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My first post in this sub-forum. I just got a girlfriend (Yayyy!! ?), and I am a noob when it comes to sex. I just got Trojan Pleasure Pack from Walmart. I keep my condoms stored in the house in my safe. But how do you all carry condoms around in this hot weather? I heard that keeping them in a wallet is a bad idea and having them exposed to 100 degree heat for a long time is a bad idea. This means me keeping it in a pocket isn’t a good idea unless I am indoors for most of the time. But I like outdoors. I am running out of ideas of where to store the condom on me to prevent it from being ruined from the heat or from being ruined/teared from being in wallet. Any tips? In Oklahoma, temperatures are consistently near and surpass 100 Fahrenheit. Thanks. Also what do you all think of Trojan Pleasure Pack? Is there a better condom out there? I am a newbie at this, so thanks for your support.

8/15/22: Pushups: 58 total in 5 minutes. 32 pushups straight (Broke my record here). Pullups: 30 total in 5 minutes. 12 straight (Broke my record here). Run: 3.1 miles in 22 minutes. Gonna get after it again today. Key insight I learned is to not be distracted by new girlfriend. It is no excuse to stop being a man.

Having them in backpack seems like a good idea for me because I like to be outdoors. How are your condoms able to survive in your car? The heat must effect them. Can you tell if a condom has been effected and no longer is safe to use? Forgive me, I am new to this stuff lol. Thank you. ??

Keep it simple. I don't have a morning routine. I do what I love as much as I can. Having a structure tends to take the fun out of it for me. I trust in my inner wisdom that if I follow what I love most in the moment, I will get what I need done. Think of following your fun and love as like fuel for you for the rest of your day. It isn't an activity, it is a feeling that you are after. Emotion = energy in motion

You can do it. See this as an opportunity to challenge yourself to grow. I used to be very shy, nervous, and socially awkward, and crowds used to cause excess stimulation. But now, I look back and cry because of how much I have grown since then. Sure, I am not perfect. I still get shy, nervous, socially awkward, and stimulated from time to time. But the point is that I showed up everyday and I gave it my all. How can you have the courage to show up everyday and give it your all? Showing up is really half the battle. Don't follow the herd's example. Most students don't show up, but they aren't going anywhere you want to be going in life. How you do the small things in life will show you how you handle the bigger things later on. Trust me, each time you miss a class, that is like taking $20 and burning it up in flames. Challenge yourself mate. It is easy to run away from fear, but it will make your life harder in the end. Embrace the fear and challenge. You can do it. I did it. What is your excuse?

Good for you. Very bold and brave. Well done.

You as well mate. You are slaying it with your productivity at home and at the gym!

It takes courage to open your heart. It takes bravery to love. Love isn't an easy thing. But it is worth the pain. The pain of an open heart may feel worse than a closed heart in the short-term. But in the long-term, having a closed-heart (i.e., not caring, not loving, giving up, closed off from emotion, etc.) will have you suffer more in the long-term. Your act of caring and emotional sensitivity is a strength. But your strength can be a hindrance. It sounds to me that past relationship "failures" are hindering your "success." Sounds like you need to heal and work through past experiences, to fully process them. A therapist can help and journaling can. It is hard to move on when you are carrying bricks. Rewatch Home Alone 2. There is a scene where Kevin inspires homeless woman to open her heart again. Here it is: I wish you the best. Rocky

Day 1: 8/11/22 Pushups: 50 pushups in 5 minutes. 25 straight with breaks. Pullups: 30 pull-ups in 50 minutes. 10 straight with breaks. Run: 1.5 miles in 10:18 Day 2: 8/12/22 pushups: 56 pushups in 5 minutes. 27 straight with breaks. pull-ups: 15 pull-ups. 11 straight. My hands were hurting so I take a rest day today to take it easy to avoid injury. run: 1.5 miles in 9:53

@Kksd74628 You are a badass. So glad you made a Gym here. Can’t wait to join the Actualized.org Gym lol! ??

What do you think of David Lion’s perspective of discipline? I agree with everything you wrote so far and also this video. Thanks for the 100 push-up challenge. I will try it out! Your post is very insightful. Thank you! Bookmarked! ? OP can you rename the post to Discipline Challenge? Thanks. Day 1: 8/11/22 Pushups: Did 50 pushups all on my knuckles with 5 minute timer. 25 straight pushups. Had to take breaks like 5-10 times after 25. Pull-ups: I did 30 pull-ups in 5 minutes with multiple breaks. I did 10 straight. Ran 1.7 miles in 10:18

The root of suffering isn’t desire but rather perception or even more accurate, misperception of reality. Desire is the essence of life. Also, it can be good to not be satisfied. Suffering can be good. If you are satisfied with mediocrity, then it is hard to find any desire to improve and be exceptional. Even God, an infinite being isn’t satisfied with itself. If infinity could be satisfied, why would it want to experience limitation in this meatsuit? God wants to have fun, you want to have fun. Life is a vacation. We all have our own escapes. Being dissatisfied is a feature of perfection, intelligence, and improvement. Enjoy the samsara. You got a point, you will never be satisfied because you are Infinite Spirit playing a finite human. But we should be asking, why does the Infinite Spirit want to cosplay as something that it isn’t? Maybe it is so that it can explore more of what it is.

IPEC. That’s where Leo got his at I think.

Do you find it worthwhile so far? How has it helped you? What new skills have you learned? Is it worth $50/month? Is it a scam? (I assume you can cancel at anytime). Thank you!

You're welcome!

Please keep us posted on how it goes. I am curious if it is legit. It sounds too good to be true to me.

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

I need a book on how to read a book. Look at that strange loop! The best way for visualization is to just commit to doing it each day. Reading about visualization isn’t visualization. Read Into The Magic Shop. It talks about manifestation. Also, check out David Lion on YouTube. He’s got a great course on how to channel.

Read John Gorman’s book Making Marriage Work and implement the 7 principles he lays out. It is very enlightening. Gave me a brilliant point of view. Wish you the best.

?❤️? Turn everything spiritual. Don’t let anyone convince you to be anything but your most authentic self! (Whatever the hell that is for you lol). Keep making spiritual threads. Haters/critics are a good sign that you are on your path. Because nobody who is high on life and on their path will try to deter others from greatness. People on their true path uplift. At least that is how I see it. ?

Playfulness and seriousness are two sides of the same coin. David Lion teaches us to be playful with life and Leo Gura teaches us to be serious about life. Both are true. If you aren’t serious about playfulness and playful about being serious, then both sides will always be at war. Being serious about your play means caring about what you create and caring about honoring yourself and greatest gifts to serve life. If you aren’t serious about your play, then the default is mediocrity. But if you aren’t playful about being serious, then the outcome is a life without fun. Both outcomes lead to suffering. Art is work and art is play. That is the paradox. Anytime you think “either or” you can be sure that you are wrong. Reality is always all-encompassing and too damn intelligent to be put in the “either or” box.

Freewill assumes ownership of choice. There is no owner but Consciousness. Nothing outside of Consciousness to own and control it.

What is the assumption of freewill? That there is a mind behind it. Does a chair have freewill? An animal have freewill? An atom? A cell have freewill? Does a human being have freewill? If a human has freewill, then what part of the human has freewill and which parts don’t? Does the human toe have freewill? Does the human heart have freewill? Immune system? Brain? Neuron? Where is freewill located? Does the mind have freewill? Freewill is making distinctions in consciousness that aren’t really there. When you say a human has freewill, what do you mean by that? You already assume that human has a mind separate from your own. Really, the human mind and will is one with all of the universe. The human mind and the wind and lava and gas and the water cycle are all the same process. The Mind is constructing freewill. But is the mind free to construct freewill? I think so. When the Mind is fully present in the Now, all ideas of freewill become just that, ideas. Choice is an idea that you as a human can choose among many options. But if you aren’t even aware of your choices and freewill, then it’s as if it doesn’t exist at all. The freewill debate is also about the mind debate. It seems weird to argue freewill exists without also assuming that mind exists. But freewill debate is also deeper still than just mind. It is about whether choice exists or if it is all just a game of dominoes, cause and effect. Are there multiple possibilities or just one possibility? The mind constructs this. If you believe in one possibility that will be real for you. If you construct multiple possibilities for yourself, that will be real for you. Determinism is flawed because it takes the Intelligence out of life. It assumes life is linear, predictable, and that it is all just dumb matter. Determinism = materialism. But if we assume the freewill paradigm is true, we are also assuming that the Universe is an Intelligent Mind rather than a chain of linear cause and effect.

That's why I always laugh when somebody gets offended online. It is just words on a screen, and you never know the person's backstory, intentions, context, etc. Why give meaning and why care so much about what someone, a stranger, who you will probably never meet, thinks of you? If someone offends you with their words on here, that is on you to take responsibility for what you choose to do with your time. Turn off the computer, cut the people out of your life by literally "unplugging" from your computer. It is so much easier and satisfying than in the in-person life sometimes. Much harder to cut people out in "real life." If you can't do it online, then in-person life is gonna be harder.

Was just about to make a separate post on this, but I will post my insights here. I had a new insight into free will. I used to be free willer before philosophy, then when I took philosophy, I slowly became deterministic. However, when I did spirituality, I have realized that determinism is an illusion and free will exists. You have free will because you are God. I realized I have free will by being conscious of all that I am willing. I can move my fingers. How am I able to move my fingers? How am I as consciousness able to will something at all? How am I able to will something without knowing how I am willing it? But you see, existence and will come before knowledge of how you exist and will. Even to analyze your own thoughts of how you willed your thoughts has to first be a will. You see the problem? Your act of knowing is a will - decision, desire, action, behavior. But where does the "free" part come in? Free will does not mean that the ego can do whatever it wants. People who are determinists or spiritualists will sometimes say that free will is an illusion because the ego is an illusion. But the ego is never the one who has free will. People who say free will is an illusion because the ego is an illusion are mistaken I believe because the free will debate to me is about whether choice or will exists or not. In a deterministic universe, there is no choice or will, it is just events and actions happening like dominos in a linear way, but this seems to be underestimating the power and intelligence of reality and dumbing it down to a linear progression. It may appear linear and causal to you, but that does not mean that is how it is. For clarity, when I say you have free will, I mean the awareness can will and choose what it focuses on. You are consciousness and consciousness can decide what aspects to be aware of. It is kind of a paradox, but from a certain perspective, you have free will by realizing you have none as an ego. The reason why I say you have free will is because you as consciousness can do whatever you want. If you want to move your hand, you will send signals to your imaginary brain, to fire electrochemical impulses and move your imaginary blood so that you can move your hand. But to move your hand, you also need to will the entire universe around your hand. For instance, to even move your hand, the sun has to exist and be a certain distance from earth, plants have to grow for there to be life at all. Why is this? You willed it to be like this because this is how you designed reality but you just forgot. You are willing everything right now, it is just that you don't know how you are doing it. Alan Watts says that you can say that you are breathing right now, and you can also say that it is happening to you. Both are true. You are willing the circumstances for breathing to happen, which is another way of saying that you are God. So yes, you have free will, you just don't know how your doing it, and the Self or Consciousness is not the one who has free will, it is free will. Your ego is just the idea of separation which doesn't actually exist. You can whatever you really put your mind and heart to. The mistake is that there is a subject who is willing. There is just Consciousness with the properties of intelligence and will. EDIT: Also, your first response to the poll is backwards, it should be that free will is true in the ultimate sense but an illusion in the relative sense, which is what this response is about. The human being doesn't have free will because it is subject to the Will of the Universe or God's Will.