Thought Art

I also like that I can be completely as intellectual as I want because I don't have to worry about some thick skulled human. I think I can now become more intelligent in my contemplations as well.

Interesting.

I am curious as to what you think makes a quality guy in relationships. Ideally, a straight relationship for this thread. 3 ideas from me are: 1. He has good character and Integrity 2. He is generous 3. He is good company and enjoyable to spend time with Curious as to what you think! Don’t 1. Be jealous 2. Be whiny and Petty

Your mind can justify anything.

@hyruga Well, there is some very useful things I think for people of all ages. I think, the examples in the book show that as well. People of all ages falling into those traps.

@Princess Arabia Well, I am spending time looking at my income and expenses for this week. No money for Dates, or ubers. So, I need to increase my income. Which is why I am studying cyber Security, and working on my life purpose. This is why I will likely plant trees to pay off all my debt this summer/fall.... It's hard work but. Debt free living means I can take girls on nice dates. Not magical thinking. That is what got me into this mess in the first place.

@Danioover9000 Man, don't quote such large bodies of text.. We know what the opening post was!

@Carl-Richard Or, just don't format so literally no one reads it...

@Princess Arabia I guess I find a balance

@MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI This is very hard to read. I think you can do better with formatting and presentation. It's messy, hard to follow. All the Gifs, symbols, lines, ALL CAPS (which actually goes against form guidelines) is very annoying and hard to read. Some people think you are actually trolling. I am aware these techniques exist. Mantak Chia's book "Multi-Orgasmic Man" explains it very clearly and has readable format. Though, it's based on Qigong and Toaist energy cultivation not yoga as much.

@Princess Arabia Belief plays a role for sure. But, also it can back fire… check out this life coaches financial audit… I believe I’m developing the habits and skills that will lead to me being wealthy. Instead of believing something, I want to see reality clearly. Money is brutal. Doesn’t mean bad. It just means it’s very very stark and real. But, if I have 0$ and I go to the store… I’m not gonna feel my way into 100$ worth of groceries…. Accountants and professional money managers tend to be pessimistic leaning, highly pragmatic, critical thinking and calculated. They look at the brutal truth of the situation first, then values, goals, interests, law of attraction or whatever second.

Looking at my account with -300 dollars in it. hmm, believe thought Art! Believe! I’m rich!!

@Princess Arabia Finance isn’t feelings or beliefs. Sure, they affect how you treat finance but finance, cash flow, income and expenses are brutal truths. This time next year I’ll be mostly debt free. Then I’ll pay for her Uber. Finance, is math. And when things are as tight as they are for me and I’m trying to get debt free so I don’t die on the Walmart floor… yeah.

@Princess Arabia I don’t know. I will meet her, a soul mate in time. I’m doing the inner outer work for that to happen. Been reading a book on soul mates. I have other on attachment theory, love languages, etc As a man I need to set up my foundation. I was a starving artist hippy, but I’m become more fully founded over time as I mature.

I think also… being a quality guy means having my shit together. Having my finances in order, my career in order. So, in that regard there’s gonna be a gap in time before I can actualize these things. I need to get debt free, meet my savings goals and increase my income. So, I’m more focused on getting experience even if I fail a bunch in the dating game..

@Princess Arabia She asked me to buy the tickets, and to buy the Uber… She also technically, asked me to go to the movies. Anyway, I don’t have money to spend. I just don’t have it at this time. So, I am going to date more cheaply for the time being. Money does matter to me. It’s not really up to someone else to decide how I should see things. I’ll use my heart, mind and intuition going forward. I agree on the fear thing. I will need to risk being more vulnerable. More dates will help with that.

What if life = a variety of experience People have different psychology, views on life, people work through difficult things and find meaning and acceptance in them… it’s complicated. I know I will die but, things is still hard because you have to deal with it.

@Princess Arabia I added more to the post. I’m slowly coming around.

I was 20, and wanted to have sex with more people on campus.

@Princess Arabia There is definitely some kind of asymmetry in our culture between the expectations of a man and a woman. Even though, this woman earns more than me… I have to pay for the date and her getting home. But, I don’t pay for her ride to the date for some reason. These boundaries and expectations are completely arbitrary. That was the first time a woman asked me to pay for her Uber home. I guess, because I am instigating the date, asking her to go, and because I am man I can pay for her to get home. I can see that. But, honestly I don’t have a lot of money but I’m gonna keep going on dates and I’m going to be upfront about my expectations before hand. In the future, when I can afford it I’ll pay for dates fully. I can’t afford it right now, but I’m not gonna wallow in loneliness. As I talk, and reflect I can see the value of being generous to my woman. If she is going to be my girl… and even if she isn’t I can support her getting home safely. She would also feel good that I did it.

@Javfly33 I am starting to loosen up on this money thing the more I think and talk about it.

@Yimpa I once had a great girlfriend who in retrospect could have been a great life partner. But, I… at the same time she did great things… cooked, was smart, was very kind to me, loved spending time with me. But, I just didn’t want it. So, it’s okay to let things go if it’s not right even if they have many great traits.

Nope not on first date. If me spending money on you, without me knowing you is an important criteria for us dating I will not date you. I am happy to buy popcorn and tickets. The ride home… that to me is a new concept. Perhaps the more I talk about it the more it makes sense to me. But… also, it’s weird. You are totally fine to not like that aspect of me, but that’s fine. I don’t care and I’m not here to please you. I am a great guy, but I’m not investing 100+ dollars into every first date. We go for coffee, tea, or even dinner I’ll pay, but… I am not going to pay for you going home. At least, for now. First date, I’m looking to spend 20 dollars, there’s little investment between us both and we see if we are compatible. I don’t really want to date a high maintenance and expensive girl. Some guys will, but I’m not looking for that right now. Future dates, yeah I’d help you get home. We have a relationship developing. First date, nope. Note: I admit this recent date when this girl asked me to buy her an Uber took me by surprise and really turned me off. I don’t have a lot of dating experience as an adult which is important to state. Most of my dating comes from high school and early years of university. So… I’m growing and adjusting through experience and self reflection.

@Sugarcoat I don’t really understand what you are going through. But, harmonizing your mind body is likely to help. As is reading about someone who went through what you’re going through. But, also because I don’t understand I’m not gonna say anything further. Stop grasping and grasping. You exist. Just go about reality as it is. You aren’t crazy, but maybe dealing with high stress, anxiety and even OCD. Just relax.

@Danioover9000 Yeah, but it’s also contextual. I can’t remember who made the video. But, it showed very well how in the context of that election Trumps techniques were more effective. They stirred the emotions more powerfully than Hilary’s more intellectual approach.