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@Shiva99 Expect this for a whole, common withdrawal symptom! Im 10 days in now and starting to have awesome levels of energy again, can see myself doing this for good!

Just thought of a great example with my mum. She is very very anxious and In panic mode due to Covid-19 but she of course isn’t choosing Anxiety, it’s a result of a number of things such as too much mainstream news, fear of death, Poor health etc, creating a state of fear. So, it is an accumulation of a number of things that causes these things. In my case, I am very calm and at peace about the situation as I focus heavily on my health, relatively speaking have prepared with supplements and a routine in case, I also don’t completely believe the official narrative, and know death is simply an illusion, so therefore, feelings of peace and calm manifest instead. This can be applied to any situation, and shows how things are much more complex than a simple choice But, at the end of day, all that matters is the absolute freedom awakening brings, that’s where the desire for free will comes from, to experience the absolute beauty and freedom of the absolute. have a great day!

@Heaven As I say, If you still see yourself to be a separate entity, then the belief in free will is very normal When you see yourself as pure awareness/ The Absolute/ The Self, the issue is resolved as all that exists is THIS, and THIS has absolute freedom, in every moment

@Roy It’s all just a spontaneous joy in each wonderful passing moment! life is a beautiful celebration, and we are so lucky to have found a community like this, and teachings like this that help us understand this! Think about how much of the world is yet to to see the truth of their own being, we really are lucky!

Vegan of 5 years now, started to cure my acne (per Brian Turner on YouTube) Carried it on for the ethics of it, struggled a little bit at one point as I wasn’t supplementing B12, but once I started supplementing B12, D3& a wholefood multi, feel amazing! Also, added in Intermittent Fasting and weekly 24 hour fasts which have also been awesome so far and making losing weight a walk in the park.

@Enlightenment Yeah agree to an extent. However, some people are genuinely addicted to Porn and it Fs them up and limits their growth as a person, think the typical mums basement playing video games all day, and No-Fap could be a spearhead to a “better” life. I think it’s a case by case basis, like most things, and it isn’t a one size fits all approach. If people want to quit porn, video games, junk food etc then so be it. If not then enjoy them! For me Porn & Junk Food are 2 things I personally quit as I have quite an addictive personality, and porn used to effect my relationship to an extent, and I was a little obese as a child. Every case is different

@Preety_India Thank you I really appreciate it! it comes from a place of suffering with Porn addiction for a long time haha! And, of course feel free

@Amit In this situation, banning seems completely the wrong approach to me, sorry. And, this is from someone in the process of quitting Porn. Banning will just create underground Porn, like we now have an underground Drug trade.

@Jacobsrw Perfect answer, Childlike with joyful maturity summarises it nicely

Banning is completely the wrong approach, absolute freedom means we have the choice to consume what we wish. If that is a life on porn, weed, junk food and coke, then so be it. Often, people aren’t happy with these lifestyles and decide to “transcend” them and become happier, these people may decide to quit using porn. For example, I think Coca Cola is poison so don’t ever drink it, that doesn’t mean I think it should be banned, as some people wish to drink it, despite the health effects, that is their choice as a human. Maybe one day, enough people will stop drinking it and care more about their health, in that Coca Cola will actually have to create a healthy product in response. I actually think the opposite regarding Drugs, and believe they should all be made legal, so users can 1) get a cleaner product and 2) Addicts can get the help they need. If we ban porn maybe it’ll follow down the whole looking down on Porn addicts as most of society does with drugs. It’s a complex issue with Porn, because to overcome the addiction it isn’t as easy as simply not watching, it is usually a sign of some underlying issue, so needs a bit more effort than just stopping watching, for many “No-Fap” is a gateway into personal development work. Personally, I have struggled with Porn for a long time, and I realised it was because I wasn’t being sexually expressive with my ex-GF, we didn’t talk enough about what we both really wanted from our sex life. Currently, I’m on a 90 day Porn reset which you have probably heard of, and I feel it’s exactly what I need right now

@Olly Yeah, I was only drinking Green Tea by the end, but was still having sleep issues as I was up to like 4-5 cups a day, like you say always needing and wanting more!

Hey guys, Currently going through my first break up, and even though it was for the best (we want different things) it is incredibly fucking hard. We had broken up before, around this time last year, but that was due to actual issues in the relationship, and as a typical Enneagram 7 my response to dealing with it was to escape and Ignore instead of go into my feelings and fully feel them as they arise, no matter the intensity. This time, it is due to being at slightly different places in life, and it feels like it’s for good. So, I was wondering from people who have been through this what is the “best” ways to deal with this. My intuition is telling me the best way is to simply face all feelings that arise head on and cry as much as I need to, reminisce as much as I need to, and simply feel my emotions fully as I did not do last time. As a zen master once said- “When you are happy, be completely happy, and when you are sad, be completely sad.” It’s very easy to do when the baseline becomes happiness, now is the real test. Thanks for any advice guys, and, if there was ever a reminder that life can still hit you hard post awakening, and that you still are a human with emotions and feelings, this is it. And, right now (and for a while I imagine) I will he faced with bouts of sadness and crying, but that is natural, much more natural than trying to deny the feelings as I did before. The crying is still beautiful, and the crying is still the absolute, we are not simply robots post awakening, but if anything feel deeper, and right now I can say the feelings are certainly more intense than ever. This is it, always. Enjoy your weekend everyone.

In my experience, it’s just an interest in the truth, never take anything anyone says at face value and simply investigate everything for yourself. I agree, nothing should be made into a Dogma or ideology, but I wouldn’t say just investigating does that. Mindlessly believing in it does.

@Raptorsin7 Unrelated, basically the relationship had become too one sided and she was putting in more of the effort and commitment, and basically got sick of it, which is completely fair enough, I just wish I realised how much I was distancing myself sooner, I essentially tried to make the relationship a part of my life, instead of realising it is your life, and your partner should feel like that, I got very carried away in firstly seeking several years ago, which she wasn’t too interested in, although she would meditate with me and recently attended Satsang with me, and then the last year, Business even more so, I just didn’t give the relationship the attention it deserved, I kinda felt the person I was being didn’t deserve to be in the relationship anymore, she deserves much better, especially as She is a very relationship orientated person. The issue stems from the “honeymoon” phase 2 years ago which was honestly (aside from awakening) the best 6 months of my life, I can’t see why people get hooked on that new love haha. At tht time I was very focused on the relationship as it was new, and we was both in school so had similar schedules and lifestyles, and my business was very very new at that point. The issues began arising when she went to Uni, and we were basically on different “wavelengths” as I was working a lot, and she had a lot of free time at Uni, but I’ll stop rambling haha, what is done is done, and I’m sure it’s for the best, and wish her nothing but happiness it will be the hardest thing ever seeing her when she gets a new boyfriend though, honestly. In regards to attraction, basically just quit porn, research and implement a fair amount of sex advice and become good in bed and you should be good, as long as the initial attraction is strong, if you keep a women satisfied the attraction shouldn’t drop too much, and if you stay away from porn and focused on your own sexuality. At least that’s what I’ve noticed. And, be open with what you both like and are into, it helps a lot.

@Meta-Man good way to flip that metaphor tbf @Anna1 Thank you, I will do next time it rises up, and yes, feeling fully and in the moment is exactly what I’m doing- thank you! @ThermalTide Yeah man I’ve already had some chats with friends, I’m lucky to have a few older friends from my work, and he’s been awesome as has a lot more life experience and perspective! Self-Care is key, going to keep up the morning routine for sure, Wim Hof will help me through it after it all, his method all started after his wife’s death, and came from heartbreak! @liamnewsom202 Yeah, it’s key finding that balance between feeling the feelings and then getting stuck in a negative loop of Netflix and ice cream all day, luckily I’m quite disciplined in that regard, so am managing to stay on track with Diet and what not so far. But, yeah it is tough like you say. And, you’re right, realising it can be a good thing and allow you to meet new people, it’s just very hard to adjust after to talking to someone most of every day, then to absolutely nothing, almost like a mini death.

@Meta-Man Yep, most of today has been spent crying, but also thinking what went wrong and I had a big realisation. I had never given enough attention and love to the relationship, to allow It to blossom. The issues started around 18 months ago when she went to University, and I started getting distant (dark night of the soul days& low level of depression) and it created issues, but even the last 12 months I have not been truly vulenerable or emotionally expressive, honestly, I’ve been so focused on business recently, before that it was spirituality and seeking, and then there’s friends and crickst, I don’t blame her for wanting to break up with me, I probably would’ve in that situation. I realised to truly make a relationship blossom it needs love and attention, and it needs to be a priority, forever. I guess I am only 20, so have plenty of time to figure it out, but it’s made it clear when I do get in my next relationship I will actyally give it the attention and love it truly desires and needs, it has allowed me to self reflect a lot in just 1 day in my recent actions and way I’ve been living. As they say, if you aren’t growing you are dying. And, love is always the answer. @Nahm Yes, it has been coming, it has made me realise I need to open even deeper into life in ALL my relationships in life, this will transform my life I feel. And, thank you I really appreciate that, love always Nahm <3

@Meta-Man I learned most of what I know from my teacher Ananda Devi, she has a series on YT, although they are far from tech savvy lol, so it’s not exactly 4K quality. I’m still pretty clueless, only really know about my own type (7) in great detail and how it relates to awakening. Here’s the first link to her series of short videos - She had an incredibly life transforming awakening, from Rich Jewish traditional family, to awakened relationship with Ramaji and becoming a teacher lol. And this is one of the books her and ramaji recommend - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0043EV986/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 Theres lots around, although many are from a chrisrian perspective of course.

Sounds like you could become the next big speaker with their flower on YouTube if that’s your true passion bro Yes, needing nothing changes a lot in terms of relationships, they simply become an expression of joy instead of a search for happiness in another. It’s funny PU guys go on about neediness and abundance, but awakening is like the ultimate cure for neediness, but that comes with no longer manipulating girls for sex, can’t have it all I guess. I think the path varies a lot due to each body/mind and personality type, post awakening we still have a human “side” (terrible way to say it) and a personality, what helped me understand why I am the way I am was the Enneagram. For example, Ramana & Eckhart are Enneagram 9s, hence the very laid back “chilled out” meditative vibe they give off, and the “simple” life they lead. Whereas, Nisgardatta was an enneagram 8 (Bossy, want to be in charge, dominant type) hence the whole swearing and shouting at students and the extreme “Zen” like approach. Maybe you’re a 9, or a 5 if you like being by yourself, and are naturally introverted, and like a simple life. It’s what makes life so beautiful, we are all able to express this understanding in our own way, and each is as beautiful as each other.

@Meta-Man Yep I think that’s it, and the only way through is to truly feel with no resistance whatsoever. the no laptop part is key! @electroBeam That was awesome man, thank you. Feeling always holds the truth as you say. @Nahm Hope you don’t have to file @electroBeam for any copyright violations

@Preety_India Thank you so much, and yes it’s just extra tough in the beginning haha, all the best memories come flooding back! And, yes crying has been very therapeutic so far, thank you.

1 week update challenge- Had bouts of tiredness, nothing like Becker explains though Slept much easier overall headache first few days, fine now Starting to enjoy the natural energy! Will see how it goes in 2-3 weeks

@Meta-Man That is so heartbreaking to hear man, but also beautiful at the same time, and I completely understand. You sound like (one of) the more extreme cases where awakening not only shakes your inner being to the core, but radically changes your life, and in your case it sounds very radical. Do you struggle relating to unawakened beings? I guess everyone is different, but I don’t struggle at all relating to my friends who have next to 0 interest in truth, and when I was with my Ex while spirituality caused issues at first (I thought I had to become a monk lol) eventually it helped me only blossom the relationship. I must admit, I did get a little “jealous” seeing couples like Rupert& His wife, Ramaji& Ananda etc who both had a deep love for truth and were both awakened, but it wasn’t the main reason behind us splitting, unless it was for God. I also like how you empathise there is no requirements on this path, it is simply what happens, for some they blossom sexually, for others, celibacy happens naturally like for Ramana as you said. Either way it’s beautiful, and the absolute freedom (from love) for either is the true beauty.

@Leo Gura Recently it seems like you’ve been doing heavy integration, and it seems like you’re doing really well, your overall message recently has been awesome.

@Meta-Man The hero himself.

Yep, only Absolute Will/ Gods will. As you say saying there is free will or isn’t free will from a separate self POV is still a belief, either way. I feel someone who believes they are a separate entity, is better off believing they have free will until they get into Non-Duality, or that could wreak havoc lol. However, from a “higher” POV The issue of free will becomes irrelevant, as their is just this, and this is it. Reading this from Francis Lucille makes me want to read his book haha, and I haven’t read a non-dual book in a while! It also summarises Absolute Freedom so well, after all, we all love freedom!