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@Preety_India he is talking about ego death vs. then killing that what killed the ego. the mechanism of being rejected is a feeling for a man like being killed - it’s because being cut off from the source of love feels like being cut off from life. of course it’s a red coaping mechanism.

ok but how can this feeling of being killed lead to the actual killing? - it’s really poor will control to act on any emotion that’s coming up. where does this thoughtcycle „she killed my ego so i kill her“ come from. and then actually acting on that? that’s what i really understand as a karmic trap far from the road to personal happiness. but i guess that’s where karma is also pointing at, guys who are entrapped in that kind of action never learned how to think differently. i also think the educational system has to take these problems on at young ages. but that would also mean education for really every child. and a plan on how to create a better communication and equality between boys and girls. i also know that these problems are sometimes hate reactions agains women of better education.

@Preety_India yes i hear you. but law enforcement will not change the situation alone. it’s the first step? something has to happen in these mens mind, and i think the media play a bigger roll in that than the law.

ok, that’s indeed pretty rough. i‘m sorry to hear that! sorry to put you into that victim perpetrator cycle - i thought there was a psychological codependency, where is actual threat.

i just try to find a way to communicate that maybe it’s time to find a way for women to enforce better situation by themselves - we can’t wait for others to do that, can we? i‘m not living in the us - we have far less assaults from weapons in europe - but some situations stay the same. it’s about how we think, how we communicate how we make others aware of the problem - it’s about going through these collectively. change is only made if we change it.

@Preety_India ok - yes the gang rape i must admit that, it’s impossible to selfdefence with sth like that. i also didn’t suggest it as an overall solution - it’s systemic i get that. so it was maybe a suggestion for women in the west alone? because even law enforcement does not keep these things from happening to women - ridiculing what many women in the west see as their last resort is also not the right way. be careful as a woman not to play into the perpetrator victim mentality. i‘m a woman, too. so it’s not a suggestion from a guy. it also was in a sense a joke, so no reason to get so agitated about it, but i guess i sense now how severe the problem really is. there is almost always a point where you will not get any further by demanding law enforcement, there are other methods to be found to really change sth in the structure of the victim perpetrator cycle.

@Preety_India in some sense it was a joke. but well yes no one should need to use sth like that. it’s not about running around and shocking every man who talks to you. it’s about the serious cases, it’s self defence in case of people jumping at you with a knife or wanting to rape you. the person will not die from sth like that but gives you the time to run away. it’s not about the threat it’s about severe situations. the moment the law can enforce anything it’s already to late. and what do you think would police use to get someone off off you? not doing anything is waiting for others to do sth. although there are also self defence courses where you can learn how to hit someone if they attack you - then you can still decide in the situation if you want or want not to use force. in some sense you would even do them some good, to prevent them from doing harm to someone else - in the sense of karma this would be caring. (not believing in any kind of violence is a good one ✌️)

@Preety_India it gives the offender an electronic shock - usually sometimes you still need some kind of government arm license, depending on the country. you can’t use it against verbal attacks though, unfortunately.

electro shocker ?

@Preety_India it’s really cool that you talk about it despite fears. i guess no woman is exactly safe of being harassed, but i realize that my fears of a single harasser who might attack me out of the blue in a country where most male are more on the equality level, is a completely different situation than being in a severely openly threatening environment on a regular basis. the subtle hidden harassments in the west seem less strong in a sense facing a more severe situation for women in other countries - although if it’s happening the patterns are the same. the only thing you can do probably is trying to not frequent certain areas or places until it’s not dangerous to frequent them anymore. i guess the fingerpointing has to be done by foreign men - unfortunately i guess foreign women would not be as effective. but i wanted to give you some support and tell you to stay strong. there were some movements agains sexual harassment lately especially in south korea. but also women’s solidarity protests in other countries and world capitals especially on the 14. february, it’s a work in progress, one thing is more and more of society to be aware of these things happening and making it less and less possible, also making these protests not a strictly women thing - what guy would want their girlfriend, wife or daughter to be harassed? saying no to these kinds of attacks is of everybody’s interest, training civil courage through media is probably a good start. maybe doing self actualization ? - i guess the most guys here are on another level. thank you for talking so openly!

the nazis were purple/red/blue (the purple part was not spread among all nazis somehow they only instrumentalized the purple part). hitler himself was more red/blue - toxic blue. talking about healthy red... is red carpet stuff, royalty etc. competitiveness through looks etc. this can be more healthy or more toxic - fame/power oftentimes turns out toxic its not the people’s fault but the position and fame usually has some red aspects because the competitiveness comes along with it. healthy read can fuel toxic orange. pride has a lot to do with red. competitive sports also has red aspects - while sport for health is in the green section and yoga for example can have purple aspects (well yoga can have all spiral aspects).

@Prevailer just tried to tease you.

yanomami tribe - one of the most healthy purple tribes example ethnologically very good documented. in purple you don’t really find single people to stand out it’s usually the ethnological section. you can probably find some purple/red leaders in warfarin tribes - all over american history. although their personality development might differ from the tribal stage. like with the yanomami you would probably find almost turquoise personalities. red personalities are maybe king henry the 8. also it could be that catharina de medici was purple red, her tribal mystic power issue lead to the bartholomews day massacre. but these are really unhealthy examples.

yes we are, fragmented god consciousness. yes and no are still yes. there is no double minded thinking if no one cut your mind into two pieces. god is unity in separateness, you could also say. trying to split of one from the other neglecting their unifying dance. true separateness would be denial of unity not its acceptance. but the question is not about separateness or unity it is about the dance. and where you make the separation, it’s not between two hemispheres but between them and the heart. unity in separateness can only be found there.

i‘m not in this battle so i can not see exactly what it is what drew african american voters more to biden than to bernie in the last poll. i guess it’s how the news say, mostly loyalty to obama’s presidency. and it’s understandable in sense of progressiveness and popularity he‘s still my favorite president (aside all things he had to manage which were not his choice to turn out a certain way - that’s a presidents loss too). in general i must confess that a lot of values i value today and a lot of streangths i got from us culture through television came not from europo americans but indeed from afro american culture. such values like self esteem or pride in being a valuable person. some of my greatest heroes in television and music and fashion were afro americans, i felt with them through their losses and happiness. it seemed like my heroes had this mission to shine brighter than anyone else to those who fight for what is, is not to forget. and obama asked for change - he was a path maker - he himself said it was not good to praise him to early on. the question now is what is obama’s legacy? what was it that he wanted? why should this now be different? sometimes small people stand up to ask great people to stand up for them, with them. let’s hope people stand up for change.

@Mongu9719 he said similar stuff since a while. the raw food diet is a lie you tell yourself to have heard, he didn’t say that - you repeated that the second time to give misinformation. if you are such a devil then why do you have a problem with egos pointed out - saying sheep are devils and devils are sheep does not bring a turn around - neither for you nor for the other people you test.

let it go, despite being in the „gentleman’s club“ a personal grudge for being kicked out is hurt ego stuff. one of the main reasons why this forum is interesting is because it gives you the chance to overcome authority problems - godspeed ladies (where the heck did i take up this godspeed stuff...i guess it means, take the time you need, or sth like that). another thing i would overthink, is why now and not then.

@ethanb121 did you try white noise? it sounds weird at first but somehow i think it might be a little similar than a tinnitus and maybe white noise could help - but it’s only an attempt to make it less intense, i have zero expertise in this. i just notice that listening to white noise also relaxes me. of course this is probably if anything just a little reliever, but it‘s worth a try. if it works you could even listen to it on headphones. (and maybe try binaural beats)

@LfcCharlie4 if it’s a chronic inflammation this could help: if this is still actual - buy yourself a nasya oil - not the one to spray but one which you can drip in your nose. i would think it’s a kapha induced problem but for safety reasons i‘d buy a three dosha oil. usually eight to ten drops of this oil per side would be enough. you warm it up in advance, warmer than lukewarm but not too hot, lie on your back and slightly overstretch the head while you put the drops into each nostril. you can sit up after a while. the oil and mucus will come out of your mouth until it feels completely cleared out. it’s not exactly comfortable but helps. only when it feels like there is no oil left you can clear the rest through the nose. this is better than neti pot but same medical school. it’s not recommended if you have an actual infection, like viral infection.

thank god i went vegan before that. there will be still people demanding happy meat then.

@karltiboleng sometimes that means to leave the comfort zone but in general i‘m with you.

@Derek White now tell me you are a vegan man... i thought understanding self bias was part of spiritual development. i have a spiritual challenge for you - go vegan for one year, watch everyday an animal documentary about everything you can find also about slaughtery. after one year you make an appointment for a slaughtering event where you will be the person to slaughter the animal or stay vegan forever. i would really like to know if you by then wouldn’t have changed at least into green - yellow is still far away my friend without meaning any harm to your physical body, you can’t even let your ego die.

no but autoimmune stuff can usually be handled by at least vegan diet. that has proven right for everyone i met who lives a „normal“ life with an autoimmune condition, this is due to inflammatory proteins in dairy and meat mainly. and because the colon almost always plays a roll in autoimmune diseases. this does not eliminate the genetic problem but suppresses inflammatory immune response. an infection in the colon would only last for a certain amount of time. but overall it’s difficult to help anyone who mentions randomly some issues.

that’s a good question, still a lot of political fear issues coming up i try to identify with minorities to much without sometimes realizing that i‘m not part of all of them and that my perspective sometimes might be seen as a threat rather than a help. i try to journal, too. sometimes it works better than other times. but i also think it’s better to do that on paper. i don’t always need to communicate about everything what’s going on anymore. i learned some italian in january - had to check on corona because i was in italy - thank god the test was negative. but it will take some time until i can take up the course and return to italy probably, which is sad. (for italians more than for me, not because of me of course) i just planted some seeds. now i‘ll wait to see if they sprout. experienced some seeds of hate, too lately - so i planted som king henry violets and hope the violets will grow instead of fear. can even make salad of them because they are eatable. and i liked that you go to work by bike, and could identify with the getting soaked in rain but not caring much part - i got a lightweight racing bike recently i can carry up into the flat, and i really love to go anywhere by bike now, i like the cold wind in the face and even if my hands are sometimes almost frozen it feels like being alive. i guess i found my cardiovascular sports - i like it more than running for myself, probably because running is more fun in nature than in cities. i‘m smoke-free since october. what else... some other stuff is work in progress.

@ivankiss well but you wouldn’t want the contracted to expand. therefore to awaken is to fall asleep is a limited worldview, because no one is not light there are not only black holes but stars and planets and bright giants to discover. that’s true expansion.