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I saw a funny meme. A girl with coloured hair shows up to the therapist. The therapist calls their wife "Honey, we are going to be rich!" just joking of course. Enlightenment, spirituality, etc are buzz words for a good chunk of our culture.

I imagine them lol

@Breakingthewall Healthy shame is important to feel when we self reflect and can at a role in personal development, maturing, and growing. However, toxic shame will arrest our development and ruin our lives.

Imagine being afraid to love deeply… This has been so much of my life… Too ashamed to love myself Too ashamed to love my partner Too ashamed to love my work Too ashamed to love my body Too ashamed to love my community Too ashamed to love my art Too ashamed to love my life… Too ashamed to believe in myself Too ashamed to be sober Too ashamed to honour my life Too ashamed to forgive myself Too ashamed to create art Too ashamed to take a risk Too ashamed to say what I think Too ashamed to admit I don’t know Too ashamed to speak to a girl Too ashamed to heal Too ashamed to share my beauty and proclaim my rarity Etc If this is you, realize you don’t need to live this way. You can love every inch of yourself. This should be the most obvious thing in the world. Every human, every child, every person should know that they deserve love. You are love. Love is your most fundamental nature. The toxic culture we are a part of is complete bullshit. Pain, suffering, fear, addiction, etc… move way from it all. Move towards self care, self love, health, balance, wisdom, self honesty, self forgiveness, sobriety, etc You can know someone’s Intelligence by how loving they are. The rest is nonesense. To love reality deeply is the purest, most fundamental orientation to have in life. All your other ideas of success are secondary.

I think there is a lot of value of going to a gym. The lay out, equipment, the ease of access, the facilities. It’s not a fad in my opinion. Gyms have a lot of useful things in them. However, you are free to exercise however you wish.

@Salvijus I am Not triggered at all. You simply don’t know what you don’t know. Yet you come here and act like you do. A simple, obvious thing to do is say “I don’t know”. If I decide not to try a thing, then my own rule for myself is to shut up, stop acting like I know what I really don’t. And, accept the consequences that I am not willing to find out the truth of a thing. How would you know what 5meodmt does if you never tried it? You wouldn’t! This is so obvious but you guys come here and act like you know it. Not just 5meo but any psychedelic you haven’t tried. Even Qigong, Yoga, etc etc etc A lot of us are really steeped in ignorance and a lack of consciousness yet we act and think our opinions matter. It’s very funny. I also edited my post seconds after I posted it but someone quated my initial response. It’s like you act as if you are an expert in a novel you never read. I am working on maintaining a kind tone, just like I hope we all do. But, sometimes something is just your choice. If you choose ignorance of a thing, then, acknowledge that instead of demonizing those who do have knowledge of that thing. To speak of that which you have no experience is complete foolishness.

Dumb juice

@Salvijus Then that is your choice

Thats cuz debates are useless, when will you realize it? puff the magic dragon

Sounds like nothing changes to me? It's still one term defined by another defined by another which require direct experience and explanation and burdens of proof etc. Every term is defined already. If you simply use less words to explain a topic how would that not result in a poorer conceptual understanding?

Main thing it contributes to is Infinity

What is it supposed to do?

One time, I saw the beginning and end of all creation in the dirt of my finger nail and cried "Yes, that is the finest all all fine silks!" and i looked at my hands and I said, MY God you've really done it this time.

"Keep you waiting, hour after hour Every night, in your lonely tower Looking down, at all of the wreckage When we met, you never expected And you say, maybe we don't deserve love" - Arcadefire - We Don't Deserve Love You ARE LOVE

@Something Funny Read: The God Memorandum by Og Mandino

Also, having a troll for an image makes me not want to click any link you share

@Something Funny How what?

Learn to work

This song soothes me:

I recently felt connected to my entire city: The buses, building, cars, roads, harbour etc as my own flesh and blood.

I am very un refined in my way of showing up in life. However, I love that.

I had this image of being deeply rooted in: Wisdom Integrity Long Term Thinking Emotional Mastery Healthy Boundaries Sober Living The high level use of psychedelic substances for awakening, healing and deep appreciation of reality and consciousness Feeling perfectly healthy in my body Feeling happy for no reason Letting Go of the toxic drive for dumb stuff that is all around us Becoming extremely of value in society Despite the issues around me. I grow deep roots. Soon, in years time I flourish. There are many challenges I face. Yet, I persist and through these challenges I will become a man. I am already 27… in many ways my development is out of sorts. However, I know I can pull this thing together and build a powerful life.

I can't see it clearly. How many humans are there? What are accurate statistics on this kind of thing? How common is toxic shame? Guilt? Negative emotions? Addiction? Trauma? This is a deep, holistic, mind body and systems problem that involves a great deal all at once.

A major point to be made in all this work is: 1. Long Term thinking 2. Direct Experience 3. Read and study deeply 4. If you can afford it invest in professional help 5. Make High Quality Distinctions 6. Use each day to refine yourself to higher and higher levels of personal mastery 7. Take full responsibility for your life: Your self love, your self care, your happiness 8. Fill yourself with love. The question is not "OH why oh why does reality not give me the love I crave" or "How can I get more love from society" But, "How can I love reality?" "How can I be a leader in love?" "How can I love through all the guilt, the shame, the blaming, the skapegoating, the lying the bullshit. How can I love all of it? and be a light to humanity?" We live in a sea of toxic emotions, addictions, shame, trauma, bullshit, conspiracy theories and nonesense. Bunker down. Grow deep roots. I still don't know very much and I make errors all the time. I am very young and stupid. But I am committed to life long learning and we all should be very humble.

@Yimpa This is the part of your functioning I would call a healthy shame. I don't know the reality of your accident. Healthy shame is part of human social cohesion. It helps when we make mistakes, are in accidents, fights etc. Toxic shame is something else entirely which is the point I am making with this opening thread. All the toxic shame we got from our conditioning should be left behind. But, we should begin to contemplate and bring awareness to our shame and how it works in our lives. For those of us who are deep in toxic shame we might not be ready to hear about the fact that healthy shame exists. This is fine. You should know that it DOES exist. That, all your emotions exists for good reason. However, they can become toxic if misused. We live in a sick society. So, do not look to others for a deep understanding of shame. Healing The Shame that Binds You I have read many books on forgiveness, shame, trauma. I am only just beginning my study and my work. This is a deep and profound area of study for me. I see so much addiction, pain, suffering in myself and in those around me. This is a very big problem in our society.