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This lecture series by Ian Shapiro

@Snt_lk You're welcome

@Snt_lk My understanding is that 'internal family systems therapy' is very different to 'family systems therapy'. The internal one is the one i'm talking about. @Snt_lk In a way I'd say yes, in a way no. I think they share the same unconscious goal of survival. However, their life experiences, present circumstances, and thinks like culture will, imo, give them very different ideas of mental health. For example, a sweatshop worker is much less likely to believe they are worthy of having mental health days because they'd probably get laughed at by their boss for mentioning the idea of it, if not beaten.

@Tyler Robinson Imo, porn can beautiful af. I think I've cried watching porn before.

@Snt_lk I think it would be something you'd need to contemplate on for yourself. If you're working in a sweatshop in china the consensus around what 'mentally healthy' means is going to be v different, imo, than if you're in therapists office in San Francisco. Personally, I think the end result of long term internal family system therapy therapy is what id see to be mentally healthy.

@Tyler Robinson In my opinion one of the things to be wary of if you have autism is that neurotypicals will often make tests in ignorance of the different ways neurodivergent minds work. So, imo, it might be worth checking if the the IQ test is neurodivergent friendly.

A perspective on the widespread corruption within the UK police force. Yes, imo, policing is very difficult and mistakes are somewhat inevitable. However, there's also seemingly a lot of red corruption. Posting this in light of Leos recent blog posts regarding the police. I think it paints a fuller picture.

@B222 College education gets a lot of flack these days, and i think there is good reason for many of the critiques. However, a college education, taken seriously, will usually prevent people from falling into these sorts of conspiracy theories. Its a lack of education mixed with a vulnerable personality imo. I'm sure they'll be an educated psychological/ sociological breakdown of teh appeal of conspiracy theories somewhere on yt.

@Leo Gura I can take it on as a hypothesis and test how useful it is my direct experience. In the same way as I can do with many of your teachings.

Just came across this lecture series on YT, and have watched the first episode. It seems to me like a great way of getting an educated perspective on a wide range of issues regarding contemporary politics.

@Leo Gura I am somewhat, i'm just curious about why you are

@Leo Gura Why are you dubious about his scale of consciousness?

@DocWatts Did they give a reason as to why they made that comparison?

@Aakash Vijayan You're welcome mate. I note you said your gf is avoidant in this comment and that she is 'fearful avoidant' in your original post. I believe they are quite different in their relationships. I think it might be worth clarifying what her specific style is. I think i understand that your finding the anxiety is causing quite a bit of stress in your life. My advice for getting over that feeling would be to do deeper inner work like depth psychotherapy. Also, imo, something you can do at home is exercises from the book '6 pillars of self esteem'.

@Aakash Vijayan Hey dude, I think you have some great beginnings of self awareness, with regards to understanding your and your girlfriends attachment style. To my understanding, fearful avoidant attachment styles are otherwise known as disorganised attachment styles, and are often the most traumatised attachment style. So, my understanding is that it will likely cause repeated complications in the relational dynamic between you, especially as you do not have a secure attachment as well. My understanding is that there will be a lot of push-pull dynamics at play, which can be rather confusing. So, I would imagine masculinity is not the key theme to focus on here atm but the attachment dynamics that are at play. Also, imo, a lot of masculinity is really in the avoidant attachment style territory which isn't the healthiest either, secure attachment is the holy grail. I think going to therapy is great. However, I think its important to get into some depth psychotherapy (I.e. internal family systems therapy, or psychodynamic therapy), if youre not already in it, to get your attachment style closer to and eventually into the secure category. I don't think something like CBT or mindfulness is going to help all that much with changing your attachment style. I'd also see if your gf is doing any deep inner work of her own, i.e. depth psychotherapy. Again with her i don't think something like cbt or meditation is going to be all that helpful. Imo, deep inner work is going to be needed for her to work through her traumas and get her into a healthier relational dynamic, i.e. into avoidant/ anxious attachment style and then into secure. If she isn't doing that, then I think you gotta ask yourself the question of whether you are prepared to deal with the relational dynamics of someone with a disorganised attachment style. Also, I think the book 'Non Violent communication' could be a useful book for understanding a higher consciousness way of communicating with each other. I recommend checking it out and seeing if its something your both interested.

I'm trying to work on my inner regina george, and would appreciate resources surrounding the psychology of gossiping. Preferably from some sort of professional. Thanks in advance

@spiritual memes Nice

@Holymoly Imagine what you are scared of doing. Then think 'Who the fuck would have the balls to do that' and then do it. Unless you're thinking of going on a serial killing spree, then don't do that. That would be wrong in my humble opinion.

@NightHawkBuzz Cos working at 7/11 sucks ass

Really liked this vid dude!

My guy really out here acting like a supervillain ? ^ *ThisIntegrated after making his 4th alt actualized.org account*

@spiritual memes I haven't watched the series yet but I imagine Leo might have touched upon this subject in his 'Self Deception' series

@The Mystical Man Ahh i get u, i thought the same too at first lol

@Leo Gura I would value hearing your opinion on what you think is the nonsense.

@Bob Seeker Don't talk about our daddy like that