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My friend is 55 years old. He signed up for a dating site called ChristianFilipina.com which was 700 usd a year. There's no real profiles in North America, they're all offline. So then he had to only speak with ones from the Phillippines. He sends money to real women from there. He never had to ever work for his money because his parents are very generous and left him hundreds of thousands of dollars and he still lives with them. He's had over 200 rejections from women here in North America, just in the last 10 years itself; with 0 success rate. Just one or two dates where he ran into gold diggers, he's tried every race, every religious background, and women between aged 18-80, He hasn't even been close to success, because right when the women see he's still living with mommy and daddy or that he's only a mailman, they get put off. Or the younger ones just find him plain creepy. He's even sent thousands of dollars to scammers from Georgia and Tennessee pretending to be good bible Christian girls saying they need plane tickets to travel to see him. So he's getting even more desperate now and thinking Filipinas are more loyal. This has been ongoing for two years now. He already visited the Philippines twice to see two women he met on there, and one of them just turned him off. So basically wasted a trip and he came back to America. Now he’s still sending another woman money and she’s been chatting with him for almost 2 years. He thinks she’s genuine… And he also went to go see her in July this year. What’s the chance he’s being scammed? Both women are single mothers and they keep sending him photos of themselves trying to entice him. This week she came on strong to him and kept calling him when he didn't answer. Anyone have any insights or experiences on this? He had already told her, no more money, next time I give you more is when I see you in person. Then when he went to see the first girl, the second girl never even met him, and then somehow she convinced him to keep sending money… now he's already gone see the second one as I said earlier in July. She’s like “comfort me!!! There’s mosquitoes here!!! I need to buy nets and insect repellent." She met him in a tourist hotel. And he says they're gaining trust for each other. But he spent many thousands of dollars on plane tickets each trip, and never even got any commitment nor final word yet. Met each woman once. Yet he keeps sending this current one money, and she keeps enticing him. Even saying "my 14 year old son thinks you will be a great fit with me as a couple!!" " I will keep you here :)" "You are 55 but you only look 40!!" When he was over, he paid for all her groceries and met her entire family, and paid for all these women's vacations. She's 39 and he's also paid for many of her surgeries and medical expenses too because medical coverage isn't covered fully for citizens there What’s the chance he’s being scammed? And what's the chance he's getting genuine love or that this will actually work out for him?

Yeah it's hard. I already told him I highly suspect he's just being used for his money. I'm torn because sometimes I want to say stuff to protect him, but I also have to hold back. It's a tough balance to find! And it just goes on and on and on and as long as the women give him any hope he just hangs on and on and on.

No, he deep down never likes being taken advantage of. That i can tell you. As soon as he found out he was being scammed, he moved on, telling a past scammer "sorry but you are scamming me. But thank you for the relationship and good memories. But I have to move on." If he knew there was absolutely no chance he'd move on. I know him too well. But for now he's fooled his mind into believing there is love. But is there? And what constitutes as being taken advantage of verses real love?

No, he deep down never likes being taken advantage of. That i can tell you. As soon as he found out he was being scammed, he moved on, telling a past scammer "sorry but you are scamming me. But thank you for the relationship and good memories. But I have to move on." If he knew there was absolutely no chance he'd move on. I know him too well. But for now he's fooled his mind into believing there is love. But is there? And what constitutes as being taken advantage of verses real love?

I asked a friend how long the scam will go on for? And he said “until he runs out of money.” But he’s so cocky he goes “I won’t run out of money. My savings account is making me more interest. Than the amounts I’m sending her.” And then he’s tricked his own mind into believing that she loves him. So wouldn’t this work out then? Because he fooled his own mind, and then his money also won’t run out. So this will work for him then correct? Ha basically looking for a life long partner. To live out his life with him.

But now she's the one trying harder, and trying to be seductive and provocative. What's the chances she actually loves him? And what's the chances she actually just wants money? (He's been over to see her, and he does say she's genuinely poor. She put her coins down and said "this is all I made today" just to make him feel sorry for her.)

How long will/can this scam go on for?

Yea but how long will these energies last for? And when both parties are desperate isn't it a bad recipe for long term?

I'm very surprised you'd use the word "normal" or "weird." Because isn't being normal or weird subjective? And if not then how would you define normal? How would you define weird?

I'm glad I discovered the BP, it does provide a lot of useful pragmatic information. But I still believe the BP is just a cope for many men that can't find success. There are many types of people out there, and some women are attracted to short and stalky, or some only like Chinese quirky men, some only like white men, some all colours some want similar age, some can date much older even without caring too much about money etc The BP is still too general. Each individual has his or her different preferences. This doesn't mean some men aren't genetically gifted or more desirable. But no matter how ugly or short or broke or old you are there is some guy out there uglier than you, shorter than you, poorer than you, fatter than you pulling more women than you. There is just so much we don't know.

What can stop bottomless capitalism in countries like Canada and USA? Capitalism puts people in no win situations. You work hard, you will eventually burn out. You don't work hard enough you risk losing out to your competition. There was a study to show that a country is the happiest when there are the most middle class people. So when and what can end all this thinning of the middle class? And turn it into more sustainable life for everyone as a whole? Of course I am aware that we can tell all the ricxhest people to give up their power and this will end. But the problem is the ones in power will generally try to create rules that will give them even more power.

Of course I am aware that we can tell all the ricxhest people to give up their power and this will end. But the problem is the ones in power will generally try to create rules that will give them even more power. That's how they even got such power to begin with.

Because that's what's true. And if there is not WW3, then that's what's true. There are no should's. What is, is what should be, and what should be, is what is. Love the things that are naturally hard to love. It's easy to love Leo because he's giving you good advice. But practice seeing the beauty in things very few people can see. Don't take me literally of course, but doing what I said has it's advantages.

I just read some of this page. This precisely proves my point even more. "Income inequality is worse in the young." It's the same like USA. It's stage orange. Most major cities have become eroded and undesirable, rude, and loaded with immigrants taking over all the minimum wage jobs, homeless, income extremes, like California, New York. I agree the most expensive cities in the US are even more unaffordable for the average earner. Things are pretty bad in North America now. I can't speak for Europe. But it seems like no matter where someone wants to move, the country will always sell it as if it's better than it actually is.

Most of the influence in Canada is from the toxic US, affects Canada greatly because Canada relies a lot on the US.

Don't believe me. Look at our politicians and what Trudeau is doing. And the disputes he's causing. He's goes over to India to pray in the sikh temples because sikhs are outward looking, to lure them to Canada. Yeah Trump is also screwed up, and Biden's leadership is weak too. North America is going down.

You believe the bank of Canada website? LOL That's precisely the lie. Do basic math and calculate what average homes, food cost. It may even show inflation as 8 percent or whatever, but I think it's way higher than that. There's many cultures here. But the individuals still stick to their own cultures. It is not multicultural. Just a bunch of different cultures living in their own ghettos.

Canada is a biggest scam country in the world. Our currency is even weaker than the US dollar, and it brings over immigrants to scam them and make them pay 4 times for the education (than the citizens here) with these useless degrees. The media makes it's women hate men, and men to hate women, so that we don't reproduce nor ask for higher wages (Cause a Canadian would know their rights). it would rather bring over more immigrants for even cheaper prices. But many of them come here and realize that there is no future here so they go back home in a few years. It has many races and welcomes all, to use them to help the elites, and not to help the immigrants. It also has a huge group of Christian Fundamentalists, and the culture is extremely lonely and individualistic. Most people here will never own any property unless inherited, and be wage slaves for life. Don't believe everything that you hear or what you read on google. Canada's system is broken. How are we one of the most spacious countries in the world and yet we have some of the most expensive real estate? We are supposedly a "rich" country, and yet we have so many bums on streets begging people for money or asking people to buy them food inside grocery stores. Yet I've been to India, and I almost never see homeless, even in the slums. I am a Torontonian, lived here my entire life for 35 years. A starter home that was worth 130k in 1996, is now worth 1.3 million dollars. The income inequality, homelessness, crimes, rent prices and media has become obscene in the last few decades, and only getting worse by the year. Canada is definitely not as desirable as it once was. Real estate is in the millions of dollars just for small bungalows in most major cities. The taxes are heavy and politicians way overspend, over stretching nurses and our healthcare system. Now it may still be better than most countries in terms of quality of life. But it's going to keep declining and losing privileges it once had over many third world countries. in a few decades, it might just be another country. It is certainly not as happy and healthy as you might believe it to be. It's part of North America, and it's capitalistic, shallow and stage orange too. Overall North Americans live extremely stressful lives. So don't even compare Canada to Europe. It just sells this peaceful image to the world, to invite immigrants here and scam them. But it's not the land of milk and honey, when immigrants come over here, they then realize they will have to work several low wage jobs just to afford basic car payments, and have to share with many roommates, and that there is simply no future here. Like USA, the middle class is basically non existent or thinning like crazy, and we are in late stage capitalism. In fact, it's worse here and USA Is not far behind. Canada is only a good country if you are rich.

Joe Biden Justin Trudeau Teal Swan Also Leo mentioned... Black pill content is toxic and doesn't help with dating. And that realism will not help one find truth. He's not responding so I was just wondering... How come black pill content actually doesn't help with dating? Isn't it about what's genuinely true? Or how come realism doesn't help find Truth? Isn't it good to be realistic and live an accurate life?

Thank you that's actually a good response. But i've seen Leo on many of his videos mention that Red pill content is quite toxic, that paying attention to that stuff is actually not going to be actually helpful for finding romance and love with the opposite gender. He actually mentioned to not follow both red or black pill content, as those things will even hold us back. So I was actually wondering why even these kinds of content hold us back? Or stuff like realism doesn't find Truth. But isn't realism about what's genuinely real? Is it cause it focuses too much on the physical and not enough on the mystical?

You actually asked the question I was about to ask. Yes, I forgot to ask, In what stage/stages would Jordan Peterson be?

You mentioned that accurate perception is the key to living a good life. All problems including health problems come from inaccurate perceptions of life. But how come with so much truth seeking you still have health problems? How could you have made your perceptions even more accurate to not have the health problems you have?

In your last video. You asked question "what does it mean to rest?" I came up with a few ideas. But I'm still working on it myself. I think a big part of rest that people don't really talk about: resting is about mental health as much as it is about physical. I think part of it is just avoiding worrying about stuff you don't want to worry about. It's telling yourself "take this time to do nothing with your mind, or do something you find really relaxing" for example, doing something you like but failing to take your mind off your worries doesn't rest you as efficiently and that's why my grad school sucked. Because I was doing a lot of "resting" by playing video games, but the whole time I was stressing. So when you said you actually gamed a bit, I was thinking, as long as he isn't stressing himself out more... Sometimes, you just have to sit there was a dumb expression on your face

So it's one thing to be a green or a yellow on spiral dynamics. But the world will still have all kinds of people still in stage blue, red or orange. Then they will try to project what they think is right on everyone else. I have friends in stage blue and I am in stage green or yellow. And they're beginning to try to force me and tell me that my ways are "wrong," and that I "must believe in the one Jesus Christ as his personal saviour or I will go to hell!" There is just no way for me to communicate with them because it'd be easy to me to point out all the flaws in their behaviour. But since I'm higher up in the pillar, I would know better than to do that. There is no point in me telling them that it's their ego and own selective love that's causing their own suffering because they simply won't see it that way. So how should I handle people in stage blue? I was once there, and the obvious answer is that I have to love them or practice self love. But how? Love to them is not viewed the same way as a higher up in the pillar would.

Very very good answer. Its just, I grew up among Chinese Baptist neo converts and they threatened me that I will go to hell if I don't believe in Jesus. Even if I believe in God, it has to be under Jesus because he died for my sins. And if I don't believe in Jesus, it does seem as if I get shunned by many churches. So while going to church might help, it's also too toxic because some of the people can be very preachy and narrow minded. Interesting answer "I'll pray about it."