting elderly people and then not flooding the hospitals and not destroying the health care system? Why shouldn't companies have the freedom to decide what they want to do with their workplace regarding to covid? Because you are essentially implying that they shouldn't even have the freedom to decide what they want to do with their workplace, so you would violate their freedom and limit their freedom.

Regarding instances where you were intentionally ignorant: In the middle of a debate/argument its very common to be intentionally ignorant or to defend your side and not really let go of certain claims, because frankly, in those cases, you are probably triggered and emotional (which is totally fine, and all of us sometimes fall into this trap and it is a very human thing to do) I would except no one (because I can't do it myself) to be able to let go of certain beliefs or in the middle of a heated debate. The fact that you are able to self reflect later is a rare and a very valuable thing. Regarding intances, where you weren't intentionally ignorant: In those cases, you couldn't have done better, because you went with the best knowledge you had at that time, so there is really nothing to be ashamed about. The only thing you can do is to strive to be better to the best of your ability and thats basically it. I think you shouldn't evaluate these things only through a consequentialist lense (meaning what outcome you generated or created), because it is sometimes limited on its own and sometimes combining it with a different philosophical framework might be helpful. For example, you can combine the valueing of your intention(s) with the value of outcome. I think the best way to evaluate your own intentions is to check inside yourself and your feelings about it (how much you feel that you tried your best). Sometimes evaluating your own intentions by looking at the consequences what you created is limited, because there are many instances where we are giving all our best and we still fail to do something or we sometimes create chaos even though we didn't intend to do that (these would be instances, where you are ignorant but you don't know that you are ignorant or how you are ignorant or how you could have done better). The value of looking for feedback and looking at consequences periodically could come in, in an informative way. Those things could help you to be more aware what tools and what method(s) create what outcomes, therefore you will be more aware and less ignorant, but I don't think consequences should be the main driver in your phillosophy regarding yourself. The reason for that is because you will run into a lot of scenarios, where you will have to shit on yourself even though you tried your best, but you ignore that you tried your best, because you are only looking at the outcome and the consequences. So in a nutshell, I think going with a philosophy where you are using feedback and the 'looking at consequences' as not the main driver but to inform you and to make you less ignorant and at the same time going with a framework where you main driver is checking and focusing on your intention(s) and checking whether you try your best or not is one way that might be helpful.

No, but saying you are the most awake person, and saying that no one else is awake or at his level of course is super egotistical (because he has no way of testing those claims) and he made multiple very egotistical statements that are all radiating that he has a huge ego and lacks embodiment in a very big way. Sadghuru has never ever said, that he is the most awake person or implied that he is special. Leo has made multiple videos about multiple different important topics and he lacks the embodiment regarding all of them. He has emotional outburts (and not just here and there, but it seems to be more and more frequent), he lacks integrity (he lets himself to do stuff on this forum that he doesn't allow others to do), and he doesn't follow his own advice about many things. This is his forum so yes, he can do whatever the fuck he wants, but lets not virtue signal about integrity and about other things like that, when you as the leader don't follow your own rules. I guess the sentence of "lead by example" is forgotten here, but at the same, it is somehow reasonable to assume that people will follow the rules (when the forum leader doesn't) and follow the teachings (when the teacher doesn't). Being a dick as a method seems incredibly limited ,because that makes him look more of like an authority figure(where he can constantly show off how much better and how much more awake he is than anyone else and at the same time put others down) for some and for others who are sceptical about his teachings won't really achieve much, because they are already sceptical about his work. No one will suddenly get enlightened by being called a stupid rat, and saying that claims like that is him teaching others is a big cope and delusional imo. The only thing that will work is actually doing the practices, but you won't motivate sceptical people by calling them names and putting them down. Being a dick method is again very dangerous because it automatically makes him an authority figure (implying others are so stupid, that they can't think for themselves and they need to follow his advice, because otherwise they are lost) Its not about "ohh you crybabies getting mad for some harsh comments" its more about the frequency of it and about what that tells us about him as a person and his integrity and his actual values. The mental gymnastics and whitewashing coming from some of the mods here is really concerning, and unironically makes this place look like a cult. The fact that some of you can't even acknowledge when Leo is just being a dick for no reason is sad and makes him look like a figure that can't do anything wrong because you can just always flip it to make it look like it was necessary and it was actually "positive".

He is not being "suspicious", he is using selective scepticism and selective critical thinking. He is not being "fair" , he is giving a bunch of conspiracy talking points and he is giving a lot of anti-government takes without any sign that he could actually steelman and defend any pro-government talking points.

Are you referring to instances, where you knew you could have acted better or are you referring to instances, where during that time you didn't know any better (and reflecting on it with a clear mind right now, makes you think how you could have done things better)?

Not all, but some of the people here are defending Leo in a way, where he will always above criticism. He could do any bad behavior and the same surface level defense and logic could be applied every time by them : "Oh this is the higher counsciousness thing to do", or "maybe it is necessary for him to do these things" and other brain rot things like that and then they could never elaborate why those things are necessary or how him behaving that way is a net benefit. The other thing people who are in that cult mindset missing here is that, yes their advice about "just leave if it doesn't resonate with you, or if you don't like his behaviour" is good and fine if you are talking to a person 1 on 1, but that doesn't address any of the criticisms made about Leo. Leo being a content creator and a teacher and the leader of this forum put him in a category where (because he has so much influence, and leverage over people ) he has to take more responsibility for how he behaves and what he says. Because of power the difference, different standards have to be applied. Also, it would be cool, if the blind defenders would actually engage with the criticism and not take the focus off from the things that are actually being targeted and talked about.

@ivankiss I agree. Guys are dumb for not being clear about what they want from the girl and some of these girls are actually taking advantage of these guys by exploiting their weakness and constantly giving them mixed signals and edging them.

People always adapt to things. If you start to earn 5 million dollards a month after some month it will become the new norm for you and you won't get excited about it anymore and you will start to notice the holes and limitations that comes with "only" earning that much money. Being grateful for something can only work if you deliberately practice it or if you have alternative perspective(s) about the thing you are being grateful for. Lacking alternative (harder or more negative )experience(s) and perspective(s) often leads to us being ungrateful, but thats nothing new.

Thats some super elite level shit. You could have probably easily won in multiple powerlifting competitions. That level of strength compared to your bodyweight is insane. My proudest moment was, when I finished doing 1k pullups under about 4 hours, the other one was when I did 2k+ pushups in like 2 hours (both time weighting around 73kg/about 160lbs).

Are there actually laws that would prevent a women from doing those things (this is a genuine question, not a rhetorical one) or it is more about all the negative effects of incredibly harsh and strong judgements and social pressure coming from that society? If its the latter, then I would say that, I don't want to downplay social pressure, because thats a really strong force for sure, but I would personally rather get judged than to stay in a toxic relationship ( but i can totally understand why others would rather stay in that relationship, especially if the social pressure is incredibly harsh and especially if you get indoctrinated very heavily with certain worldviews and social norms )

its really fucking hard to balance things out and there is no perfect system. You have to think of these things from multiple povs, because If you want to make it even much more strict (make it so that much more and harder evidence is required to prove rape) then even more people will get away with rape. You have to sue for defamation, and thats how it needs to be, because the alternative ends up with a much worse system. - If you would want to make a system where if women can't perfectly prove rape, then they should immediately get charged with false rape, then the only thing you will achieve is that almost no women will report any rape (even in current times, rape is considered one of the most underreported crimes). Its not easy to prove rape. If we would live in a society where women wouldn't be slut shamed, then they wouldn't need to play these games and much less misunderstanding would happen, but unfortunately we are still very far away from that world.

One other option could be to move to one of your friends. If you don't have such friends,then more socializing could be very beneficial for you because 1) you don't need to stay home with your mother during the time you are out, 2) you can meet new people who could potentially shower you with certain opportunities (lets be it a part time work opportunity, or a cheap place where you could live, or you could meet with your future husband). So you can either go hard on socializing and/or on dating or you could work a part time job.

@Michael569 Dude, your consistent high quality contribution to this forum is greatly appreciated! ?

I think gesundheit's advice is good here, because I don't think you can actually solve these issues with narcissistic people, because these are not even disagreements, these are more like her narcissistic, fragile ego acting out in a very impulsive way. Rational arguments with impulsive people are not really productive, they need to feel that they are being understood and heard, because if they feel, that they are being dismissed, ignored, then they will probably get even more annoying and childish and impulsive. The impression that I got from your post is that she really wants to feel that she is in control of everything all the time, so if you can make her feel like she is actually in control ( even though in reality she isn't, but you just make her feel that way ), then she probably won't bother you as much. The other feeling that I got from your post is that it is not likely that you can talk about your boundaries with her, so even trying to have that conversation might just end up in more fighting with her. So what are your options? Well, follow what @Gesundheit2 said, the only thing I would add to it is that you will probably need to let go of certain things during your time staying home with her (if you want to and are okay with it). You probably know by experience what are the things (that you do) that are triggering her the most intesively and most frequently. Its about how you want balance these things out (how much control and personal agency you are willing to let go in order to trigger her less often) . If you feel like you are willing to argue and fight and not let go of control and certain things and you are okay with actually arguing, then do that, if you feel that you are really not in fight mode and you just want more peace, then you should let go of certain things for a random period of time. The other thing that might be helpful (especially if the previous advice doesn't work) is that you can try to avoid her as much as possible (or in other words, create programs and make up a bunch of reasons and excuses so you don't have to spend much time with her). Try to go out as much as possible. The final advice here is (what others already suggested) to try to move out as quickly as possible. The worst thing here is that you don't have any leverage in that relationship, she can almost do whatever she wants, because she knows that right now you can't move out. You need to find ways and do whatever it takes to build up your leverage and ultimately thats the best way to resolve or to make more tolerable this particular issue .

31/36 Would you say, that this test is not a good measure for psychosis and is only reliable for measuring autism?

@at_anchor You could use certain subreddits and ask your questions there for sources, and in instances when you get stuck somewhere. For example for math: If you get stuck this subreddit might be able to help you https://www.reddit.com/r/learnmath/ For physics : https://www.reddit.com/r/PhysicsStudents/

I used to be able to bench (220 lbs/100kg) for 5 reps when I trained frequently and hard.

100%. @Emerald Don't waste your time with this guy (@mr_engineer), the conversation with him won't be productive. He was probably traumatized by a feminist in the past (that he constantly associates with all feminists now), and because of that he can't have a normal, productive, introspective conversation about this subject. This is not meant to be a condescending post, this meant to be a post about how important it is to properly heal ourselves from traumas, because it blocks healthy engagement and healthy conversations about topics that are directly related to our trauma(s). I am starting to learn more and more now, that sometimes disagreements and counter arguments have nothing to do with actual disagreements ( and have nothing to do with genuinely holding certain positions ), and more to do with unconscious , unresolved baggage , traumas.

That stirling cooper guy didn't give the full context about those chat logs.

Thats sounds like an implication that porn (not just deepfake porn, but regular porn) can't be done in an ethical way. Do you actually believe in that? If you really want to establish an argument here, you would have to argue how one person watching porn contributes to how much objectification and how much exploitation of women (assuming you have your own threshold , because there is a lot of stuff that somewhat contributes to the exploitation and objectification of women). How much money does a person generate to the porn industry by sometimes watching porn (but never paying any money for it) and by the generation of that money, how much of that is directly contributing to how much exploitation and objectification of women? Thats more than likely will change in the future.

https://ocw.mit.edu/ ( I don't really know how much beginner source you will find here, but you might) https://openstax.org/subjects/math You might be able to use youtube for your learning , if you search for playlists not just for videos. So for instance here is what you will get if you type in "beginner math" and only filter for playlists: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=beginner+math&sp=EgIQAw%3D%3D

Whats your overall point with this thread? You are throwing around a lot of different kind of arguments and topics.

it felt like that the variable of happiness was used and was just a proxy to demonstrate that a conservative relationship is often times higher quality than a progressive/stage green relationship. Its easy to maintain a relationship, if you only need to focus on a few variables. I think if you have a scenario where more variables are at play and they can still maintain their relationship , now thats impressive, because there is a much higher bar there. The problem is again if you have no or one partner before your ideal partner is that you have no perspective about whats a good or a bad relationship. I don't think you could exclude or ignore that point when it comes to making your point about less partners will directly contribute to more happiness (I would be interested how you would build up that point or how you would refute my point). My problem with this is that to actually make this point you would have to imply that being ignorant is actually a good thing, but is it? For example if there is a scale of happiness from 1-100 and there is a conservative person who is only familiar with happiness at the level of 10 and thinks thats the highest, do you think thats actually trumps a stage green person with more experience who has a happiness level of 25 who is aware that his/her relationship could still be much better? One other things that could skew the numbers is that when it comes to conservative marriage, they are probably much more likely to have kids ( and kids often times correlated with having meaning in your life ). Having kids and only or highly focusing on the kids (while ignoring all other relationship problems) is phenomena that happens very often, especially among conservative people. So it would be interesting to see a comparison between conservative and progressive marriages where they only take into account marriages where they have kids or where they only take into account scenarios where neither of them have kids. One other study that would be interesting to see ( I don't know how one would conduct this study ), where they would somehow measure how honest conservative vs progessive people are about their lifes and specifically about their relationships, specifically regarding to happiness. Arguments here could be made why there are probably more dynamics at play to incentivise stage blue people to lie more. Every study regarding this relationship happiness issue, that was brough up so far has to assume that everyone is 100% honest with their reporting. How do you know that for sure,from the studies that you linked? Its not impossible to imagine that they would consciously or unconsciously lie about it, when the optics about their relationship is probably one of the most important thing to them in order to maintain their image and place in their community. Who do you think have more to lose, a couple who is not in a community or a couple who is constantly monitored by a community and has to hit certain standards in that community all the time? Some people here talking about traumas is also an interesting one, when we know that when it comes to stage green thats where people start to get more open about themselves and start to go to a therapist and actually starting their healing journey and start to get honest. Now, directly not saying or talking about your traumas when you are stage blue does not mean at all that you are okay or that you have no trumas at all. In fact often times the the complete opposite is the case. We know that shaming is one of the biggest tools often times used by stage blue people to socially push and navigate and punish their own people. One other tactic stage blue people effectively use is to repress things. Shame + repression are the two biggest tools highly collerated with stage blue, so to say that they have a highground when it comes to traumas I think is a flawed point.