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Of course. It's the very first piece of information I get, before either of us opens our mouths. Not only that but it is THE determining factor for whether or not I'd consider pursuing a relationship with them. Would I have sex with this person? YES or NO. If YES, then they are now considered an option. If NO, then they will not be pursued or interacted with in that social framing/context. If I wouldn't consider being intimate with them physically then that completely rules them out as a potential partner. No if ands or buts about it. Out of the thousands of women I've met in my life thus far, I've rarely (if ever) changed my mind about if I'd be intimate with them or not after my first conclusion, no matter how deeply attracted or connected I've gotten in other ways. It's just the way it is for me. It takes me about 2-5 minutes to observe them and their mannerisms and I'll know the answer. It's very linear and simple. One of the perks of having a male brain, I guess!

Simply egos fighting other egos. If you don't have much of one or it's smaller than most then that is why it doesn't make sense to you.

I mean the only way to know is to commit and try. There really isn't any consequences to it either, you will remain completely anonymous if you choose to and don't show your face/share your real name or info. Very low investment and who knows what return you'll get, go for it!

Queue Samuel L. Jackson, "I'm tired of these mother fu-!!"

Can you link some of these studies, I'm genuinely interested.

Great work @StarStruck, keep it up !

Great to hear! Just enjoy it day to day, and don't get too ahead of yourself by worrying long term and planning too hard. Focus on the process of getting to know her and treating her well.

Read what I said again and you'll get the answer But yea there are barely any incel women because it's so much easier to get sex as a woman, there is always going to be some guy who is willing to bone. Men will fuck anything with a pulse, women are generally more sensible and have higher standards.

That's because most women who are struggling with this have friend groups and family that will help bail them out, they don't need to resort to getting as much help in other ways. While males who are struggling with this are more likely to go it alone out of sheer embarrassment, of course males use the internet WAY more, hence why you see more of them on the forum.

It's really simple - respect how you feel after doing things and the signals you get from your mind and body. It is communicating stuff to you constantly and doing it for a reason. If you reliably feel physically "devastated" after masturbating then perhaps it's not a good idea for you to do it..... but if you really need that release, find a workaround! Perhaps only do the act right before you go to bed, so you fall asleep easier. There you go, two birds for one stone. Or in this case I guess it's "two stones and one bird".

From what you described it sounded like a complete accident, that girl got bumped into you by pure coincidence when you were about to touch her and the perception was you were a creep. Sometimes stuff like that happens, sucks, but can't do anything about it! There is nothing wrong with being super open, conscious, confident, and sharing, but maybe ease back on the "preaching" a bit as you described it. If you feel people are open to it and the conversation is going that way, then do it. Otherwise it won't resonate and it's just kind of jerking off on your part. There is a time and place for everything

You aren't fucked up, don't say such things. Your circumstances don't make you, what makes you is how you react to them. As practically difficult and emotionally mountainous it is, consider that the best possibility both short and long term might be to leave and migrate somewhere else. The process and act of leaving will be challenging, but it will put you in a place of way more potential for your life. To stay in the same place in an environment of poverty surrounded by family who will keep you down via social homeostasis is to probably doom yourself to those same conditions for a very long time. Do you really want to work blisteringly hard for 10-20 years for not much return and only pure survival? Or suffer short term so those years won't go to waste and can create a better life for you and your family? This all depends how attached to are to your culture/family. There is no right or wrong answer, it all depends on what you value more personally for your own life. If you really want to leave your focus need to be purely on work work work 55+ hours a week so you can save enough money to pay for a way out and then a bit of a safety net for when you get to where you're going. Do not be spending any money or resources on things you won't be able to take with you. Live with the bare minimum where you are right now and bank resources. Priority #1.

There is something to be said about staying true to what you want and desire, whatever path that may lead you down........ This means following what your heart says and doing the thing that you think is healthiest for you, if that is sexual innocence then so be it. If you want to be happy in that part of life you need to put blinders on, and not listen to what culture or others are telling you to do.

Maybe don't do it all the time, but once in a while. A compliment can go a long way, it can make someone's day

From what I've gathered it's usually a sign of insecurity/hesitation, and fear of being vulnerable. There is something about eye contact that is very primal. It's important to integrate and be able to use eye contact, especially when you are trying to convey something. Whether it be emotional, persuasive, love, connection, friendship, etc. Our eyes say so much that words do not. I struggled with eye contact growing up all the way until I was about 24. I'll tell you from first hand experience learning to make good, appropriate eye contact was one of the biggest things in personal development I EVER did. It was so simple and practical, opened so many doors for me, in my relationships, work opportunities, and my sexual life. You've got to push through those uncomfortable moments you'll face when practicing, then find your style of communication with your eyes. It will literally feel alien to you for a bit, and then it will be natural. Your eyes will be "free flowing" and at ease. Instead of twitchy, neurotic, and uncomfortable.

Younger girls (as with any younger person regardless of gender) are generally easier to seduce because they can be naïve, inexperienced, and willing project a lot of authority onto a man that's older than them, expecting him to be a mature, stable protector/provider. Of course this is during the seduction phase so they have no idea who he actually is. The guy could be 5-10 years older than her but be less emotionally mature, he just puts on a good game and knows how to attract her. Consider that it's extremely common to see couples where the male is the older one in the relationship, while the opposite case is quite rare. I'm curious about the statistics behind this, I'm sure they match the general intuition people should have. It's kind of ironic how this works out biologically, because women have longer life spans and usually are the ones who end up widowed, so you'd think this would balance itself out more with the age gaps.

But yeah the Stage Green aversion to vaccines is generally confusing. The whole spiel about authoritarianism and control is so hilariously misplaced, the governments of the West as far as I'm aware aren't abducting people and forcing a needle into their arm. Most of them aren't even aware enough of geopolitics and history to realize how incredibly lucky they are, that they get the chance to develop and pursue life to get to the place where they are at having never faced ANY resistance comparable to that from an actual authoritarian regime or repressive society/culture. It is what it is though, everyone is entitled to their opinion.

We were unmatched when I woke up lol. Basically she asked what my "level of awareness what on Covid". I figured she was an anti-vaxxer and testing me, so I went casual and asked if she was asking me how seriously I took it, if I had my shot, and if she wanted a socially distanced date. Then she said she was trying to figure out my level of awareness if I viewed it from an "awakened" or "unawakened" state, and by my response she said she's already got her answer, and that there would be a hard time connecting because of our differing levels of awareness. To which I responded lengthily with my own interpretation of what Covid means in an existential state about community, our relationship with nature, responsibility, in an attempt to appease her ideals etc. BUT finished with a rug pull of "Yea I don't think I can connect with someone who talks about consciousness and awareness, but doesn't embody it enough not to judge someone based off the very first remark to come out of their mouth." Which promptly triggered her, so I ended the conversation.

I was talking to a stage green anti-vaxxer chick on tinder last night, which I screen captured the conversation it would have been perfect for this thread lol. She was going on about awareness, consciousness, and awakening, while judging the hell out of me like 2 messages in when I barely said anything Glad I dodged that bullet, she didn't seem to pass the peanut gallery vibe check.

In a way that's helpful yes. You don't want to be lost in concepts, mind, and experience all the time. You still have to live you life, do you not? It's complicated and has many interpretations. From what I understand it means once you've finally learned and embodied something, if you truly have embodied it that is; when you encounter that same thing again through a teacher or out "in the world" in some capacity you can "discard", or "let go", because if you've really transcended it will be realized that all of such things are illusions anyways, and there is only the purity of oneness. Once again I am probably off the mark, I don't know the entire context of the quote I just thought it was interesting at a certain point in my life.

That's exactly right! It is a manipulation. People need to be manipulated and coerced sometimes because otherwise their selfishness would run rampant and we wouldn't be able to maintain a society. It's why there are taxes, traffic laws, licenses, etc... You need to stop thinking of manipulation as a pure negative. It's simply just the ability to plan and take action to lead to a certain outcome. Yes things WILL eventually go back to a relative "normal" if enough people got vaccinated. Covid will still exist, but it will be relegated (hopefully) to a yearly nuisance that we need to be mindful of for the older and vulnerable population, like the common flu or cold. Doesn't it seem misplaced that hardily anybody is up in arms feeling like they are under an authoritarian regime when their parents in retirement homes vaccinated for the flu so they don't die needlessly, or get hepatitis shots or malaria shots when they travel to a foreign country. When you align yourself in similar positions to that of alcoholic facebook moms, maybe it's time to reconsider your position. Covid is just a consequence of a larger problem though. Things like this are punishment for our greed and arrogance, and not living in balance with nature. The more we exploit wildlife and animals in general the more likely the transmission of deadly diseases and viruses is. There will come a point where it's simply not effective to make vaccines for all the new strains spreading around, we will fundamentally have to change our relationship to our food sources.

A very straightforward way is let yourself flow with some of the basic day to day survival stuff for a few weeks without doing ANY spiritual work, getting groceries, work ethic, talking to strangers. The purpose is to see how you're really changing your life and seeing what is sticking. Being mindful about how you can contrast the grander more abstract lessons you've learned and being creative about how you can integrate them in simple life stuff. What do any of those lessons mean if you don't find ways to put them into practice? You'll always be surviving anyways, until you're not.

You can make whatever rationalizations you want @tatsumaru, it doesn't change anything or where you'll develop to (or won't). "Snakes in the grass tryin'a slither fast, I just bought a fuckin lawnmower." - Joyner Lucas

By all means @dflores321. Reap what you sow. Just be willing to be honest about the consequences afterwards and don't pretend you didn't see the light when you (and those you affected) are stewing in that suffering.

Forgive the extra quotes this forum isn't working on mobile for me. Anyways don't be so eager to come to conclusions. You see what I WANT you to see or choose to share online. What if I told you I struggled with girls for a long time. Didn't have sex from age 19 to 23. And got hardcore rejected on a date as early as last week. See, your perception isn't as clear as you might think. But once again. The principle I am advocating is a very simple one. Just don't sexually pursue someone who is taken. There are plenty of other single people, abundance vs scarcity. Of course you can still talk to them and be a little flirty to gain experience, just be mindful of that line. Consider, how would you feel if your girl exchanged numbers with a guy who was obviously trying to be more than friends? Exactly.