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My uncle was a criminal growing up and while age tempered the severity of his crimes, his narcissist manipulative behavior has never left even at age 63. My sister lived at his house for 7 years without paying a single cent. I moved in temporarily to get a foot in a new province and he started overcharging me $900 for a room, then offers me a chance to "pay it down" (instead of giving me cash) by helping work on building his new house on weekends. Essentially extracting free labor from me. Mind you I was already working 40 hours a week for him doing extremely physical labor hardscaping. I picked up on what was going on (albeit without acting soon enough) and gave him a month notice that I was leaving and looking for another job and place to live. Already knowing this was going to happen as discussed when I moved in, he still promptly explodes the next day and threatens me physically, realizing his manipulative scheme has been picked up on and is falling apart. I quit work that day, and left without paying rent for that month. He refuses to apologize. Now there is a rift in the family. My parents are moving to the province, and my dad wants to clock him in the face. He was lucky I didn't put him in the hospital or sue him that day for threatening me or denting my car. I was just too perplexed and dumbstruck at the time it happened.

I would stay home and work. You'll have to make sacrifices but life will be easier for a while with family. You'll have more spare time to learn and educate yourself with your parents doing housework, and you'll be able to save a lot more money than being with roommates. Don't explain to them any of the actualized stuff, they won't get it. Just explain to them what you're interested in doing and your tangible plans for it. They don't need to understand anything else. Or don't share anything! Just live frugally and save money so you can get your independence faster and invest in your self education. Also, you need to drop the "wage slavery" bullshit ASAP. It's extremely toxic to your mind and your self-esteem. You won't be able to excel and get the most out of any lower end job if you resent it. View it more as a building block and first step moving towards where you want to be, not as a trap.

This sounds extremely brash. Is it all said and done? Can you not get a refund for your plane ticket? Or get your college tuition back to invest in another form of education? I would strongly suggest you sit down and revise all this. It's going to suck but you need to have a talk with your parents. Explain to them what you're feeling and why your heart isn't in your current schooling, and that you need time and support to figure out your next steps. If they are good parents they should understand why you want to be happy. I know you probably have this strong inner urge to get up and go but $2000 is honestly fuck all let alone for a city like Miami. It's important to be strategic about life and not just follow your impulses at first feel. This could end up being a really stupid decision. Sorry to put it that way but it must be said.

You can still have a successful relationship even if you've got some wounds! Just have to be extremely mindful about your behavior and what you're putting "on" the other person. If it's a healthy relationship they should offer some support and guidance, but it's 90% up to YOU to be doing the work and making the changes within yourself. Personal development is exactly what it is. It's PERSONAL and intimate to you, not anybody else. You never want to be relying on another person to keep you afloat or as a distraction to what you need to work on. However a great relationship can boost your life in so many ways that it will become easier to address those issues. You can have it all if you want, just know it's a lot of work.

@Ketrumi Hundreds of millions of people have taken various Covid vaccines and are completely fine. The question you have to ask yourself is do you want Covid, and do you want to be responsible for spreading it to someone who might get way more sick than you? Because that's likely what will happen.

What even is a "normal" human being at this point ? It seems the more you find out about the world, things and people just get weirder and weirder.

Here is a good song that can be interpreted as talking about solipsism, to tie you over

Most successful people, or those at the top of hierarchies all have some really bad skeletons in the closest in order to have gotten where they are. It's unfortunate but it is what it is. Just focus on what you can learn from them and discard the rest. Try not to idolize people, you'll eventually become disappointed. Never "meet your hero's" so to speak. Become your OWN hero.

Well that should take the sting out. She ain't even gonna be there anymore. You know what's funny I remember this EXACT same thing happened to me when I went to college in 2011. I was getting to know this girl for about 3 weeks and was getting into her, then when I expressed myself about where I wanted to take things she told me she was looking to drop out. She packed up and was gone that weekend. Can you describe a bit more what you mean here?

Cool. Good luck! Just be mindful about how you come across. You don't want to be doing this from a place of fear of losing her or missing out, or she'll sense it. Be genuine and casual about it, tell her what you (actually) appreciate about her and how you feel. It's counter-intuitive but those vulnerable moments where you open up, are actually where you show a lot of strength and security. Regardless of what happens (what she says) it will still be true.

If you really really like her, then make that known ASAP and pursue her. Regardless of the outcome though, if she rejects you and/or gets with that other guy, you need to be detached though and realize where you are; You are at a college campus! There are plenty of other girls you will like. Don't worry if one doesn't work out. It's not like it's a small town or island where it will taunt you forever

I will strongly consider buying it when it comes out. I was a gamer for a long time but I have not been interested in any games that have been hyped up or have come out in the past 5~ years. I mostly just stick to Eu4 when I want to play something, or a different shooter now and then. AOE2 (The Conquerors Expansion) was one of the first games I ever had, it's aged quite well and is still great to this day. I have it on Steam.

How much do you need? PM me the exact details and I could E-transfer you. Sometimes it's just better to bite the financial bullet in order to get out of a situation.

Confront him directly about it. Put him on the spot and tell him what you didn't like about it. He'll either apologize and gain some respect for you, or won't take ownership for it and the relationship in whatever capacity it exists will end. Either way you will both know where you stand. You don't want it to be in limbo.

A lot of places. There is a ton money in real estate. Houses are expensive for a reason > because of what is being put into it.

Adeptus is a good guy and has actually brought up some fair criticism of Leo. Y'all need to relax. It's not like he's accusing him of being a child rapist or some crap about the old Actualized logo.

We live in a physical world where physical force is quite tangible and useful.

Tread carefully. She broke up with you for a reason. Contemplate how you could be setting up for failure if you go back to her again.

Don't say such a thing. Get it out of your head that this all comes down to some sort of mechanical list that needs to be checked off for them to be interested. Social interaction is way more dynamic than that. If they don't even go out and find out who you are they don't know you. So why are you putting stock in their judgments not to go out? As if anyone has a "value" anyways. What a Spock way of looking at the world. Not reality at all.

This is the benefits of online apps vs real life. Yes the cold approaching and game is great for developing a lot of general social skill, but you don't even know if the people you are approaching are looking to date. They are total strangers on the street going about their lives. You are rolling the dice. As said women are indecisive creatures. You get can 20 phone numbers, maybe 3-6 of them actually will go on a date. Then maybe 1-2 will want a 2nd date. That's a pretty low conversion rate. Not as in it has anything to do with you but just general statistics of finding a decent match for a relationship. Most of the them are just matches on Bumble, probably more than 60% of the matches that I end up talking to I go on a date with, because they are actually looking to date and not fuck around (most of them lol). I only approach in real life if I hit off a conversation well with someone who I think will be a good match, I can usually tell just by looking at them. Most of the girls I see are between 18-24 working as cashiers and while a lot of them are pretty are usually too immature for me and they probably live with their parents or are going to school if they are working that job. Not that there is anything wrong with that it's just not what I'm looking for.

Life is too short to wait around for perfect conditions.

Don't sit and analyze too much, or even take what she said to heart or too seriously. You will be able to understand more clearly as you get some distance and time passes. Right now it's important to sit through your emotions (fully) to process them, not worrying about your logical mind going crazy about what you could have done differently. Trust that in a few months time the answers will click in your mind, and you will go "aaaahhhhh ok." The most important thing is to swallow and accept the outcome. Realize yeah it might suck, but your life is obviously not over because of this. A break up sucks but it should not be devastating. It's just one of many people that probably won't be in your life anymore. That's alright. Many people come and go. It's normal ! It's counterintuitive because we want to move away from the negative stuff, but feel what you have to feel right now. If you gotta cry, cry your fuckin heart out until your eyes hurt. Sitting there and taking it like a punching bag right now is exactly what will help you move through it and come out the other end stronger. Don't forget to focus on other things though. Hang out with friends, pick up some more responsibilities at work, and go to an event. You want to remind yourself that you still gotta life to live and while you enjoyed their company you weren't dependent on them for anything. Hope this helps.

Those are all degrees of sharpness of the same blade.

I used to get anxious and had a neurotic feeling I had to come up and plan all these crazy ideas to be impressive, but then I realized it's simply not worth the investment to a stranger and to make such a big deal out of it. 9/10 times I just suggest for a walk in a park or to hike a nature trail, and either have a snack at a coffee shop before or after depending what time of day it is. It's a two part date that costs $5-10 max for a coffee + gas, and there is less pressure to be talking constantly when you're walking. If you're meeting them for more than a first date that's when you arrange dinner reservations or to go to some event.