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Please, and thank yous. Basic politeness. Its actually surprisingly rare. Like @Razard86 said too, seek first to understand then to be understood too. Ask people open-ended questions about how they're doing generally too, i.e. how's it going. If they mentioned they were heading to an event, ask them a couple of basic questions about it. That's what I know helps me. Makes you likeable. However, in terms of being seen as an authority I think that takes some other things.

Agreed re the trauma. I'm not well versed re oxytocin so can't endorse that either way.

I quite liked the content of the video, apart from the woke bashing. However, I dislike that it was only for the muslim audience. I think it implies some level of blame onto their community. I think it disregards the sociological and politics background that creates the conflicts within islamic sects and between different religions. -------------------------------------------------------- And, re Leo's epistemology comment, I think that's spot on. Epistemology can't be overlooked. If it is, to my mind, you're building a castle on sand.

@somegirl Sure. I understand you. There's a book called, 'Self therapy voll.1' by Jay Earley that might be useful for ya.

Ye really recommend this

I personally like Internal Family System Therapy. I think its the psychotherapy with the most potential for deep rooted change. I can give you some recommendations if you'd care for some.

@Vercingetorix I got pretty decent at teh fundamental of getting myself to approach while solo. I get it can be tough af. Tougher for some than others, depending on their psychic arrangement. I found what helped me was: - I 'get to meet her', or 'she gets to meet to meet me', rather than 'I have to approach her' - Starting small (i.e. one approach where i ask for the time), and then building from there - Reframing anxiety as butterflies ( i was therefore overcoming butterflies rather than anxiety)

@Raptorsin7 Ye dude, I wish you the best regarding that. I think a lot of things are about hitting the bottom of the curve, and then your results explode. Maybe you've hit that bottom now.

Great stuff man. This might also help out a lot re IFS. It seems like you'll be having a lot more access to self.

To my mind, rational argument isn't likely to work. The identification with the blackpill movement will be fulfilling some of their needs, albeit in an unhealthy manner. So, I reckon you would need to make it so that he would believe that he wouldn't be losing out of meeting those needs. For example, identifying with the blackpill movement might fulfil a need to belong that your friend has. Therefore, no matter your argument, if you didn't offer an alternative means of fulfilling that need to belong you wouldn''t be likely to get very far.

Agreed

https://davidtianphd.com/recommended-readings/ Best reading list ik of. Would chuck in somatic experiencing too

Thank you. I can't tell you how useful that is to hear from you

@Leo Gura I saw, in a thread about Teal Swan, that you have to readjust your expectations of people who've had a bad childhood. I am one of those whose experienced such a childhood, which has left me with having to deal with some circumstances that others do not have to. I was wondering whether I, and others like, should look to take onboard your teachings differently? I understand its kind of a vague question, but would be curious to hear your thoughts. I also understand your time may be limited, so answering this may not be possible. Thank you.

I always found the following mantra (of Owen Cook) useful: - *Envisions doing anxiety-provoking approach* Who the fuck would have the balls to do that?

@caesar13 You might be interested in some Nietchze, particularly the genealogy of morals, re the will to power.

Two senior cabinet ministers have quit, meaning its v likely that the UK PM will have to resign. Election incoming.

@JoeVolcano Thanks dude

@Leo Gura Okay, thank you

Thanks. That is what I have done extensively over the past few years. However, one still needs some sense of direction for the other aspects of life, i.e. jobs. And, I don't know of a trauma informed source for that, which is of a similar standard to the teachings on here.

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Congrats on the first time

I see. Sounds like you have a degree of healthy self-awareness. I like Internal Family Systems (IFS) as my depth psychotherapy of choice. If that is something you're interested in pursuing, there is a book called, 'You are the one you've been waiting for', by Richard Schwartz. Its about the IFS model re relationships.

Have you done any work on the unconscious level? It may be that you have an unhealthy attachment dynamic, i.e. rooted in unhealthy attachments styles with your parents. If not, a depth psychotherapy may help you.

Sounds great for you. I'd need to sort out my psyche first, let alone finances before that sort of life.