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Missed work today because I was up all night feeling anxious and ruminating, I guess this is what a shift does to you. But I got some errands and things done today to make up for it a bit. While out I also made a pledge to myself to never shop at fast-food places again. I've never really been a go to customer anyways the past 10 years I'm pretty good with my health actually, I'd only go to Tim Hortons or McDonalds for coffee and snacks, but still I see what they're doing to the planet and what happens to unconscious addicted customers and their health. I simply don't want to support it anymore, the easiest and direct way is to cutting off my wallet from them. I hope they go bankrupt Also noticed some pretty intense urges to game again today after I got home. "Oh just install one. Playing just one is fine. Oh don't be too hard on yourself." Distraction really is the egos greatest defense mechanism. I resisted though. Maybe one day I'll treat myself again, but I've got to accomplish some other shit first.

Had a shift in consciousness or perspective or whatever you want to call it. Nothing like a massive epiphany like I've had a few times in my life before, but something clicked "gracefully" a few days ago when I woke up and I feel simply better, usually this is precipitated by a dream but I can't remember my dream from that night. If I had to guess it's probably because I'm sick of suffering and I think I know deep down what I have to do (generally) and something internal is pushing me (my spirit? Who knows). Anyways one of the symptoms of this shift was uninstalling all video games from my PC tonight, not sure if I'll go back or what will happen in the future with that, but it's a thing that happened nonetheless. Always knew it was coming, one day. I have other changes listed in my mind that will probably follow but we will see how that manifests, or maybe I'll get a huge ego backlash and develop some toxic habit like smoking or something lmao. Not sure what purpose this thread will serve long term, just had to write this down and put it out to the world and this place kind of makes sense so I'm not overthinking it internally, or am I ? One lesson I've learned (mostly) is to be persistent as a mother fucker even if you fail 1000 times or feel shitty 1000 times, if you really want something deep down emotionally past all the noise in your head perhaps that's all you need. The rest will follow. Anyways cheers to whoever stumbles upon this.

Considering where you are geographically maybe look for a labor job if you're physically fit. A lot of construction jobs, logging, retail lumber yards, etc are always looking for more bodies and you don't really need any experience to get them. Just have a willingness to show up and work everyday lol. Most of them pay well above minimum wage so even though it can be exhausting (only if you work dumb really) it's WAY better than flipping burgers or dealing with idiot customers at a Wal-Mart for $14 p/hr. There is some upward traction with a lot of them too if you work hard enough, where as most retail jobs are dead end as fuck. Also if you live close enough to a Fire Department that has any volunteer staff you could join that. It's all in your spare time so you'll have to weigh how much you value that, but you meet some really great people, contribute to the community, and make usually $25 an hour on top of it. Plus it looks awesome on a resume for any employer. Moved to Duncan in October! Where you at @Matt23?

People have personality and style man. Not every guru or teacher has to wear silk clothing, forget to shave, and always look blissed out. Leo has even said himself he is an intellectual type that's busy thinking up new ideas and insights, which is itself usually messy and doesn't lend itself to grace that well.

There is a profound line that really stuck out to me in the video when they are interviewing Baderkhan; "We shouldn't just wait for a miracle to happen, people are the miracle." Wow.

Please don't go back in your shell. It may be cozy in there, but the world needs more people like you.

Excuse me. Hey there, yea I'm not sure what I want today. What do you guys have on the menu? Chlamydia. Genital herpes. Genital warts or human papillomavirus (HPV). Gonorrhea. Hepatitis B. Syphilis. Trichomoniasis. Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), which causes AIDS.

Check your bias and look at the larger social dynamics. They are doing it because they are finally able to do so without catastrophic social repercussions like men have been doing it forever. It's all social conditioning. It publicly communicates the women is low value if she gets turned on too fast. Like someone said earlier in the thread it's been a very long time of slut shaming for women, while men are encouraged and even admired as experienced and skilled for the same levels of promiscuity. Now women are finally getting to enjoy the double standards men have been enjoying for literally time immemoriam and everyone is losing their fucking minds It doesn't make any of it right of course, but it's still hilarious seeing devils getting upset and pointing at other devils. Reminds me of that spiderman meme. Stop being so attached and rise above your own gender and the whole gender game. Be more conscious.

- Eat a good meal after. - Drink fuck tons of water. So what you normally drink, but force yourself to drink x2 that. - Force yourself to add 1 hour of extra sleep onto that night you worked out. Very simple stuff and you won't feel so awful the next day.

Well simply put the best way to get rid of that anxiety is to get experience, which is done by simply doing it. But that's just stating the obvious and not very helpful. So here is something that might help - Think of approaching women like running into a bear in the woods (stay with me here lol). It seems terrifying on face value and you have this list of reasons why it's bad and scary, but the truth is the overwhelming majority of the time they are more scared of you than you are of them. So are you never going to walk again on a beautiful hiking trail because you might run into a bear? No, fuck that! You are a man and you have the right to enjoy whatever path you damn well please! Of course you're not at risk of being mauled to death by a woman (depends actually ). So like running into an actual bear the best thing you can do in those situations is show confidence (even if it's feigned for now). If you do this women will feel more comfortable to let their guard down and fall back into their feminine nature and submit to you (like how a bear will run away if you make noise and make yourself large). The truth is they WANT to submit to a strong authentic man. Even if all their logic and language is saying otherwise. Realize this and make it your job to embody this in a healthy, skilled way. Think about it. Why should you be more scared than them? You're supposed to be the man and get what you damn well want! Put the ball in their court by being fearless, because really what do you have to fear anyways?

Jesus H Christ LMAO. What a ridiculous, immature, and irresponsible reason to move to another COUNTRY, let alone another city. I hope this would never be the centerpiece reason or top priority of why someone would choose to move across the world. If you can't get laid or find a girlfriend within your own culture and country, packing up and moving your entire life isn't going to solve that, it's clear there are way deeper issues and skills to work on that this suggestion just seems like a hilarious colossal (and expensive) distraction. Not to mention there is the factor that it's probably at least x4 time easier to hook up with someone cross culturally as having sex or being in a relationship with a foreigner seems to be something that's highly fetishized. That dynamic can be exciting but takes away from the challenge of it imo and makes it harder to work long term.

I'm 28 and dating anyone below 25 for me is probably a big no most of the time for a long term relationship. It's about maturity and having matching levels of that that's the more important factor than age. If she's 19 with a 36 year old guy either she has had some massive growing up and is way ahead of her age, or the guy is a man-child and wants to hook up with a younger unit in order to stroke his ego (very common toxic social expectation for men). He's almost literally x2 her age so that does raise at least a few alarm bells.

Stop being so selfish and worrying about carrying others onto same journey you're on, let them walk their own path. If they aren't interested, great. If they do end up being interested, also great.

As rough as it seems, there is a massive silver lining here for you; You are very young and basically have your entire adult life ahead of you (including your financial one which is just getting started). There may be a lot of pain and trauma that came from this but you will heal from it with a willingness to learn (which you seem to have) and simply time..... You are actually lucky compared to most people as you experienced this at such a young age that the consequences were shitty but not life ruining/catastrophic, what if you were married or had a kid with this girl? Pondering these kinds of questions helps you cope and heal. You're back at square one? Great! Your life is just beginning so what a time to have a clean slate! You are stronger having gone through it and now know what to look out for in the future to protect yourself, and how to set boundaries. You're gonna be alright @SamueLSD

Alright well I guess don't make a thread then, just invite people through PM.

You don't have to ask permission just start your own discord and ask people here to come on.

Random off topic question @Leo Gura. What countries have you been to? Cheers.

I've only ever flipped between these two on the Myers tests over the years. What can I say I'm a natural ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

It's not that JP chose all this, like many others he fell into a role because some video blew up years ago and now he's playing a part. It's all very convenient to his survival too since he's carved out a nice career from it being as public speaker. It's not like anybody who gets famous or falls into a category of left wing justice warrior or a fact spewing scientist takes the time to realize meta-analyze their own position, they do what feels socially acceptable (from their point of view) and sacrifice layers and layers of their own authenticity. This is the whole process that brings us to the "us vs them" thing. It takes a highly conscious person to truly not care what other people think and be willing to walk their own path, even if it means doing so in silence.

You're attracted to them sure, but have you ever actually been with a crazy girl? The attraction drops pretty quick a few days after you've had sex. I've had one experience and that's all I needed to learn from and protect myself for the future. Luckily it happened when I was a teenager so I had no finances or possessions at risk like a car, house, or savings. I recommend you get it out of your system now if you're relatively young and poor. It will also help you identify them in the future, some crazy girls don't rock the look and disguise themselves as other types. Once you sniff out enough crazy you need to cut it off early on before you're in too deep. Think with the head up top and not the one in your pants. Remember no matter how hot she is, even if she's your fantasy girl. It is NOTHING compared to the crazy nightmare you will face if you commit long term.

Simply experience, experience, experience. Trust the anxiety will cure itself as you get more experience. The nervousness you feel is an emotion based in anticipation, so once you're in the situations actually socializing and making it happen it fades. Once you figure out your socializing "style" or "niche" you'll know what to go to and that anticipation feeling that summons a bunch of negative and uncomfortable thoughts will go away, or at least be much weaker. You'll find that people are actually a lot less judgmental and don't care as much as your anxiety is telling you.

I'll be honest, in a petty and egoic (and almost slightly glad) way it made me feel better about not doing a lot this past year and avoiding my goals, because a lot of people are in the same boat. Though it's probably more of a curse now because it's just more ammo to beat myself up with.

If women wanted sex just as much as men do (or more) then; - Rape and sexual assault wouldn't be the social epidemic it's been through history. - There wouldn't be nearly as much Redpill, Incel, or MGTOW garbage spread around. - Human population would be even larger and more unsustainable. It fact it's SOOO obvious that men want sex more frequently than women do that I don't know how someone could be convinced otherwise unless they live in some obscure bubble somewhere in the world where the opposite is the case.

Just masturbate but don't use any pornography. Imagine the kind of girl you want to be with to motivate you for the long run while you're single. There is nothing wrong with getting that release once in a while, it's actually healthy for you. What's unhealthy is neurotically suppressing a perfectly natural desire. Practice some discipline if you need to, limit yourself to only once per week so you get the satisfaction you need and can focus on other things. The problem is porn and how easy it is to access, and the warping effects it has on your mind.

Alright so there is obviously some nervousness there, you are fearing her reaction. I would try to help build some confidence and get some reassurance by talking to her about it, so the next time you try for it she might be encouraged to help you get out of your head more. Obviously don't bring up anything about her, even if you say "it's not you, you're pretty" that will spoil things and make her question herself regardless. Put the spotlight of the conversation on yourself, not in a degrading way to make yourself look weak, but rather proactive that you're trying to solve the problem and you're looking for support. If she's a cool girl she'll understand. "Hey babe. I'm having a little trouble getting out of my head. It might take me longer to get hard and I think I'll need your help." (Full body massages are the BEST thing to suggest because everyone loves them, and they really put your body and mind in a state of relaxation, clear of thought.) Sorry for the intrusiveness but it's kind of practically relevant. Was there much foreplay or oral before you tried for sex? It's really important to help build excitement and get you warmed up. It also gives you a lot of time to settle in and relax (and let go of thought). Added note: If you end up not having sex, DO NOT get all depressed and let it ruin the vibe (easier said than done). You can still end up having fun, you could eat her out so she gets to cum and she'll forget you even tried to have sex! Or be super casual about it and say, "Hey my Johnson seems like it's broken, want to have cuddle for a movie and have some ice cream?" You need to have a sense of humor about it and be able to pivot to show you aren't taking yourself seriously. Hang in there dude I've been through the same thing.