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@Manny Seems he resonates with the emotion of pride. So it seems to me not unlikely that he wouldn't resonate currently with inner work. @KH2 Perhaps, consider how this speaker is manipulating you via triggering shame in you.

@UnbornTao Damn, that's a cool ass graph

@Someone here Out of those, I'd probably say France. I'm not that interested in the WC tho because of the working conditions of those who had to build the stadium and the corruption.

@Raptorsin7 That's sick dude. I'm jealous

@StarStruck I think there's value in both.

How would you guys deal with someone like this lady?

@Vibroverse Ye I agree with you. I'm not sure how to square the two. Maybe im emotionally attached to my intellect

@Razard86 Sincerely tho dude, you come across as a dick to me who needs to keep their passive aggressiveness in check.

@Yarco Imo, that reeks of basement dwelling, dude

@StarStruck Do it for the reference experience, imo. Sit with the emotions that come up, using letting go. I imagine there'll be some shame at the idea of being seen as weak and someone she can take advantage of. When it comes up use the technique and process it. It could be a useful opportunity to work through some shame. Imo, if you can work through your seeming shame around being seen as a simp, then you will be more confident, as you will be less concerned with controlling your behaviour around not being seen as a simp.

@Vibroverse I think I get you, and I agree from a certain point of view. However, I was talking about epistemology in a more intellectual sense.

I'd say the most prominent issue, at least to me, is foundationalism.

@Raptorsin7 Love it dude! Any pics?

Projection

@The Mystical Man I feel like he isn't willing to go into the grotesque as much as he could. I think I like someone like Gaspar Noe for that reason better. And just the french cinema folks in general.

@The Mystical Man Lol i liked the policeman scenes. But ye i kinda have the same opinion of PTA overall. I was always waiting for it to get epic, to my own standards. maybe its a visual literacy thing

@no_name Yep. Often when id try and set a boundary with my mum she'd see it as a personal attack and just go in on me with a verbal onslaught.

The oracle speaks once more

@Gabith Mate I think you need to do some work with the emotion of shame. It appears to me you are resonating on that level of emotion when in social situations, and hence projecting shame onto lots of things. If for example you resonated on the level of guilt you would project guilt onto lots of people. To my understanding, I often project a lot of shame in social situations myself, and resonate with that emotion quite a lot. So i think i can relate to your post.

Hey dude, It seems to me that you are likely feeling a lot of shame at the moment and are projecting that onto everything. I'd recommend looking into seeking professional medical help. I wish you well.

@axiom Dehumanisation and condemnation are sometimes quite useful in society, moreso the latter, imo.

@no_name I do feel guilt and shame at times. I also feel apathy towards it. As well as an understanding and anger.

@meta_male You're welcome bro. Ye man was confusing af and still is. Congrats on breaking away dude. Ye I agree with your idea around unravelling too. I'm not at the point of emotional forgiveness as of yet, no. I can intellectually understand that they behaved the way they did because of their own traumas but i would say i tend to feel numb, or ashamed about it or feel contempt towards them. I could watch my mother suffer with glee tbh. I'm quite into David Hawkin's work re levels of consciousness and letting go atm. I think i need to work through letting go of quite a few latent lower consciousness emotions in me before real emotional forgiveness occurs, particularly shame. I resonate a lot on the level of shame i think.

@no_name Almost. I'm no contact aside from they give me financial support.

@meta_male Ye dude I had narc parents, and then got preyed upon by a load of narcs throughout primary, secondary school and college. Shit almost killed me, and I would say dealing with narcissistic folks has been the key theme of my life so far. Coming across the reseach on narcissism and recovering from my traumas has been alike uncovering a vast conspiracy theory for me. I think I oscillates between the scapegoat-Lost Child and golden child role. Here are some speakers I like on the subject: Dr Ramani, Frank Yeoman, Pete Walker, and Sam Vaknin. Speaking plainly, true narcissists (NPD) are, to my mind, much more akin to animals than most humans. They are constantly consumed by an unconscious survival strategy of maintaining a narrative of specialness in their mind so as to avoid the abundance of shame they would feel without this narrative's maintenance. They will oscillate between vulnerable (victim) and grandiose states depending on how much 'supply' (validation of specialness) they get from the world. I believe also the NPD mind has issues with object relations, and is very developmentally arrested in this regard. Such a mind lacks object constancy, such that it doesn't fathom that once something is out of sight it still exists. Further, the NPD mind does not understand that other people are subjects (I.e. people with their own conscious experiences), and instead sees them as objects. The issue is reality is constantly denying this specialness, i.e. having to queue, so the narcissist is almost constantly having to manage this narrative. They will constantly project their shame onto others as well. Hence, a narc could look at an injured child on the floor and feel contempt for them. I take the view that narcissism is a form of post traumatic stress disorder. To my understanding they will have suffered serious abuse as a child themselves - The NPD psychic structure being a survival strategy to deal with such abuse. Imo, if you want to avoid getting into another relationship with a narc you gotta work on your attachment style, trauma, and get psychoeducated on narc red flags. ----------------------- Also, I'd recommend setting reasonable expectations regarding how narc people will act. I'm of the no contact where at all possible and reasonable mentality.