WonderSeeker

@Barbara Aha! I think about this all of the time. For me the forum-person relationship is spotty. I typically show up after a month break and take a quick glance. Before I know it, I'm full of inspiration and become obsessed with taking practical advice and helping others for about a week or two. Then I'll break away again. There are so many wonderful people on here, that I'm always thinking "Gee, I wonder where all of these amazing souls will be in 10 years?" The future is bright!

They say that you're the average of the five people you surround yourself with. If you could choose any five beings, past or present, who would be your core? They can be anybody that inspires you. Be creative and choose mostly names that others haven't heard about before; it's easy to say Leo or Ken Wilber. Enjoy! My core: 1) Daniel Ingram (arahant/Buddhist teacher, MD, author) 2) Byron Katie (epitome of unconditional love, creator of The Work) 3) Jad T Jones (men's dating coach, keen sense of purpose and integrity, authentic) 4) Susanne Cook-Greuter (linguist, developmental psychologist, scholar) 5) Andre Doshim Halaw (Zen priest, school teacher, author) NOTE: I just realized how hard it is to put people who aren't already in the spotlight somewhat. Maybe after another 10 years of research I can jot down more rare individuals!

This one has been pretty inspiring for my spiritual work. The lyrics from 2:33 to 3:24 are on point.

@Abdelghafar Is that your personality or just what works for you? Do others hold you back? @Reciprocality Well that's a diverse group of characters!

@Hardkill Be careful who you listen to.

Reframe this thread as "Another date, another step closer to success." Get some paper and write about a few things. Inquire about what's holding you back. How's your energy in your interactions? Is it giving? Are the dates too planned? Are you putting pressure on yourself just for that one moment when you want to kiss her? Good luck.

@Abdelghafar It's probably because 90% of the time posting on old threads is spam. If you go to a really old post, it will have a brown tag on it that advises you to start a new one.

@Lyubov I'm not good enough to pull that one off @datamonster I've never been obsessed with looks. It's more about finding a balance: you want to dress in clothes that make you feel like yourself and look good too. I have plenty of outdoors clothes like Eddie Bauer fleeces and hiking shorts/pants. Love them, but sometimes practical clothes aren't the best to wear 24/7. I'm just looking for variety and different clothes for different settings. Anyways, thanks for the well-rounded advice! Ha! "Women always figure out the truth. Always." -Han

Love to see it. Thank you for taking the oath, @andyjohnsonman & @Moksha! Kick some butt - errr I mean, show some love.

@Preety_India Looks good, buuuuut not in -15 celsius weather. Add 2 sweaters and a wool peacoat!

@Thought Art It sounds like you're on the right track. Hold on to your hunches about your secondary life purposes (e.g., being a spiritual teacher) - those visions will grow over time if you truly believe that you want that. I suggest that you have fun every day for the rest of your life. Nurture the fuck out of yourself, and your creative visions should automatically strengthen. Also, don't put too much pressure on yourself to preform. Aim for 75% performance each day; on your good days you'll naturally exceed that. Just keep on reminding yourself how AMAZING the payoffs will be. Hope this helps ~

Either go on a retreat to South America (where it's legal) or find somebody. Since it's illegal in most places nobody is going to give you an answer here. That's the cold truth.

I like the jacket on this one. It's deliberately long with calm, neutral colors. I think my style is black and grey t's with dull-colored shorts in the warm months. Winter's more complicated because layers are involved, and it's currently below zero Fahrenheit where I live It's funny because after I posted this I started looking up different people who I know dress well. I used to watch lots of hockey and everybody always talked about how well Henrik Lundqvist dressed:

@Fredodoow How have you and only you been personally attacked about your race/gender in a way that oppressed you? Examples? Try some introspection. What if, and this is a big IF - what if you're deceiving yourself by clinging to false thought patterns. Make no mistake, every human who had ever lived has done it, so please don't take it personally.

@LfcCharlie4 Not a viewpoint but more of an idea. We should repurpose large plots of land, such as cemeteries and abandoned golf courses in order to use the freed-up space for more practical, "22nd century" aims. Of course, this will be resisted by conventional egos (removal of cemeteries by conformists/diplomats and golf courses by experts, achievers, and Donald Trump). So perhaps in areas where the majority of people have transcended lower thinking/being, we can clear the way and put in green energy technology, fitness/recreational parks, let second-growth forests bloom, or something else.

I like this one: you just have to change the colors, lower the U-cut and BOOM! You're Aladdin! Who would've thunk it.

Jesus Christ, I've never seen anything like this before! Very interesting. That's the plan -- thank you for sharing!

This is VERY helpful - cheers!

@Preety_India What's the drink in the back? Looks like beet juice

@Felli Did you accidentally take a bite out of the bowl? Looks great!

@Michael569 @Preety_India Do either of you know anything about the quality of PUR filters? I'm not at the stage when I can invest hundreds on something long term yet. Thanks!

@James123 Of course. But we're talking about ego development here. Be fluent in "your" paradigms.

@BipolarGrowth Woah.

@Cammy What is the most important question I should be asking right now? It's funny because the answer to that question is that question. But seriously, it never fails, so give it a shot!

If you don't need sex, then what's the problem? Transcending survival needs doesn't mean ditching them. It just means that they aren't top priority anymore. Or put better, survival needs become more automatic - they aren't a struggle to fulfill. Well, having sex is a part of life that we have the freedom to partake in. So looking at it holistically, yes, you're lopsided even if you claim you don't need it. (And being lopsided isn't necessarily a bad thing; it's just that you're missing a part of the puzzle if you want the most WHOLE understanding.) But as I say this, I have a friend who is asexual, so she really doesn't need to worry about that dimension. There are always edge cases with these things