ZenAlex

Hey guys, as time has gone on throughout my adulthood, I noticed myself becoming more emotionally flat. I noticed in my early adulthood lacking strong preference in most things, being apathetic and not caring. Then around my early twenties I started to notice myself feeling more flat, and then by default more discontent. I've done a lot over the last few years to combat this - No regular alcohol consumption, healthy diet, better sleep, given up video games/tv regularly, trying new things. I'm grateful for my issues for forcing me into self awareness and helping me discover new things, but despite feeling better than I did a few years ago, It still doesn't feel like it once did before. It's like around 23 years old I noticed something flip inside of me and all of a sudden I became a lot more neurotic and lacked the same enjoyment from things. I'm over the worst of it, because I can take some satisfaction from things now, but things have never felt the same. I've gone to a psychologist, but she didn't really have much of an answer, and just told me to socialise more, and that I may have Autism. I tried socialising more with people, and even though I did enjoy it a bit, it didn't change my default feeling. I used to be an emotional kid, but now I feel mostly apathetic and uncaring. Anyone ever overcome this?

I don't really want anything enough to be disappointed really. I'd be disappointed if I could never walk again and hike I guess. I always just try and find away around obstacles, I don't complain.

Because we're literally made to survive above all else. No point in valuing happiness and love if you're dead.

I really don't understand what people mean by "trust nature". Everything is natural, including you thinking twice about what you're doing and put precautions in place to avoid the damage certain parts of nature can do to you.

Are you a diagnosed schizophrenic?

Just because you have no doubts doesn't mean you're not delusional.

Do you - Drink alcohol? Drink caffeine? Drink energy drinks or anything else with stimulants? Take drugs? Get terrible sleep regularly? I've had paranoid thoughts, and it approved my paranoia massively when I stopped drinking alcohol and caffeine. If you do anything of the above, try changing these things. There's so much crap in people's diets. If none of the above apply to you, then go to a professional, because you may have paranoid personality disorder or this may be leading onto something more serious like schizophrenia.

lol 30 here. Young whipper snappers, just make sure you don't a mistake that is so bad it causes irreparable damage.

I'd say Leo is INTP. His main desire is understanding and accuracy above all else. This is very TI dom and very INTP like. INTJ's enjoy understanding but their main concern is applying ideas/strategies to reality, and understanding usually to the degree that they can get use from something. INTJ's don't value understanding as much as INTP's.

No anti-depressants. I do feel things when listening to some music, yes. I can feel some satisfaction from some things.

The fact that abortion is banned shows you how many mindless, religious fundamentalists there are these days. There is simply nothing good to come from banning abortion. A child will be born into a scenario that they're not wanted by their parents, cannot be provided for well. A young mother who's made a mistake or been raped will be forced into having a kid. It's just stupidity.

My advice - Try to make your meals balanced with carbs, fat and protein. It usually gives you the carb energy, and the satiating feeling due to the fat and protein. If people were eating healthy whole food from birth, I highly doubt anyone would be obese, or at least not many. Junk food has little to no nutritional value, so it doesn't fill you up. I could eat a 2000 cal mcdonalds meal and be hungry within 3 hours lol.

No, not all females hate you, you are not in a position to verify this. And even if most of them did hate you, who gives a fuck? Raise a big old middle finger to the world and just make yourself happy bro.

Peace/Fulfillment are not acquired through getting anything, this is the realisation you need to detach yourself from material things. Peace/fulfillment is GENERATED through wisely selected repeated behaviours. Health comes from repeated behaviour - Eating healthy, sleep pattern, exercise. Good mental health comes from repeated behaviour - Meditation/Mindfulness, therapy, journaling, introspection etc etc Awareness is maintained through repeated habits/behaviours - Avoiding distractions, meditation, hiking, mindfulness etc. Everything that goes into feeling better is not primarily about what you HAVE, but what you DO. Fulfillment is GENERATED not acquired through having anything, besides of course meeting your basic needs/requirements.

I can relate to what you're saying, but sometimes you've got to work through these obstacles. Coming more into the present moment can lead to existential crises but as you get used it and learn to deal with the higher level of awareness, you can simply learn to live differently and be happy.

Anything that gives you instant gratification needs to be limited or restricted, that's a big part of the secret. Video games, TV, junk food, alcohol etc. Without these things you'll likely be more motivated and focused.

I think it's harsh that you've been prejudged @Preety_India for your disorder. I've seen people with the disorder that seem like loving people who talk about their therapy and their trauma. But you have to understand why people are concerned as soon as they realise someone has a cluster B personality disorder, simply because the behaviour these disorders provoke is often very toxic. The two most famous celebrity toxic relationships around right now involve women with BPD and/other cluster B PD's. I hope you find peace and find someone understanding.

You don't need to do anything with it except live and pursue your interests. You don't need to become more wealthy than you need to survive and pursue your hobbies/interests. Appreciate that you have 5 figures in the bank when many people are living from day to day, paycheck to paycheck with little disposable income, if any. I'd just focus on maintaining those savings, having a job that allows you to continue building savings, and spend it on stuff that really matters.

Why would you cut fruit out of your life? Fruit and veg are healthy. Learn the difference between low/mid gi carbs and high gi carbs. Carbs are getting a bad time recently, like fats were about 20 years ago. Complex carbs and healthy fats - Get both. Sugar outside of it's natural form is bad for you, not in it's natural form. Fruit sugar will cause you no harm because it doesn't spike your blood sugar.

Sorry for late response. Did I touch a nerve or something? I'm simply interested in the discussion because I personally believe most people who rely on caffeine simply have crappy lifestyles, as we live in the most physically relaxed generation ever, and somehow they need caffeine to function. I know there'll be exceptions when some people have unavoidable health issues etc, but IMO most people would not need caffeine if their lifestyle was better.

There has been times where I accidentally ate too few calories and lost weight gradually. I was exercising for about 30-60 minutes a day during this time, plus hiking on the weekends. I'd have to wake up regularly at 5-6am. I never needed coffee/energy drinks at all. I understand why some athletes might, but why the average person? When I eat healthy food, drink plenty of water, and get a good nights sleep I feel fine and productive all day, and even if I only get 2-3 hours, I can still get up an function. I know there are some people with bad health conditions that make it difficult for them to function, but that's not most people.

It's amusing just how many guys I see on the internet asking "Is this Alpha", "Am I Alpha if". I cannot help but cringe whenever I hear men or anyone describing themselves as "alpha". It just insinuates to me that they are too bothered about categorising themselves and then comparing themselves to others. Why can't people just be happy as an individual rather than needing to put themselves in a particular category? I don't understand why they can't just live as an individual... nope, it has to be about finding out "which one of these am I?" and then posting their results on social media and expecting everyone else to give a shit? Just another psychological medallion to attach to your ego?! Is it purely about just not being able to stop comparing themselves to others or needing to feel better than others? I know in nature there is such a thing as a pack leader, silverback - Alpha Male. But all there is to being an Alpha Male is being a dominant male. You could be dominant in one situation but be inferior in another, as per the diversity in society where it's not just all about whoever is the biggest gets to fuck all the bitches and get the first pick of the food. You could be Alpha in one situation, but be the Beta in another... Yet people create their own descriptions about what makes you an alpha or beta male, and I've seen many different criteria to judge if someone is alpha or beta. As if you are Alpha or Beta wherever you go if you meet enough of the requirements. To me when people refer to others as beta it's just them perceiving them as undesirable and/or inferior, and themselves as the superior as an "Alpha". Funny how so many of the people who describe themselves as Alpha give off massive insecurity vibes. It seems to me that insecurity is the main thing that leads people to concern themselves with being Alpha because to achieve Alpha status is the biggest ego booster and confirmation that you are better than everyone else. Whether your Alpha or Beta who fucking cares? It's how satisfied you are with your life that matters. I don't really spend any time thinking about whether I am one or the other, but human psychology and behaviour interests me. I've also seen this new trend of "Sigma males" as well. Basically guys who want to be everything the Alpha male usually is except trying to give off a more "not giving a fuck" sort of vibe. Like a lone wolf Rambo sort of guy. TL;DR - To me it all feels like too many people caring too much about how others perceive them.

I believe that most Christians and Muslims are peaceful enough people. It's stupid to say that Christianity or Islam are religions of war or of peace, when their holy texts clearly have passages in them that support the use of violence. The reality is that the religions and their holy texts were created by humans, some of them well intentioned, some of them not. Violence is a part of life, and the religions were formulated in more primitive times where humans had not learned to settle their difference is less violent ways, so along comes religion to put people's minds at ease by justifying it through god/religion etc.

At the end of the day no one on here is an expert neuroscientist/biologist/doctor, that's gonna have all the answers. I personally feel more depressed/anxious for days after fapping, so i can relate to OP. I feel better when I don't fap. There may be some desire to do it for a bit after, but after a while I go through a nice flat line and don't really think much about sex. Some people report feeling better, some people report feeling worse, everyone's body is different. To OP - Doesn't matter what anyone else says, do what works for you. Anyone critical of nofap should try it for a while and see what happens. For some people it's just cope and bullshit, but for me - It makes me feel better if I don't fap regularly, that's I'm gonna say. It's not a self-esteem thing, It's not about feeling like a loser, I just feel mentally and emotionally worse after fapping. I feel better, less anxious, less emotionally numb and less irritable when I don't fap.

@OceanRiver @DnoReally I never said status hierarchies didn't exist. I'm saying the whole Alpha, Beta, Sigma thing and people trying to assign their worth to a category like this is kind of stupid, especially if you're thinking about it regularly, and actually put an excessive level of thought into which label applies to you. It's also kind of sad, because there are plenty of people who have climbed the top of the social hierarchies and "got everything" and still been depressed and miserable people. People think that if you climb that hierarchy that "you've won", but in reality you haven't really won anything because the only winning in life is being satisfied and fulfilled with it, and you don't need high status for that shit. People place value on stupid things. Status have survival value, and that's why people obsess about it, but it doesn't make you happy at all.