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Yo dude. Here are my thoughts. Different demographics come to pick-up. Some guys are socially 'successful' already, and want a means of maximising there 'success'. Some guys want to move up a level in life. Some guys are deeply traumatized folk who are looking for emancipation/ liberation, and see pickup as a means to this. I'd put myself in that latter path. However, those coming from the deeply traumatised demographic have to play their cards differently in my opinion. Folks from other demographics will give advice based on their experience on life and pickup. However, it can be retraumatising to deeply traumatised folk to engage with pickup and actually make them end up in a worse position. I'd move away from pickup right now. Move away from stage orange oriented activities, and into stage green activities. And, in my opinion, whilst some PUAs can masquerade as stage Green, they are still mostly stage orange, if not red. ------------------------------------------------------------------- Modern mating explained by David Tian would be a useful series for you to watch imo. I also currently of the mind that IFS with a level 3 IFS level practioner is best means of emancipation from a life of trauma. That and analysing whether you may have learning difficulties or physical issues, i.e. thyroid. ------------ Also, I'd keep in mind that the way PUAs market is like crack for a young male traumatised brain. However, that doesn't mean its right for you.

I would say: Curiosity · Compassion · Clarity · Connectedness · Creativity · Courage · Confidence · Calm

Why do people do what they do?

I hear good things about Somatic experiencing.

Ye there's a halo effect around attractive people. Status being something is attractive thus generates a halo effect. The halo effect works by making everything about that person be reflected more positively in the eyes of the attracted.

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Hey folks, Intro Wanted to share my experiences with IFS therapy, and make a recommendation to others regarding it. I understand numerous members have engaged with the modality. My experiences with IFS treatment - Non-IFS institute practioner I've been involved with IFS therapy since 2019. However, I have been frustrated with my healing process regarding IFS. This has always been a paradox for me as the modality was always marketed as a quick and effective form of healing - a groundbreaking approach. However, upon seeing a new therapist I understand why my experience has been like this. Up until now, I had not been seeing IFS institute levelled practioners. To my understanding, the institute is the central body for IFS - formed by the modality's founder Schwartz. I had presumed that if psychotherapists put 'Internal Family Systems' in their bios, or 'IFS trained' in their bios, that they would all be adequately trained. My new experiences with IFS treatment - IFS institute practioner However, now I believe that is not the case. I have had two sessions with a level 3 IFS practioner and the approach is completely different. It ticks all the boxes of what I previously was looking for. In retrospect, I feel really misled by the previous therapists, and think IFS has a really problem with (to put it strongly) charlatanism. I think this is because the modality is so new. My advice I wanted to write this so that other might take this into account when seeking IFS therapy. My recommendation being to get an IFS institute levelled practioner. Also, I wanted to express my experiences too.

Emotional mastery

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o5Ip4xM32M&t=102s

@vizual lol

I'd go through Dr Ramani's glossary of narcissism and see how many of the traits you resonate with. Not a big deal if you have numerous of them, imo. Just how reality panned out for you up until this point.

I'd say its dehumanising rhetoric

Hiya, thanks for sharing all of that. Some thoughts that came to mind for me. I would recommend getting involved with some sort of depth psychotherapy. Also, a meditation practice may serve to ground you. Further, re your career, perhaps looking into art psychotherapy might be something that attracts you. Edit: Also, going to Leo's 'Start here' videos could be really useful (especially the foundational ones). Just understanding, and taking in the self-actualisation theory (both intellectually and emotionally) is a powerful first step. I'd recommend taking notes as you do.

Ye I think its satire. Not entirely sure tho

Honestly, I'd do a depth psychotherapy for life-long, non-situational self trust (barring your experiencing another traumatic event). Imo, its probably because you had a childhood where your own preference/ wants/ desires weren't valued in the healthiest manner.

Edit: Opinion changed. ignore this comment

@Spence94 Thx

Perhaps in part. I have a different perspective. I think it comes back to parts of our psyche getting traumatised in childhood, and then staying in those traumatised states beyond that state being useful. When challenged, these people may have a better experience of life. However, the same parts that were traumatised remain traumatised, and the mental health 'disorder' (I prefer adaptation) continues to fester. Reality is still percieved through the lens of trauma. However, people are now better at meeting their needs within that trauma paradigm. However, to my mind, the real game to play is to get out of that trauma paradigm. Otherwise, imo, you are simply playing a rigged game.

@Thought Art Good luck dude. Ye I agree with @Bob Seeker. RSD stuff still has a lot of value tho imo.

I think so. Think it can be a great experience! And really reshape your view of the world and your relationship to it. As well as a tonne of fun. However, I think it can also be escapism. I know someone who spent their 20s and 30s using it in part to runaway from their home life. I think a depth psychotherapy would of been better. So, I reckon as long as someone doesn't use travel as their sole means of healing, it can be great. Its a bit like doing pick up. It can be awesome. However, its important to keep in mind that it won't fix people's inner issues.

Dude I'm literally just replying to your replies to me. Didn't mean to trigger you

I agree these are not Viking times. However, the objectification is still present.

I don't understand

Im honoured

I'd look into working to resolve unconscious conflicts you might hold. It might be there is an child like part in you that is frightened of being successful. So, it might be that you are actually in the exact position part of you wants to be in. A depth psychotherapy might help you. Another thing might be that you are neurodivergent in some way.