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@NightHawkBuzz Focus on something that matters. I'd disagree re focusing on diet inflammation. Focus on your base psychic impulses, and structure. Go do IFS therapy. And, do extensive self-work on your own along side your therapy using IFS books.

@Danioover9000 Nice one dude.

You got this dude re moving out.

@Danioover9000 Ground yourself in their eye colour. Notice their eye colour, and then keep repeating their eye colour in your mind.

@Preety_India Thank you. I might try handwriting my journaling. I've recently been inspired to do it actually after watching, 'Girl, interrupted'.

@TheAlchemist Good point. I disagree, with the above user, that it has the same problems as old religion. It is much less tarnished than old religions in teh cultural discourse, and is more easily perceivable as a non-religion by the masses. And in the internet age this lack of tarnishing, and illusory ability make it potent for what OP says.

@Raphael Do-Nothing meditation is about true acceptance, as it is about 'being'. Everything is acceptable. IFS is a therapy modality based on the idea that there are no psychological disorders. Every parts of us is non-bad. Again, everything is acceptable.

Just block him, and report him to mod via private message/ relevant button

@Salvijus I don't think you even believe it yourself. You just want to believe it. It may well be true, but I sincerely doubt that you believe it out of anything other than spiritual bypassing. What help is telling a person who has such issues as I discuss that what he really wants is God. And, there will be plenty of solutions besides god.

Attend trauma therapy. And look into IFS (internal Family systems Therapy) specifically.

@Salvijus I disagree. I really don't see how that's helpful, either.

@Breakingthewall Thank you. I appreciate your perspective.

@SaltyMeatballs Hahaha that guy is an absolute legend in the PUA scene. Like insanely so. oooooo Its... Julian Blanc ooooooooo (Tyler/ Owen voice xD). Dude is legit af.

@Gabriel Joy I really think 'Do-Nothing' Meditation blows all the others out of the water, re beginner gains.

Just had a further read through the entirety of this post. I'd recommend IFS, and Do-Nothing meditation for you, bro. I think you'd really like them/ take to them. I resonated with a decent amount of what you wrote to.

@Raphael Wow! I'm going through a very similar process of my own at the moment. You usually gaslight yourself a lot?

@DManKee I agree pretty strongly with the school of life message. Its very stage green. Perhaps, with some stage yellow, as a lot of the theory is based on psychoanalysis which I'd put more into the yellow category. Its true that they will better the world. However, that can also be a form of gaining approval from their parental figure. I agree with @breakingthewall where they talk about 'improving the perfect does not make sense'.

I'm aligned with Gabor Mate, with a lot of my views. Addictions occur as a result of trauma, usually childhood related. However, I think a lot of people have a lot of structural obstacles that prevent them from changing as well. I.e. they feel very unsafe in the world because of their material circumstances (say treatment at a shitty job). And so there psychic system isn't so open to change.

You are the one you've been searching for - Schwartz

@Terell Kirby I'd disagree with the focus on forgiveness. Its important to acknowledge anger, and apportion blame to abusers before moving onto forgiveness.

@Mosess Learn marketing. Most spiritual types suck at it lol. So learning it is a great advantage.

@Spook17 Its a paradox. They came up. Follow your intuition.

@Yarco Don't be a dick. Its not commenter's responsibility to avoid that sort of thing. All the best OP.

@John Paul I'd look into critical theory, and literature theory, too.