John Paul

Is god the creator of all things? Is god all things itself? What is god? Is god all powerful? What is power? if there is a god, wouldn’t it likely have the authority to say what it is above any other being?

My life’s purpose is to serve and love my family… but who’s my family? Part of me feels like it’s obvious… but then I think: who is my family? Not every blood relative of mine is my family. My family is simply who I choose to be loyal to and serve via the five love languages. “John Paul” is obviously family… that’s a given (or is it?). But who else? My mom? My dad? My children? My friend from work? My friend from childhood? My friendly neighbor? My siblings? Everyone? My political group? My gym friends? My art friends? My girlfriend? Or is there some sort of criteria that determines who’s family? Some sort of set of boundaries? E.g. Family is those who are clean and sober who I’ve known for 4 years who aren’t in any cults etc. But people change and nobody is perfect- what kind of exceptions to these boundaries would have to exist for my loved ones? What about my children?-They’re sure to get addicted to sugar, join a cult at some point in time, steal at one point in time, take on close minded-ideologies at some time… who gets an exception and who doesn’t? Or maybe my boundaries and exceptions are the same for everybody and Family is who chooses to be with me? This makes sense but what if a lot of people love me? There’s only so much time in the day. Who gets prioritized first and who gets prioritized last? The last tier would be people who can’t respect my boundaries and are strangers and the first tier would be Family… but my children are sure to push if not violate my verbally stated boundaries chronically… Family is who I choose. Family is who I choose to love. Should I choose on the basis of my emotional guidance system? My emotional guidance system would have me serving more than one women, many of which would be taking advantage of me. That means the emotional guidance system alone can’t be trusted unless it’s seriously attuned and disciplined to certain principles. But my only principle is to serve and love my family… I know this is the highest. Which brings me back again- who is family? (Who do I serve?) Should I serve whoever it serves me to serve? This is just another way of saying should I just serve myself, I suppose. No… I must be loyal to people beyond myself… right? This subject is proving to be the most difficult thing for me in this time. Any help with this contemplation is appreciated. Thank you.

@Devin I think there’s a misunderstanding here on our definition of submissiveness. I don’t know how to answer your question or if this is just some kinda jab at the other guy… maybe you can rephrase the question

@Devin there is no scenario where she essentially has no say unless I imagine an abusive situation. (She needs to get out now.) if she is voicing the same concern more than once and the man is completely ignoring it then she really needs to consider who she is with (she needs to dump his ass). I think it’s important to note though that being passive-aggressive and dropping hints is not the same as legitimately communicating a concern clearly- especially in the example you are giving of marriage etc…. Clear communication should be established well before a relationship reaches a stage such as marriage IMO so none of this would realistically be a problem. edit: and if there was clear communication but now there isn’t then they need counseling or psychedelics or something- it takes two to communicate- the man and the woman

We grow small trying to be great. Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head on. I never forgive, but I always forget. It is easier to love humanity as a whole than to love one’s neighbor. Above all show sincere love to each other, because love brings about the forgiveness of many sins. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

If she is submitting out of fear you will feel empty inside. if she is submitting out of humility you are probably already in heaven.

@NoSelfSelf thanks for your contribution

@NoSelfSelf okay… someone judges a woman. you judge them as a weak man. I could judge you as being a poor communicator. That probably wouldn’t feel good or be received well on your end. I never said anything about women being bad in my post. I was just attempting to define healthy mental boundaries.

@NoSelfSelf I don’t believe in badness personally. But someone might think a woman is bad if they never express gratitude, always complain, always push buttons, always gossip, steal, lie, cheat, manipulate…. I mean… do you think women are angels? Cmon man… we are all “sinners”

@Michael Jackson don’t eat right before. Be in a place where you won’t be bothered by anyone. Be alone. I don’t have guns but make sure you won’t hurt yourself etc. Turn your phone on airplane mode- no internet/text, or just leave it off. Try to be hydrated, try to be healthy in general. Take a shower before. Now that I think of it just pretend you are preparing to go to sleep/ have sex but you are just alone.

@NoSelfSelf Is it not true that many “bad people” or whatever he said are women? I think you are crusading a bit here (stage green)….

@NoSelfSelf I don’t think he was trying to spread anti-women ideology.. I think he was just being generally cynical. AKA being realistic with a negative frame.

The fact that this is what you want is enough. And nothing more is needed. Nothing more. Nothing more. You will be fine <3 no fear. (Actual practical advice) If you have time, make a nice playlist in case of anxiousness.

It’s not true 100% of the time because high quality men are also looking for what they would likely word “a high quality woman” that they may even commit to. Right?

@acidgoofy looking to talk over social media with someone about many details

I know this isn’t answering your question but I would pay these individuals any attention at all unless they have some sort of special meaning already established in your life: your dad, son, nephew, best friend’s son etc.

@meta_male So you wouldnt bother if it was your sister?

Nobody?

@Leo Gura please save us from the wrath of the metals

For the first dose kicking off the cycle am I supposed to take a large dose? I don’t know where I got this idea- I lost my heavy metal notes. I still remember the rest of the details of the cycles I did. also how necessary are the supporting vitamins as I’m on a budget? @Leo Gura

@meta_male my post is kind of pointing toward women who are in a near permanent state of testing and who rarely surrender (including family and friends)

Do it…. We need a new one…. Cmon…. Make it with detailed examples instead of lists. Like straight up story time even if the stories aren’t yours/true

@How to be wise why is that? Shouldn’t what you’re doing serve someone? And on that note who should you serve? @mmKay

Yep. I come here to masturbate (mentally). Thanks y’all for helping me bust my nuts this morning.

To demonstrate that all categories are connected- make an additional category on the top of the list- “all posts” @Leo Gura