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@Javfly33 This is interesting I have have been in this situation many times. One example was I use to go into the cafe near where I use to live and this gorgeous girl started working there. One day she started speaking to me and it turned out we had loads I'm common. there came a point where she probably expected me to ask for her number but I didn't and pussied out because I thought I could just go back in there again. Because of how well the interaction went and how hot she was I totally romanticised about the situation and her. This put massive pressure everytime I went into the cafe and she was there and I was always just to nervous from then on to ask her number. This happened so many times that I eventually understood the point. In an interaction with someone you have chemistry with there comes a point as a man where you have to take the initiative and lead it forward, if you don't seize the moment you basicly go back to square one, the girl with never tell you directly she wants you to ask her number you have to vibe the situation and just be a man and ask her. Once you miss that opportunity you basically rejected yourself. could the real problem be that you didn't ask for her number when out had the chance ? Maybe the neediness is actually related to you not putting yourself forward as a man. From here on in because you have Built it up in your mind it will be hard to get the attraction back. Take this as a lesson when you get another opportunity again like this and seize it. Grab the bull by the horns ahah. I remember I got into another situation like this with a girl and just said to myself as I was talking to her because I felt the same vibes that there is no way Im not asking her out and I did. Btw one good way of asking a girl out is prime it half way though the convo if the vibe is there and you sense attraction. You can drop in something like say you like going out in a certain area near where she lives and its super fun ect and shed love it then change subject. Then later on in the interaction you can causally say, are you should come check it out with me sometime whats your number? In terms of neediness, its basically just your mind fantasies about someone that isn't real. It requires mindfulness to overcome it. You don't know this girl, she could not be right for you at all. You have to train yourself to catch you mind wondering off fantasying about her, become aware its happening and just see it for what it is.

@Someone here Its nether healthy or unhealthy it all depends on the place it comes from when you use it. It has a potential to become a very nasty addiction for people who have a prerequisite for addictive behaviour. If you use it consciously its fine if used unconsciously can cause harm to your mental health , sex life and ability to be intimate with people. I personally don't have a good relationship with it so don't use it at all.

@levani ahah I live in London and use to do a similar thing ?! Filmmaker and also work in a therapy centre

@Anon212 I actually believe his claims, there probably is other beings in caves who can also do what he can. He is one of the few very enlightened masters who is in the mainstream. I believe him because I have experienced siddhis and dmts naturally and I know I haven't even touched the tip of the ice burg. And then there is actual psychedelic trips which can blow your mind on whats out there. But then again why should you believe him? I also met a monk who claimed he knows a few people to levitate and all kinds of crazy stuff sad can do. Maybe just use this as motivation, there is an infinite world out there to explore how can you possibly ever get bored. Lots to get excited about

@Nicachi just another perspective to throw into the mix as its all been great so far. The more you grow and the more you open your heart the greater your capacity will be to love fully so you can use him as a pratice to open your heart more. Not to say you should ever ignore important feelings or put up with unfair behaviour however the way you have described him sounds like you do love him and get on well it just feels like you might outgrown him. Eventually on your journey you realise that the greatest gift is love and to express love under all circumstances so as long as he isnt pushing past your bounderes use the relationship to open that heart wide open. There comes a poing where you can just jump and jump or just enjoy what you have for what it is. What if this is as good as it gets?

@Karmadhi Well I can say that the way girls behave on dating apps match up quite similarly in real life if you have learned game. They do have to hide the fact they love sex but when you figure out how to seduce them and make them feel comfortable you would be quite shocked at the sort of stuff that can happen. Girls have to face a lot of stigma around sex but think about it, of course they love sex. Its worth actually accepting this and wanting people to be free in who they are. Also its worth noting, being able to have lots of women at your disposal can be very problematic and is very far from what it might appear to be. I actually fell into a lot of problems because of how easy it is to get laid. I developed sex addiction and got myself into quite a few different dramas, found deep intimacy hard because of love avoidance and what was worse other men would validate me for being able to get girls so easily so I got blinded by some of my poor actions. Just look to grow into the best person you possibly can be and stop focusing on what other people, have and can can do. Your life is to short to be worrying about topics such as this.

@Joshuas Hey man, I can definitely relate to your post. I have also had similar problems with porn and also sex addiction, I feel they are both linked. A game changer for me was looking into the work of Gabor Mate, his book in the realm of hungry ghosts is really good. Basically when certain a behaviour is out of control its normally entered around trauma. You can try everything you want to try and stop the behaviour patter but if its an act because of trauma it will be very hard unless you actually look at healing the trauma itself. Its worth really looking into why you are using porn and what is it that you are trying to avoid inside by using it. Some really helpful steps that I took to solving this issue is - complete domaine and habit detox, allow the mind to fully get back to its baseline state then asses what behaviours you want to start adding in and ones you want to cut out. The problem with things like porn is it messes up your baseline emotional regulation system so your always slightly deficient if your using it a lot. - Start investing if you have trauma which is causing the problem. Im sure you problem are already. - Use mindfulness training whenever the urges come up to obsess over porn. Stay aware and allow them to come up then relate them without attaching yourself to it. - Write down why your behaviours towards porn is harmfully to yourself and others and put it close to your computer so you can see it anytime you might get the urge. - Doing meditation retreats are also very helpful in changing habits, say a 10 day vipassana is great because when you come out your clean for the time being in a way thats very hard to get to in normal world. - Start looking into healthy views on sex such as the multi orgasmic man or tantra ect. Models by mark Manson is quite good also. - and of course if you find a good quality relationship that can be a great catalyst in making you realises that using porn can mess it up and its worth avoiding. I messed up a great relationship because of my constant need for sex or porn usage and it only ended up hurting her and myself. Ultimately sex is good thing, porn also can be used in a healthy way, but some people can definitely start using it to cover up wounds or in destructive ways and if so that needs to be addressed first before you can start trying to see sex in a healthy way. This can be a hard thing to over come because sex is a natural urge so it can be hard to tell the difference between a natural urge or a destructive behaviour.

@soos_mite_ah Pick up for sure can be manipulative, unconscious and toxic however I think its also worth looking into why would someone want to get into pick up in the first place. Understanding this can help lead to more compassion and ability to help people involved grow out of some of the toxic side to it. Most of the time, people get into pick up as a reaction to pain, trauma or rejection of some kind and alot of the men involved are deep down just looking for love but have got lost and lead down the wrong path. Ive seen hundreds of guys get into pick up and yes a few of them do go over board and do questionable things however most come out of it on the other side married or in a relationship with better male to female relatability skills. I don't think shaming people involved would help them see the light. Maybe put yourself in there shoes and ask yourself why they do what they do. Might be worth actually meeting some also. Also worth asking yourself if you were a young shy man, wouldn't you want to better your dating skills?

@SamC Well it didn't for me and everyone I knew around me on the same journey. Most guys that good very good with girls remained deeply insecure. However that is not to say it can't help but you should look to it for that reason. Getting good with women can actually cause more problems in your life than before. You have options to become a sex addict and it takes a lot of time before you become wise enough to spot the sort of person who is worth bringing into your life and who will causes you problems.

@Preety_India Im not actually sure what good game is for women would look like as it hasn't been looked into as much as it has for men. I'm not sure if being very obvious about it would work. I think maybe good game for women would be her ability to attract high quality men who will treat her with respect and making them want a relationship with her? What would you say in dating is a woman's top agenda?

@MrBON Instead of using up all this energy to complain about how life is unfair use it to work on your mindset and being a more attractive and happy man in general. You can get to a point you don't even give a dam if a girl will sleep with you or not. No matter who she is. I have dated girls a lot taller , smaller more attractive than me ect. Its all in your head and you have to slowly but surely clear out the clutter. I got to a point where I could get laid every day of the week from a point of being unable to talk to someone because of crippling anxiety. This is a common trend now with young guys complaining about this, come on man you know deep down your better than this.

Are you referring to how important money is for attracting women? Means nothing, money can help you potentially work on areas that would increase your dating potential but having millions dose not make a girl wet unless they have some weird money fetish.

Well done man, I know how damaging porn can be keep it up

@Jeff21 You have a few options, could try obtaining from sex until you meet the right girl and channel that energy into your self Actualizing. I can't see how going with escorts will be good for you in the long run so I would see it as a no go zone but its not the end of the world if you do. Its actually not that hard to find the type of girl your describing you just have to go to where they might hang out so yoga festivals, self help seminars, meditation retreats ect. I work in a place where they flock to so I meet them in abundance, you actually quickly come to realise even if they are into the same stuff you are its still just as challenging maintaining a relationship and the grass really isn't that much greener.

Btw there is a small chance he might be lying. His wife did dmt with one of my friends quite a few times. He once asked Rupert and he said he would come at some point to try but I don't think he ever did. This was like 4 years ago, he is more aware of this stuff then he is letting on just might be trying to keep face. Edit: I live near Rupert so I use to see him all the time but due to covid he has stopped touring but next time I see him Im going to see if he's up for shoving some 5meo up the pipe hole

@Leo Gura are any teachers arond now who you think have grasped god consciousness to any degree? Maybe sadhguru?

@arlin it's not, that's the problem. If you want me to fully explain in detail why I will happily do so its more there are higher levels of development and seeing the world he is blind to. He is still young so is just talking from a very limited perspective. If only he knew aha. But this is where we need to step in and stop guys like you listening to him and being lead astray

@arlin You have to becarful what you put in your mind, you listen to guys like him his toxic ideologies will start seeping into your mind, you do not want that. Ask yourself who is it you want to end up like, him or say sadhguru?

@UDT The only thing that dies is whats not true, but I get your point. Live as fully as you can and don't waste a breath

@electroBeam I learned it completely by myself I just went out a lot and did lots of approaches, eventually I made friends with some of well known coaches. You can generally learn by just being around them and seeing how they interact. I never paid for a single dime to learn it, not to say its not worth doing tho if you had the money

Im not sure about tiger woods but with Tyson boxing came to him. He was discovered one day in a youth prison when he hit one of the guards in a sparing match so the guard brought him down to see a legendary boxing trainer called Cus D'amato who knew straight away if eh trained Tyson up he would be world champion because he was a freak athlete. Before he was robbing people in the rough streets of New York so I wouldn't say he is a good example at all because he is say a once in a lifetime person. Tho if you follow him from when he trained with D'amato yes you can take massive inspiration in the way he evolved mike into a hard working killing machine. When Cus died he went back to being destructive Tyson again and that was all she wrote. Tho Id say atm Tyson has now evolved to be one of the most conscious well known athletes atm, he's done 5meo, meditates and loves sadhguru. Considering who he was and where he came from defo an inspiration without question just a complete one off tho.

@arlin One word of advice never watch this guys videos ever again ahah, 90% of what he says is just wtf. Plus its pretty negative

In terms of being a guy I think this works best when your in abundance and have lots of options and have really come into your own as a man, have done and experienced all there is to offer. You stop seeing women as conquests. however maybe on the woman side they probably make friends with you because they want to date you but what im saying is just make sure the shoe is on the other foot and friend zone any women your not interested in dating.

@Leo Gura Do you still go out and do pick up these days?

@Leo Gura This was great to read. People are so quick to judge and point fingers on people in the spotlight. Your work is greatly appreciated and deep down everyone wishes you the best <) I'm going through a radical awaking atm and if live streamed would look like a nutcase, reading this has made me feel better x