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@Alexop Hey dude, sounds to me like you want a trustworthy understanding of why the LGBT movement seems to take some of the viewpoints it does in very progressive countries, and whether this is healthy. I'll try and help you with that goal. Here are my recommendations: Firstly, if you're not familiar with the spiral dynamics model, I recommend studying it. Assuming you aren't familiar, here's a short intro to spiral dynamics: Secondly, if you find yourself as being aligned with many of the views of Jordan Peterson, I'm confident the 'making sense of Jordan Peterson' video on the actualized.org will help your goals. On another note, Leo, the guy who runs actualized.org, has various significantly longer videos on spiral dynamics. These can be found on the main actualized.org channel. If you want a deep understanding of the spiral dynamics model, I'd recommend watching and studying the content of those videos.

First off, I like the desire to grow dude. I'd recommend the following. Firstly, unless your already familiar with the form, I'd recommend getting a personal training session to get a really understanding of how to do the overhead press and Romanian deadlift. Plus any other compound exercise if i missed one. Secondly, I'd also research about what type of diet will support your goals. On the other hand, unless you want to stick to your own programme, I'd recommend you purchase or get access to a well regarded home workout programme instead. If you get a well regarded programme then I'm confident you'll avoid many of the mistakes that prevent people from getting results in this area.

@at_anchor Hiya, I felt moved reading your post. It sounds to me like you may have experienced abuse by people with personality disorders related to sociopathy and malignant narcissists. I can only imagine the depth of the effect that has had on you. I relate to what I see to be your experiences of humiliation and dehumanisation that came with those experiences. To my understanding, I have experienced abuse at the hands of multiple malignant narcissists myself. However, I will note that the extent or magnitude of how my experiences relate to yours I do not know. I personally do not, when acting consciously, judge suicide. And, to my mind, everyone who chooses the route of suicide has some reason, based on fulfilling some need of there's. Albeit, it may be that their perception of reality was very skewed such that that was the way they thought they could best meet that need. That said, I don't recommend you seriously consider suicide as an option for now. The way I think about it is that you have all of eternity to be dead. So why not stick around and see how it turns out. Experiment with different ways of approaching life and see how it works out. To my understanding, there are numerous people in the world today and throughout history who have dedicated their careers to trying to help people who find themselves in the type of situation you are in today. I don't think many people will be able to really comprehend the abuse that it sounds like has occurred to you. However, many of these mentioned people will comprehend. They will understand. And, some of them will be able to help you transform your life. I would recommend that you seek these people out. If you would like, I can recommend some mentors that I think could be of value to you.

I prefer Tao over God for the same reasons. But I giggle when I think of Leo exclaiming, 'I am the force!' in his awakening videos. Switching to actualized.org might help with the cult accusations against actualized.org though. Critics will just think we're a bunch of hardcore star wars nerds instead ?.

If governments developed social programmes that met the need/ needs that porn meets then porn would not be popular. I'd say porn can be and likely is for many an unhealthy way that people meet their needs. However, there much more unhealthy and actually dangerous ways that these needs could be met in the absence of porn. I also intuitively agree @Someone here about the positives of porn surrounding lower sexual assault cases. Its intuitive as I don't know of the scientific consensus on the issue, or if said consensus reliable or persuasive.

I'd consider whether you actually hate men. To my understanding, any negative emotion is a sign that some need or needs of yours are unmet. So, it would seem to me that you feel hate and then project that hate onto men. Hence, your belief that you hate men. Also, I sense from your example that you think people should guess your boundaries. For example, number 2, 3 and 4. I think the root of your anger could be that when people don't guess your boundaries, then you feel a lack of respect. Then invoke the strategy of judging them as a means to meet your need for respect. Just a guess. Also, I note you said you often feel like you're bottom of the barrell. It sounds to me like you are quite status oriented in your understanding of social situations you are in. Would I be right in saying that you see non-socially calibrated people as lesser people than calibrated people? Another interpretation that comes to mind is that you are projecting the contempt that you would hold for yourself if you were to not act in a socially calibrated manner onto others. If the above does resonate, I'm not intending to cast blame or fault on you. Instead, I'm trying to point you towards what actually might be at the root of the experiences you describe.

@Harikrishnan Honestly I think reliance on astrology is a codependent symptom of magical thinking.

I empathise with your perspective about how democracy is the tyranny of the masses. It seems to me like you are arguing in line with the idea that there are systemic and inherent problems that flow from democracy. It seems to me that you want competence, and trust when it comes to the governing structure, and you find those desires fulfilled in the linked video. I watched around 30 minutes from the start of the video. My personal experience of the video was that I was surprised, and encouraged by the perspective that the main speaker took. The idea that democracy has bred oligarchy is something I liked. I liked the structure of the the discussion on this point because it seemed to be answering the question of, 'What are the big picture consequences of instituting democracy?'. I would have liked to have seen more discussion about the following things: - Why the speaker believes that democracy leads to oligarchy. - More discussion of sociological research Overall, intuitively, the advocated governmental structure doesn't appeal to me. I also liked the way the discussion was approach in terms of some of the questions it tried to answer. Further, I also would have liked more in depth discussion of the above stated things. On a psychological note, what came to mind when reading your post was that your alignment with this view seems to have a level of unconsciousness to it. I sense that you are posting as a means of meeting a desire for significance. I sense this particularly from what I see to be you creating an 'in' group and an out group. I would recommend being wary of why it is that you choose to align yourself with the views you do, and also why you choose to post in the manner you do. I'm not intending to communicate fault or blame. Instead, at least in part, I want to contribute to your level of consciousness about your actions, as well as help others not feel insignificant as a result of reading this post. I will note that my view of your intentions is only a guess. Hence, it may be mistaken. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- On another note, I think De Tocqueville's view on democracy could be of interest to you. I'll link a video here. The video provides an interpretation of De Tocqueville's analysis of the problems that come with democracy.

I don't think you have interpreted my comment as I intended. Essentially, no one is to blame. There's just various systems at play which are causing the conflict. Study the system and you study the problem.

@Danioover9000 Could be because podcasts help meet people's need for companionship and belonging, in a way that doesn't threaten their need for acceptance. I think particularly today there are a lot of lonely folks out there

@Leo Gura Fun

@Nilsi Thanks

Hey all, I would like help understanding potential life purpose's surrounding systems thinking. I'm really interested in learning deeply about systems theory and pursuing a life purpose surrounding that. However, I want more understanding of the options that are available. If there is a book on the book list, I would like you to recommend that too. For anonymity purposes re the book list, feel free to just say something lik, 'its the third book in the systems theory section'. Thanks in advance.

@Arthogaan Do you think he would be open to a psychotherapy?

@julienw Would you like me to give a recommendation regarding how to make sense of Jones's behaviour?

@PretentiousHuman I'd say I do it somewhat regularly. I'd also say there's a fair amount of variety in terms of how often I do it for during different periods of my life. Sometimes 2 hours a day, sometimes 10 minutes, sometimes none. I want to be more consistent, but I also don't trust that meditation is always an effective thing to do.

@Arthogaan Do you think your dad sees himself as being someone who is effectiveness at achieving goals they set themselves?

@Carl-Richard My understanding is that a person with PTSD has chronically unmet basics needs, i.e. for safety. And, much more readily interpret everyday events as threatening the meeting of basic needs, i.e. safety. So, the meeting of basic needs like safety becomes a major part of one's life, consciously or unconsciously. So, when Peterson is contemplating on his understanding of the world, and, especially when debating, I imagine he is consistently trying to meet basic needs, i.e. safety. So, when he is engaging with view he currently disagrees with, I think he is repeatedly trying to meet his need for safety in his responses. I could imagine that entertaining the idea that his worldview is significantly mistaken would cause his need for safety to be unmet. For example, part of his unconscious strategy for meeting his need for safety may be to maintain the belief that he has a high level understanding of the world. So, I think Peterson would need to meet his basic needs, alternatively to his current strategy. For example, via unconsciously internalising that he isn't under a significant threat of harm during everyday situations. And then he would be able to contemplate and debate issues from a more open place. Hence, to my mind, Peterson would be open enough to the change that is inevitable with spiral development.

Tomorrow morning the sun will rise

Do you feeling a longing to return to that state of consciousness?

Exciting dude! I hope Destiny can inspire Jordan to be a bit more neutral during his debates. I think there could be a lot of insights. I think Peterson could feel more secure in exploring his higher consciousness views, if, as i expect, Destiny doesn't demonise Peterson's stage blue talking points. i think Peterson could really do some cool yellow stuff if he just became more emotionally stable and construct aware. Thing is, to my understanding, he has pretty serious PTSD, which is going to really effect his ability to become emotionally stable enough to become neutral enough to move up the spiral. @Max_V Do you expect the debate will go smoothly between the two of them?

@Rasheed Hey dude, I'd recommend thinking more about how many approaches you do, and the time in between each approach. I think its great to start off with a warm up, i.e. ask 3 people for directions. Then approach 5 girls, with only a minute between each interaction. That way you ease yourself into it, making it more likely you'll stick to it. And then you build state quickly by minimising time between interactions. Also, a thing I liked to do was to find something funny from each interaction after it. My period during game I really enjoyed going out because it was a tonne of fun. Even tho I was often insecure and nervous!

Do you blame the flower for not growing? Or do you try and find out why the flower doesn't grow? You can everyone and every country as being a flower. The 'not growing' bit refers to people's behaviour. In this context, its the following. Essentially do you blame russia for acting as it does? Or do you try and find out why russia acts as it does? In the above sentence, you can swap in any person or country for russia. Make sense to you?

Maybe a need for freedom and a need for significance clashing

@rnd It doesn't strike me as anywhere near systemic thinking. Do you blame the flower for not growing? Or do you try and find out why the flower doesn't grow?