Ulax

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  1. I'd say formal education is essential.
  2. Have you heard of the Harrod–Domar model?
  3. That thumbnail is cringe lmao
  4. @Tudo You got your easy fundamentals down? I.e. Eye contact, fashion.
  5. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDrymMvc31k
  6. Thanks Irina. Sounds like you've been doing a lot of great work on yourself. Congrats on the progress
  7. If your eyes are literally getting fucked by the sun, ye go for it lmao. However, gonna be making things harder. Eye contact is sooooo key
  8. Nah not a lost cause imo. Just had an unfortunate life which has pushed parts into adopting extreme, yet well meaning roles. IFS can deal with it. Tho, I think it would require a managerial part to be open to the treatment modality for there to be a change, which, with a narcissistic psychic structure, may not be likely. I've heard good things from the psychodynamic realm, too i.e. Otto Kernberg and Frank Yeomans. I find Kernberg's theory of NPD pretty interesting. He believes that Narcissistic structure is a defence structure that sit atop a BPD structure. So, once you deal with the NPD you have to deal with BPD. (Btw BPD = Borderline personality disorder, and NPD = Narcissistic PD) Though, from what I understand, it can be fucking tough re the psychodynamic route. And ye I agree re the dark ages of mental health. Mainstream stuff like CBT isn't going to do anything substantial for NPD sufferers.
  9. Ye this is gold. But, I think the main mistake you're making is where you're asking these sorts of questions. I'd start asking questions in healing sections of forums like this. I'd go and do IFS asap. Dating without sorting out your trauma first is just essentially getting dodgy therapy and replaying your life traumas again and again. It won't go with time and experience. You'll just get better at papering over the cracks. Prioritise the right work.
  10. Depends what you mean by happiness. If you integrate, and connect with enough aspects of your psyche most falls will be met with love. Imagine if you were in a community where everyone was psychologically integrated and loving. However, one member got really sad all of a sudden. Would the other members become sad too, and lose all their happiness. Or would they more likely become a loving form of support for that sad member, with the likely outcome that the sad person retains their psychological wellbeing. Well, that's what, to my mind, its like inside an integrated/ connected-enough psyche when most falls happen.
  11. Think its important to keep in mind. However, I think folks with more severe difficulties have to integrate a lot of green to actually be able to do stage orange things. So, think it often depends on individuals. I.e. if someone is rendered non-functional by a mental health phenomena.
  12. @StarStruck Right on dude! Sounds like you're killing it atm
  13. Nice vid. I think its useful to take advice from people who've gone from A to B in some area, and copy what they did if you want to do a similar A to B. However, its also important to account for survivor bias and disregard advice they give that pertains to areas they don't have expertise in. I.e. I'd take advice from trump on how to become president, but not about foreign policy
  14. @Vincent S So its a smoother effect than regular coffee, re cacao?
  15. lol. Was expecting Beck to be a bit above the boomer level of acting in the world tbh.
  16. ? Go to somalia and ask, 'Who lies more men or women?' ?
  17. Dafuq. How could he support trump. I saw his blog post, where he says Trump would be better than biden. I get it if he sees the democrats as doing something that will provoke a long term backlash from teh republicans, or something else rather counter-intuitive. But if it was a claim based on just the short term (i.e. period in office) status of the USA I'm at a loss. I couldn't find any elaborated arguments from Beck on this, either.
  18. Perhaps start off with the aim of instilling some sense of radical doubt in them. Pyrrhonic scepticism might be a useful step. However, first maybe start off with some cartesian scepticism I think that would be more readily accepted. I think Descartes himself may have been christian, im not sure which sect tho. That at least gets the intellect on board with the idea of the metaphysical doubt required to entertain ideas like non-duality.
  19. I think Tim pool forgot to include the bit him being scared of saying out of step with his political donor's wishes