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My guess would be some form of PTSD-like psyche.
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Ulax replied to Razard86's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Ye tbf a lot of women have rape fantasies. Have been some studies on it, too. Regarding the original topic, I disagree with the title but like the main body of your post. -
Damn, that's heartbreaking
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I'd look into a depth psychotherapy. It sounds like you're in a really good place to get some real growth from it. I personally like Internal Family Systems (IFS) psychotherapy the most.
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Answering 1st set of questions - What is somatic experiencing? https://www.healthline.com/health/somatic-experiencing#the-freeze-response - Did you work with an IFS Certified Therapist from the IFS Institute? Yes. A level 3. Answering 2nd set of questions - Do you guys think it’s plausible to think that one can have lots of trauma but not be aware of it? Yes. If you only live your life seeing things through one perspective, then you tend to think that is how life is. It makes sense as you have never experienced anything else. Therefore, you can live a life where you have deep trauma, but because you've never experienced anything else, you just think that is just how life is. Also, there's a phenomena called 'idealization' (Alice Miller termed this, to my knowledge). Where those who suffer traumatic childhood idealize their childhoods, such that when they reflect on their childhoods they see it as being a happy time, though it wasn't.
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wth seems like you rewrote my quote
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I do have a different perspective. Some things are retraumatising. I think facing your fears is useful for some things. However, to my mind, a modern trauma therapy would also be very important
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What about switching from clubs to bars/ lounges, or going to higher end places in general.
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I like him too
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I'd look into the most modern trauma therapies. Such as somatic experiencing, internal family system therapy. The body keep the score is a book that is useful for understanding the different modalities.
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I'd look into psychotherapy. ED is not uncommon with depression, to my knowledge. Perhaps, consulting with a psychosexual therapist could be a good idea too.
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Yep. Case study: 50 cent meditates.
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I don't see your therapist as overstepping your boundaries. I don't see why the therapist ought to consult you before working with them, unless there was some prior agreement regarding that. That said, I don't particularly like the way your therapist responded to your communications. I also find her response dismissive, as well as condescending. Particularly, the communication about the trust issue. It does prompt me to wonder whether such responses are indicative of an unskilled therapist. Whatever decision you make, you have my support and well wishing, OP.
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*spoilers here too* For sure. Nice analysis. I agree with some points, and not others. I think, in the movie at least, it was supposed to portray that elvis didn't have lawyers involved in the early years because the colonel persuaded him not too. But I did wonder why in the later part, when the colonel invoiced Elvis for the massive debt owed, why he wouldn't lawyer up. Maybe there would have been some get out clause with the colonel having a fraudulent identity.
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Why?
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Dude I reckon that's actually a lot harder to do than you think.
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Welcome dude
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I don't find it weird myself. Its the worst terrorist attack on a western nation in decades, and, to my understanding, by a long way. I actually don't know another terrorist attack that comes anywhere close in terms of magnitude.
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@Leo Gura ?
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To me, game isn't even that much about the women. Its about the growth you get from it. Like one mentor said, its like self-help on steroids.
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Different ways of dealing with it. The key is frame control. The key question is who is reacting more to who. Just act like he's not even there, and maintain focus on the girl. It'll actually pump your value, and he'll be seen as unnattractive, as he's reacting to you.
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Ulax replied to How to be wise's topic in Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events
Academia has numerous biases and hidden assumptions. More so in some subjects than others. Shapiro is a harvard law grad, and I'm of the opinion that law is actually a rather right wing indoctrinating subject. You study a lot of private law and come to see the rationales used in private law decisions as being correct. For example, in contract law you see the consideration of 'market efficiency' as being an important consideration. And many then come to see improving market efficiency as something that is 'good'. And, further effects such as seeing the market as 'good' get adopted more and more. Duncan Kennedy, a professor at Harvard law, wrote about the indoctrinating effect of the harvard law programme. -
I like it. Maybe effective altruism will be something you'd be interested in too
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@JoeVolcano Perhaps we could start a communal human egg laying community. Could help teal swan with employment by getting her to run inner egg meditations
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@JoeVolcano Thank you for the support. I will now explore my egg laying ability.