WonderSeeker

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_baby_girl Just looked it up. No ABGs! We speak 95% English and little Mandarin (she's helping me learn some new words, like 性感 and 牛逼，heheh). It's really worthwhile. Americans and Canadians can still visit China visa-free until the end of this year. (Hopefully they extend this option into future years).

Social momentum is a real thing. I don't have a natural talent for conversation. I just allow myself to start at a 1 or 2 and work my way up to a 6 or 7 after a couple hours, and finally a 9 or 10 after several hours.

Alabaster Girl is in my top 3 books of all time. Not just game books, top 3 books period. Must read for ALL men. What was it like for your buddy that worked for him? Sounds like a phenomenal opportunity.

Cool! The forum really is a great opportunity for networking. Even better when you meet them in person.

We only started hooking up a week ago. Each time has been better and better. Deeper connection. Smoother chemistry. We're feeding off each other nicely. The post-sex bonding has also been quite nice. It's actually a nice cherry on top. Do you find that as well?

Not a topic, but... It's just that after reading 100 books on all the intellectual stuff Leo talks about it's all falling by the wayside and I'm finding life have to be lived now. Reading books is hard because I'd rather live and learn then read and apply. After a while you know too much and you need to burn the books and go outside.

Why aren't there squatty potties in the USA? All my life I've been taking my shoes off and squatting on raised, round toilet bowls because I can't take a shit while sitting. Then I move to China and it's all squat pots and it's like all my problems were solved.

Took a nice shit this morning.

For me it wasn't my college major in particular that was important. Just having a bachelor's degree in general opens the door to all kinds of work worldwide. It's why I was able to move to South Korea and then China with relative ease. Also, college teaches you a lot of things that have nothing to do with the classes themselves that are worth the value in my opinion. Even though the debt has been a problem for me, I wouldn't have achieved the level I am at now because I basically lived/mastered my academic mind to the point where I only exercise it when needed instead of overusing it all of the time. Those are my thoughts.

Good for you. I've been wanting to it for some time. I only keep Instagram because it's the only way I can stay in touch with a big chunk of my network. 1 year ago I deleted LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter (thank God)

Sometimes. But in your case, I'd say be less analytical. Like when you started analyzing why that one club wasn't good. Analyzing why never brings you up, it only continues the toilet drain vibes. I'd have bounced from that club straight away and opened a new set without thinking.

@trenton Is it that you want something intellectual? Or is that just your defense, and once you get past that you find yourself craving something soft (life the soft touch on the cat's head in your profile photo). I resonate with your situation, although I don't think it's as extreme for me. Honestly, when I dove beneath the surface, I found I was craving more feminine women in my life. I don't know where you live, but for me, in America, all the women are masculine these days and it's a huge turn-off for me. It makes approaching them in authentic because I don't even resonate with the vibes 99% of them are giving off. In Asia, the women are feminine, sweet, and open. I've easily had my best relationships here. Places like China in Asia, or Colombia in South America might suit you. The former has for me.

Some of that is true. There's a plaza near where I live in Chengdu that's not even 3 years old that has a bunch of cracked tiles, I guess from cars driving on them. When you walk by you can see they are thin and brittle. Otherwise China is extremely convenient, efficient, and fun to be in. I am already much happier here than in America. Friends and ladies are easy to come by, and everything is very affordable.

This guy is impressive. I haven't felt this much hope for a candidate in American politics since Bernie in 2016. He's also a great example of healthy masculinity.

Success can be driven by a vast number of things. But to keep it simple, it can be driven either by low, egoic needs, or higher, more purposeful, more inclusive needs. Not just by unhappiness. That's silly.

If hotness is the only thing you care about when it comes to dating then you are missing the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual satisfaction you can have with a woman. I find the hottest ones are usually the shallowest. This is not a blanket rule, but that's been my consistent observation. From up close and afar. An 8/10 looks woman with a 10/10 personality blasts a 10/10 looks woman with a 8/10 personality out of the water every time for me. Because society's 10/10 in looks I actually find borderline ugly. Also, a poor personality can't make up for great looks (and it is nowhere near a cope to say that).

At least in Sweden you guys have multiple parties on the left. In America the 2-party system fucks us every 4 years with a choice between lesser evils.

As long as it's authentic to you, nothing anyone says matters. I used to go back and forth about family, but now I've decided I really do want to have one. For me it's a 10-year plan, when I am about 38 I'll settle somewhere temperate with a lovely female. Awakening will happen along the way and during this whole process. I don't see awakening or career as needing to be in place of living a well-rounded life. Rather, it drenches family life with so much more meaning and consciousness. Imagine being an awakened parent — I think that's cool as fuck.

Hot girls. Stay around too long, get burned. Mind-blowing sex, spirit-draining everything else.

English. But I'm learning Chinese currently. From my experience in Asia they appreciate it when you go out of your way to learn their native language. Eh, those so-called 'bad manners' come from the older generations there (40s and up). The youth in China have moved on from some of those things your friends described. Like with any new country/culture, you gotta weigh the pros and cons. Where I'm going quality foods (produce and spices) are cheap, rent is cheap (and nice as fuck), and the people are open and laid back. Although most of China is relatively stage blue/orange, the city I'm moving to has arguably the largest contingents of stage green and relaxed orange. So yeah, there are good reasons to be excited. Also, China is the only major country on the planet that's reversing its own environmental impacts; even though yes, its pollution levels are still high, they have been decreasing over the years, and will continue to do so. When I get there and settled I'll update the forum on what it's really like~

I'm 28. I am deeply conscious of my life-story, going back to when I was about 6 years old. I'm an INFP, I have imaginative overexcitibility, and I'm good at weaving meaning together. There are a high number of events in my life that in the moment, or in retrospect due to the trajectory they sent me on, carry deep visual and emotional significance for me. As a result, I attribute a lot of meaning to these things and often review them in my mind. They are what made me who I am now, and new things and events still are sending me on new paths to hit my dreams and desires. I sometimes wonder: Does anyone else feel the same way? I find in general, people don't share deep things about themselves, in favor of social manipulations to make themselves look cool, or, wierdly, to keep playing small in life. So I don't know what it's like for others. Either way, there's a nuance to this way of being. I think you have to consciously choose to love your life-story; and, YOU must be the one that loads it with meaning (especially AFTER some awakenings when you learn your life is inherently meaningless). See, for almost my entire life I never understood celebrity worship. I found it to the most respulsive thing ever; because what is it, but loving another's life story while ignoring yours. "Wouldn't you rather ongoingly create something more beautiful out of the one life you have?" That's what I thought, even in my early teens. When I was about 14, I was at a scary low in my life. I got bullied at school daily, received dog-shit grades at school, and had no purpose, or even hobbies. At taht early age, I knew something have to change (imagine having a half-quarter life crisis). Instead of looking to celebrities, I found my first ever self-help videos, by a Lebanese dating coach of all people, and got to work. After sone time, I got a girlfriend, started getting A's in school, and became a talented athlete. Then all of that fell apart and new life events, which I'm very fond of that bring me on the verge of tears, unfolded to save me from chasing success forever. I started using psychoactive substances and spending more time with new friends, which led me into college post-modernism. I recall specific missions I set for myself that felt enlivening and made life this great adventure. Then things began to feel dull and drab. I began deep psychedelic research; and, that's when I found Leo. He broke my paradigms about life and I binged every video he ever made over a span of 6 months in 2020.I remember Covid hitting and escaping to the mountains in Upstate NY. Without telling my parents I left home and slept in my car deep in the forest. I was so scared of the cops or some crazy person finding me I barely slept loger than an hour. Also, my underdeveloped brain was trying to swallow the latest video I'd listened to by Leo about "you not existing as a self," and trying to use my hyper-logical brain to understand it. That plus Covid all made me depressed and lost at the time (and yet I'm so in love with that story and the pivot it represented -- me dipping my toes into something scary at the time, but something that seemed important nonetheless). The above 3 paragraphs are little snippits from certain chapters of my life. They all feel so real and significant. I think part of what makes life beautiful is falling in love with your imaginary past. It's so unique to you. And in your world, YOU are the celebrity. Not Bieber, not Taylor Swift, not Obama. Who cares, your story is so unique, and it's all yours. Cheers~

28, prime time I don't think it's an accident that I've heard so many men into self development say these are the years where it all pays off

Nice thread @Miguel1 and co. Reading through it has been insightful and I definitely relate to it, having done insane amounts of inner work causing me to redefine how I relate to others. Honestly, and this is more on the external support factors as @LordFall discussed, a big reason I moved to Asia (soon China) is because it pays well in my industry (money not an issue for the flow of dating) and there is FAR MORE femininity here than in North America at the moment. The best girl I ever dated was from Mongolia when I was there in 2022. Even though it was a short relationship — due to me having to move back to the states — we connected deeply VERY fast because I felt so good with her I was able to be simultaneously highly masculine/dominant and feminine in smart, calibrated ways. For example, sexually, taking the lead was a ton of fun and very smooth. Afterwords we would sit there in bed and start talking about deep things. At one point she even was like "ooooh that's DEEEP," but we kept talking about that topic anyways. Then later I said, "Wanna see me cry? There's this song that has a lot of meaning for me and it makes me cry every time." She of course enthusiastically said she wanted to see me cry. So, I did. She went crazy for me after that. The day I left she blew up my phone, sad to see me go. We wrote letters after. So, this is proof that these deeper connections are out there. I don't have much experience outside of her, because the rest of the woman I've ever dated came from fucked up backgrounds. I agree with you @Miguel1 in the sense that trauma healing and the desire to genuinely connect is more important than high spiral development; what matters more is healthy spiral development. A girl acn be say orange/green like my example, but also healthy because she isn't clinging to it if that makes sense. Nothing is holding her back from connection and openness. I'm going with my gut because personally I think the west is cooked in terms of dating. I am so turned off by 95% of the women in western countries; that's not a put-down against them, it's just a preferential line in the sand I've drawn because hardened, masculine women are basically men with tits and long hair. I am massively confident about moving to China to find such women to open up with. I have the same desire as you, and I think they are out there when you look in the right places.

My people. Was it worth it?

I think this so-called 'trolling' went in the other direction. But I agree, life has to be lived before it can be transcended. Even Peter Ralston admitted to this in his interview with Leo. I don't even necessarily buy everything Leo says. It depends on where you're coming from and your particular situation. I think our uniqueness has to be factored into how we structure our awakening journeys a lot more than we let on to. I don't understand you original comment @Hojo. If you can articulate yourself better, I'm open to taking you seriously. @Asayake I was thinking the same thing.