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you fail to see, that in what you think/call love existence must be prior to it - so its impossible to say love is not existence. which is why you want to attribute quality to love which also does not work out - quality is only existent if you differentiate, but in existence there is no difference, as existence exists or it does not its a singularity, it also cannot be owned even though the ego mind would like that. love=existence that’s why people constantly get high on it.

love you too some denzel! took me a while would say you go up some levels regarding power magic points. ☄️ is it the summer or why are flowers blossoming everywhere? getting really hot around here!

@Marc Schinkel then you probably would also like this! the poodle lamb trim. warning: not for underaged poodle trimmers.

yes in some sense that’s true, although a lifestyle like that in the long run might be unfulfilling even stressful and lonely. loneliness within company is a huge problem since at least purple, that’s not really new in history. your time gets fragmented that’s also sth they describe since industrialization - maybe what’s new is that the soul gets scattered.

in what way would you say that the digital age is in contradiction to spiral dynamics? what do you think is the new paradigm and how is it in contradiction to higher purposes in life or contradicts spiral dynamics or its purpose? i‘m not just asking because i also asked myself that question, i‘m asking to understand the perspective you have on that. i‘ll probably sit down to contemplate about that a bit more - somehow that’s a question i could probably fill pages answering to.

@Amit i‘m just realizing that there is this tiredness in the forum about spiral dynamics, maybe because in any cases it does not help to solve the problem. in some sense we are only understanding the aspects of one stage completely if we also understand the shadow aspects - this is when the map becomes the territory and we realize reading it might not be enough

that’s a trap @Amit and you know that! be careful how the ego mind tries to get rid of all structure, you think you know what the map is pointing at but throw away the map before you have seen the field. its far huger than you think, to just throw away what you thought was the map. maybe that’s what you wanted to trigger - how much better could you understand?

i sometimes wonder how much of pain can a person take until that person him/herself becomes a perpetrator? how far cornered up would you get in a clockwork orange situation? if you for example would take part in creating it indirectly? maybe by being the silent watcher or maybe even more actively.

this is kind of funny because if spiral dynamics is wrong is because it’s the way someone interpretes it and if spiral dynamics is right is the way how someone interpretes it. if spiral dynamics was upside down, then beige, absolute survival without hesitation, would be the highest goal on earth and in space regardless of outcome or other existence. but then this would probably not be the forum i would want to join. because that’s already how most of the world works. @andyjohnsonman thank you for that perspective! i guess if spiral dynamics was completely free from labels it wouldn’t be a map, it would be a blank page.

that’s a really difficult topic. it probably depends. although an advanced leader mostly tries to neither impose on others nor probably likes it to be looked down upon. sometimes we have to decide what kind of struggle it is worth fighting and what kind of fight is lost. this does not mean evaluating the value of the other person and if the other person is worthy. it more asks a question about human resources. if you are in a dialogue and flow state you don’t have to constantly struggle and react to ego attacks, its easier to expose your thoughts and feelings and ideas than if you have to be careful. if you are a good leader you probably know how to create a situation of reciprocal trust and understanding. but at the same time you need a good nose to detect hidden conflict and estimate probable outcome. a good leader does not play despicable games, at least as far as truth reaches (sorry that last sentence is a little bitterness).

integration adds and takes away and adapts and morphes until we get a more accurate picture of the situation, of us and of others. we have to actually look to integrate the whole truth and only there the separation happens. self is integrated in a flow state without separation although that’s also where the separation into my truth or your truth or our truth or general truth happens. if you are open you have to somehow shut the doors from threat much more than if you constantly fight for survival. no one reaches true flow states if the doors are shut from the start. but that’s also how wooden horses enter. or encapsulated egos.

ofc. that’s what every one wants. in the end its all a struggle for truth survival.

leo is a good hooker i mean he has his hooks out in the water, ego just needs to swim by. of course there are people who are relatively orange or even red - people with personality disorders and all kind of problems. a huge part of people here are not orange, but rather green. its interesting that green seems to struggle with red so much, maybe because they are complimentary colours and some people are colour blind.

the politics sub forum is still that low because most people are actually still in orange and its even difficult to talk about politics on a high niveau in a forum, as people use to share opinions in forums and the discussion oftentimes gets graded down to the niveau of the most red, because red always stick out not only in the sexuality sub forum. and somehow if having integrated green its often leading to a game of triggering the lower stages to leave their comfort zone. which is annoying for yellow who likes outcomes. that’s why we like to think it’s turquoise.

well if water is poured into a cup the water takes the form of the inside of the cup, the cup embraces the water. if water is poured into a box ? the box looses shape. it‘s a mess to reclaim water from the box.

can‘t believe your parents called you something! what’s your last name then? by the way i‘m not judging! its an interesting name. if it’s only for business you can always have an artists name. you can even have an artists name in your passport. it depends on how expensive it is to change names, too, in my opinion. in some countries it’s an overly long process and expensive like a plastic surgery – you have to be careful while finding a new name, too, don’t make yourself a something hooker - that’s happening already quite often if you make yourself a brand, usually you do it in awareness about how you sell yourself. but in a lot of cases it’s just the ego in disguise. depending on what is sold, it can get nasty. don’t confuse it to be art, just because its called artists name - the criterion for that is a different one.

@Kinjal in general it’s a difficult question. if it hurts, it hurts. if you need to roar then roar (mooji said that). keeping a warm heart and a cool mind was sth like a virtue once. in this forum sometimes heart melt down is propagated - but i‘m actually thinking it depends, if you suffer then open it up let it all melt down, although heart energy is like a driving force, if you calm it down too much there might not be enough fire to change anything. anger and meditation are a good team. i‘d recommend you to do practices on dependent arising while meditating and journaling.

@Kinjal why ask why? rage does not need why, it does not need how. rather ask where does it arise from.

no, different ego trap. different identification of i in other.

is that ok in your country to get a name like that? the other way round would be cooler something - how would anyone know what’s the first or the last name?

god and satan is the same, there is no before you. maybe behind you or above you? there is no source but the source, it’s all itself to itself. whispering: trust me how i know that.

this is like learning by failing. try, fail, stand up, repeat. there is also failing by failing, the beautiful part about that is people sometimes fail for years until they stop failing. regresses are more present if we focus on regress instead of on progress. we remember our failing sometimes more than our acing. although through a meta lens failing or acing is absolutely subjective. only that some topics seem karmic which is a pointer that they are, without learning they will probably even repeat themselves in the next life.

i actually like these more practical threads - somehow i had the feeling they have gotten really rare over the time. or maybe they had always been and i was just not seeing them anymore. i get always distracted from implementing habits because focus/prioritizing actually means leaving everything else unattended and i am a person who sometimes has difficulties with either or. as habits are oftentimes not the favored choice but the choice of reasoning of course there is an internal dissonance. i guess building up to understanding the need for one specific habit and a constant reminder system, a motivation strategy and positive affirmations towards that one habit could be supportive. i‘m still not sure about time scheduling of habits, sometimes that makes sense, too. also being forgiving about skipping once and showing up for oneself either way is a tactic which at least prevents you from giving up after backlashes.